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Erin
November 21, 2014 at 4:40 am
I don’t know what to do I need your help! My boyfriend and I have been together for six months together and were perfectly happy. Then he started drifting away for two weeks and we started picking little fights with each other. Eventually he stopped contacting me and then texted me saying he’s just too busy and needs to be alone for now. That he still loves me and maybe we’ll be together again some day but he cant be with me right now. A couple days passed and my friends were telling me they started seeing him around school with this girl that I cant stand (and he knows it) its also his best friends ex. I’m not sure if he left me for someone else, because that’s really not his personality at all. What should I do? We’re technically just spending some time apart so should I say something? How do I get him back? Please help me! (:
admin
November 24, 2014 at 4:09 pm
Do you have any idea what caused him to drift away? Think really hard because its improtant.
Lana
November 20, 2014 at 9:09 pm
Hi Chris was in a relationship for a month I broke up with him in a month he got a new girlfriend he kept saying hes hona kick her out but didn’t I have started the NCR it had been 4 days im going to crack he keeps calling and hes saying shes gone and hes lonely what do i do? Help!!!!
admin
November 24, 2014 at 3:57 pm
Start it up! What are you waiting for?
Ness
November 17, 2014 at 12:50 pm
My ex ended our relationship about a month ago now after almost 4 years together. Mostly our relationship has been great, loving and strong so it was a shock when he told me his feelings had changed. Although even worse was a week later when he admitted he likes someone and she likes him. They’d been messaging one another behind my back.
In the last year we had been living together. Sadly I’ve been under a lot of stress in the last few months and his new job role was taking up a lot of our time together. As I was unhappy with various things in my life I was sometimes taking it out on him – something which I realised when looking back on and am now working on. He never really spoke up about how he was feeling until it was the end.
I think this girl that he is now kind of seeing helped him to realise he didn’t want to be with me. It’s been torture knowing that there is someone else. I know they talk a lot and have been meeting up. In a way it feels like I’ve been cheated on, although I know it was only ever emotionally and not intended but it still hurts. I still love him and when I see him he makes it harder as he is affectionate and flirty towards me. A few times we have even been intimate (which I know is a BIG mistake). When I tell him that he shouldn’t be this way with me he says ‘it’s because it’s us’ and that he still cares about me and misses me but it makes no sense to me! I’ve tried to keep the friendship there, he mainly initiates contact and he is my best friend so I’ve held off from cutting contact – but I think it’s because I’m hanging on hoping he’ll change his mind! I know he likes this girl, she makes him happy he says. But part of me feels it’s partly because he likes the freedom and the fact that he’s getting some attention as he never did have much luck with the girls. I’ve been reading over your posts, I’m going to try the 30 days NC but am I wrong for wanting him back? I just find this situation so confusing and even a bit odd. She’s a religious girl and he isn’t and hasn’t ever been interested in religion yet now he is wearing a cross and reading the bible for her! I’m scared that he’s found better in her and that I’ve been replaced. Struggling to get my head around it and even accept how different he seems to be right now. I’d really appreciate your advice and guidance? Am I holding out for a lost cause?
Annon
November 17, 2014 at 3:02 am
Okay so recently my boyfriend and I broke up and three daysatwr he asked someone else out. We broke up because I got mad for him smacking and hugging on some other girl and also him getting all of these number from girls and texting them. So then be got mad at me for being mad at him and heard from people that I was going to break up with him so he broke up with me first. I really miss him but I seems like he’s happy with his new girlfriend. I see him all the time and he always initiates the conversations first. Do I have a chance? Should I even try?
olivia and owen
October 28, 2014 at 7:47 pm
Reading your posts I relate well to you since my exbf handles life and relationships exactly the way you do. We’re separated by a continent and also by 17 years. He is 26 and we both have found the “one” and both serious with one another despite our age gap. Our communication and respect for one another is what keeps this such a loving pure relationship. Recently, we talked about long term commitments and doubts creeped up on this gap as he feels he cannot accept and is afraid to hurt me down the road as he could not trust his own self. I reluctantly ended with him finally accepting it the breakup. We are still in contact and he texts still frequent if not daily. I did a bit of nc and he went bonkers, so I always responded. We never had a fight throughout our time together and still never did. So my questions is if you were in this situation and found the “one” and know you won’t ever find the same, would you stay or let go? We tried and he was back and forth cuz both the love and uncertainty will always remain.
