By Chris Seiter

Updated on February 2nd, 2021

Have you just broken up with your ex-boyfriend? Has your ex ghosted your relationship? Are you clueless as to why your relationship has ended abruptly, without warning?

Don’t worry…. As always, I am here to explain what is going on in your ex-boyfriend’s mind and help you to understand why he has ended your relationship suddenly and has not explained why.

I mean, really, why do men break up with their girlfriends without offering an explanation?  Simply right out of the blue.  You don’t see it coming.  And when he tells you it’s over, he hardly offers a word of explanation.

They deliver the bad news and you are left crushed.

So if you are looking  for the quick answer, I will oblige!

What Possesses My Boyfriend To Break Up With Me With Little Warning or Explanation?

Your Answer:

You boyfriend is either afraid, immature,  in denial, cowardly, insensitive, self possessed or a combination of those things and cares so little about your feelings or how this terrible news is going to impact you, he proceeds anyway with giving you the bad news in the hopes of getting it over with as quickly as possible.

As you probably will agree, anytime your boyfriend pulls a stunt like this, there is not just something wrong with the state of the relationship, but there is something wrong with him. Breakups are hard enough to deal with.

When you have to deal with the pain of not knowing what you did wrong (if anything) and why he just dropped you from his life  and gave up on even trying – never mind  his failure to explain why he is behaving with such cruelty – it makes the breakup recovery period all the more difficult.

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Why Does It Hurt So Much When Your Boyfriend Breaks Up With You Out of the Blue

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No girl wants to be in the dark.  When your boyfriend leaves you standing alone and wondering “what did I do wrong”, it is a low blow indeed.

Some men cannot seem to grasp how such a break is not just emotionally disabling to his girlfriend, but sets up a bitter conflict for the future.

Not knowing why your boyfriend broke up with you out of nowhere is a big part of it.  But breaking up no matter the cause or reason, whether it’s shared or not, is always the thing that pulls you way down.

But guess what.  I have some solutions for you!

What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Suddenly Leaves Without Warning?

This question is the common refrain I hear from women whose boyfriend has left them high and dry with no warning or explanation. These painful questions women ask come in all forms, but there is a common thread. They want to know:

1. What causes a man (or my boyfriend) to abruptly end a relationship that otherwise seemed to be doing well?  I am left holding the pieces in my hand.

2. Why did my boyfriend leave me without explanation or even a note telling me why its over?  It’s unfair and maddening that he would have so little regard about how I felt.

3. Why do guys break up with you for no reason?  They up and call it quits leaving you confused,  blaming yourself, and losing confidence along the way.

4. My boyfriend just left me without telling me and I not sure if I will ever be the same again.

5. My boyfriend just left me without a word, dumping me without an explanation.  He has no idea how humiliating this makes me feel.

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Should I Just Tell My Boyfriend I Hate Him For Leaving Me Without Explanation, Completely In the Lurch

Clearly, when break up chaos unfolds in such a way, it is like your heart has been torn from your body. The rejection from your boyfriend leaving is difficult enough to deal with, but to have to spend countless days wondering what happened – what you may have done wrong – and why he could treat you so cruelly just leaves your emotions scattered to to the wind.

But before you do anything, like charging out of the house to confront him or text your boyfriend a dozen times, just take a step back, slow down, and seek ot understand what might cause him to do this.

Because understanding your boyfriend’s reasons for ending the relationship  suddenly, out of the blue, is going to help you with what you decide to do next.

But I Really Want My Boyfriend To Suffer For Breaking Up With Me Suddenly and Leaving Me Heartbroken

I know you feel this way right now and you ought to be mad at him for dumping you unexpectedly.  When a man leaves his girlfriend without telling her why and just goes about his business like nothing is wrong, you may feel like shutting yourself in. You may  start crying uncontrollably or you may even go berserk and try to hunt him down, demanding answers for why he dumped you out of the blue.

My advice is not to give in to those angry voices and passions rising up in you.  Don’t call call your boyfriend insisting on an explanation.  Don’t jump in your car and drive over to his place and throw a fit over him leaving you with no warning or explanation.  Not even a heads up.

