What To Do If You Get The Dreaded "No Response" After No Contact

576 thoughts on “What To Do If You Get The Dreaded No Response After No Contact”

Ava

February 4, 2020 at 8:43 pm

Hi, my boyfriend and I were together for 3 and a half years, we broke up 2 months ago and have stayed in low contact since none of us were sure about this break up, but I’m the only one who wants to work things out. I tried building up the conversations into a casual meet up but he suddenly freaked out again like he did when he initiated the break up, started making excuses and I haven’t heard from him in a week. Can I go back to casually texting, say something like ‘hey let’s forget the whole thing, I still enjoy and miss just talking’? Or let him to reach out and focus on moving on for now?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2020 at 9:43 pm

Hi Ava, so I would give it some time in No Contact and reach out casually as you do not want to make him think you are trying to get him back into the relationship. You need to avoid emotional conversations and talks about getting back together unless it has been weeks of texting getting to know each other again and meet ups

D

December 28, 2019 at 4:07 am

Hi!
My ex and I broke up 5 days ago, he said that it wasn’t working out for him. I am now attempting no contact however he keeps messaging me in regards to a piece of jewelry he gave me that was passed down generations through his family. Yes, I do want to give it back but I do fear that after giving it to him he will block all contact from me (he has already blocked me on social media Facebook, Instagram etc but not iMessage) as he no longer needs to speak to me. He also wants me to send this through to him via postage as he has made it clear he doesn’t want to see me but I am reluctant as it is very old and i know he would be devastated if it got lost in the mail. Do I try and wait it out a bit longer before I ask him if he is willing to see me in person again to give it back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 30, 2019 at 3:17 pm

Hey D, do you have mutual friend or a member of his family you were on speaking terms with that could meet you to give the piece over. It is better than you do not see him at this point as it is too soon.

J

December 20, 2019 at 10:05 am

Hi is “fine” considered a negative response? I had a first contact message of “hey let’s talk if you’re willing to” and like after that I started a convo with him responding at first but then he ended up blue ticking me.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 21, 2019 at 10:30 pm

Hi J so it is considered a neutral response if anything. But if you get a no response from him then you need to leave him be for a few days, but you also need to end the conversation first, that is most important

Caitlin m

July 14, 2019 at 11:06 am

hi! Me and my ex split up 5 weeks ago after being together 5 years. I text him in tHe first few days but no reply. I started no contact after that and completed 30 days no contact. He never got in touch at all through out the 30 days. I sent him a first text after 30 days. I didn’t say anything nasty or horrible I just mentioned a game we both enjoy, but he never replied. It’s been 2 days now.. what should I do??? 🙁 I feel like he’ll never speak to me again now..
Ashton

July 9, 2019 at 2:24 pm

Hi Chris,

I initially planned on doing No contact for 45 days. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years and I had a terrible break up and I had to fly home crushed emotionally and mentally (I was visiting him and we have been long distance about 8 months). He is trying to be in music and has 3 months left of this intensive school program. I’ve been fully blocked on every social media site, through my phone number, and even places like Venmo and my email because I begged in every way, shape, and form. In March we broke up for the first time and after 3 days he reached out to me and wanted to get back together. This time we broke up and he never contacted me. The first time I made it about a week and then I called him. My number wasn’t blocked but he was very rude to me on the phone. This time after 29 days, I broke NC again. I tried to text him but I was blocked. I was still blocked on social media. So I made a different Snapchat and sent him a nice message. We got our dog a year ago on that day so I reminded him of that. He read it and blocked me. Then I had this happen like 4 more times. The last two times without him even reading the message. I am also a musician and I noticed on he’d Listened to one of my songs during the NC period, so I finally messaged him through that medium, and I was blocked there this morning. Today is my birthday and he still blocked me last night. So am I just beating a dead horse with a stick here? Or is there anything I can still do?
LadyDee

July 3, 2019 at 10:39 pm

Update – he replied to the message from a week prior and asked how I had been ? I replied and steered the conversation back to the shocking / interesting video. For now getting an adequate response, building rapport, following the ride effect is my goal. Thanks again.
LadyDee

July 3, 2019 at 8:10 pm

Hello…
So I sent my initial thoughtful yet interesting text and got no response. After reading this article and waiting a week I sent the second interesting / shocking text. My question is I haven’t spoken to this man in days and I’m wondering if he blocked me ? Should I make an attempt on WhatsApp sending the same text ? Just out of curiosity as we didn’t have a bad ending – communication flat lined and neither of us tried to reach out. Thoughts ?
Eileen

June 28, 2019 at 8:31 am

Hi , Me and my ex boyfriend are being together for 4 months. He broke up with me that we are not on the same page . He is single for quite long since 2009 and he is now going to 38 years soon. I had been done for no contact rules for one month. After one month, I texted to him that I am back from vacation and I got some gifts for you and lets meet up on that shop. I sent message him yesterday night and he might saw my notification but didn’t happen to see my msg yet. What should I do for it? I am waiting him to get response as well. Before that he was seeing all my facebook stories. After I sent him a message that he didn’t see my stories.
Tshepi