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:34 pm
Well I think its clear what you have to do… Make it through NC hahaha.
elizabeth
October 27, 2014 at 7:12 pm
I have tried a couple of times to reach out to you but here goes again.
My story: Together 9 months. Broke up 6 weeks ago. NC the entire time. He has texted me about half a dozen times but I am going to call the texts fishing expeditions. We have iphones so I think the first one he sent was to see if I blocked him. The other ones were him kind of complaining that I wasn’t responding – stuff like “Really, you’re ignoring me”. No apologies or missing you or anything like that
Our relationship: He and I took things very slowly but in the last month had gotten closer and it was a little scary for me. We were very good friends. In fact he told me I was the best friend he had in a long time and that he shared things with me he never had before with anyone. A week before the breakup he was planning a big vacation with me next year and told me he was so glad he finally met someone as awesome as I am.
About two weeks before we broke up an ex-girlfriend contacted him. He told me she did. She blocked him when they broke up and hadn’t spoken since the breakup. He took it really hard. However, his family, friends and even he said they were not good together. They broke up over a year ago and there was a rebound girl and some other dating between her and I. Anyway, the reason we broke up was because he said he thought he might still love her. Did I believe him? Not really. I think her coming back into his life brought up old feelings and I thought he needed to deal with those feelings before he and I got more serious.
I was actually pretty strong and it seemed logical to me. I told him he needed to go figure that out but that I would continue living life as I did. He begged to stay my friend and I said Not right now and that I needed space. That was it no more contact from me. A girlfriend of mine saw him with a girl last week but I do not know who it was. That is all I know about what is going on in his life.
I have bought the PRO book but because of the way we broke up and the fact that she might be still in his life. I would like to know the following pretty please:
1) Do you think I have a chance to get him back?
2) Should I make any modifications to the plan?
3) What kind of opening text should I use? Remember I am at 30+ days of NC. I was thinking of a basic. Saw something that made me think of you text so he wonders what it was. 🙂
Thank you
admin
October 28, 2014 at 4:27 pm
Hi Elizabeth!
Sorry for the late response.
Your girlfriend, did she say they were “coupley?”
Elizabeth
October 29, 2014 at 3:03 am
One other thing. I think there wasn’t even a day between is breaking up and then becoming an item.
Elizabeth
October 28, 2014 at 7:36 pm
No she did not say they acted “coupley”. I asked that specifically and she said it could have gone either way. It could have gone either way. No physical intimacy.
However today I saw a facebook picture – it was him and her and her kids at a grand opening of a local restaurant. The restaurant posted it, but again no real intimacy other then standing next to each other
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:33 pm
Hmm… her kids… She has kids and hes already met the kids?
Elizabeth
October 29, 2014 at 5:55 pm
Yes her kids. Remember they dated last year so he knew the kids already from before. It was one of the problems in the original issue. She has a bunch of them
admin
October 30, 2014 at 6:21 pm
Oh so sorry, that detail slipped my mind. It happens when you see so much as I have.
I honestly don’t think they will last…
Elizabeth
October 30, 2014 at 9:36 pm
No problem. I can only imagine what all you see.
So any suggestions on what I should do or how I should proceed?
I have now sent him two texts which he responded to one neutrally and one positive. I am waiting a few days to see if he initiates but I am guessing next week I will have to send again. Any thoughts?
admin
November 3, 2014 at 3:49 pm
Don’t think of it as such a negative if you have to initiate.
