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240 thoughts on “How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else”

  1. BY

    November 27, 2017 at 3:40 am

    Hi Chris!
    I’m from the Philippines. And I love reading your articles and it really helps me a lot with my situation right now. I’ve been in an 18 months relationship, but unfortunately he moved to another place and we became in a long distance relationship. The first and second month of our long distance relationship has been really good and I thought that we’re really working this out. But suddenly, he became really cold and decided to break up with me. It’s been a month since we broke up. And I think because he’s with someone new who he met there. He just broke up with me through chat and he wants us to meet in person to talk and clear some things. But I’m pretty sure he left me for someone else because I can see his post on facebook. Should I meet him? Is there still a chance to get him back? I think the reasons he wants to meet is just to get some closure. Thank you Chris and the team. I really hope I can get an advice. Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 28, 2017 at 1:33 pm

      Hi BY,

      check this one:
      EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

  2. Andrea Carral

    November 21, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Hi!
    My bf and I had a long distance and open relations hop. Hé started darling a friend from his office when I told him I wanted to stay longer and broke his heart. Hé says hé kept talking to her about How much he missed me. A couple of weeks After hé came to see me and travel es throw Europe together. I décides to come back home, he found out I was seeing some one and things I wanted to stay because of him.
    The first months back home were hell because he was so weird and hurt. His feelings for this girl started growing to the point that he told me he thought he was inlove (completly drunk).
    We broke up as Both got sick of the situation.
    When we broke up he said I’m the love of his life and when he sets up his émotions (doubts, ánger, abandonment) we would be toguether. He actually said in 3-4 months.
    I told him that wouldnt work for me as I Can’t live with that hope. He smiled and said I could think that but he knows we are ment for eachother. (I told him I didn’t want to talk for a couple of weeks)
    Started NC next day, he texted ok day 3 to say I look pretty and kept texting “just tell me and I wont bother you again”. Didn’t answer since I had told him already when we brokeup.
    Day 10 my friends tell me he’s kissing and holding hands with the other girl At a party, I’m sure he spent the night with her.
    They don’t have a real relationship yet. Should I do 30 days NC or shorten to 21? I Can’t place thé girl on any category. Is she a rebound?
    He’s in a really bad place right know and I think he Can’t be with anyone.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 23, 2017 at 1:18 am

      Yes, she’s probably a rebound..Do 30 days

  3. Confused

    November 4, 2017 at 10:10 am

    This website has been so helpful. Here’s a short version of my issues… my bf and I broke up 8 months ago. I did NC for a little more than 30 days, we started building rapport and he was very responsive, we got to the second “fun” date with friends, then to the movies and that’s when he said he was confused and just wanted to be friends. I said I coudn’t quite do friends at the moment and did limited contact for 30 days (since we are on med school together). After that we started texting again, he came over to my place and we spent a very romantic afternoon (no kissing or anything like it), and after he left he texted me saying that he was glad that we could be friends, so I started friendzoning him, ignoring him a bit, using a little jealousy and all that’s on the friendzone article on this site. Today I found out he’s been dating a girl for almost a month, he never told me we just bumped into a party. Even so, this past few days he’d been texting me, asking me to join him at the gym, having lunch with me, even a fun session of tickling involved. I honestly don’t know what to do now, we are on the same group of friends and he never mentioned this new girl to any of them, so I wasn’t concerned about being flirty sometimes because he flirted back and I didn’t now about that girl! Should I say something? Do limited contact again and then try the “being there” thing? Please… any thoughts are veeery welcome. Ps. I already read the article of “he want to date me and another girl” and I really think he doesn’t want anything like that.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 5, 2017 at 6:17 am

      Hi Confused,

      nope, just keep building rapport.. and in your case, he didn’t say to you that he wants to date you too and the other girl, so you’re not supposed to know.. unless he mentions that he wants to date you, then bring that up but make it casual. So, that you don’t seem like you’re stalking him and that you’re so into him..