Just pull back from all that break up chaos.  Realize what your boyfriend did was a classless act and probably tells you more about who is and what he is about than you realized.

But before passing final judgement on what this guy did to you, seek first to understand his motives and underlying behavior.

The Top 3 Ways Men End Relationships Without Warning or Really Telling You the Truth

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For the remainder of this article I am going to be explaining the main reasons why your ex may have ended the relationship without warning or explanation. The topics we will cover are as follows:-

  • The three types of break ups that result in broken hearts without explanation.
  • The relationship status prior to your boyfriend suddenly bolting without warning
  • The feelings that affect his behavior and how they can trigger impulsive decisions.
  • His reasons (logical or not) for avoiding telling you the truth about the breakup.

Let’s just dive right in and start talking about the three different types of breakups,

But before we dive in and talk about why your ex-boyfriend may not have given you an explanation for your breakup, I want to briefly talk about the three different ways your ex-boyfriend can break up without warning.

  1. Ghosting You Until Your Are Gone From His Life
  2. The Nothing Really is Wrong Type of  Breakup
  3. The False Truth Ending to the Relationship.

1. What Is Ghosting and How Does It Connect With Your Ex Boyfriend Leaving You Without Saying a Word?

Ghosting is the process of freezing you out, either slowly over a period days or weeks, or alternatively overnight. Either way your ex will be ignoring your efforts to continue the relationship, he won’t respond to texts or phone calls….. he will just vanish, like a ghost.  In many of these cases, you never get an explanation for why he ended the relationship.  It just ends without a note, a message, a phone call, a text, or any other form of communication.

It is like your boyfriend has disappeared  into the night and the relationship between the two of you never existed.  And that is the way he wants it.  To confront any hard truths about himself or you, would mean he has to discuss things and explain things.  And perhaps, he is not that kind of guy who is open with you or himself.  Perhaps your boyfriend is the kind of guy who just would rather delude himself that his actions of breaking it off with you without notice or explanation didn’t hurt anyone, so no one is to blame.

This is perhaps the toughest of the three methods your ex might use to breakup with you without explanation as it can leave you wondering if you are still together.  When your boyfriend just slithers away leaving you completely confused and broken hearted, it adds to the suffering.

You know that already because you are experiencing it first hand.  Your boyfriend has not yet learned this truth, because he is hiding it.  He is avoiding it.  But sooner or later, you ex will have to confront the truth which is he dumped you unceremoniously, completely out of the blue and not only was it a cruel act, but his own guilt will eventually come back to haunt him.

2. Did Your Boyfriend Pull “The Nothing Breakup” On You?

The nothing breakup is where your ex makes a feeble effort to break-up with you, but actually provides no reason at all as to why he wants to end things.

The nothing breakup is usually done via email or text message to avoid providing further detail or discussion on the matter.

This naturally will leave you feeling totally confused as to why your relationship has ended and he is certainly has little interest to fill you in on the details.

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3. What Is The False Truth?

The False Truth breakup is where you ex boyfriend breaks-up with you formally but gives you a vague, deceptive or fictional reason. This might include phrases like :-

  • “It’s not you it’s me”
  • “I need to find myself”
  • “You deserve better”
  • “I like you too much”

All of these are reasons your ex might provide you with to mask the real reason why he is ending things.  It is like the coward’s way out type approach to breaking up.

3 Reasons For Why Your Ex Boyfriend Will Avoid Explaining Why He Wants To End The Relationship

Now that we have talked briefly about the methods an ex might employ to avoid explaining a break-up, let us progress to the reasons your ex might quit a relationship without explanation.

Reason #1: Brief Relationships

The first reason that springs to mind when I hear that an ex-boyfriend has ended a relationship without explanation is to blame in on the reasoning that the relationship was brief, hardly worthy of an explanation.  Of course this is a bunch of bull.  You boyfriend knows this and you know this.  But being in a delusional state, he tries to get away with it.  He figures, its better to lean on this reasoning than have to do something this is hard and uncomfortable….like telling my girlfriend why I am breaking up with her.

If you were in a casual relationship, or have only been on a few dates with your ex then it is quite likely that your ex-boyfriend feels that the situation does not warrant a proper breakup or an explanation.