Elizabeth
November 21, 2014 at 2:48 am
Ok. The first two texts were fine – one neutral and one positive response. It’s been a month now without any contact. I heard from a friend he is now “in a relationship” with her. I was told she posted it a couple of days ago and he liked the post. Remember they were together over a year ago and she broke up with him. We have been broken up for two months and he has been with her that time.
I had waited on texting because I really didn’t want to be the end of their relationship and I also did not want to be rejected. I know I know. Anyway where should I go from here?
jessica
October 21, 2014 at 1:13 am
Hi chris,
Love your articles. Have read ex bpyfriend recovery pro. My ex and i had started to argue alot about things that just didnt matter. He was just always angry. I recently found out that he had been speaking to another woman whilst with me and then of course left me for her. Ive already stuffed it by going off at him when i founf out. Which was about 2 weeks ago now. I have no idea what i should do
shanel
October 8, 2014 at 3:08 am
Hi Chris
I really need your help, please help me out . Me and boyfriend were going out for almost 2 years now however we’ve had heaps of Lil breakups within this period of time. He always talked about girls and one girl in particular last year and I always seemed to get really hurt because he always talked about how nice and good looking she was but I didn’t say anything I used to just put up with it. He comes from a broken family and he’s always upset and every time I argue or decide to walk out he brings his broken family up and I end up feeling bad staying back however we got through that phase somehow but just a couple of weeks ago he cheated on me with another girl and he’s reason was that I fell asleep while he was crying and he made it look like it was all my fault but I thought he would understand koz I come from work really late at night so I’m usually very tired and end up falling asleep and so he’s like he needed someone who was just like him so he got it. And then he left me and he’s with her now but he still tells me that he loves me and that he doesn’t love her but then he says that he can’t loose her koz she’s the perfect kinda girl and he doesn’t want me leaving koz he needs financial help I ve been supporting him with every possible thing I can whatever he wants whatever he needs I gave to him I poured my heart out for this guy. He talks to me continously for 2 or 3 days then he goes and talks to her continuously for 2 or 3 days and he doesn’t want his girlfriend knowing that he still talks to me so she pretty much knows nothing he lied to her that I cheated on him last year and that I’m a desperate bitch and all these other harsh things about me to her just so she believes him and stays with him but I ignored everything koz I love dearly from the bottom of my heart he just had sex with me yesterday but he’s back to her now. I feel rely hurt I cry myself to sleep every night I really want him to realize what he’s lost and what he’s doing to me i want him to love me the way I love him. He was once a really sweet boyfriend but I don’t know what happen to him now. Every Lil thing he tells his gf is a lie whereas with ne his lies can’t be hidden is this a rebound relationship. Please help me to get him back I really Wana change him 🙁 please help me I’m drowning in depression
admin
October 8, 2014 at 1:11 pm
He seems to be playing you and her (getting physical benefits from both…)
shanel
October 9, 2014 at 4:39 am
I txted him today saying I’m walking out of his life and he didn’t seem to care much I Wana do the no contact rule but I ll have to see him on Saturday next week for my uni stuff. What do I do
Anon
October 7, 2014 at 3:33 pm
Hey Chris
Thamks for all the great advice so far, break ups are a long journey and without your articles I wouldn’t have been able to get over the break up as I did. I really focused on myself socially physically and academically, I also realized that some of these changes were not just going to help my cause in trying to win him back but made significant improvements in before we broke up.
I also really took what you said about the ungettable girl and implemented it. I started dressing better, gained so much confidence and also socialized with a lot more people. My ex and I study at the same uni so I decided to expand my social circle and I did become a lot more popular than I was before. I’m pretty sure it didn’t go unnoticed by him.
He like to “hover” around me, sitting in eye view and around me. If I am sitting with a mutual friend he likes to come up and greet and talk to them unnecessarily even if he did see them earlier on. It feels like he’s getting frustrated that I’m not mourning him and even more frustrated that I’m not caving and running back to him. I haven’t contacted him in about three months now. Recently I made friends with some girls he used to hang out with and he became extremely territorial about them, which is really immature and childish but I’m gonna take a swing and say that it shows that the break up bothers him in some way.
