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Cristina
April 23, 2014 at 1:39 pm
Hey Chris my boyfriend and I had been together for 2 years and 5 months…our relationship in the beginning was all about him begging be everytime we got into a fight even if it was my fault…but then things changed…I decided to break up with him a month ago because it yust seemed as if he didnt care it he saw me or talked to me for the day….if I didnt call him he didnt either and the moment I told him I didnt want the relationship he had no problem letting me go…I tried the NC but he never contacted me until I contacted him (breaking NC) he responded to every txt and was very nice to me but he blocked me from Fb….fortunately I have his password and get in every now and then and I read sum inboxes between him and an apparent coworker where he seemed really interested on taking her out to dance…I heartbroked (he never wanted to go out dancing with me for the last months of our relationship….has he moved on? Do I have a chance?
Rory
April 23, 2014 at 3:12 am
My ex and I were dating for 6 months, we took a break while he travelled, and when he came back after a few months we thought everything would be great, only we took each other for granted in many ways. He ended up getting interested in a new girl and I ended up dumping him. I get the feeling it didn’t work out with the new girl at that time.
After a month of NC he comes back making very casual but regular conversation, but I know he is still in contact with that girl every now and again. Is he worth giving a second chance? Or should I hang back and not continue to communicate with him, as he might still be playing the field to see what he can get?
admin
April 23, 2014 at 4:05 pm
I say hang back.
isheworthit?
April 22, 2014 at 11:12 pm
I have dated this guy off and on for 6 to 7 months. He breaks up with me and than wants me back, twice this happens and I keep giving him these chances and than wanted me to wait for him since he did not know what he wanted and needed time to figure stuff out. I waited for him for two months till “apparently” we agreed to be friends. He’s starting to never text me and hanging out with this other girl that I feel he’s starting to like and going to date. He was the best person I have ever dated and sweet. I really want him back and I have tried moving on but can’t please help. Should I have him back?
admin
April 23, 2014 at 3:57 pm
Question…
How is he the best person you ever dated if you two were breaking up and getting back together all the time?
Samantha
April 22, 2014 at 4:37 pm
we’ll I just recently had a dream of me and my ex boyfriend and It was a good dream I just wished he hadn’t broken up with me 🙁 I miss him but I know he hates me
admin
April 23, 2014 at 3:36 pm
He has a new gf I am assuming?
alicia
April 22, 2014 at 11:05 am
After reading through all your advice on getting my ex back, I have finally come to the conclusion I’m better off without him. I realize I was spending way too much time on trying to be with someone that is not worth it. You actually have great ideas and your right on with your advice. I appreciate you. I just see now that I deserve better than what I was given and what I was fighting for. Thank u
Shaneese
April 20, 2014 at 10:25 pm
My boyfriend (23) and I (19) have been together for over 2 years 6 months. We have lived together for 1 year. Two days ago we both decided to break up, he wanted to have space and be single, he told me he doesn’t know what he wants and that he has feelings for a work colleague he met 2 weeks ago so it was unfair to me that he continues our relationship whilst he has feelings for another. He says he still loves me but has lost the spark which he has found in this work colleague he has just met. Basically he broke up with me to see if anything happens with her. I didn’t want to end the relationship but I did in order for him to be happy. I have 2 weeks untill I can see him again unless he has gotten into a relationship with the work colleague, oh also she has boyfriend, but apparently she might break up with him to be with my boyfriend. I just want him back badly. Everyone has said we are soul mates and were perfect together.
admin
April 21, 2014 at 4:15 pm
How do you know she would break up with her boyfriend?
Is she cheating on him?
Shaneese
April 20, 2014 at 10:41 pm
Sorry my question is, should I try to forget about him even though I really want him back?
admin
April 21, 2014 at 4:08 pm
Only if you think the percentage chance has dropped so low you don’t think its realistic to get him back.
