Update: I flew into town to get my things after NC of 17 days. Long distance relationship. Getting my stuff was allowable because it fell into the exception category.

Jennifer Christina provided some incredibly helpful advice (be friendly but aloof, go in with the intention to get stuff fast, and tell him I have to leave). I also purposefully arrived later than usual and scheduled something so I wouldn’t be there long.

As I quickly and quietly packed, he asked me to stand up. I told him that I really had to focus because I needed to go soon. At which point, he pulled me up and said, “Stop packing, don’t leave, I’m sorry, I love you, we need to stay together.” I stood there looking at him, and he grabbed my hand and said, “Put your engagement ring back on, Anna.”

I then said I didn’t have time for this because I literally had to meet a friend, when he immediately replied that he’ll call whoever it is and explain that I need more time to talk over my relationship with my fiance and would she mind if I cancelled.

So I handed my phone over. He called her, And then we say and talked things through.

See screengrab of original Facebook message

Anna is one of my favorite success stories. Oh, and in case you were wondering she is still engaged to her ex at this very moment.

Hey guys just wanted to share an A-Ha moment that I had.

For those of you that don’t know- I got my ex back. During th eNC I was looking at his social media posts and I saw this meme and his comments. I thought wow he’s moved on (well just this weekend I asked him about his past -ex wife and the girlfriends after.

He responded saying, “I really don’t want you to think about that stuff bc it’s in the past. Ya know I got married and realized it wasn’t right. And there were 2 girlfriends after my ex wife and I ended bc I wasn’t ready. Everything happens for a reason.

Your ex is an ex for a reason. I know now why I wasn’t ready and that the reason is because of you. I didn’t know what I wanted and that I wanted more for myself until you. I love you!

This post wasn’t about the fact that he’d moved on. I was the someone that one day walked into his life. And that all the other exes were an ex for a reason - not me!

So, lesson learned: we can’t make up stories about what he means because you never know.

We’re back together! Yay *Happy Dance*

We figured out what we need to work on, both individually and together as a couple, but mainly we realized we had gotten complacent with each other, with was making us both upset, but neither of us were saying anything. We also realized that we were spending an unhealthy amount of time together and neglecting the things that we used to enjoy when we were single, in order to be together.

So, our takeaways are to talk more, encourage and challenge each other more, and to find time to indulge in our hobbies/interests (whether alone or together.)

The biggest thing that made me smile though, was that he said taking a step back from the relationship made him realize that this was one of the most important things to him, and that it has so much potential for a long lasting future, that he would forever regret it if he didn’t try to work for this for a lifetime. He also essentially admitted, that when he told me he didn’t see a future with me [the reason for our breakup], it was the biggest lie he has ever told in his life and regrets ever setting that thought in my head, and that he will work everyday to make sure that I know he doesn’t mean it.

I also just wanted to say a big thank you Chris Seiter and Jennifer Christina Seiter for your help and guidance, and all the advice while I was so confused and conflicted.