Chris, he is seeing a girl at the moment for a few months now (she used to flirt with him while we were dating). It doesn’t look like anything too serious considering how she behaves with other guys. But it’s still a huge factor in all of this.
I still want to be with him Chris, the difference being that I’m not desperate about it anymore. How do you think I should proceed? Should I NC till and if they break up or do I start talking to him at uni or text him?
Thanks for all the help so far
admin
October 8, 2014 at 12:46 pm
I think its ok to talk to him… Umm.. you might want to read the updated version of this article if you want better advice.
Sarah
October 1, 2014 at 10:46 pm
I had a long distance relationship for almost 2 years. We used to meet for a week or 2 every 2 months. My boyfriend told me he loved me so much but he couldnt take it anymore and he wanted to be single again. This hurt me alot but i got to let him go. I love him so much and it hurts me every second without him. Just after 1 month of our breakup he started seeing another girl. I was in shock when i found out! It shaked my confidence and i started thinking that my relationship with him wasnt as effective as i thought. Of course i had a fight with him. Actually it was only me who was saying things. He said he still loves me but the relationship between us had to stop. After that i tried to be his friend. I can tell that he liked it and he told me ‘i still care about you and i want you to be in my life’ and he was happy that i accepted to be his friend. The other day i saw a photo with his new gf i couldnt take it and it hurt me alot seeing them together. I decided to delete him and block him everywhere, fb, instagram, whatsapp, snapchat. Just everywhere. He sent me a text msg a week later and the message was only ‘Sarah?’ I didnt reply. Now 3 weeks passed and he didnt try to contact me again. Im still feeling the same pain. And i cant stop thinking of him. I really want him back. I am ready to move in with him if the only issue is living apart. I dont know what to do!
admin
October 3, 2014 at 2:20 pm
Have you read the LDR post?
Shenya
October 1, 2014 at 6:04 pm
Dear Chris,
I tried everything to get my ex but everything went wrong. Now he has found a girlfriend. It stabs my heart. I hate him but in deep I miss him. Is it worth to ask him the reason? Is it worth to tell his new girl that he is my guy but cheated me. Or shall I keep my dignity. I don’t want him back but this hurts me so bad. I want to see he get hurt for what he did to . I feel like revenging. Is it worth doing? Please advice me.
Thank you
Shenya
admin
October 3, 2014 at 2:11 pm
Does this new girl have a rebound sign?
Shenya
October 3, 2014 at 4:45 pm
No Chris, my guy, never to told anyone about our affair. It was a secret. But suddenly in fb he has put a romantic profile picture with her & changed the relationship status telling he is having a relationship with her while blocking me from smtime. He has told whole world he loves her. It means also they have visited there both houses & agreed for a marraige. I know him well.
admin
October 6, 2014 at 11:24 am
Yet he cheated on her with you?
Natalie
September 29, 2014 at 11:07 pm
So my ex boyfriend and I dated for 2 years. He was my world until he broke up with me so he can be single at college and have freedom. Anyways, I tried to not talk to him over the summer but we would hangout and he’d treat me like we were dating again. He was so cute and sweet whenever we hungout. The last time I saw him I screamed at him for using me and I pushed him. Now, I haven’t talked to him since August. About a week ago I saw that he gave roses to this girl. I felt like I got shot in the heart when I saw the picture with a caption “so so happy and extremely lucky!” We broke up in April but continued to do stuff until July. He broke up with me so he can be single. I had a thing with another guy but the whole time I couldn’t stop thinking about my ex. I need advice! What should I do? I’m still in love with him and Id do anything to be with him for one more day.
admin
September 30, 2014 at 2:59 pm
Why did you go to the other guy though??
