How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

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Melyssa

March 11, 2014 at 5:56 am

Me and my boyfriend were together for almost 4 years when we broke up 2 months ago. We have a 3 year old son, so the no contact rule is out of the question. He doesn’t have a “girlfriend” but he is screwing her. She was a friend since b4 we met and I always had a bad feeling about her. When we started to have problems she was also in the starting process of a divorce. I can’t help but feel like there is a connection. But as much as I regret it we still sleep together every once in a while. He says he will always love me because of our son and that there might be a chance of us gettin back together but that he has strong feelings for her too. It’s like they are each others rebound, but I’m the one stuck in limbo trying to change the problems I caused b4 and he is screwing someone else. He didn’t even give himself time to really morn his everyday life with his son… I miss every little thing about him, he said he misses me to but not the fighting and that it is so easy with “her” because she doesn’t “bitch” at him. I don’t know what to do any more … Sometimes I feel like what’s the point in fighting for someone who doesn’t want to fight for me. But then I remember the good times and how good he was with our son and I miss those moments … 🙁
Lala

March 10, 2014 at 11:55 pm

The two questions: How to understand a male’s mind(I want to know what’s going thru his mind about the breakup) and How can you tell your ex is over you (and not trying to get back with you for good)?
I including my long boring ass story too it…

So here’s my story:
I just got out of a three year relationship with my ex fiancé. Long story short, my insecurities and jealously over every little thing ruin our relationship. I broke up with him three month prior to our separation. During those three months, he try to get back with me but I really didn’t acknowledge it and we kept living our lives. New years roll around which was a good short period for us. Two weeks later we got into a little argument and I told I hated him. I didn’t mean it and apologize greatly for it. He forgave me. Everything seems normal until I ask him do you want to get back with me. Usually he says yes but this time he said no. He said that he didn’t want to be in a relationship. Shock but I blow it off thinking he was just a little mad with me. Then it started…
Week one- Everything was normal until the end of the week he went out with his friend all day w/o me knowing. He never did that and I started to get worry so…

Week two- I beg to get back with. I started to show all the emotions I was hiding for him all this time during our relationship. *i don’t like showing my emotions to anyone. His altitude got worse…he locked his phone, went on “long walks”, hang out with more of his friends, and the sex stop…. I was feeling extremely sorry for myself so…

Week three- I beg even more…made big ass promises and (I feel really bad for this so please don’t judge) I gave him an ultimatum. I was an emotionally wreak and felt like a piece of shit so I told him if he didn’t get back with and leave me, that I was going to hurt myself. He call my mom and she talk to the both of us. The next day (valentine’s day) he never came home. I saw him at work (we work and live together) and he made short conversation with me. When work was over, he never came home until the next day. He grab his stuff and never came back.

Soo the end result: I acted like a crazy bitch and I lose my ex boyfriend.

Only time I see him is at work and he ignores me. Im about to quit my job because the emotions are too overbearing (I am stable enough to quit work…thank god) and I want to move on. He now stay at his friends house which is a female with two kids…and shes single and flirty and worst of all, they have a great communication with each other. I really wish I would of find your site when week one started so I could of done the separation the right way instead taking matter into my own hands.

But the breakup is weird to me a little bit…
I drive his car around, 90% of his stuff is at our place, on his Facebook, he still has relationship status up and a pic of us together?, but most of all my mom said when she talk to him she stated that he was”planning on getting back with me”. I don’t know if she telling the truth because when I try to have the closure talk with him, he denied he ever said it. ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS so I believe him. Also during that talk, i apologize for everything that happen the day before Vday. He said he still cares but he just wanted to be friends…he doesn’t want to be in any type of relationship. I told I didn’t want to be friends and the talk ended.

After that conversation, I went immediately to no contact rule hoping your strategic will help. I read all your blogs expect the long distance and kids one. I have hard time putting those two questions above into effect so I’m lost right now.

Humm… Wait…this is a long and I probably boring you!

admin

March 11, 2014 at 4:45 pm

You should check out my latest guide… seriously!!
Lala

March 12, 2014 at 5:25 pm

What is the latest guide?
admin

March 13, 2014 at 2:46 pm

what to do if an ex blocks you
Enna

March 18, 2014 at 2:14 pm

Hi Chris, where can I/we find this latest guide on what to do when an ex blocks?
admin

March 18, 2014 at 4:08 pm

I am still working on it. I went on vacation for a week so I am a bit behind.