  4. Hannah

    November 2, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Dear Chris, My ex and I were long distance and he moved onto a new girlfriend in less than a month (after not telling me if the relationship was over or not). They’ve been together for at least two months. I did the EBR No Contact for 50 days, was very active with posting, and during this time he tried to reach out to me and called me (all ignored). When I first initiated contact he responded positively, and I immediately ended the conversation. I then waited and two weeks later he initiated contact on two different social media platforms with two different messages. I was busy so didn’t respond for 24 hours. When I replied, he responded immediately and reminisced about something we had done together. I didn’t respond and went to sleep. He then sent another message saying that ‘he missed those days’, and then at 4am my time, (UK) he tried ringing me. When I didn’t respond to that, he then corrected and reposted his other message (which I hadn’t responded to) on Instagram. I didn’t respond to either of his messages until 24 hrs later. My response was happy and upbeat, but I did not acknowledge his call, nor that he said he missed us. Are his messages a good sign, and was I wrong not to acknowledge the call or that he misses us? He has not responded to my reply. I didn’t want to say I missed him, nor pick up a late night phone call, for fear of looking too needy/available or that he was only looking for an ego boost. Should I initiate the next message soon or wait?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 4, 2017 at 12:47 am

      HI Hannah,

      Yeah, you should because you have to start building rapport.

  5. Silvia

    October 26, 2017 at 12:32 am

    Hi Amor,

    So it’s me, the one who has the ex who started dating his 19yr old student, I went into NC and intended to do the ‘being there’ thing bc remember he told me he would like to remain friends. It was 45 days NC last Saturday and I thought about messaging him. I’m too good for him haha and I’ve told him this before so I decided I’m better off without him but I would like to try and be his friend and JUST friends, do you think that’s possible? Also the oddest thing started happening this week, this girl he’s seeing is now stalking my instagram stories. What do you think this means?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 29, 2017 at 10:39 am

      Hi Silvia,

      She’s probably jealous.. Yes, you can be friends with him..

  6. France

    September 19, 2017 at 12:11 am

    My ex of 2 years broke up with me a little over a month ago and I started NC a week after the breakup. I have a few more days left and have the first contact message ready and everything. It was his birthday last week and I didn’t greet him, but I found out that he spent it with a friend from childhood (who he’s been hanging out with a lot since the breakup). I don’t know if they’re actually dating, but I’ve got that feeling they are. I don’t know if it’s a rebound relationship, something casual, or serious. And it’s difficult for me to keep an eye on their relationship, because I have no connections with the girl. I’m not quite sure how to approach the situation.

    1. France

      September 22, 2017 at 2:20 am

      Thanks for the reply, Amor. 🙂

      Yes, I’ve been working out and staying focused on other things. I do post on social media, but not all that much. I’m also worried that he might be caught offguard once I initiate conversation, especially since I missed greeting him on his birthday.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 20, 2017 at 11:16 am

      HI France,

      are you actively improving yourself and being active in posting? Initiate contact and slowly build rapport. Act like you don’t know so, that he doesn’t think you’re stalking him.

  7. Ko

    September 13, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    My ex and I dated on and off and then was consistent for 2 years and lived together. We known each other for 7 years. We broke up a couple months ago and he started dating his ex. I followed ebr. Now we at the point of consistent phone and in person contact. Recently he slept over we passed out while watching a movie but didn’t have sex I won’t do that without commitment and obviously not in a relationship. He will spend time with me during the day or really late( hr works 2 jobs and doesnt get done u til late and still will spend time with me(talking, games, cooking, etc). He told me I’m more confident and wish how am I now I was when we were together. He told me he is 70 percent invested in me and it’s effecting his relationship. First he said we shouldnt see eachother and then he changed what he said to not seeing each other at my place (I reacted very well). I notice that when we get close he lessen the contact. Omgosh help!!! I understand getting him back is going to take patience and I feel I’m heading in that direction Idk if I should keep doing what I’m doing or modify a bit…

    1. Ko

      September 15, 2017 at 7:45 pm

      Thanks!!!

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 20, 2017 at 10:01 am

      You’re welcome!

