The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?

1,382 thoughts on “The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule”

Carol

July 27, 2020 at 4:18 pm

Hello,

I am still in a hanging situation with this guy. We had been together since February after
a month of dating. We had been enjoying talking about light and in-dept discussions for possible future and at the same time a casual dating with a good connection. Because of the Covid-19, we had no in-person time since mid March given that he is doing research on the patients. We had been talking every day, him always starting conversation probably until mid May. From then, I could felt the conversation gets patchy and it was mostly me starting the conversation but still everyday. We still talked until early July. I brought him that I feel lack of communication in a gentle way, and he responded his work has been terrible and ‘hope to talk to you soon’ and NC after- it has been two weeks. So we did not have clear conversation about ending the relationship.
He still follows my Instragram checks stories, but doesn’t comment or post anything himself. Do you think is there a chance of getting back together? or should I take this as a sign of ending?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 6, 2020 at 12:15 am

Hey Carol, as you have already done NC for two weeks I would suggest that you continue to day 30 where you focus on your Holy Trinity and then reach out and see where things go with using Chris’ advice on how to have texting conversations, lock down and covid restrictions are slowly lifting so hopefully you will be able to start a connection with him again and arrange casual meet ups and increase the romance levels gradually do not go in expecting things to be as they were back in March

Velina Iankova

July 14, 2020 at 11:49 am

Hi
I was reading NC rule and it’s success long time ago and decided to implement it 2 weeks ago, well 3 weeks ago bit broke it on the 5th day and started over.
So there is a guy that I’ve been seeing for the past year and a half on and off. And every time we get together is absolutely great, but then we hit the same dead end that he is not ready to commit. He wants to achieve his financial goals first before he is ready. And I respect that. So when we last spoke I’ve said that I’m no longer happy with where we are and if he doesn’t step up, I’ll step out.
So we’ve had a good talk and he kept saying that I deserve someone who is already on top of their game, and he doesn’t know when or if he’ll ever be good enough for me.
And we kind of split up without any drama or any resentment.
I don’t know if the 30 days will be enough, so might go 45.

But then something else happened
There was another guy who I was seeing over 5 years ago. And I’ve cut contact with him for 4 years. He moved to Cambodia. And I’ve never heard from him. And few weeks ago he reached out and wanted to see each other. So I went. I don’t see him the way I use to and didn’t find him attractive either. But we’ve had a very positive catch up like old friends do. Then all of the sudden he started messaging me and saying he can’t stop thinking about me. And I just said we can only be friends….

Anyway the guy I’m currently implementing NC, I really love and want to be with. But not sure if NC will help. And what if in 4 years he decide he is ready and I feel the way I do now with my long lost friend?

Meanwhile I’m looking after my self and really enjoying life. It’s not like my life depends on being in a relationship. I’ve been single for 4 years and I love my life, have lots of friends and I always have things to do and grow
Mab

June 30, 2020 at 2:44 pm

Hi Chris, I am on my 8 days of NC to my ex weve been together for 9 months he proposed to me visit me here in my country. He visited me 2 times this year we even planned for our marriage. supposedly its on May but due to covid it was postpone. I always been so jelous and get mad at him with his instagram why is he not posting our pictures together but I stopped acting so childish about it. but sometimes I feel like I don’t have trust on him because of my previous experience from my past 7 years ago. June 20 I received a message from a woman said he has a child with her but he didnt give any money to her nor visit her. I feel so pain and talked to him and he just respond ‘ if you believe her I will not talk to you ever again’ I respond to him ‘ we will never talk again’ so he just read my message. the next day I messaged him that I will stop talking to him that if he is happy i am also happy thats it. its really painful that he kept that secret to me
Elizabeth

May 22, 2020 at 9:58 pm

Hi! My ex and I broke up and I did the 21 day no contact successfully. When I reached out, he’s being very positive and responding, however over this past week of texting, his interest has dwindled. I’m always the one initiating the texts which worries me. I feel like he just has his guard up, or if he’s just being nice. My mind is going all over the place. Should I give him space And let him contact me, or just keep initiating texts? I’m trying to be so patient, but I’m so confused.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 29, 2020 at 4:04 pm