Gabby

March 9, 2014 at 9:57 pm

My x asked out my x best friend and now I want nothing moreb than for them to break up I use to chill with them and they talked about kiss in and all and I swear I almost through up. DISGUSTING. I want him back so much I don’t know y he like her she is in a grade lower than us I just want him back and I don’t care Joni get him back even if it means getting dirty

admin

March 10, 2014 at 5:48 pm

She said yes????

What a horrible friend.
Gabby

March 9, 2014 at 9:59 pm

I’m still friends with me x he flirts and all but I do if that mean he like me.

jemma

March 9, 2014 at 8:49 pm

Hiya,

I wrote on this page a few months back after breaking up with my ex after 2 and a half years of being together. He basically ended it with me and 6 weeks later was with someone else but was still sleeping with me at the start of their relationship, cut a long story short we cut contact after I told the new girlfriend but they stayed together and moved in to a flat together. We didn’t speak since the start of December and I was ok, moving on, then recently I’ve been really really missing him. The other night he randomly out of the blue without talking to me in 3 and a half months turns up at my house late at night after it all kicked off down a pub and he got beaten up AND his gf told him she cheated on him.. along with his new gf punching him like 6 times and when he was driving, shes the ultimate skank. He turned up, he had lost 3 and a half stone in weight, he looked so ill. He explained to me he hasn’t been happy in months, shes made him so ill, shes a nutter, she left him passed out at a bus stop when he was rushed into hospital, didn’t go up to see him, she just got on the bus and went home when he was put on a drip in the hospital. Basically she’s made his life awful the past few months but he can’t leave because he does love her and they have a lease on the flat until July. He has to have an operation soon, it’s scaring me. I cried my eyes out seeing the weight he’s lost, she has literally ruined him. He wants out but can’t because of the flat. I want him back and he knows that, but he told me today he’s giving her the benefit of the doubt and sticking it out till the lease is up and seeing if she changes. She’s made him so ill and its scary because I can’t do anything about it. He stayed at my house the night he got beaten up and we ended up sleeping together.. I feel like I’m back at square one and we have just broken up again, I want him back but he’d told me to leave him to make his own choices and I can’t contact him. He says he still loves me and will always have something for me, I’m so down. I want him back, I only want him, seeing him and seeing the state and how bad he is I just want to make him better, I asked him if there was any chance of me and him in the future and he said who knows what’s gunna happen in the future. Ahhhhh I really don’t know whats going to happen! He admitted he jumped into it so quick and made a big mistake but yet he’s staying with her!!

jemma

March 10, 2014 at 8:25 pm

Pleasee help me!

Jj

March 9, 2014 at 4:01 pm

Hi Chris,
Your advice would be very much appreciated! This is a very long story but ill try and keep it brief so not to bore you. Ok so I have been separated from my ex fiancé for 4 years now but I’m struggling to move on from him and even though I have dated two other men since our relationship I struggle to get him out of my head. We split up just before he was due to go to Afganistan as we were fighting partly due to him going away and me being worried and other stressful things happening around the same time such as moving house and having to move back the wedding. After he had departed I broke my phone and as I was moving I had no landline or Internet so didn’t speak to him for over 2 weeks. Once his tour was over he came over… One thing led to another and then before I knew it I had miscarried our baby. He by this point was back living with his parents over an hour away and didn’t really support me. Anyway it’s been 4 years and every few months he will contact me or facebook me.. He recently sent me pictures randomly out of the blue on watsapp.. So clearly he still has my mobile number.
I’ve just seen he has a new girlfriend and that they are going on holiday tomorrow… I know for a fact he was single at Christmas so this new relationship is moving quite fast. I need advice… Do I go and meet him and clear the air if he contacts me again.. Do I need to delete everything and move on? I’m so confused as I know that if we got back together it could work… We never had any major arguments before the stress of the tour and his now out of the army so I believe it could work.
Any advice even if its negative would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much. Love Jj xx