bree
April 18, 2014 at 9:41 am
Hi I have been dating this guy just a few months. I didn’t plan on really liking him or wanting a relationship at all I have had walls up many years. We meet online as friends then we meet. I feel at first sight he did as well. I had two ltr b4 in my 32 years but never was it as passionate as this new dating. All my girlfriends hated on him bc he is not wealthy.. but he was and is always on my mind. Last week my girlfriends made a false profile to chat with him around the time we were about to put a label on our courting.. a week ago today my friends showed me the flirting messages all the same day we finally became together.. I flipped told him I read it all and was hurt. Are fuss was short and I didn’t get to explain or did I get a reasons why.. I never had feelings this strong or fast .. over the weekend I spilled my heart telling him. I love him in text.. No resp once. And was blocked on Facebook.. few days past I texted him saying I wanted a goodbye in a nice way no hard feeling and that I’ll always be his friend. We chatted briefly about how he might move home to Va and leave nc. And that I should move on. .. it hurt but was no fighting.. a few hours later I ran into his friend that likes me and his friend told me that Jason is already in a committed relationship. With a girl jason knows I Dont like. And that girl was chasing him during our first chatting. I feel stupid and humiliated I spilled my heart in text while he jumped in a relationship. And was with her.Jason Dont know I know all that.. nor that his friends have been hitting on me.. I so want to let him know all these things i know.But I want to give him space..do I tell him in a nice way that I know or be like ewww gross and act like I’m over him compleatly? Or nothing.Before I do the 30 day no contact.? I feel so foolish and hurt. But I Dont want to threw it all away. I dated many guys no man ever got to my heart like this..and i feel our friends are jello that well love well loved:'( please help?
Freddie
April 14, 2014 at 7:58 pm
Hi please help
I have been split up from my ex boyfriend twelve months
We have the constant emails I’ve chased him and he had a new girlfriend . I was devisated when we split up . Chased and chased begged him to come back. In September he emailed me saying he was trying to make it work but constantly thought of me.
I offered him everything yet again he stayed with her.
He knows I love him.
I began to rebuild my life… Looked after myself Moved house, set up my own business and became stronger… Had a odd date but was still in love with him.
I never told him where my business was …
Out of the blue he drove by and then informed me….
Via email.. Well done your business looks lovely
And happy birthday to me hope I was having a good day
I ignored these emails
I had a few days away that he seemed to be aware of too
So I replied I had a fantastic few days away and that I had a fantastic time .
I’ve read and read all your replies and questions to yourself
And followed a lot of your advice
….focus on me and ignore him be the one he fell in love with not desperate
Which is what I’ve done
He’s been to my local previous pub and sent me a photo of…the pub
I still never replied as I previously sent him some time ago” come and get me if you want me you know how I feel about you I love you dearly ”
The same evening I had a nasty email saying….
Just don’t contact me again with your silly mind games FOOL
I feel really upset and hurt . I have not replied
What should I do ?
I love and wat this man what do you think he wants ?
Please help
admin
April 15, 2014 at 4:13 pm
don’t contact him for a long while.
Leah
April 14, 2014 at 1:27 pm
So my boyfriend and I had been dating for almost a year when we had a fight and we broke up, just right before summer vacation. When school started, I heard some rumours about him interested with another girl and I was hurt, since he didn’t seem like that guy. I was very upset but I didn’t let him know. Shortly a few weeks after the rumours spreaded, a new guy in my grade expressed his interest in me. He wasnt a very good person though, and a lot of girls warned me to be careful around him. I wasnt interested and secretly still hung up on my boyfriend so I steered clear from him. Suddenly, my ex popped up from nowhere and started telling me to be careful and told his friends to keep an eye on me so I wouldnt get into trouble as the guy who had interest in me was very creepy and very insistent. Fast forward a few weeks, my boyfriend apologized for breaking up with me and things got back to normal. He was sweet and caring, but then he started to talk less and less and he gives off the vibe of being bored. This went on for about 3 weeks. I backed out quietly, getting the signal. During this time, a really nice guy (let’s just call him Drew) helped me out. Whenever I was sad he would comfort me and eventually I started to have feelings for him. So when he asked me to be his girlfriend, I accepted. My ex was furious when he heard we got together. Long story short, I realized that I just have a simple crush on Drew and my present relationship felt awkward and it’s actually just a rebound so I broke it off with him. Fortunately, Drew felt the same way about our relationship so no hard feelings is present between us. My ex then heard that I still loved him and wanted to get back with him, but then he told me that he doesnt know what to do now because I’m unchartered territory and he is starting to move on with another girl. Please help me, I really do love him and i would do anything to get him back.
Leeri
April 12, 2014 at 1:48 pm
My ex simon and me have dated for 11 months. In the middle of our relationship he dated another girl alongside with me. And when I found out about i I asked him and he said he isnt serious with her and that he loves me. Shortly he left her and we were happy. I broke up with him two to three times because I felt he was cheating on me. But then after our third break up he was like dead serious with me. By the ninth month he broke up with me saying he got back with his ex with whom he dated for 6 years. We didnt contact for a week and then after a week he called me up saying he lost his mind that day and broke up with me and that he wants to get back. We were fine again. But my friends warned me and told me not to go ahead with this relationship but I didnt listen. Now shortly after our 11 month anniversary I had a feeling he is being with me only because he pitied me. Because I was weak and would cry when he would leave me or ignore me. So I told him if he is with me only because he pitied me he better leave me. And the worst part was he just left me at that state and took a new girlfriend within an hour. I really miss him alot. Do you think I should get back? Or will he come back to me?
p.s. I had to explain my story so that you will be able to understand my situation.