Hey Elizabeth this is actually quite typical behaviour. Sometimes exes will pull back if conversations are getting to familiar too soon. Keep going as you are, you are doing great. Keep initiating your conversations, but it is important that you are the one to end them and leave him wanting more

Lia

May 20, 2020 at 11:02 am

Hello,
My ex had been very distant from the past couple of months or so. I tried to support him and be there for him but he was rather cold and rude with me. He just seemed to have lost all interest in me, though he did not directly say that. The decision to cut off from him was mine. I told him that I did not want to be treated this way. However, I did mention that he is free to contact me when he is in the right state of mind, where he can give me the care and respect that I am worthy of. He agreed and sent me a text saying that he wishes me well. I did the same.
This happened about one week ago. I started the no contact immediately after that. We have known each other for over a year. I have strong feelings for this guy. Do you think I stand a chance?
He has not tried to contact me even once in the past one week.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 1:48 pm

Hi Lia, yes if you follow the program and focus on yourself for some time then I think you do have a chance. Keep in mind it is not important if they reach out during NC it is important that you focus on yourself and get over the initial break up. And you reaching out at the end of your NC and having a short positive conversation with your ex

Renee

May 16, 2020 at 1:55 am

Hello-

My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. We had been together almost a year, It had been long distance and we hadn’t seen each other since January. We had been talking marriage, kids, and him moving to America. He said he wanted all of these things multiple times. He was supposed to come visit in March but the travel ban from Covid-19 prevented him from flying over. And than we were both in lockdown. We had been talking every day, days before he was calling me his dream, the one. On April 8th, he woke up and said he no longer wanted any of the things we had been planning. He didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. He said he felt like a piece of him was missing. We have been in NC since than. He checks my instagram story multiple times a day but doesn’t comment or post anything himself. He hasn’t unfriended me or taken any pictures of us down on his Facebook. It’s almost the end of 30 days NC, is there a chance of getting back together? What should I do next?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 3:27 pm

Hey Renee, so there is a chance but it is important that you understand and follow the program without trying to ship the value chain when you speak at the end of your NC you are going to have to remember you are not picking up where you left off. You are starting again with this ex trying to re-attract them and work on your connection from the beginning and increasing the investment he has in you as time goes by. Be sure to read articles on how to progress and keep working on your Holy Trinity during this time and you will see great results

Allie

April 29, 2020 at 6:13 pm

Hello,

My ex broke up with me about a month and a half ago, he said we were both in a lot of pain and hurting each other and he didn’t want to hurt me anymore, that it seemed like the only option (we were together for almost a year). He mentioned that I was everything he’s ever wanted and that we could still be friends and hang out and see where things would go. I begged him to not break up with me, and when I realized it wasn’t going to do anything, I told him that if he wanted the breakup that we couldn’t talk anymore. Well he texted me a few times in the following days, I ended up responding to the last text and he was nice to me, but then he would get cold. I eventually decided that cutting off contact with him was the only way I would be able to heal and focus on me. I was in no contact for 33 days. The first week after I decided to go into no contact he did reach out a few times, but after not getting a response from me he eventually stopped. I used this past month to try to find myself, reflect on my life and try to enjoy the things I used to love doing before our relationship. And I have been doing pretty well (considering the current world situation). I still have sad days, but I have accepted the breakup and realized that I don’t need him, I mean I’ve been living my life without him for the past month and it has slowly gotten better.

Well, I was cleaning out my room on Sunday and found a couple of things of his and I got super curious about how he was doing (I have been avoiding his social media, getting snaps here and there from his siblings, but not responding to them) and the last message he had sent me about a month ago was an iMessage game request. I responded to that, as I felt like that would be a good icebreaker. He responded right away, we played a few games and then he started talking to me. He told me he thought I would never talk to him again, that he thought I had blocked him and that he was happy to hear from me. He asked me how I was doing, and later he had been drinking a bit, and he asked why I had reached out to him now. We’ve been talking since Sunday, and he’ll bring up things we used to do together, send me gifs and memes (which he knows I love) and keeping the conversation going. He will sometimes flirt with me too and I’m not too sure what to make of that or how to respond.