Jj

March 10, 2014 at 7:04 pm

They got together in December but split just before Christmas as she met up with her ex boyfriend. They then got back together around the middle of January.
admin

March 10, 2014 at 5:42 pm

How long has he been dating the new girl?

maria

March 8, 2014 at 8:04 am

my boyfriend worded abroad, we have a 2 yr old daughter. we keep fighting because he has a short temper and says he regret that he chose me over his ex girlfriend. we’ve been together for three years, then he want us out of his house. so we left and stayed with my sister. when he arrived 2 weeks later she already had a new girlfriend, and now he wants me back. we fought because i got mad that he had a girlfriend and even let her stay for 2 nights. i physically hurt, very bad. now he doesn’t want to be with me and stayed with his new girlfriend. what should i do to win him back? i love so much, i regret every second that i physically abused him, it was the first time i did it, and he says he’s afraid of me. please help. i him back so badly

admin

March 8, 2014 at 7:20 pm

How did you physically abuse him?

Anonymous

March 8, 2014 at 2:08 am

(edit; sorry so many mistakes I made in my other post on my other one, haha)

Hey Chris, I was just wondering if you could help me out; My ex and I were together for 7 months we lived together and saw each other mostly every night and day, we both really loved each other he’s 19 years old and I’m turning 18 (we have known each other since we were little kids) when I found out he had a new girlfriend I sent hate messages ro both him and her I didn’t stop for about a month! She then started sending me hate messages and I then said “Look sorry about all the things I have said about you I hope you and (my ex) are happy together, then blocked heron facebook.

I haven’t tried contacting my ex boyfriend in about a month almost 2. i think it’s been that long anyways. My ex and I also dated in the past when I was 15, that relationship lasted 5 months; can I get my ex back a 2nd time? Or did I mess up and is he gonw for good? I haven’t heard from him in like 3 months… Anyways back to my story(you can read it if you want)

we broke up 4 months ago because I fell pregnant and sadly lost the baby I broke up with him first over the phone twlling him “don’t come back here, I don’t want to be with you anymore. I regret doing that.

The next day he came to home crying I told him “I’m sorry and that I didn’t mean to break up with him and that it was a mistake I love you I’m sorry I’m just angry and depressed” he then told me “i love you, I always will but after you breaking up with me and all the stress going on about being pregnant and losing the baby has hurt me to much, I’m sorry I love you and I want to remain friends.” He then kissed me then left.

We tried to remain friends but 3 weeks after breaking up with me I found out he was dating a 14 year old girl (so theres 5 years age difference) who use to date my ex’s best friend but left him for my ex. They have now been dating for 3 months but she alwaya breaks up with him then takes him back. So, do you think theres a chance we can get back togther a 3rd time even though I messed up?

admin

March 8, 2014 at 7:13 pm

Whoaaa… 14 year old girl?

That’s not going to last.

mima

March 6, 2014 at 9:04 pm

I left my boyfrind (who i loved so much) 3 years ago..after i left him he showed me that he wants to get back but i refused and i told him lets stay friends..3 months ago he called my a romantic call and i understood that he wants to got back..But after his phone call i heard that he is with someone slse..he knows that i want him..and i can do nothing he is with her now…

admin

March 7, 2014 at 6:58 am

You had your chance though? Are you sure this isn’t a “I want what I can’t have?”
mima

March 7, 2014 at 7:31 am

Iam asking my self this question anf
And i think i will find the answer soon…but why he called and dhowed me that i still mean something???
mima

March 7, 2014 at 7:36 am

Showed*

Elle

March 5, 2014 at 12:36 am

Hi Chris,
My ex broke up December last year. I knew he had a gf before our relationship started. But somehow we both develop feelings for each other and started dating secretly. He tells me he loves me and has feelings for me. But eventually we broke up. He could not leave his other gf not unless he found something else wrong, he told me to keep us close friends even though there is love between us and that he still has feelings for me. What is your advise. I want him back but I want it to be only me. Help me please

mima

March 6, 2014 at 9:08 pm

Tell him that if he agrees ….then go for it..if he doesn’t that means he us not man enough to deserve your love
admin