There is a period of time when all couples start seeing each other where they are dating but not yet in a serious relationship.

During this time an ex-boyfriend may feel that giving you an official breakup is inappropriate or weird as it is too soon to require it.

If you were in a texting relationship or had only met face to face a handful of times then it is very common that an ex-boyfriend will end the relationship by ghosting for this reason. If you are in this situation then your key area of focus should be on building much more attraction with your ex-boyfriend.

Reason #2: Was Friends With Benefits The Excuse Your Ex Boyfriend Used?

I always recommend that people steer clear of friends with benefits arrangements as they are neither friendly nor beneficial. I recommend not becoming friends with benefits because it is so easy to “catch a case of the feels” and then someone gets hurt.

Men and women view sex very differently in the friends with benefits situation, most women link having sex to developing feelings…. whereas for a man, having sex is linked to wanting more sex.

In a friends with benefits situation this can often lead to a mismatch of expectations in the relationship status as time goes by.

If you were in a friends with benefits arrangement with a guy and he ended it without an explanation it is likely that he noticed a shift in your desire for a more traditional relationship.

Due to the casual nature of your relationship he may not have felt you were owed a formal breakup, this is especially true if he had been clear at the start that he did not want a relationship.

If you were in a friends with benefits relationship then I recommend you focus on building mutual respect and demonstrating the values he wants in a girlfriend going forward, this is because the attraction and rapport is already in place to some degree.

Reason #3: Does He Think The On/Off Relationship Gives Him License To Act So Cruelly?

This reason is exactly how it sounds. If you and your ex-boyfriend have broken up before then there is a good chance that your ex believes you have talked through your problems and tried to resolve the issues enough times before.

Under circumstances where you have had multiple breakups with your ex it is very likely that he believes that everything that can be discussed, has been discussed already and that there is no benefit in having the same conversation repeatedly.

I remember a time when I broke up with someone many years ago and we got back together a few times. Over the holidays they rang every single day to try and negotiate their way out of a breakup. Eventually I stopped answering their calls because I found it annoying but also because everything about the relationship had already been discussed many times…. I had no new information I could give them.

If you have broken up with your ex-boyfriend several times before, he may think that you don’t need an explanation as you have already had one and know everything there is to know.

5 Feelings That Can Cause Your Ex Boyfriend To Leave You Without Telling You

As with most breakup behaviors, your ex-boyfriend tends to be driven by how he feels more than what he thinks.

This is the next area we will cover to help you understand which emotions affect his decision to avoid explaining your breakup.

1. Uncertainty May Rule Your Ex Boyfriend’s Mind

Sometimes an ex-boyfriend will breakup with you out of the blue and not explain why because he doesn’t know.

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That’s right, sometimes an ex can’t explain why they are breaking up with you because they don’t have a tangible reason.

I’ve been in situations before where I have ended a relationship without explanation because I wasn’t sure why it needed to end; I just knew it didn’t feel right on some level.

Trying to explain that you are ending a relationship for no reason, other than you feel you should is extremely difficult, as such your ex may avoid having the break-up and closure conversation altogether.

If an ex-breaks up with you out of uncertainty I would class this as a general breakup possibly paired with some personal issues on his part and would recommend you follow the standard Ex-Boyfriend Recovery plan to win your ex back.

2. Selfish As It Is Your Ex Boyfriend May Fear Hurting Himself

This reason may sound strange but an ex-boyfriend may actually feel hurt when breaking up with you. When a relationship begins to deteriorate and communication turns sour, both parties can say or do very hurtful things in the lead up to the breakup.

If this has happened then there is a possibility that your ex is avoiding explaining the breakup because he is also hurt by what has happened in the proceeding days or weeks.

Discussing his reasons for the breakup will only refresh in his mind the hurtful or disrespectful events that have occurred and he doesn’t feel he can deal with it.

3. Your Ex Bf  May Think He Is Being Ruled By Kindness

This one probably seems bizarre, but sometimes an ex-boyfriend may breakup with you without explanation because they feel it is kinder.