Me being here shows that I want to try to rekindle our love, I know he still loves me and this connection feels like it could have been so special. I guess I am a little lost in how to handle this new period of contact. I ended the conversation last night, as I felt we were talking too much. He mentioned he had some of my things and that I had his headphones, but didn’t mention giving them back or anything. I guess I’m wondering what his response to me talking to him means and tips on how to go from here.

Thank you 🙂

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 7, 2020 at 11:12 pm

Hey Allie, so you would need to read about the texting phase in Chris’ articles and the value chain. Where you would understand how to work up the value chain and then when to end conversations at their peak. Knowing how you should be speaking to your ex and when to time certain conversations as timing is essential for success.

Kat

April 19, 2020 at 7:41 am

Hi Chris

Hope you well. I have been broken up with my ex 7 months now. During this time he blocked me from calling him and one social site we use to communicate frequently. I broke up with him because his so flirty with women and he cheated on me , which made me feel so insecure during more of his flirting occured. He wouldn’t acknowlege when i complained about this. I started talking to other guys. And i cheated on him with one guy and i told him and that was when his “female friend” as he calls her called him at 1am in the morning. We brokeup and he moved out. I regret not handling things better and i did everything to hurt him back for not thinking about my feelings and i’ve apologised to him even though him and this girl started dating. I’m not sure if they still dating but he has met up with me and we were intimate. He calls me every two weeks saying his checking up on me. When i bring up us getting back together he says its still difficult for him. He says i really hurt him. One time he said he wants us to be friends and work toward being in a relationship again. I stopped asking him to be in a relationship with me and i started the no contact rule. Our conversations are more about him asking who i am with? what am i doing? And how am i? .. i haven’t answered his last phone call when he called me 7times in one day. I don’t know what to do and i was in a relationship with him for 4years i really want to make things work??? Please advise

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 25, 2020 at 6:01 pm

Hi Kat, you need to try and apply the NC rule and then start the texting phase as Chris explains in the articles about getting communication open and building your connection

Lola Black

April 14, 2020 at 12:59 am

My husband and I have kids together and broken up March 9th. We been talking and having sex up til April 4th we had an argument and He started being passive aggressive. i started then no contact rule on that same day. He moved out our house when we broke up.. and I haven’t contacted him for 10 days. He sent me a text today. Asking about our kids. I haven’t responded.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 14, 2020 at 8:36 am

Hi Lola, you are able to reply to messages where he asks about the children, but do not talk about anything else

san

March 3, 2020 at 6:07 pm

Hi
So my ex broke up with me because his life is too “confusing” at the moment but he hasn’t deleted me on insta snap or whatapp. He has done this before and we got back together. He is constantly watching my insta story an snapchat story. There’s no activity from himself. I don’t know if the no contact will work this time. He even insisted we should just be friends after a 1 yr and a half. But then I blew up and said how can we be friends after everything everybody seems to be telling me to delete him off everything and my friends think he will defiantly come back once his head is cleared up but its not fair on myself. Would appreciate your advice

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 12, 2020 at 11:32 am

Hi San, so if he walks away from you because life gets too much for him then I would consider reading the Ungettable posts and watch the videos as you are going to have to work on your value worth to your ex so that he feels that you are not worth letting go. At this point he probably knows that he could get you back if he wanted you. Appearing to move on would possibly work where you complete a No Contact and start casually dating so he thinks you are done waiting for him

MissM

February 6, 2020 at 4:32 pm

My ex reached out to me recently after 3 months of no contact and was all full on with me apologetic wanted to meet stuff like that.
Now I haven’t heard from him in 5 days it’s like his completely disappeared.
Not sure what had happened. Not sure if I came across too much I really don’t know or his busy in his new work place. Was hoping to meet him for some drinks but don’t really want to reach out and look needy?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 6, 2020 at 9:36 pm

Hey MissM so you can reach out to him yourself but do not ask for the meet up. Ask him about for advice on something you know he is knowledgeable about… for example if he were a into cars, ask him where is best to go get your car serviced etc. Rather than meeting up straight away you need to have some sort of conversation build up with him to make him invest some time in talking to you

