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5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

  1. Megan

    March 30, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    My ex and I had been together for a little over a year and a half. We both have 2 kids. I always felt that he was the most wonderful gift I had ever received. I believed that we had something true and lasting. He and his ex were in the process of a legal separation prior to us meeting. Five weeks ago, we were discussing what I thought was ” our future and he went blank . At that moment, I realized that we were not on the same page at all. When I thought of the future, I saw him there. It was clear ( probably due to his situation) that he wasn’t sure about what he wanted nor was he sure about ” our” future together. I initiated a break. Time to think for both of us and time for us to work on our independent lives first. The whole thing has backfired on me and I am devastated. He has in fact moved out ( and into his parents home) and his ex bought him out of their home. 2 days ago, he texted me that he was coming by in 15 minutes to get his stuff. There was another text as well that stated he only needed his dress shoes…which I didn’t get because I was in a panic. He arrived, took his things, literally threw them in his truck and left. I’m in shock and despair . Previously throughout our break he said that he was missing me but had too much to deal with and needed more time to process things. Outwardly, I said I understood and had things to deal with myself but inwardly I was sinking lower into a pathetic figment of myself. How could his feelings of happiness and love for me turn around so quickly and how could he be so cruel at the end? I’m doing what I should be doing to help myself but still feel so much pain and anguish over his complete turnaround. Please advise if you can! Thank you, Megan

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 8:57 am

      HI Megan,

      I think it’s because he isn’t really that much invested. And the breakup is what he needed right now because he’s dealing with his separation.

  2. Lily

    March 30, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    So the guy I was dating ended things with me three days ago. He said he felt our relationship getting serious, and that that waasn’t what he wanted. We’ve only been dating for 3 months, but we’ve been friends for over a year, and we wrer both already in love with one another when we decided to give it a shot. When he ended it he was genuinely upset, and he said he didn’t want to lose me. Its now been three days and he has already contacted me, and challenged me in a game, so that i might get my things back. And im uncertain on how to respond. We also work at the same place and have mostly mutual friends, so not seeing him at all would be difficult.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 8:50 am

      Hi Lily,

      You can still do no contact it would just be limited. You would keep you distance and you wouldn’t have small talk, and no talk about your relationship. he has to see, that you only want a committed relationship. If he really doesn’t want a serious one, then you have to decide whether you want to stay knowing that or walk away.

  3. Cassie

    March 29, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    My boyfriend and I had not been on the best terms for about a month and one day he broke up with me out of the blue and was completely nasty about it. He told me he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t miss me when I wasn’t around. Five days later he posted on Facebook (he never used Facebook) that he was in a new relationship. I haven’t talked to him in three weeks now. Him and his new girlfriend are still together and I know he is still very angry with me. I want to get him back but how do I go about doing this?

    1. Confidence

      April 7, 2016 at 9:19 pm

      hey

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 5:57 am

      Hi Cassie,

      you did not talk but did you make it active? Since he’s with another girl, I think you should do that first and be active in posting it. Just don’t caption anything that relates to him or them, the breakup or the relationship.

  4. Nicki

    March 29, 2016 at 11:36 am

    Hi there,

    My ex and I broke up after an intense but quick (2-3months) relationship. He moved cross country but I found out he may have been dating another woman while dating me. After our last conversation I did not contact him anymore since he never responded to my confrontation but have recently began to realize I may want him back. How can I make him miss me or is it too late? I worry that I waited to long to try to get him back and I believe he is seeing someone new. Any help would be appreciated !

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 5:55 am

      HI Nicki,

      Have you tried to move on first? Because if he cheated and he’s with another girl, aside from the fact that he’s far, can you really trust him?