When you break-up with someone, deep down you know that whatever reason you give is going to hurt their feelings.

Sometimes an ex-boyfriend can think it is in your best interests to shield your from their reasoning.

If your ex avoids talking to you about the break-up out of kindness then that is good news, clearly he thinks highly of you and cares about your feelings.

4. The Truth is Often Your Ex Boyfriend Was Unable to Confront His Fear

An ex-boyfriend can breakup with you and avoid telling you the reason why out of fear.

Assuming this is not your ex-boyfriends first relationship he is going to have been through breakups before and even if he hasn’t he knows people who have.

Men know that when they breakup with a woman, there is the potential for the situation to become very messy and that there is a high risk of drama.

Maybe his ex-girlfriends became angry or desperate, maybe they pleaded and cried for hours, if anything like this has happened in the past he will be scared that this might happen with you as well.
When an ex-boyfriend is scared he will either ghost you or give you a false reason for the breakup because he feels you are unable to handle the real explanation.

Breakups of this nature are usually driven by your ex’s perception of your insecurity so that is a key area for you to work on.

5. He Was Feeling Guilt So Your Ex Just Skipped Out

The next reason an ex might end a relationship and not explain why is guilt.

Your ex-boyfriend may avoid telling you the reason for the breakup because his reasoning is something he knows is not pleasant.

Unexplained guilty breakups tend to be caused by secret affairs, other female temptation that he has yet to act on, or sometimes thoughts that he feels are shallow.

Perhaps he thinks you have let yourself go or that he can meet someone better.

Regardless of the details, these breakups are nearly always driven by infidelity or shallow judgement.

If you fall into this category, definitely focus on self improvement and building more attraction with your ex.

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The Top 2 Logical Reasons To Avoid The Breakup

There are some occasions where your ex-boyfriend’s decision to bypass the breakup explanation is driven by logic and I have listed two situations where that might be the case.

1. Your Ex Boyfriend Is Afraid of a Break Up Negotiation

Earlier on we talked about how your ex-boyfriends previous breakups give him an insight as to how you might take the news. When a couple break-up it is almost always true that the person being dumped tries to use logic to win their ex back.

Your ex-boyfriend will probably have experienced this before, it is really common for an ex-girlfriend to try and negotiate her way back into a relationship.

This is done by taking an ex-boyfriends reasons for a breakup and using logic to try and talk him out of the decision; providing counter reasoning to his desire to end the relationship and usually offering to change to make the relationship work.

This in itself isn’t so bad however your ex-boyfriend will have experienced this approach before and most likely seen that even when he has given a girl a second shot, nothing has changed.

For this reason an ex-boyfriend might avoid explaining a break-up to stop you from finding ways to negotiate a comeback.

2. You Boyfriend Just Didn’t Want Any Long Discussions (No autopsies)

I get it…. Some people love closure. They love to dissect a breakup and understand it from every angle, it helps them feel better.

The thing is, not everyone feels that way. Speaking from my own experience I really don’t like talking about a breakup when I am having one, I don’t want to think of all the reasons I don’t want to be with someone anymore.

For this reason, I have always had a no autopsy approach to breakups. I don’t have closure chats whether I am on the giving or receiving end of a breakup, I prefer to focus on what is best for me from that point on rather than reflect on the past.

For me personally I don’t find it constructive to talk about the breakup at length, it makes me feel worse….

I don’t like discussing the breakup and watching someone get upset. I find it unpleasant to see someone I care about feeling hurt. When I breakup with someone I don’t want to be reminded of the good times we had together as it makes me feel like I’m a bad person for initiating the breakup…. The reality is I don’t want to think about the breakup at all at that point in time.

It could be that your ex-boyfriend also has this same “No autopsy” approach to ending a relationship and that is why he has given you no explanation about your breakup.

Summary

Whether your ex has ghosted you or formally broken up with you, there is always a good reason that drives him to avoid explaining why your relationship is over.

The reasons can be driven by anything from the length time you were together, to not wanting to hurt your feelings.

Whatever your ex-boyfriend’s reasons for the breakup, it is clear that right now he is not ready to open up to you.