Natalie
September 30, 2014 at 7:44 pm
I honestly don’t know why I did. I guess I was lonely and wanted someone to like me again. He was just a rebound and I don’t talk to him anymore
admin
October 1, 2014 at 3:44 pm
Understood, I don’t think thats necessarily the best way to handle the situation but I can see where you are coming from.
He must have obviously been hurt by it.
Natalie
September 29, 2014 at 11:13 pm
Also, this girl is not his type. She seems like a goody good. They go to the same college and were friends while we dated. When he is not at college, he lives 4 minutes away from me and 1 1/2 hour from her. She is currently in Europe until next semester while he’s at college. They can only talk trough snapchat and Skype. I feel like I can step back in the picture since she’s in another country.
Laura
September 29, 2014 at 3:51 pm
Hi there I need some advice, my ex boyfriend and I split up 3 weeks ago as he felt we weren’t getting on and had outgrew each other. Iv found myself being a crazy stalker ex girlfriend and I never used to be this person. We was together for 10 years and it all came out of the blue, he said he wanted more freedom with his mates and then he was gone. Iv tried the no contact but it’s not working so well I always find myself texting, ringing or emailing him. He said iv dragged him down and he hates me which has really upset me because he’s now on a dating website and dating other girls
Natalie
September 29, 2014 at 11:20 pm
Your life sounds like mine. I know it’s hard to not talk to your ex but you literally can’t talk to him. You need to give him space and some time to miss you. Improve yourself and make him want again. Oh and I’m the crazy stalker ex too. I had to delete him from everything and his friends. Because once you start stalking you can’t stop. My advice is to completely stop talking to him. Message him in a month and be the sweetest person ever. Be positive and ask him about his life.
laura
September 30, 2014 at 3:30 pm
Hi the hardest part for me is because we’ve been together 10 years and in 3 weeks of splitting up he’s taking another girl on a date I don’t even know if she’d be classed as a rebound he told me he’s was taking her out etc but it hurts so much. All I want is him back in my life again. Iv been good today no contact at all. I’m scared that in the 30 days no contact that hel forget about me and hel move on with this girl he’s taking out for a date I really don’t know what’s the best solution. Iv lost just over a stone in weight so far intentionally aswell iv started my degree and I’m seeing my friends again all the things he wanted me to do what do you feels for the best xx
admin
October 1, 2014 at 2:18 pm
It just may be his way of coping with such a drastic life change. I mean, ten years is a long time to be committed to someone so he may hunger for human contact (going out on dates I mean) b/c he is so used to it with you.
Laura
October 1, 2014 at 3:06 pm
I really want him back and iv started getting back in shape saving doing my courses etc. do you think il get him back of what do you think is the best solution to get him back. He’s been part of my life and to say I miss him would just be an understatement every night I go to bed hurting knowing nhs not here and just writing this is making me cry I just want him back I love everything about our relationship
admin
October 3, 2014 at 1:57 pm
I think the way your approaching it is really smart. You are definitely raising your chances.
Margaret
September 18, 2014 at 12:38 am
I broke up with my boyfriend in July. He got together with my best friend two days after the break up. I got mad and cussed them both out but the appologized. Today I said sorry to him and he forgave me, I said, I missed your guts and hated myself for what I did. Now I just need him and my friend to break up. He forgave me and now we’re friends. I don’t know what to do next. Btw, He’s 17 and I’m 16.
admin
September 18, 2014 at 4:43 pm
Wow, you have a horrible best friend….
Is he still with her?
Ailsa
September 17, 2014 at 6:01 pm
Here goes my boyfriend of 8yrs upped and left me about 2 months ago now. I had no inkling of it happening or anything. He went away to work nd 2 weeks later he told me via Facebook that he would not be returning as he was happy where he is. 2 weeks after that again via Facebook he told me he had a new girlfriend who is older than him. I have tried the nc rule but it is hard due to the fact we have children together. I blocked him from fb nd within 20 mins he texted me asking why. He came to see the kids a couple of weeks ago now, (he brought the new gf), we had an argument of some description due to him deciding that my youngest needed changing even though he was very smartly dressed. Then a couple of days later I sent him a message telling him that I dudnt want a war with him aviut the kids within 5 mins he was on the phone ti me. Any hekp or ideas would bemuch appreciated
admin
September 18, 2014 at 4:24 pm
Have you read my latest article about what to do if you have children together regardign NC?