Pam
April 13, 2014 at 12:16 am
Its up to you really. I would tell him that you and him need to go see a counselor in order for him to prove to you that he will not leave you again. Tell him that you deserve respect. Dont let it hurt you!!! Trust me im in the same situation. If God wants you two to be together it will happen. It takes time.
Sarah
April 11, 2014 at 11:52 pm
So me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 months ago. I’ve known
Him since kindergarden. I changed high schools and then met him again
On instagram, i know sounds pretty lame. Anyway i loved him so much
And i still do a lot more then u should. He got a new girlfriend but i want
Him back. I have no idea what to do! I told him i still had feelings for him in
March 2 months after we broke up. We still talk and facetime and all that
But are just friends. All i want his him to love me again. How do i get him
Back????
Lynn
April 11, 2014 at 2:15 pm
this is somehow complicated.
my boyfriend (or ex-boyfriend now) and I are long distance, I have known him for around nine months and we were working on moving together, so the distance was temporary. However, a lot has happened in no time; first it was all rainbows and butterflies, and suddenly out of nowhere he tells me how he’s suicidal after an insignificant fight we’ve had; he insisted it had nothing to do with me and that it was very personal. I tried to help him out of it, and he broke up with me saying it was better for the both of us not to be together, although we stayed very close friends.
Only a week ago we had a very intimate talk, it was emotional, I almost forgot he has broken up with me, only to find out that he got a new girlfriend two days later.
it is difficult having to cope with it knowing I will be living with him in the same city within a few months, I have no idea what to tell my family about it as we were intending on getting married.
(P.S. he’s an extremely sensitive, emotional person and not the kind of person that would go in a rebound relationship, he would only get involved with somebody he has romantic feelings for)
When he broke up with me, he did assure me that I’m very special to him and that he will never cancel me out of his life, and we did keep in touch after the breakup, he also had moments when he would express his feelings to me. I’m so lost, I really don’t know what to do.
(P.P.S. you’ve mentioned something about the reasons that he may not mention; in fact, he did want me to lose the few extra pounds I have on, and I’ve been working on it, he was also extremely sexually frustrated and felt lonely all the time)
Please tell me what you think Chris,
Thank you very much.
kimberry merser
April 11, 2014 at 3:11 am
His new girl steal my ex first
She use that chances when we fighting and i really love him
What should i do to steal him back??
lavette
April 10, 2014 at 1:39 am
DO you think there is hope of me and my ex getting back together if he has a new g/f. He’s in a relationship after we dated for 3 yrs. He said he didn’t want to, be committed to me nor anyone else. This is our 2nd time around. I was his first love, I left him, fast forward 20 yrs we meet again. We basically got a long fine. We talked on the phone everyday, we had our disagreements mainly because I wanted a relationship and he didn’t. I finally realized that I needed to stop pushing, then bam he gets a g/f he I informed me via text. We didn’t communicate for 3 weeks. Then we spoke, Communication was off for 30 days. Wen he initiated contact I would wait a day to respond. Wen he left his last message, I didn’t respond, he called three days later than showed up at my house. We had a good visit, until I brought up his relationship. He seemed very uncomfortable, we talked, then we yelled, then I put him out. I felt so bad for putting him out, but I felt like I had been passive for too long. It’s been 4 days and I haven’t v heard from him. I really would like to reconcile. What is your opinion or advise?
Thk you
lavette
April 20, 2014 at 7:38 am
No, I’m giving up on waiting for advice on my situation lol. I still am remaining hopefully and positive. I just had no clue how busy you are.
admin
April 20, 2014 at 9:00 pm
You know what you can do.
Just ask me one question at a time because I can answer one question so much more easily.
lavette
April 20, 2014 at 11:39 pm
Thks.
What should I do?
admin
April 11, 2014 at 3:36 am
How long has he been with the new girl for?
Sara
April 11, 2014 at 6:05 am
Since the beginning of feb this year. So they just started dating
lavette
April 13, 2014 at 12:09 am
Yes, he said they are in a relationship. He came to my house last week too talk abt something he cOuld have spoken to me abt on the phone or not at all. We talked had a nice visit until I asked him abt his relationship status, then we had a major blow out. I put him out( I felt bad..but it had to be done) . We haven’t spoken since last Sat, I’m miserable but I haven’t texted or called him. I feel that this may be hopeless.