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 15, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Hi ko,

      Keep building rapport but dont be too available…have days when you’re out with your friends instead of him

  8. Tanya

    September 1, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    My ex bf & I were together for 7 years & we were engaged. I cheated on him we broke up last June 2016 but we never really stopped talking or seeing each other from then till now. He dated other girls I only went out with 2 guys. June of this year we got back together & we were seeing each other everyday & I was staying at his place some. Thurs August the 24 we got into an argument that morning because he said he didn’t want me there at his house all the time. I got upset & said I won’t be at your house again to pack my stuff & bring it to me. He said he didn’t want that he wanted us together & he wanted to spend that weekend with me. I wouldn’t give in & just telling him to get my stuff to my house. He said he loved me didn’t want it so I insisted. Well he actually did it. He got my stuff & brought to my house. Then that Saturday he went out with a new girl & spent all Sunday with her as well. This whole we were talking to each other. Then this past Tuesday he shows up at my house to see me & we have sex then he leaves. Wednesday was good conversation to but then that night he tells me he asked that girl to go away for the weekend with him but she can’t go he says. Then I get upset at him & tell him he can have her & spend whatever weekends he wants with her cause I was done. That night he text & called me all night till about 1 AM. I never responded. Then Thursday he showed up at my house & he said let’s talk & I said what do we have to talk about with attitude & he gets upset & leaves. He sends me a long text stating he’s given me chance after I cheated he’s tried to fix us & he can’t be around as long as I have attitude. He also goes. On to say he’s never loved any body like he’s loved me, he loves me & always will but he’s not gonna bother me anyone more he’s gonna walk away & start a new life. I don’t respond till this morning. I text he text back he came over we talked he looked me dead in the eye said he loves me he wants back together he wants to give me my ring back he wants us to get married etc etc. I’m over joyed happy & smiling. Then he says he has to go he has somethings to do. Then a lil later he text me & said that the girl got whatever worked out so she could go with him this weekend & he was going out of town with her. He just left my house. I responded with ok & everything u just told me was a lie to have fun that I will go out with someone to. He replies with I’m being honest you ignored me those 2 days & I had made these plans. Then I did the ultimate mistake. I begged. Begged not to do it that I would let this weekend go if he would give us another chance that I loved him I was just hurt & i knew how he felt when I cheated on him. & I didn’t want him doing this. Then he replies with I’m driving it’s raining. So he’s with her now. I’m lost. What do ido? Where do I start to fix this?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 4, 2017 at 7:16 pm

      Hi Tanya,

      do you still want to try the advice in this one?
      Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)

  9. S

    September 1, 2017 at 8:44 am

    Hi,I have a boyfriend who’s from an other country, few days ago we argued about that we are far away and this relationship is senseless,he wanted to break up with him,but the day after I tried to suicide and when he understood he became very sad,and cried,he said you wanted to kill yourself bec me?you wanted to leave me?but I said no I didn’t I just tried ,he said no different you didn’t care a damn about me you destroyed my life and it’s all over, he wanted seriously to breakup but after all my request and that give me chance he did,but he said I don’t have his heart anymore and everything is different between us about the feeling,now I want to atone,now I want he become drunk in my love again,please help me
    I’m in a very painful situation :'(

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 3, 2017 at 7:51 pm

      Hi Setarah,

      Please get professional help or call the suicide hotline in your country first before doing anything else.

  10. Setareh

    September 1, 2017 at 8:28 am

    Hi,I have a boyfriend who’s from an other country,I feel he wanna end with me because we had no meeting,and on the other side I wanted to suicide to make him scary that don’t leave me,but after he understood he became more sad and said it’s all over,you destroyed my life,bec you wanted to kill yourself and after all, he wanted to leave me,but I said a lot please give me chance and so hardly he did,but now he’s cold,he search for a reason to leave me!what can I do?thanks for helping me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 3, 2017 at 7:51 pm

      Hi Setarah,

      Please get professional help or call the suicide hotline in your country first before doing anything else.

  11. Z

    August 27, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    I’ve been doing all of these. Things were going well( he took me out for lunch, he initiated texting and calling, responded to me quickly and it didn’t matter what time, he opened up to me). we hung out until 4am and his gf called him and was pissed. I will say I put boundaries up(as in I won’t and have not slept with him unless he ends his current relationship) after him and his gf fought (which wasn’t the first time) he contact me less and blew me off. If intimate contact he will text back but not as quick as before.
    His gf knows that I’m still in the picture and she doesn’t like it and continues to post pics and tag his name so I can see it. She appears that she happy and unbothered and that their relationship is good. I don’t know if that’s true or for show.
    Lastly my ex told me that his current relationship there communication and trust. And yet he didn’t tell her we contact each other and spend time together…she found out by snooping and well women know when something is up.