Becky
September 15, 2014 at 7:03 pm
Okay, here goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We broke up for a month 2 years ago because he wanted some space. I implemented the NC rule and he came crawling back. Our relationship was awesome since then but then I only found ou in the beginning of this year that he had a one night stand with a girl we both know. I was devastated. but it happened when we were apart and I forgave him and we worked through it. A month ago he broke the news that he wanted to be alone. Wants to enjoy life on his own and discover himself. So I gave that to him because I love him. A week after that he told me that the real reason for the breakup was that he had feelings for this girl. But he knows within himself that he wants to spend his life with me. He just wants to sort out this thing between them. I was using the NC rule again for a week, he went crazy sending me texts and such. Today he told me that his boss called him in to say that he was fired and that he only has 2 months left to work there. He also said that he has also been jealous of me because I’m earning way more money than him. I told him that it doesnt matter to me, I loved him when we both were penniless and I will still continue to love him. I know he needs me but the more I reach out the more he pushes me away. He also said that he and this girl are hanging out and they’re not together and if that happens he needs to be completely over me. So here I am, begging for you to help me. I know he’s going through a really bad time. figuring out what to do next and what to do about his life. But instead of trying to give us a chance he runs to her… Please help me. I want my man back! REALLY WANT HIM IN MY ARMS AGAIN! Please tell me what to do!!!
admin
September 16, 2014 at 3:15 pm
You are currently doing the NC again right?
Anna
September 9, 2014 at 4:31 pm
Hi, so my ex broke up with me earlier this year in March. We had been dating for 9 months before we broke up. He told me that he had lost feelings for me due to long distance. After NC for a month, we ended up meeting up for dessert to talk. Unfortunately, the meet up didnt end as well as I thought it would. At the end of the meet up, he told me that he’s been in love with this girl but due to their age difference, he decided not to pursue her. I was absolutely devastated after hearing he was in love with someone else. Once again, I stopped talking to him.
Since we go to the same university, we ended up bumping into each other during classes and decided to hang out again. We ended up having a on and off relationship for about 4 months. After classes ended, I went off on vacation for two weeks. I came back finding out he was starting to get involved with one of his high school friend. He told me it was nothing. It wasn’t until a few days ago while we were making movie plans did he tell me that he’s now dating her.
i’m definitely upset and angry about this but i cant help but want him back.
What would be the best steps for me to do to get him back in my life even though he has a new gf now? Would having him back in my life even be a good decision?
admin
September 15, 2014 at 3:26 pm
He told you last minute he was dating someone?
Anna
September 15, 2014 at 9:04 pm
Well he was at a party when we were talking and I told him to not flirt with too many girls when he’s drunk. He responded by saying he wouldn’t flirt with anyone at the party since he has a new gf.
They have been going out for a week now and I am still using the NC rule. He has texted me a few times asking me why I haven’t messaged back during the first 3 days of NC. We also bumped into each other at school last Monday and when he saw me, he ran up to me and tried to start a conversation with me.
Our mutual friends even told me that he has started telling people about his new gf, which I understand is normal. I’m not sure if this is a rebound or if he does like her.
admin
September 16, 2014 at 3:20 pm
Its still so early and she is still in rebound territory.
Anna
September 17, 2014 at 2:11 am
I’m currently following the NC rule for a minimum of 30 days. What would my first step be once those 30 days are over?
admin
September 17, 2014 at 4:57 pm
To contact him. Do you have your text message prepared?