Thks for listening.
lavette
April 14, 2014 at 2:13 pm
Admin ????
admin
April 14, 2014 at 5:10 pm
Haha my name is Chris
lavette
April 15, 2014 at 2:47 am
Hi Chris,
You didn’t answer my post. Help!!!
lavette
April 15, 2014 at 10:19 pm
Chris Chris Chris Help!!
admin
April 16, 2014 at 4:17 pm
Ye yes yes im here.
lavette
April 19, 2014 at 4:21 am
I give up. Thks
admin
April 20, 2014 at 3:29 am
Do you need help getting over him if you are giving up?
lavette
April 11, 2014 at 4:19 am
Thks for responding.
From what I know it’s been Since Feb 3. That’s wen he told me.
Does this seem hopeless or what if anything can I do?
Sara
April 9, 2014 at 10:03 pm
My boyfriend and I were together 5 yrs and have a 3 yr old daughter together. We broke up after i made him chose between a breakup and marriage and well here we are. He has been dating his new girlfriend for 2 months now. He had picked up with her where he and I left off and even now makes comments about her that he use to make about me. I am trying to get him back and save my family but he has introduced this new woman to our child and I am unsure how to take that. Im really beginning to freak out and am in DESPERATE need of your guidance. Please help me save my family.
sandra
April 7, 2014 at 4:29 pm
we dated for 6 months and were really serious. our parents came to know about it n they were against it so we had to break up. it’s been 10 months since then and he has got a new girl in his life whom he calls as his best friend. i think they are much more than that. we were on friendly terms but from recent some days he’s completely ignoring me and it hurts. he doesnt do any efforts to talk to me or meet me now as he used to do earlier. i really love him n want him back. if he loves me, then why doesnt he show??
Libby Walsh
April 7, 2014 at 3:52 am
I’m 15, almost 16, and my ex was 19. I took his virginity. We kinda snook around, but he got sick of it. So I finally talked to my mom about it, but then he dumped me, on christmas.. We were together for 2 months and I really honestly love him. But he got with another girl.. Is it possible he’s with her because he can’t be with me right now, like maybe he’s just trying to get over me with someone knew?
admin
April 7, 2014 at 4:50 pm
Why did you have to sneak around?
Abby
April 5, 2014 at 12:47 am
What do you do when your boyfriend of 2 years leaves u the day after telling you how much he loves u wants too marry you have a baby and hope you get through the problems you are having… And then 2 days after the break up he starts a new relationship with a girl he met on the internet they hadn’t even known each other a week when they started dating and although he denies he cheated started talking too her a few days before the break up but was still telling u he loved u.
admin
April 6, 2014 at 4:51 pm
The commitment scared him it sounds like.
Chelsea
April 4, 2014 at 3:20 am
He had a past relationship that he thought had ended and wanted to continue on with me, as he thought they ended. But apparently she still is waiting for him. He was going to propose to her and got scared. But while being with me he developed feelings for me too. I am heartbroken because I have deep feelings and don’t know if I can win him back at all. He does not know what he wants now. Me or her. But there long term relationship seems to outweigh our less than one year relationship. What should I do.
toni austria
April 4, 2014 at 2:32 am
My fiance and i lived in for about 8mos, then we broke up last jan20, i left him coz of his attitude, he’s so obsessed, strict, insecure, bossy type, perfectionist! He is so selfish kind of person, i try to understand him, coz i loved him, but he is so hard to handle, we always fight even the small things, he will get mad at me, so i decided to leave him and i go back to my place, then we didnt contact, (fb coz i blocked him, and i didnt even texted him for a week) then after a week, he messaged my mom, he tells what he feels, even he sent that message for my mom’s fb, he said that he’s so hurt, asking if i really loved him, etc.
So.. nextday, i replied him, so we started again to talk, like that, and we hoped again that we can fix it, but, never happened, he’s still the same , got his bad attitude again, when he get my feelings, he will be the same again, he didnt change, so .. we are on and off situation, for almost one month, then, we broke up again on chat, then im always prentedning that im ready, coz i dont want to see him that im weak, so.. this time i said, its okay. And goodbye, then, after 2weeks, i saw his fb, he had a new girl, my heart ofcourse breaks, but i stay strong and wise, then after a month, i get shocked,coz even he change his number , he texted me, he said that he loved me, etc. I didnt reply him, and i didnt even tell that i know that he had new gf, pls help me, i just want to know, why he keep on txting me, and always says that im so bad to him, he’s still inloved with me, asking me if i did loved him? Like that.. whats the point? If he had a new girl, i hope someone could advice me too what to do.. thank you in advanced!
admin
April 4, 2014 at 5:17 pm
My new guide will be very eye opening for you. Wait about a week and it will be out.