Soph

January 17, 2020 at 9:08 pm

Hi Chris, Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago, after a month of no contact he reached out to meet up and we met three weeks later cause I was busy. During these 3 weeks we spoke a few times and he used pet names, told me he missed me and did at times get flirty/sexual. When we met, we did have sex and he asked to meet again. Then I ended up talking about the relationship and asking what he wants ‘He didn’t see a future with us’.
After he found out I was using tinder we got in contact again and had a few serious conversations where he said he wanted to send me a letter explaining everything about why he broke up with me. I chose to have a slightly serious text conversation about why our relationship ended instead and he said ‘at least now we know if something ever happens between us in the future’.
We had a talk recently where he said he doesn’t know what the future holds but right now he was happy alone and chatting (he’s told me he likes talking to me multiple times). I said I get that but I’d want to eventually hang out and see where it goes and he said that sound positive and we can take it as it goes and we decided to just talk for now. We’ve since had a quick light conversation where he goes he still wants a painting from me which he initiated.
Our current conversations can easily have quite flirty/sexual tones. I don’t know how best to go forth cause I’m worried that I could just be getting strung a long.
Unsure

January 14, 2020 at 1:20 am

Hi Chris,

My ex and I split up 10 months ago. We were together for almost 9 years and have a 2 year old. He broke up with me a week before we were supposed to start counseling. He said it was too little, too late and that he didn’t even know if he had ever loved me. I sustained a serious injury during childbirth that caused me to lose my mobility which led to the loss of my job and our home. We had to move in with his mother for awhile. Needless to say there was a lot of stress and fighting in the relationship. He resented me for it even though he knew there was nothing that could have been done to avoid it. I also found out right before the break up that he had been speaking to other women on tinder for the last couple years of our relationship. He swears it never went further than that. I moved out 6 months ago. Before I even left he had begun a new relationship. This relationship is now long distance and somewhat rocky. I know he has serious doubts about it but has mentioned that he loves her and entertained the idea of living with her several months ago. He has since changed his mind and is on tinder again. They are still talking though. It was devastating to be replaced so quickly but since the move things have gotten better. I have been continuing to regain mobility and have lost a lot of weight as a result of being able to move more. I am able to work part time on weekends and care for our child during the week. I have been dating as well. I implemented a modified nc as soon as I left. Recently we have begun talking more and he hangs out for a couple hours after drop off once the kids are in bed. During these hangouts we talk about our personal lives and things we are going through and goals for the future. Texts are short lived and always initiated by me or pertaining to our child. When I wished him happy birthday via text he told me about the show he was at and said he thought that I would have liked it. When I saw him he mentioned that he would have liked to have been with someone that night. He has brought up a past sexual encounter of ours that was relevant to the conversation. Maybe some light flirting. My real question here is do I stand a chance or are there too many roadblocks in the way?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 18, 2020 at 11:44 am

Hi there, so I do think you have a chance, but it is so so so so so important that you do not give him any intimacy whatsoever unless you are back in a relationship. Treat it as if it was a new person and you want to wait because you want it to mean something not just a one night stand, because at the moment that is what he is going to try to get. He sounds as if he is unsure of what he wants which is why you need to be the one who talks to about life, flirts with and then you also need to work a little jealousy in there that could mean you are dating other guys and he needs to have this idea in the back of his mind. It sounds as if you are on the right track but again, its key you do not give him any sexual interaction unless you are together again

Jessica tolle

December 15, 2019 at 9:18 pm

My name is jessica. Me and my boyfriend of 6 years just split up 1 week ago. We have 2 biological kids together plus one on the way and he raised my oldest from when he was 2. The last year had been kind of rocky we have been on and off a couple times. Everytime we split he has to find a girl to sleep with or be with right away. Hes very needy. This time he is already trying to talk to other girls and we have barely spoke. We got into a fight and he blcoked me on facebook. Usually when we break up it’s only for a few months if that even if he is dating someone then wants to come back to me. Always. I’m the one used to blowing him up and begging for him. Should I go to contact on him for once .. I still love him but we said very mean things. Plus we are having a baby inJune.. do you think he will come back after time. Or how do you view the situation and how he is..

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 15, 2019 at 9:46 pm

Hi Jessica I suggest going into a limited no contact but also make sure you are getting him back because you want to get back together for the right reasons. You need to look at why you keep breaking up and getting back together what is the source of each break up? Is there a common issue? The fact he can not be alone is also something to be worried about, did he have a bad upbringing?