Sarah
September 9, 2014 at 2:21 am
What if I was the rebound/filler girl for a couple months and now they’re back together, could I get him back? I was the one who let him go because I started to see contact between the two and wasn’t going to have it. He never chased after me and got back with his ex very quickly. (Which is funny because he was way more in “us” than I was.) So I figure he wasn’t really ever into it and just assured me that I was in fact the rebound. But they have been on and off for years now so that leaves me thinking they wont work out on the long run. I’ve played it cool and havn’t contacted him in three months. I know I can get over him I’m just not sure I want to. But I assume I shouldn’t contact him while still together with his girlfriend…cause he could contact me if he really wanted to… The rebound never wins.
admin
September 15, 2014 at 3:19 pm
You were the rebound and he is back with his ex now?
Elizabeth
September 6, 2014 at 7:20 pm
My ex and I have been off and on for 4 + years, mainly on and off the last 2, because I moved away and he is the love of my life. Two days ago he put another woman and him up on facebook and got over 150 likes, we broke up in July. I made some mistakes by texting and calling, yea I look crazy and like a big nut. In fact I texted, fb message, and called this morning before I found your program. I am sooo devastated, he is my 1st love and my 1st everything, he was not just my lover but my best friend. I am hurting so bad, he told me that we could be just friends, that he does not want me, that we are never ever getting back together, that he still has feelings for me but, that we just don’t connect or click, after 4 + years, we had our difference, but I taught he was my soul mate. I am in so much pain, I just don’t understand, I was so good to him and when he was good to me, before the change happen. I admit that I did become a little codependent and needy, maybe I was sprung, and I am taking the time out to to get me together, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, physically, and everything. I love him so much and the pain is unbearable. It is suppose to be me on his facebook in pictures with him, it is suppose to be me, he is with, and loving. He deleted me off his facebook. I love this man soooooooooo much and just want him back. It is going to be sooo hard not to contact him, but I just want him to come home and be with me forever, I want to be the one he marries and has a child with. I have been with him for 4 + years, why does this new lady get the praise and glory with pictures of them on his facebook. What about all the love we shared, 4 + years of it, it was not perfect, but I never would of ended things. PLEASE HELP ME.
PLEASE HELP ME, I LOVE HIM, HE IS MY SOUL MATE!!!!
Liz
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:59 pm
So, essentially you are long distance right now?
Elizabeth
September 5, 2014 at 5:21 pm
My ex and I have been off and on for 4 + years, mainly on and off the last 2, because I moved away and he is the love of my life. Two days ago he put another woman and him up on facebook and got over 150 likes, we broke up in July. I made some mistakes by texting and calling, yea I look crazy and like a big nut. In fact I texted, fb message, and called this morning before I found your program. I am sooo devastated, he is my 1st love and my 1st everything, he was not just my lover but my best friend. I am hurting so bad, he told me that we could be just friends, that he does not want me, that we are never ever getting back together, that he still has feelings for me but, that we just don’t connect or click, after 4 + years, we had our difference, but I taught he was my soul mate. I am in so much pain, I just don’t understand, I was so good to him and when he was good to me, before the change happen. I admit that I did become a little codependent and needy, maybe I was sprung, and I am taking the time out to to get me together, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, physically, and everything. I love him so much and the pain is unbearable. It is suppose to be me on his facebook in pictures with him, it is suppose to be me, he is with, and loving. He deleted me off his facebook. I love this man soooooooooo much and just want him back. It is going to be sooo hard not to contact him, but I just want him to come home and be with me forever, I want to be the one he marries and has a child with. I have been with him for 4 + years, why does this new lady get the praise and glory with pictures of them on his facebook. What about all the love we shared, 4 + years of it, it was not perfect, but I never would of ended things. PLEASE HELP ME.
PLEASE HELP ME, I LOVE HIM, HE IS MY SOUL MATE!!!!
Liz
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:29 pm
You sound very hurt.
I think if you show him that you are way more valuable than any other girl you can do well.
What was the reason for the break up this time?