    I’m trying to patient but I don’t know what to do. Feel like she won. I’m trying everything. Everything has worked up until now(I followed the EBR, unbearable girl, and texting bible, and the articles) Idk maybe I should give up…please help

    1. Z

      August 28, 2017 at 6:54 pm

      For about 2 or 3 weeks. Nothing that time his current gf has Facebook messaged me and Ignored it. She has delete my profile from his netflix. He asked me if I texted his gf our messages and I told him I didn’t. I think she snooped through his phone but I didn’t say that to him. After we spend time together until 4am and he and his gf had another argument I noticed he has been distant and she took a pic of herself tagged him. I notice he doesn’t reach out as much but will respond when I texted. Currently this is my 3rd not initiating text. He’s been acting this way for a week now

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 28, 2017 at 8:15 pm

      ah, you’re just starting.. usually, other here takes 4-6 months in building rapport to get an ex back .

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2017 at 2:25 pm

      how long have you been doing the being there method?

  12. Lauren Richardson

    August 26, 2017 at 2:22 pm

    Hello Chris,
    Before seeing this post I started no contact. The guy and I were not official at the time, but he basically ended things with me because we had began to argue a lot, and he started dealing with someone else (I know he’s dealing with someone but he didn’t come out and say it, even though he technically was “single.”) I stopped talking to him, then started back when his mom contacted me when something bad happened. I was there for him, then he said something that made me mad (it was NOT about another female), and plus though he reached out to me and his mom did, I felt he was still involved with someone else, so my feelings were still fragile. So I told him to kiss my backside when he said what made me mad and I then started no contact. This is the first post I’ve read on this site that doesn’t suggest doing NC first. Unless I’m missing something… Anyhow, I’m 15 days into NC and he has called and texted the whole time, and popped up at my place, catching me before I went in, twice, questioning me about not answering his calls/texts. He has always talked to me because I know his secrets and he trusts me with his personal business and thoughts. I know this is something he misses because he texted saying he missed it and that I’m the only one to ever really listen to him. So do I end no contact and follow the steps in this post??? What to do!?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2017 at 1:33 pm

      did you mean the being there method? actually the advice above should be done after the no contact period.. If you’re friendzoned and you’ve already built up rapport, but of course you’re friendzoned, it would be better to say a clean slate message or text first before starting nc. Like, being friends is not workable for me now and then start nc.

  13. Jessie Marie

    August 15, 2017 at 4:32 am

    Hi it’s me again. I have been doing all these things, but my ex boyfriend is having problems with he easily get a attached to people. He’s attached to me still, but he’s still attached to his current girlfriend. She is controlling, and all they do is fight and argue. So my question is, how can I help so my ex boyfriend won’t feel like he will regret making a decision to break up with her? He told me that himself, and he said he feels like he will one day realize that he can’t live without her. He’s attached to her and me. Please help, thanks in advance!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 15, 2017 at 10:36 pm

      He’s not.. He just wants the best option for him and him alone.. He thinks about which choice he’s going to be happier, you think about how he’s going to be happier too..

      Who thinks about your self respect?

      If he wants you, he has to be a man and deserve you..

      Dont make yourself as just “one of” his options. If you respect yourself enough, you know he shouldn’t even be thinking like that..

      If he really loves the other girl, he has to man up and leave you.. If he really wants you, he has to man up and make it work with you..

  14. Jessie

    August 15, 2017 at 4:30 am

    Hi it’s me again. I have been doing all these things, but my ex boyfriend is having problems with he easily get a attached to people. He’s attached to me still, but he’s still attached to his current girlfriend. She is controlling, and all they do is fight and argue. So my question is, how can I help so my ex boyfriend won’t feel like he will regret making a decision to break up with her? He told me that himself, and he said he feels like he will one day realize that he can’t live without her. He’s attached to her and me. Please help, thanks in advance!

    1. Jessie

      August 16, 2017 at 2:15 am

      So I don’t want to be mean. Ibe already told him a lot of times that he needs to make the decision up now. But they have no clue that my ex boyfriend is the father of my baby. I know he is, but they don’t. So until then they’re both waiting until the DNA test comes back and if it’s positive, his current girlfriend is going to leave him. Thanks for your advice, I understand that my ex doesn’t need to wait this out any longer, but his current girlfriend is controlling and I can’t text him unless he does first, because he has to text me certain hours when she isn’t there at the house. I know that the DNA test will come back positive, I’m going to wait and let the breaking up part happen; last year I’ve made a lot of mistakes and this time I’m going to wait until the DNA test, and then afterwards I’m going to tell him that he’s the father and we have a son together and we need to be a family.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 16, 2017 at 2:19 pm

      It’s ok to talk to him about the baby once the DNA is out.. He’s a grown man, he can make his own decisions..unless the girl is pointing a gun at him, all decisions made at this point is his own..