Limited no contact, work on yourself for the time being and only speak about the children and shared responsibilities. Work on the Ungettable articles on this website and try to work out why you guys seem to have an on and off again relationship

Jennifer Gillette

December 2, 2019 at 1:18 pm

So my boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago And we have been together for only two months, he broke it off because I was getting mad when he was expressing his feelings or what was bothering him and I hunged up on two or three times when I didn’t like what he had to say and I would never get mad at him for expressing himself and I tried to explain to him but he didn’t wanna hear it and I had my daughter’s best friend call him from her phone and he thought I got a child involved and that isn’t true and then I was talking to a couple of ladies in the motorcycle group and said I was causing drama and he said to come get my stuff and there is nothing to work out or even talk about it, I made the mistake and texted him on Thanksgiving and said “Happy Thanksgiving” that was it and I got no response so I left it alone and my daughter texted him on her phone and he didn’t respond to her and she is only 10 and she is feeling like she did something wrong also. My question is how long should I do the NC on him and is there any chance of us getting back together after the
NC? Apparently it was the small things we could have worked out and he didn’t want to and just quit on me so I’m scared he doesn’t want me but there are a lot of feelings in our text messages and he broke it off through text messages and blocked me off Facebook too!!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 4, 2019 at 9:12 pm

Hi Jennifer, so you sending a happy thanksgiving message is breaking no contact so you have to start again, also as your daughter has his number make sure she doesn’t reach out to him for the time being. It is hard for her to understand but explain to her in a way she gets that you are not friends right now. If you follow this program properly and consistently then you give yourself the best chance of getting your ex back. But you have to put in the work

Zeb

October 17, 2019 at 12:31 am

A week before he broke off with me, I asked him if our relationship is going anywhere. (Serious commitment) a week after I chat with his ex, about their relationship because it so happens that she also a friend. She call him, telling something that makes him mad at and broke up with me. Now we aren’t talking since he broke off with me. I love him and I want him back, what should I do to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 20, 2019 at 9:07 am

Hi Zeb so No Contact first so he can stop being mad at you, then you need to know what has upset him to end it and work on being truthful with him while also getting your friendship back – then building attraction

Brittany

October 10, 2019 at 8:58 am

Hi Chris,

My ex partner of 7.5years left me nearly 5 months ago. We had just moved back to the UK to live on 3 year visas and it was a complete shock.
He went away one weekend and apparently met someone with a ‘spark’ and that was it he wanted out and nothing to do with me.
The first month was rough and we were still in contact. The second month he tricked me into going back to Australia for some time apart and to work thing out when I was back, he said that was all a lie when I landed.
We messaged and called while I was home to try to discuss our separation but it was toxic.
I came back to the UK packed the house, shipped everything home. We were supposed to meet that weekend but I couldn’t do it.
We have been in NC for 2.5 months and he sent me an email 2 weeks ago to say he wanted to get in contact to sort things and our separation but there really is no need.
I haven’t replied and frankly I’m confused by his email.
He has been dating and introducing this girl he met as his gf only a week after our breakup. Around the time of his email she then also blocked me on fb and ig despite me not initiating anything at all with her.
I’m one confused cookie!
Any advice?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 12, 2019 at 8:33 am

Hi Brittany, so what he can he doing is trying to get closure, or has maybe realised the grass isn’t greener with the other woman. If you don’t want him back and there is nothing to sort then continue to ignore him. If you want to reconcile your relationship then you need to respond but you take it very slow and let him do the majority of the work.

Sandy

August 29, 2019 at 8:42 pm

I started seeing a guy that told me he had a gf. He also told me the relationship was toxic and they fought constantly. She threatened to leave him daily. He and I kept seeing each other and breaking it off over and over. We just couldn’t let each other go. I continued to date and sleep with him and 3 months into this, the gf left him. He told me we could finally be together openly and that he loved me. But then we started to argue every time he called me. He pulled away and told me he was depressed in his empty house. He told me he needed to figure things out for himself. Then he just wanted to be friends because he missed his ex gf. He started talking to her while being friends with me. Then he told me she is not interested in getting back together and he wants to work on our friendship. He told me he still needed time and we are just working on being friends. I told him I wanted more and he stopped talking to me. I text him 3 days later and he replied with a goodbye. I said ok and take care. We haven’t spoke to each other for 17 days. I don’t know what happen. I want to wait the 30 days of NC to see if he starts to get curious. Im afraid he won’t or maybe he’s back with the ex. Should I message him now, after 30 days or not at all?
Alice

July 15, 2019 at 2:51 pm

Hi Chris,

I enforced NC with my boyfriend of 4 years. Right after I graduated from law school we went on vacation and I truly thought he was going to propose. We have talked about the future and life plans, etc. with one another but knew it’d be more appropriate to plan our life together only after I graduate.