  5. bella

    March 29, 2016 at 8:38 am

    Me and my 5 months boyfriend broke up.before some days .. bot because we dont love each other but because we had other problems ..what exactly idk
    But in the last few days all our conversations would turn into arguments.
    In the begining it was all very good and he was very sweet..being romantic.. always wanting to talk to me and etc
    But then he changed ..eventually.
    I tried asking him many times but he always closed the topic saying he is depressed with some problems and never told me about the problems or would make up some false reason. (In this stage, i always stood by him and tried helping him in every possible way)
    But because he just changed.. communication got less and the romance thingy came in only rarely and every lil convo started to turn into an argument (obvio because i had expectations from him or because i was more into all this than him.. i started to think that he is doing all this on purpose just to push me away and he loves me no more)
    Before sometime he confronted saying i changed coz i was jealous of ur closeness with a friend ( he introduced me to his friend and eventually we got best of friends and after that only me and my ex fell in love .. my realtionship with bff is very normal..no flirting,its just that we keep talking all day)
    He said jealousy turned into anger and depression and then i decided to back off. But everytime he tried .. he ended up being romantic or sweet coz he loved me too much to walkaway. And said that this is it i cant take it anymore and i felt mentally better without you in the last few days( the last few days where he distanced himself from me)
    But within an hour of saying this .. he returned saying i think we could give each other another chance and try working things out (he thinks i am the one at fault while i am not)
    We got back but after some days again the same silly arguments.
    So the last time i was the one to tell him that i want to end this and he was like readily “are you sure about this?” This killed me .. maade me feel like its the only thing he wanted and even then he was joking about the breakup saying he wants his gifts that he gifted me back and etc.
    The next day he msgd ..i didnt reply directly
    And he kept messaging this way asking wtf is wrong with u ..are you okay..been trying to reach u for 2 days now ..i miss you so much love and etc. (This doesnt mean he wished to come back as my bf. He wants us to be friends and telling me that he loves me and misses me still but we aint together coz those too many reasons)
    During these days ..i reply late to his msgs .. reply coldly and hardly show him that i care.
    But he is the one always contacting and after breaking up he even told me i love you twice and i didn’t reply. So NC is not possible here coz he would think am being so dramatic about not contacting him now after we talked for some days after we broke up and would probably just move on.
    Help please!

    1. bella

      April 10, 2016 at 12:15 pm

      He does
      He is just fed up of the fights and thats why want to be friends

    2. bella

      April 10, 2016 at 9:35 am

      I dont know … i kind of feel that nc doesnt work with him , he thinks i am being arrogant
      Yest when i couldnt take it anymore , i talked to him and said i love you too much and miss you and he said i love and miss you too but being together only leads to fights, and the fights will kill our love. Thats y i want u to be my bestie
      I asked isnt it difficult for u to be my friend ..he said it is but its better than the fights so i said okay.
      What do u think about all this?

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 10, 2016 at 10:59 am

      Hmm.. it can mean he still sees you like before

    4. bella

      April 9, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      I made him understand so many times about the jealousy thing … and plus he doesnt see that he flirts with other girls whereas my friendship is very limited.
      Lets not consider the jealosy matter now.
      I dont know what he got in mind ..he never opens up.
      The last time i met him .. i told him i will close my whatsapp coz him being online and not sending me msg hurts and he just casually said that dont .. but after 2 days of it ..i closed it but left my fb open
      So he kept msgng me there like hii … baaee..heey and when i didnt reply, he updated status indirectly telling me “dont act like u r the only one …or that i cant live without you .. i am fine with or without you” and other mean stuff
      It just hurts sooo bad ..i cant take it anymore

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 10, 2016 at 7:24 am

      oh.. are you going to do nc now?

    6. Bella

      April 8, 2016 at 11:03 pm

      The thing is its too late to say that now .. after that we discussed things once and he asked what should we do now I said if u still love me like u used to and promise to treat me like u did earlier …we can surely be togethed but if not … then its over
      he said he still loves me and all but cant treat me like he did back then coz he “changed completly” ..from within or as a person or whatever. I didnt know what to reply so I let it be and the next day we chatted normally on other topics
      “Normally” ..can be described as friends here I guess
      what should I do?

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 10:55 am

      you mean you talked but did you address his jealousy? if he didn’t mention that then do you mean you’re back to being friendly and not arguing anymore?

    8. Bella

      April 8, 2016 at 10:29 pm

      The thing is ..that Its too late to say this now
      In the end .. he asked me what should we do and I told him that Its clear that all the fights and arguments happened coz he changed …and I said if you still love me like before and promise me to treat me the same way as u did earlier …we can still be together amd if not ..then I guess we r done
      he replied saying he loves me but he cant treat me like before coz “he changed completely … from within ..as a person” or whatever
      I didn’t know wht to reply and let it be …the next day we talked normally on other topics
      normally as in as friends I guess
      what should I do now

    9. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 10:55 am

      you mean you talked but did you address his jealousy? if he didn’t mention that then do you mean you’re back to being friendly and not arguing anymore?