March 7, 2014 at 6:59 am

I wish there was a like button for this comment 😉
mima

March 7, 2014 at 7:35 am

Thanks…

Keiyetta

March 4, 2014 at 1:31 pm

My ex left me for another woman after being together for 9 years and we share 2 kids together. The funny thing this isnt the first time. He has been seeing this woman for a while behind my back cheating. This is a woman that no matter what she will take him in no matter what. I just found out that he is with her and is cheating on her with another woman also. am so tempted to tell her but I will keep it to my self. She chose to be with my man so she can deal with what comes with it. I know I shouldnt want him back but a part of me do. I miss our good times with our kids and family. I dont know what to do. He says he have love for her and she doesnt argue with him. He says they can communicate with each other. I felt hurt when he said that but then I realized I need to let him go but I still miss him.

admin

March 4, 2014 at 6:45 pm

I am so sorry to hear this. He just left you and your kids out of the blue or were there signs that this was coming?

Meganj

March 4, 2014 at 8:26 am

What would you suggest in my situation. My ex broke up with me 7 weeks ago. for the first three weeks he still called and texted most days and we saw one another, as friends and to “talk about things”. I refused to get sexual but we snuggled and slept in the same bed. I was emotional but also honest and said I didn’t want to break up and couldn’t we work something out. He kept saying no, so I requested and implemented no contact for three weeks. Then I called and said I still have some of his stuff and that I would like to check in. He said yes. Called back to confirm, suggested a time and place and we made a date for a week later. Which is Wednesday. He emails me today to let me know, “so it wont be awkward” that he has started seeing someone, but he would still like to meet up if I would. While I appreciate him letting me know that I don’t know what to do. I really love him still and want to have another chance at our relationship.

admin

March 4, 2014 at 7:03 pm

Have you done anything to rebuild attraction?

Erin

March 3, 2014 at 8:49 pm

What are your thoughts on being in contact with an ex while hes dating around and seeing other people.

admin

March 4, 2014 at 3:20 am

No problem as long as your building attraction and making him realize how much of a mistake it is that he isn’t with you.
Erin

March 5, 2014 at 8:12 pm

My ex revealed to me that the reason why he broke up with me was because he felt I didnt appreciate him that much. Is there an article or do you have any pointers to show him that I appreciated him. It was just hard for me to show him that at the time because of what I was going through. We were having really great communication for a couple weeks and that went completely sour for him because I got really defensive and scared and told him to leave me alone because a mutual friend and him got in a fight over me. Breaking my trust. I want to reestablish what great communication we were having but I feel like it might be too late.
mima

March 7, 2014 at 7:44 am

Do whatever u didn’t do…

Kaylee

March 2, 2014 at 12:26 am

So my ex bf and were together 3 years. We broke up because I drank too much and acted stupid. Then a week later we hung out. Then he didn’t really talk to me and then for 2 months were back together and then he says i can’t make him happy. I did no contact for awhile and then saw him at a club function were both in. We started to text here and there a little bit. Not about us but just life and whatever. He’ll respond some days and then others he won’t. He says he’s talking to someone and that’s all it is. This girl has 3 kids and is going through a divorce. He has always told me be doesn’t want to date someone with kids because he has 2. I feel like I should go back to NC. I just feel like he’ll forget me and won’t miss me. I know I have to have him want me and miss me by being quite but it just feels like if I don’t say or do anything he won’t think about me. I don’t want to lose him for good to another girl. Everytime I see him at our club meetings he always looks over at me and smiles and laughs and is super sweet. I want him to remember all of our good times and feel like he didn’t when we were first together. He is my life and his kids id do anything for. I miss him so much everyday. Help!
Sarah

March 1, 2014 at 10:26 am

Hi, I’m going to summarize my situation because I really need your advice. I was with my ex boy-friend for almost six years but, since we met when we were pretty young, there were always doubts about ‘being the one’. So, in one of these crises we broke up. I stopped talking to him but we met a couple of times because he wanted to see me. after these meetings a kind of escalation happened and he ended up begging me to go back with him. I said no because I couldn’t really trust him and because I had rediscovered that being by myself was not so bad. I started dating a new guy and I didn’t hear from my ex anymore for months. Then, one day I walked into him and something rekindled inside me. We started texting once in a while and he told me he has a new girlfriend (Who was actually a friend of him even when we were together). We started dating secretly and there were also a couple of booty calls. In the meantime I dumped the new guy I had started dating, but my ex doesn’t want to leave his girlfriend, even if he cheated on her with me and he evidently still has feelings for me. What can I do to get him back? Thank u

admin

March 2, 2014 at 7:19 pm

I am a little confused were the two of you running around while he had a girlfriend?