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 15, 2017 at 10:36 pm

      He’s not.. He just wants the best option for him and him alone.. He thinks about which choice he’s going to be happier, you think about how he’s going to be happier too..

      Who thinks about your self respect?

      If he wants you, he has to be a man and deserve you..

      Dont make yourself as just “one of” his options. If you respect yourself enough, you know he shouldn’t even be thinking like that..

      If he really loves the other girl, he has to man up and leave you.. If he really wants you, he has to man up and make it work with you..

  15. Annie2

    August 10, 2017 at 3:45 pm

    Thanks, you’re right,I wont try to prove…we meet 2-3times a week,and say goodbye at my door.Before, he was reluctant and said it’s not allowed to come up to my place(I think he referred to the fact he has a gf), but the last two times I was surprised bacause he came up.(to repair my self and then to drink a glass of water)I didn’t expect it because I heard what he said before and I didnt push it after that.When he came up, it happened naturally,I didn’t make it a big deal.What changed for him?Do you think I should use this occasions to get closer to him a little?

    1. Annie2

      September 8, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      Hi:)
      We meet two times a week, and last time I had an idea and I showed him our first text messages from 2,5 years ago.He smiled when he read them,and he asked questions from me to put the memories together. When we said goodbye he was sweet and hugged me more strongly for a few seconds. Do you think I should continue to talk about sweet memories, show pictures…? And is this a good idea to behave confident and show and tell him that I can give more to him than his girlfriend? Thanks in advance 🙂

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 13, 2017 at 12:06 pm

      Continue building rapport but dont over do showing memories, because it would be obvious that you’re trying to get him back

    3. Annie2

      August 13, 2017 at 7:15 am

      Thanks:)I don’t really know how to make him miss me,I was never good at that…Should I disappear for few days when he usually can expect me?My problem that I’m afraid that then he won’t trust me.So he had never had a chance to miss me. Is this would be a good way to make a man miss me?And plus what any further ways are there?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 13, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      check this one:
      The “How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You” Video

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 10, 2017 at 5:32 pm

      yep you should.. I’m not sure what changed. But that’s a good sign for you.

  16. Emma-Louise

    July 25, 2017 at 6:51 pm

    My ex has a new girlfriend they have been together about three months going on four so she’s not a rebound plus it’s the second girl he’s been with since we split up.
    We split up almost a year ago and we stayed talking to each other apart from when he got with his first girlfriend after me I stopped talking to him for a month or so and when he got with his current one I did the same.
    Each time he came back to me and told me he missed me.

    Lately my ex told me he still loved me and what’s us to give it another go in the future but he still has his girlfriend he tells me not to believe everything I see on social media but the things I see they both seem so happy together declaring their love for rachel other and it’s honestly killing me..

    As far as she knows me and him don’t talk at all but he’s coming to see me tomorrow and she has no idea he went away for the weekend with her and we haven’t really spoke because don’t talk to him when he’s with her…

    I’m so lost I’ve no idea what to do I love him so much and I really don’t want to lose him. Can you help please!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 28, 2017 at 4:51 pm

      Hi Emma,

      If he knows you know that he has a gf, it’s either you set a limit on until when you’re going to try with him or move on..

  17. K

    July 23, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    So my ex has a problem with depression and he broke up with me because he needed to work on himself and get his drinking under control. Which I am understanding about because I too suffer from depression but i get help for mine, he does not, yet. He said he loved me and that he was sorry, he didn’t want to hurt me. We officially broke up on July 3rd, I decided to try NC, he said happy birthday to me on the 17th. Then he posts a picture on the 21st of him and this girl. So now I am even more heartbroken and even more confused. I had noticed that she posted the same picture 1 hour before he posted on his Instagram. Her caption was kind of lovey but his caption on his post was the emoji:
    So idk if she’s just a rebound and she’s taking it more seriously than he is. Idk why he would post a picture like that so soon after our brake up do you think it’s to make me jealous?. We had a great relationship for 2 1/2 years but towards the end his depression was getting the better of him and he didn’t want a relationship anymore. That’s what he told me. I also found out that she just graduated higschool this year, so she’s 19 and he’s 21, I just turned 22. She’s moving to Georgia for college this August. Should I continue with the NC and then move to the being there method?