If your ex is avoiding explaining the break-up then you should avoid pushing him for an answer, the best thing you can do is continue with your no-contact period and work on becoming the best version of yourself so that you can to help attract him back when the time is right.

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157 thoughts on “Why Do Men Break Up With You Without An Explanation?”

  1. Sherry

    September 8, 2023 at 12:00 pm

    Two years best friends then bf gf. Long distance romance. One argument all that time. Over friends I didn’t like. Next day? He said “you said things”. I was angry-don’t remember what. Family could be in on the breakup. He texted we were on pause while he considered us. No explanation. Just blocked and ghosted. The day before “I love you don’t forget that”. I’m so hurt by this. Said he had a gut feeling things were not right for awhile. And it was by him confirmed. I’m lost. He gave me no reasons. I think his daughter was on it. We fussed about a concert-him two friends and three women going. He thought I was trying to control him. I said things don’t remember-but I was scared and hurt. Needed comfort. He threw me out. I’m dealing with all this. He seems fine. Omg

  2. Jennifer Kraft

    February 27, 2023 at 6:05 am

    This was very informative

  3. Mehi

    February 18, 2023 at 6:23 pm

    We were in long distance relationship for 2 months and visited each other everything was good after that he changed and dont answer my massages
    Suddenly one girls text me we want to start relation is he with u!! And when i asked him what shit is it, he said nothing and even dont give an explanation
    He was psychologist and was so kind with me…
    Unbelievable

  4. Gary

    January 4, 2023 at 5:24 pm

    My boyfriend of 3 years left me a few days ago saying he needed to focus on himself for a bit. This left me very confused as a few days before we had planned a date night. We don’t normally buy gifts for each other but this Christmas we changed that and did but it feels like he panicked about the commitment and ran a mile. Today he deleted all our photos and I don’t know how to handle this situation. I’m really hurting and I don’t want to lose him. My heart says to text him, my head says to give him some space. Just wondered if you have any advice.

    1. Coach Shaunna Nicol

      January 12, 2023 at 10:35 pm

      Sounds as if he is a fearful avoidant – you took a small step forward and he got scared. I would suggest that you allow him space (21 days) and start reaching out.

  5. Nancy

    January 1, 2023 at 2:57 pm

    After 17 yrs living with my boyfriend, about the last 6 months the sex stopped. I felt disconnected. Then Oct 10th our dog passed away. I ask him was the dog’s passing the last straw 4 us. He replied yes, but he told me he would alway’s be my friend! When I left in November 2022 I never heard from him again. There was no arguing, no fighting. I’m 60 & he’s 50. I was kind of done too. But I thought maybe he was done with the relationship b4 I was. I’m left with why he has not at least see how I’m doing. I don’t call or text him either. But he sees my stories on facebook. I don’t know why he would take time 2 see what I”m posting on social media. I find it odd. Any thoughts??

    1. Coach Shaunna Nicol

      January 1, 2023 at 6:39 pm

      Hi Nancy, so if you both fell out of love and the relationship became platonic then I would say that it may be he is just viewing stories in general not yours specifically. IF you want to speak with him as a friend then reach out. If not then I would say consider removing him from your socials to help you move on from the break up.

  6. Sena

    October 1, 2022 at 4:17 pm

    This month should be our first year together celebrations.
    He decided to dump me end of August and keeps saying he doesnt hate me. Yes, am not getting a solid answer why he decided to leave me, haven’t been blocked as yet.
    I think will try a solid Zero Contact on him attempted it during September and my heart let me down.
    Tempered to be caty towards him but I’m such a lady.

  7. Vanita

    July 24, 2022 at 4:47 am

    Im hurt and he keeps coming in my dreams

  8. Al

    June 11, 2022 at 6:06 pm

    Hey,
    My boyfriend and I have been friends for 17 years now and had started dating seriously in 2020. He is currently in the army and is constantly busy. We are doing long distance relationship right now. While he’s been away, he’s always called, texted, sending me money and gifts. Btw he’s getting deployed soon and 3 weeks ago he told me that when he comes back we’ll get married. A week later he said he loves me and is extremely busy. I haven’t heard from him at all for the past 2 weeks. I called and texted him no reply. I’m so confused I don’t know what to think anymore. This is the first he’s done something like that me. I’m the only serious relationship he’s ever had. I feel like he abandoned me. Please help me

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 15, 2022 at 5:31 pm

      Hey Al, I would suggest that if you have reached out multiple times and he has still not got back to you then you need to leave him be and wait for him to reach out to you. I would suggest that when you hear from him, that you keep composed and that you do not argue with him, allow him to explain himself for the lack of communication and if the reason is not acceptable to you that you either accept an apology and try to move past it and if you do not get an apology then you end the relationship and begin the no contact phase.