Sorry the way you worded things confused me.

Kat

February 24, 2014 at 9:41 pm

Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We were together for 3 years and a bit and this is the second time he broke up with me. He is older than me, divorced and has two children. We were together for a year when he broke up with me the first time. We both didn’t wan’t a serious relationship at that time as I came out of a long term relationship and he was badly hurt by his ex-wife. When he ended it, he said that he doesn’t love me or fancy me anymore and I did the stupidest things you can ever imagine…All big NO NOs like begging, crying,threatening to end my life, stalking , texting him and calling him all the time and even saying that I want to be just friends with benefits, just to get him back somehow… We slept together once…A week later, I found out that he fancied to another girl from work and that he wanted to date her… He also admitted they kissed. I was devastated, heartbroken…she was an absolute beauty and there was no way I could compete with her…I kept the contact to minimum and started to concentrate on myself. I lost weight – 10 kg to be precise but on the other hand, it did wonders to my confidence. I started to wear different clothes and also wore more make-up… We work together so I did “accidentally” bump into him and we went for a smoke few times…He commented on me looking really good and also that he’d noticed that a lot of guys from work are looking at me…I played it really cool and thanked him for his comments about my looks and also mentioned about the new things I started to do – like going back to my dancing lessons…few days later, he came to the office where I work and he wanted to print some discounted train tickets for his Mum and brother who were coming to see him and wanted to go to London for the Remembrance Day. He couldn’t log in into his account so I suggested to do it through mine and leave the tickets in his post box at work.That apparently made his day and his family told him that he was stupid to let me go. After this, he wanted to meet up and go on a date. I made it quite easy for him because I took him back straight away. Everything was great…He introduced me to his family and kids and I introduced him to my family and we started to make plans for our future together. Few months after we got back together, I was promoted at work. My workload increased and so did my stress levels. Our sex life changed as well. I was always tired and started to make up excuses, put on the weight back on which made me very cautious about my body and was scared that he wouldn’t fancy me anymore even after him reassuring me all the time that when he met me, I was actually bigger…It got into such state that he wanted to end the relationship probably around 4 times because of it but I always managed to persuade him and things were alright for a while. Then of course my mood swings came back again and I stopped concentrating on him and gave more attention to my work and my issues. I moaned all the time and criticized a lot, including his kids and family and even my friends and family. The thing is that I had a very good relationship with them, but he was always unhappy that his kids only wanted to talk to him when they needed money and so did his family. I always listened to him and tried to help him by saying that he needs to do something about it…So when he didn’t change his approach with them and he kept doing the same mistakes, I started to criticize…We were also making plans to move in together. Right before Christmas, he told me that he is not in love with me anymore and that if he feels the same after we come back from seeing his family, we should break up. I was devastated again but put on a brave face and behaved. Did everything right and even after his son ruined the whole Christmas for us, I didn’t say anything. After New Year, he told me that he realized that he still loves me and that he knows that I’m the one and that he wouldn’t find a better girl. We planned to tell his brother to move out of his apartment and I was going to move in with him. We planned a first family holiday together with his kids as well. After a month of us being happy, his brother’s girlfriend moved in with them after her husband found out about