    1. K

      July 23, 2017 at 5:53 pm

      The emoji didn’t show up, but it’s the grimacing face one

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 25, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      she’s probably a rebound and yes, continue on with nc and use the being there method after.

  18. Jen

    July 18, 2017 at 7:13 am

    Hi Chris & the Team. I was listening to your webinar last night and it was really helpful! my relationship lasted just over a year the reason for the split is i had alot of problems with my childs dad he wasnt keeping contact and therefore ruining any plans me and my ex would make so we didnt get much time together. i had alot of things happen in my life in the space of 2 months with starting a job access stopping and money problems so i went into depression and just pushed him away without realising. when i asked why we split he said that it was too much negativity and he couldnt do anything to help. we had spoken about marriage and kids (we have known each other for years are families are close) for awhile even 2 weeks before we split he was saying how much he loved me etc. basically it ended as he wanted to see me more and we could do things like at the beginning where we was always laughing. now 3weeks after we split he met someone else at a festival and now i think theyre seeing each other however she lives in london. with his work shifts and if she has a normal 9-5job i have no idea how it would even work so im guessing its rebound. were now 7weeks after breakup i tried no contact we have spoke a few times but it was regarding a bill and then he messaged asking if i was feeling better i also asked advice about jogging as ive recently started going. Anyway my question is im in a lot better place im going to have more “me” time im having a new look and started exercise and running to channel my negative energy. were meeting up next week so i can get some stuff back how do i tell from his body language and actions if there is still a spark and that there is a chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 18, 2017 at 9:47 pm

      honestly that’s hard to say with just one interaction especially if it’s your first time meeting again.

  19. Bridget

    July 10, 2017 at 11:37 pm

    Hi Chris and Amor,

    I have a question, as I’m trying to assess the situation better. My ex and I, both 28 years old now, were on and off for 2.5 years, during which time we had all the serious talks (marriage, kids, you know the drill, and his friends were very supportive of our relationship). I ended things at the beginning of May for various reasons, but the ultimate reason being I was tired of the drama and no longer knowing where I stood in the relationship. I’m in nursing school full time and I work full time, so I don’t have time for letting arguments get in the way of my future career. I’ve been in NC ever since I ended things, though he did message me on Facebook about a month afterwards trying to meet for coffee and clear the air. (I ended up running into him at a mutual friend’s party where he tried to talk to me then, too, but I simple told him, “You’ve had 2.5 years of my life, at this point I don’t think there’s any air that needs clearing.”)

    Fast forward one month after that, and I’ve been told by this same mutual friend that he has a new girl who is the exact opposite of me in every way, and not in the good sense: she works at a bar near his apartment, parties and gets drunk frequently, apparently does recreational drugs, and is rumored to have… well, ‘gotten around’ with guys that my mutual friend knows. All of this information is apparently well-known and a lot of his friends warned him not to get involved with her; she was even crying to him on his birthday saying how she hopes he doesn’t believe the rumors about her. But they’re talking about potentially moving in together, and she met his brothers at his birthday party. These two things never occurred for us.

    My question is, why do guys regress like this? I’m guessing he’s in “party mode” and so he wants a girl that’s going to cater to that sort of lifestyle, which I definitely won’t. I just find the situation puzzling.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2017 at 11:35 am

      Hi Bridget,
      Check this one:
      The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

  20. L

    July 7, 2017 at 1:08 am

    Hey i need some advice, my ex started talking to another girl within days of deciding to break up and he swore she was a friend and she is quite a lot younger than him and lives hours away so i dismissef it, recently ive got more suspicious that they might be something more but im on day 10 of a 30 day no contact so i cant exactly use any ‘being there’ techniques right now, what should i do? We ended on good terms, should i lower it to a 21 day no contact? Im really scared

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 9, 2017 at 4:46 pm

      Nope…check this one:
      Your Worst Nightmares During The No Contact Rule

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