  9. Jackie

    May 18, 2022 at 4:20 pm

    I text him goodnight and he did not respond but was on his phone and when he say godd morning I also did not respond he called me and was unhappy I didn’t respond to his good morning and blocked me and never heard of him, why

  10. Becky

    April 27, 2022 at 5:11 pm

    We were dating for 5 months. He was opening up to me about issues in his life, etc. I was ready to tell him I loved him…but we were due to go away together and he said he can’t due to finances, etc etc.
    I went away in the end, and took my best girlfriend with me.
    He messaged apologising, saying he didn’t want to feel trapped (on the holiday due to lack of finances), and it’s still early on for him to rely on me, and he thinks other things in his life have affected his moods and that he’s sorry again. I did message back, explaining I understood, but it still hurt and if he could’ve done a shorter break, I would still appreciate him being there. No response. Ghosted.
    Whilst now I see I shouldn’t have done the following, I did message him 7 days into NC apologising for my behaviour and not being understand. No response.
    As an FA, I can only assume that when the relationship progressed and became “real” he bailed. I’m not even looking for answers from him. Although it would’ve been nice to hear what is happening. I’ve noticed he’s already on dating sites (2 weeks from initial trip). At this stage, small part of me still hopes that NC will win him back.

  11. Jenn

    April 17, 2022 at 3:52 am

    I’ve known him for almost 20 years, we started dating and it was amazing, he chased me, he wanted to spend every day together, he said I love you first, he brought personal belongings to my house and I to his house, we had soo much fun together, he said we should look at houses together so neither were driving far everyday to see each other. Then one night out of the blue he didn’t show up when he said he was on his way, than he apologized in the morning with a sweet text, than completely disappeared, won’t answer calls or texts, but my stuff is at his house, he still has me on his social medias, so I’m lost. I texted him saying if he didn’t want to be with me I would go collect my belongings with no problems, but he left me on read. Why would he keep my stuff if he’s ghosting me. Why won’t he give me my stuff if he’s done? It’s been 7 days no contact form him and 5 days since I tried to get answers.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 21, 2022 at 12:20 pm

      Hey Jenn, it sounds as if things went too fast too soon and he isn’t sure if he is done yet – stick with a 30 – 45 day NC and then reach out about getting your things back then in a calmer situation he is going to be more open to talking to you about returning your things or just speaking with you calmly. As for social media, don’t read too much into that people like to keep an eye on each other some remove people during an emotional reaction. Just take a step back and focus on yourself for some time.

  12. scohen

    April 2, 2022 at 4:09 am

    S. Hall the same exact thing happened to me and it was the most blindsided and difficult thing. Now when I see him sometimes he so kind and sometimes he’s so cold and I wish I could understand what happened as well. He also said it was all on him and he put up a wall bc we moved so quickly. But I can’t reconcile why that’s enough of a reason to break up with someone.

  13. S. Hall

    January 1, 2022 at 10:04 pm

    My ex and I were together for a month and it was perfect the entire time. I’ve never felt this way about a man ever. Two hours before we broke up he said how I’m his and he’s so beyond happy to have me by his side and he was fantasizing our future. Then two hours later after dinner he just flipped the switch and said we are done. And he’s not ready for a relationship. He said I didn’t do anything wrong but I’m confused why end it then.