May 20, 2019 at 8:57 am

Hi
My boyfriend broke up with me after 9 months, he said he lost feelings for me because of our recent fights. He has a daughter and told my friend he feels like im competing with his daughter. I want him back and now i sent him a text after “NO CONTACT” period but he did not reply. He still wants to be friends and hang out but does not want more than that. Can he get this feelings back? What do i do? i want him back but i dont want to look desperate and needy. Tshepi
Ana

April 30, 2019 at 6:36 am

Hi. My boyfriend and i dated for almost a year. The first 6 mos was cloud 9. We were workmates and could get enough of each other. We spent almost all of our free times together. Thenx after 6 mos, he had to transger to a diff working environment about an hour away and we can only see each othwr once or twice a week. But we still call and text every day for the next 6 mos. Things were doing good. We go to each others family gatherings. I spent new years eve with him and his family. Then 2 weeks after new year,nhe broke up with me. He said he didnt feel the way he used to. We both cried during the break up. He said i deserved someone better. I told him i loved him with all of me and that i want someone who will love me the way i loved him. Its been 3 mos since the breakup, did nc for 2mos, sent 3 text messages sent 2 weeks apart but with no reply from him still. What do i do?
Patty M

April 25, 2019 at 5:18 am

Hello,
My ex and I had a 5 year relationship. We broke up last month and he started talking to a new person on the internet 2 weeks later when I contacted him and she is someone who wants to visit him and she doesn’t like him talking to me..so he cut off all contact and says he wants to move on..I feel betrayed that he moved on so fast and got so serious with someone. I begged him and cried and he said we had no chance getting back together and told me this new person he talked to on the internet was way better than me and supportive. I felt pretty terrible because this new person has no idea how much we’ve gone thru and how can she say that. I feel devastated. He said to stop calling him and it’s been 25 days. Not one word from him and I don’t have social media. I feel like I lost a best friend and feel awful.
Kay

May 8, 2018 at 3:24 am

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. Weve been together 8 months and 8 months ldr like across the world kind of ldr. So like a year and a half in total. We havent seen eachother since august. Distance is an issue but he is also having lots of personal life issues and genuinely believes other guys will make me happier than he ever can. We both cried during the break up and he has contacted me everyday after for about a week because he was worried about me. I couldnt take it anymore and suggested we do nc for 2 months. He agreed and we agreed to talk again in may. I did a good job of not contacting him during nc and he has not reached out once either. He doesnt have social media but we use kakao so the only thing we can see is each others profiles but we both dont have any pictures up or any statuses. There was an incident where i went to florida and had temporary photos to which he wrote in his status that it was a relief (that i seemed to be doing well). Well its may. I sent a hey how have you been text. He hasnt even opened it. My friends and my parents all tell me to never reach out to him again, especially my mom who doesnt even want me to pick up the phone if he calls. He has also told me that he did like me, but he didnt know how he felt for me anymore. Aka he didnt know if he loved me anymore. What should i do? I dont want to seem desperate to someone who doesnt want to be held onto but on the other hand i know if i let him go im going to regret it for the rest of my life. Please help.

Chris Seiter

May 8, 2018 at 4:41 am

Its going to be OK, Kay. However this work out, be assured you won’t regret it for you entire life. You only have so much control over things. Focus on your self recovery as that is important. None of us should rely on one person to be happy and there are many paths for you as you face the future and they can lead to beautiful, fulfilling experiences.

Val

April 18, 2018 at 12:43 pm

I completed 30 days no contact successfully. He did text me once and I did not respond about halfway through. He then just liked my photo on social media a few days before it was time for me to reach out. I tried calling and got no answer or response in any way. We did not have a “bad” breakup and nothing involved that would make him not want to talk to me ever again. There were tears shared on each side during the breakup and he said he’d always love me, but I only got a generic breakup line. What should be my next plan I’d attack?

Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 10:56 pm

Hey there Val! Thanks for dropping by. He may not be ready to talk on the phone, so don’t let the no answer bother you. Just more time for healing is in order. Have you picked up my ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro? (website Menu/Products link). Lots of good resources there! It is really helpful to have a comprehensive companion Guide that walks you through the whole process. Let me know how things proceed Val!

Andrea

March 21, 2018 at 6:51 am

We broke up 45 days ago and tried the no contact rule and tried my first attempt to get a hold of him and so far no response what should I do? Help

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 25, 2018 at 5:01 pm

Hi Andrea,

Try again after a week.. How active are you improving yourself and in posting in social media?