her cheating on him with my boyfriend’s brother. I stupidly made a big deal out of it and refused to come to my boyfriends apartment because of her and I also started to criticize everything as I used to…We went to see my family to my country and decided to stay few days with them and also spend Valentines in a spa to enjoy it. During this time, I didn’t pay him much attention, basically took him for granted and was complaining about everything a lot again. He didn’t enjoy himself at all. When we came back, he was very distant and few days later, he broke up with me for good saying that he doesn’t really love me and that he really, really tried, but he can’t see any future with us. He said that I’m very negative person and find faults everywhere and that we are not compatible at all. He mentioned about me criticizing his family, his son and his brother. I apologized for everything I said about his family and kids but he said that it doesn’t help the fact that he doesn’t love me and if he was going to get back together with me again, he would only make it for me, not for himself. He also said that he is very unhappy and he doesn’t want to get mentally unwell like he did after what his ex-wife did to him. I cried and begged again but let him go and didn’t text him until next day. I basically said that I understand his decision and apologized again for everything I said and did. Even his Mum sent me a text asking if I was alright. He broke up with me on Tuesday and we kept texting. We booked a holiday and that needed to be cancelled so we were mostly talking about that. We met on Friday because it was his Mum’s birthday on Saturday and I bought her a gift before he broke up with me so I wanted him to give it to her. He bought me my favorite coffee and also some baguette that day. He was polite and we hugged, he said that he knows he hurt me and the reason for bringing me the coffee and lunch is because he was worried about me and he doesn’t want me to get all crazy like I did last time when I lost so much weight. I played it cool and ended up the conversation by saying that I have to go back to the office. I then sent him a text thanking him for the coffee and lunch and wished him a nice weekend, asking him to send my love to his Mum and family. He replied saying that it was very kind of me to get her the presents and that he is sure she will love it. He then texted on Saturday saying that his Mum was very impressed with the presents (she texted me the same day thanking me as well). I replied again then I’m happy she liked it and that she certainly deserved them, also asking him to send my love to everybody. He then text on Sunday around 10am saying that his Mum had a great time and that she got drunk a bit and how funny it was. He also mentioned about his sister’s baby being ill and basically we exchanged few texts. I’ve spoken to my Mum and told her about us breaking up which made me really desperate and sad so I basically sent him a looong text about how I still love him and want him back and blah, blah, blah…I just couldn’t help myself…when he didn’t text back after 2 hours I text him again, this time apologizing for the last text saying that it was inappropriate and that I hoped he wasn’t angry…he didn’t text back until next day (today) afternoon saying that the reason why he didn’t text straight away was because it was heartbreaking and that I should stop apologizing. He again said that he tried really hard for our relationship to work but he is very unhappy and that he can’t see the future for us. He mentioned he needs space and that we shouldn’t be in contact for a while. He said that we can still stay friends but only if he sees that it’s not hurting me. I agreed with him and now I’m just waiting. Day 1 with No contact. I don’t know what to do. I really want him back and I know that I let him down many times. I pushed
him too far this time and I don’t know how to get him back, how to make me love me again…We were really great together until I messed it up with my negativity and constant moaning…He said that I was the only girl he could imagine his future with after his ex-wife…I just can’t believe that he ended it so suddenly. I don’t even know if I still have a chance to win him back and how should I go about it?? Please help.