  14. C. Knoble

    June 27, 2021 at 10:08 pm

    This article was extremely helpful and well informed. I have my own suspicions about my situation, and this helped confirm some of what I was feeling. Thank You! 🙂

  15. Anne

    June 23, 2021 at 5:30 am

    I liked what you said. I was wondering if the above points can occur in a long distance relationship (LDR) as well. I had been (past because I really don’t know what’s going on) in a LDR for just over 3 years with a Pakistani muslim. He was the one that did the chasing in the beginning and communication has been through texting and phone/video calls. In that time I had seen him in person for a total of 52 days (2 separate times) in Italy where he was living at the time as a refugee. Communication had been continuing in the various forms right up until about March or April 2021 (either every day, every other day or after 3-4 days) when, after 10 years, he had arrived back into Pakistan to be his family. In the last 2-3 months communication has slowed right down as to the frequency of it. And now in the last month, when I have asked him about talking to him, I get the feeble excuse of how he has to help his mother (needs a hernia operation) for doctor/hospital visits. I don’t doubt that that may be happening but now it’s as though he’s hiding behind that in not facing up to me as what is really going on. I don’t understand, and it hurts, why he can’t just be honest and say, whether he was using me while in Italy, there’s someone else, someone has been in his ear about me.
    He’s a chicken and a coward. After 3 years you would think that he could be respectful to me and my feelings, that rather than ghosting he could man up and tell me. I did say at one point that IF it was to happen to do it on video call to face me to tell me. He couldn’t do that. All he could do in the last few messages was to leave lame voice messages about his mother. I guess he’s showing me what he is really like as a person. I have been listening to relationship advice online and one of those things is to not chase and let things be and to work on myself. Certainly a lot of questions run through my mind in the not knowing but I guess I have to accept the fact of not taking it personally and that it’s all about him, to move on and focus on myself, to be SELF-ish.

  16. Riha

    April 25, 2021 at 10:16 am

    My ex loved me so much. But one day I told him about our careers that we need to focus more on our studies so that we both can make together a bright future(as we both belongs to different religions so marriage is religious restricted in our country by making a good job the chance of agree increases) and we will help each other. From that day he ghosted me means talk’s less with me I thought that he is helping me and giving time to focus on Carrer. But after 3 months my phone got damaged unfortunately so I couldn’t not talk to him about 25-30 days(I also told him in first day with another phone that my phone is going to be repaired) .Then after phone repaired I talks to him before as I could but he ignored me and one day He broke the relationship from his side with false truth.But WHY????(he loves me so much first from his side and helped me a lot in every situation I thought that it is true love and I agreed to love him and I propose him first from my side) everything goes well but when I say about Carrer then why this rude behaviour…..

  17. Bets

    January 8, 2021 at 10:21 pm

    My boyfriend was cheated on and he never trusted me but only showed it 2 years after being together
    I got mad as I have anxiety and he left me without explanation! He claimed he loved me n can’t live without me ,

  18. Sopphiw

    November 14, 2020 at 12:45 am

    My boyfriend block me on everything social media. He can’t answer my class. What should I do ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 14, 2020 at 10:50 am

      Hi Soppiw, I am not sure what you mean by cant answer your class? But if you have just broken up and are blocked then you need to follow the rules of No Contact, this needs to be for 45 days minimum if you have been blocked. And if you are in a hard block then forced to work on being Ungettable until you are unblocked to continue following the program

  19. Helen

    November 1, 2020 at 9:50 pm

    My boyfriend and I were together 3 months. Everything was great, we went on holiday last week. Friday he asked when we were gonna meet my parents, and then Saturday he broke up with me, telling me he felt rushed and that he wants to be single. How do I go about this so he’s not spooked?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 2, 2020 at 7:47 pm

      Hi Helen, how did the conversation about meeting you parents go? Im wondering why there was such a turn around. You need to go into a No Contact for now and spend some time working on yourself, following the holy trinity. Then start reaching out with the advice from Chris texting articles

  20. Sondra

    July 17, 2020 at 1:34 pm

    I was with my boyfriend three months and it was such an amazing time. I’ve been a widow going on 7 years and it took me a long time to let another man in. I felt so confident about this man we had such great chemistry too. We had everything in common never a boring time with him. Then he just stopped texting and calling me I’m so heartbroken I didn’t see this coming. I refuse to reach out although it’s killing me not knowing why he has done this.

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