AndreA

March 20, 2018 at 4:05 pm

I dated my ex for 3 months I broke up with him bc he lied to me and blew me away I told him to lose my number and changed mine now I did the no contact thing for 48 days and sent him a message through Instagram and this is what I said. “Hi ex name I was going through my Netflix account and came across the office and thought of you just wanted to say hi and hope your doing well” no response
Amy

March 9, 2018 at 7:01 pm

My ex broke up with me but said he still wanted us to be friends. I didn’t think I could remain friends with him and not hurt so much. So I sent him a message saying I was going to respect his decision to break up and wished him well. I blocked him immediately and began the no contact rule for 51 days. I didn’t contact him and he didnt either. Then a few days ago I sent him a long email highlighting the ways he treated me that were unfair ( there wasnt any abuse or anything like dat) and my reasons for blocking him but I got no response from him till today. I’m lost. Whats happening? What do I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 13, 2018 at 4:30 pm

Hi Amy,
well, you didn’t contact him but you didn’t approach your first contact the right way, and I’m assuming you didn’t do the nc rule in the right way too..

Nc means not contacting him for a specific amount of time, starting a new daily routine, being active in improving yourself and in posting in social media and then continuing that routine after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport.

he probably didn’t reply because it’s not something he should reply to and not something he would want to reply to because the email was negative for him..

You have to restart nc of at least 21 days, unblock him but don’t add him yet and make your posts public.

Veronica

March 4, 2018 at 11:27 pm

My ex broke up with me about two months ago and did not give me a reason. From going hot to suddenly cold and then no communication for a week. When I finally heard from him it was via text that we are no longer together. This happened around the holidays and I guess I was more in shock regarding the situation. I I did not try to beg, call or plead with him to take me back. It’s been about two months no contact and I sent him a message which I honestly didn’t expect a reply from. However, I got a derogatory reply which I ignored. I guess, it pissed him off I didn’t reply because he texted the same thing over. We were together for about six months and things seem to moving along. I don’t understand the hostility. Is he upset that I didn’t grovel at his feet. It has always bothered me the way things ended. Should I reach out again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2018 at 10:38 am

Hi Veronica,

Nope…what was the text you sent and what did he reply?

Veronica

March 4, 2018 at 10:22 pm

After my ex dumped me by text message I did not call or beg him to take me back. I guess I was more in shock and trying to process what happened and it happening right around the holidays. I remained in no contact for two months and finally contacted him. I was expecting to not receive a response but instead I got a derogatory reply back from him. I was quite surprised as this is the guy who didn’t give me a reason why he dumped me.
April

February 15, 2018 at 9:21 pm

My ex and I broke up after 9 months of being together. According to him he was having a lot of personal problems, he has a had a lot of unsuccessful relationships and felt unaccomplished for a 36 year old man. Felt like a he had wasted a decade of his life. Said that I couldn’t have been more supportive and that he had no problems with me, but that it just wasn’t working anymore and he needed to invest all of his energy on himself. We ended okay, but I cannot deny it has been insanely hard. I had high hopes for the relationship. Anyway, after a while of being separated I texted him to meet up so that we could talk, to which he reply that he wouldn’t mind talking and that he could find some time. I then felt like it had been too soon and apologized for reaching out and decided it was a mistake. Now a month after separation I texted him again that I wanted to talk so that I could give him something. I wrote a letter, kinda a closure thing for me(I am big on letters-he knows that!) but he never responded, so I just let it go. I feel a bit bad, but I also expected this and while I miss him I have ended all communication since. I don’t know if he got the letter, but I also don’t want to push him into this being something that he doesn’t want. Quite frankly I don’t know. It’s even harder when we work together and he is kinda* one of my bosses. We bump in the hallway all the time, never talk and he gives me these sad/longing looks while I just try to ignore him. I feel like I just need to let it go, but then I don’t want to give up on him or at least developing a new relationship now that we have been separated for a while. What can you advice?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2018 at 1:13 am

Hi April,

check this one:
EBR 009: The No Contact Rule If You Work With Your Ex

April

February 15, 2018 at 2:31 am

My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months. According to him, he was going through a lot of personal hardships, as a 36 year old guy he didn’t feel like he was where he wanted to be in life and he needed to focus all his energy on that. It was incredibly hurtful as I wanted to keep trying, even tho he had been disconnected for a while. We parted pretty well, but its been hard. Harder because we work together and now we bump in the hallway all the time and he gives me sad/longing looks. Thankfully I have gotten a new position and it has been a month since the break up. I texted him a while back and he replied saying he would be okay meeting to talk, but I texted back saying I had made mistake texting him at all as I wasn’t ready to meet. About two weeks ago I texted him again that I wanted to give him something and he never replied. I took that as close to the chapter. I sent him a letter saying a goodby about a week ago (which is what I wanted to give him) and haven’t heard from him. Not sure if I should reach out to him or let it be? Thank you.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 18, 2018 at 11:26 pm

Hi April,

are you doing the nc rule? If yes, then don’t reach out.

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