Kat

February 25, 2014 at 11:55 pm

Hi Chris, I know you get a lot of comments but I just wanted to know one thing. We had a deal before we stopped communicating that he would pay me off the money for the cancelled holiday we booked each pay day – which is next week Friday. It would only be 11 days of your NC rule so what shall I do when he sends me a text asking me to meet up so he can give me the money? Shall I just ignore it and wait? Please help 🙁

Aisha

February 24, 2014 at 5:27 am

My ex and I broke up over a month ago and when I went begging back he said he’d used me. I did no contact and he came back but he never apologized and I didn’t want to seem to have no respect by going back to him so I said no. He said he’d wait six months. It’s been a week since and he’s changed completely. He says he doesn’t want to date anymore, and he spends a lot of time hitting on many girls. We don’t talk, he doesn’t message and he says he doesn’t like me or anyone anymore and that he especially doesn’t want to go back to me. (all through a common friend) and when he thought I was going to move on with a different guy he said he didn’t care and that is was good for me to move on.

How do I get him back? 🙁
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tiffany

February 25, 2014 at 11:15 pm

my ex broke up with because im bi polar and like a week after he got a new girlfriend and she was one of my friends and I wont him back but I don’t know what to do any advice
marsha

March 12, 2014 at 12:56 pm

hey, this similar with me. my ex lately told me in the phone that bipolar is one of the issue too, that causing the break up. (that he never mention before. he said that he tried to be patient with my bipolar things but he somewhat failed and that he want to be with someone stable). So i hope chris will answer tiffany question. i hope it will inspire me.

i have done the NC, and the messaging but when i’m in the phone stage, i’m failed (because he said he already had a new girlfriend, who lives in another island and it’s so far away from him: LDR things. he met her in facebook and i’m thinking that it is something that will failed: dating a girls that you met in facebook and lives miles away from you. sure the technology helps. but i’m not sure he can do it because i know his personality, he wouldn’t be able to do this, except it’s not a serious relationship ). we started to fighting (but not the kind of angry and shouting, we just argue. he doesn’t like to communicate with me because he has a new girlfriend now.). So i’m thinking what can i do? should i just started 30days NC (back to the start, or what?)

NOTE: i live in asian (i’m asian) and i learn to speak english. i never went abroad. i know nothing about BS or booty call. can you explain what it is? because you always say those things in your article. what is BS? what is booty call? boot=shoe.. booty=shoe-y= something like shoes? booty call= calling with the boots on?
is BS have something to do with PS? i love PS. So what is it? like.. BlayStation?
okay, it’s a joke. don’t take it seriously. haha 😀

another question…
what about culture? would it counts? Does your rule above the culture. i mean… every guy in the world would just the same or it just works for modern man? because i’m finally realize that we (me & my ex) both conventional. But we had different culture, so we sees something differently. there are so many tribes in my country and we are from different island but he move to my island to have a better living.
i heard that people were build by culture, personality, family, and social life (environment)?
so let’s say that all of your article are about common man, but what he doesn’t have in your ‘common man’ situation is.. he is different in culture and social life/environment. would it still be the same?

i hope my question will not bored you because i think it’s too long. i’m already sleepy writing this long comment. gotta sleep :p

Steph

February 24, 2014 at 2:40 am

Hi Chris,

My ex boyfriend and I broke up more than a year ago after a 3 year relationship. He initiated the break up because he did not love me the same way anymore. And during this break up period, we still contacted frequently and had sex sometimes. But now he has a new girlfriend and I’m feeling so lost and devastated. Do you think I still stand a chance with him?

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:42 pm

Are you currently in NC?
Steph

March 7, 2014 at 4:00 am

And I’m currently at day 12 of NC
Steph

March 6, 2014 at 5:55 pm

Yes. He texted me once and I was so tempted to reply but I didn’t in the end.

joy

February 23, 2014 at 1:17 am

I have been dating a guy for 2yrs now and all of a sudden he travelled and called me up to tell me he is not interested again. I thought it was a joke so when he came back, I saw that he was serious. I later found out there is another girl in the picture and when I ask him, he would lie to me. I finally called the girl up and this girl told me everything about myself including secrets i entrusted to him because i trusted him so much and she said it was my boyfriend that told her. I felt so embarrassed and he is not feeling remorse about what he did to me. Most times he would come to see me and we would have sex and he tells me he can’t resist me. He has asked I give him some space to think. When I asked him what I did to make him break up with me, he would not say anything but goes ahead to tell the girl I jilted him first. I made a mistake by doing that but I was under pressure to do so and have been apologising since then and it happened a year ago. My friends said he is paying me back in my own coin. I dont know what to do right now. I still want him back because i truly love him. Please any useful advice?
Autumn

February 22, 2014 at 1:54 am

my ex and i broke up around this time last year and after he broke up with me he ignored me for a whole month then outta no where he starts talking to me again, everything was perfect again until one day he told me he asked some girl named grace to prom. It broke my heart. Shortly after they started dating. I cried for weeks. Its been almost 10 months now they’ve been together and about a month ago me and my ex started talking again and we hung out and we got drunk and had sex. Its happened about 3 times now and i go to school with him now so i see him everyday. It’s so hard to always see how happy they are together on facebook but lowkey he’s fucking with me. I dont know what to do anymore.. help?

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:45 pm

Take a step back.

Take a deep breath.

You are getting way to intense about this and it isn’t helping you. Are you guys all in high school?

Nko

February 21, 2014 at 11:41 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend during last year festive season coz he simply wasn’t giving me any attention unless um on social networks. immediately after the breakup he dated another girl. we do keep in touch, but he still asks me about my love life. like he does that at least once in 2 weeks. I want him back so badly! how do I go about it?

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