We went on vacation after my graduation and I was positive we would get engaged. I was pretty bummed after vacation I told him that I was upset because I thought a proposal was on the horizon.

He said that we will get engaged .. just not anytime soon….he loves me … he’s not going anywhere … and that I need to be patient…. and that he doesn’t want to be engaged right now….

The conversation became increasingly frustrating for me because I felt rejected. I told him if he can’t specify why he is so unsure about being engaged in the near future (especially after 4 years) then I don’t want to be together because I feel pushed away. If he doesn’t know how long until he’s “ready” then why string me along until he “knows” when is a good time? My momma told me to never wait on a man!

Ultimately I told myself that I really deserve to be with someone who 100% has no doubt in their mind that I am the one for them and had no reservations about me being in their life.

So.. I immediately enforced NC … blocked him on all social media and deleted his number…. 4 days later he sent me an email in a “panic” saying that he called me 20 times with no answer and has no way to communicate with me…

So… I unblocked his number … sent him a text saying if he wants to talk he can call… and he didn’t respond until the next day…..

His reply the next day mentioned that he DID have something to say , but after being blocked he felt that I “made my decision” and there was nothing left to talk about ….

I told him it’s not fair for me to want to stay in the relationship and be engaged when he doesn’t want the same thing …..

I called him twice to try and talk things out (I really shouldn’t have though…) no answer from him… told him that he is being childish and playing games. So I blocked his number AGAIN and wished him well. He had his chance to makes things right and he didn’t.

Here I am at 2 full weeks no contact – blocked him off all social media because it truly does help me heal…

My plan is to move forward from 4 years of a relationship I thought was going to grow and thrive. However, I secretly hope he will resurface wanting to take the next steps in our relationship if NC gives him time to feel my absence from his life.

Am I wrong for breaking up with him AND initiating NC? After all, I am the person who felt the feeling of being ‘dumped’ because of his lack of enthusiasm about being engaged.

Thank you for reading
🙂
Ocean

June 26, 2019 at 12:49 am

Soo.. I guess here goes for ” advice ” .. I have a tendency to push people away.. and do the stupid ” lets break up ” threat… Well the third time i did that to my boyfriend , he said ” i dont think i want to be in a relationship any more.. ” So.. The next day we got together and spoke about it, and he said he just was tired of worrying about my feelings sometimes.. And he brought my dog a present , and then showed me some pictures he took that day at the park. The next day, i brought him some gifts randomly, to which he texted me back saying he really appreciated them and we had a little joke. The third day, we went out to dinner together casually..shared food together, laughed, etc.. Then two days later we went out to a concert together and ended up hooking up.. Slept together and cuddled.. he didnt kick me out.. and even offered to cook me pancakes the next day.. I declined.. i asked him about trying on the relationship and he said ” he didnt know if he could answer that yet.. ” We laid together talking for 5 hours.. crying… laughing.. He held me.. i wiped his tears.. He told me he had things in his head he needed to work on.. and his mom said if we believed in fate we’d end up working things out together if we were meant to be.. We laughed more and he said things about how much he would miss me.. and how much he thinks of me already.. and his favorite picture of me that he has.. And then after about 5 ish hours of laying together happily ( but not agreeing to work things out ) i asked him if i should just leave and leave him alone? he said yes… He then laid in his bed in pain as i got dressed.. as he walked me out he hugged me hard, kissed me, and seemed upset.. THEN when i left, i stupidly texted him a bunch of emotional things.. and i asked ” are you happier this way ? ” and all he said was ” i feel f*cked up right now ” .i might also add that he hasn’t asked me for his stuff back .. he left a PlayStation at my house … SO… I’m going to try the no contact thing… Because i don’t know what to do?! What do you make of this? Any one?

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