    10. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 1, 2016 at 3:39 pm

      HI Bella,
      sorry for the late reply. I think you should talk first. When he says I love you again, that’s a good time to say that you and your friend are really just friends and you understand that he’s jealous but you’re hoping he would also understand that you’re not that kind of person and you need his trust because you can’t just unfriend people especially when you’re not doing anything bad. If he doesn’t listen tell him you need space because talking to him is not helping the both of you and then do nc.

  6. dianne

    March 29, 2016 at 6:48 am

    yesterday theres an unknown person message me on my fb. She told me that she saw my bf with other girls dating and watch movie.
    We are in long distance relationship. so i ask my bf, i confront him if its true.
    then my bf answered me that i told you before that i am unfair to you, lets separate, lets fix our relationship when you get back in our country. don’t call and message me, and i will not do it to you also.
    i answered him ok fine. if thats what you want, ill respect your decision.
    then today my bf message me again. he said, FYI i don’t have gf.
    I don’t know why he says that.
    I’m not replying him cause he said that, don’t message and call, and also he broke up with me and i feel not good that time.
    then my bf ask me, did you know who message you on fb. I answered him No.
    Then my bf says that he don’t know what that unknown person talking about, just don’t mind him.
    then i respond, i said ok.
    Now he’s telling me that i have meeting tomorrow.
    I did not respond to my bf.
    after a little minutes he message me again he said love.
    he’s saying that word like theres nothing bad happened to us, he’s saying that word although he told me that don’t message or call me.
    I’m not responding him. cause all i am thinking is that were separate and were not in a relationship cause it happened yesterday only.
    I don’t know what to do. I still love him.
    do i need to do the NC Rules?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 5:40 am

      HI Dianne,

      sorry for the late reply.. have you talked again?

  7. Alana

    March 29, 2016 at 4:16 am

    I had breakup with ex 3 month ago, suddenly yesterday I received a text message from him saying that he misses me. He claimed he was too hasty in time because immediately after our broke up he immediately declared with his best friend aka harpy woman. In this short time he also had talked about marriage and met his new GF family. My boyfriend admit he still loves me, but he also love with his new GF and now he loves both of us. Difficult to live without the two of us? Should I tell his new GF to resign? Because I believe his new GF too desperate to have a boyfriend and take advantage of the time my ex is still unstable emotion. What should I do now?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 5:34 am

      Hi Alana,

      Nope, your ex should be the one you should talk too. You can observe for a week or two but you have to make it clear in person, that you don’t want to be a girl on the side. Because even if the girl is desperate, it’s still his decision to stay with her.

  8. Please help!

    March 28, 2016 at 6:56 pm

    I started the no contact rule and this is what I’ve got. “Did you still want to send me those letter and tell me something from early?”
    “Can we talk tomorow?”
    “I guess not, I know I’ve been a jerk to you but I’m always going to care about you. If you ever need anything then just ask”

    The last message made my heart sunk. Like this is a good bye and the could we talk would be a farewell.
    Is this the end?! Please tell me what’s going on and if I should still continues the no contact or just give in general. The last message really throws me off and mess me up I don’t know what to do anymore.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 1, 2016 at 12:17 pm

      Hi Teddy,

      Sorry for the late reply. Did you reply to him? If he wants to talk again you can reply. As long it’s a message of sincerity that he really wants to work things out, that’s ok to break nc.

  9. Kristine

    March 28, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    Will it work if it is the second time around? We have broken up twice…
    My boyfriend went missing out of nowhere…we got into an argument and left each other out of frustration but it was clearly unwanted on both ends… Until all of a sudden he stopped responding for about a week. Then messaged me about missing and loving me and went missing again… I have not begged for him, or bothered him but I’m losing hope
    Should I implement nc once again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 4:51 am

      HI Kristine,

      For me yes, and stay firm on it.

  10. Lucy

    March 28, 2016 at 2:43 am

    Hi Amor,

    I’m thinking about getting the program. But I’m not sure if it’s even salvagable because I was with a guy for only a month (but have known him for half a year now because we are coworkers), and during that time we were in a “non-relationship”. He said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. I was needy and ultimately he told me that he doesn’t think we should see each other again because it makes him unhappy. I admit I came on too strong in the beginning and saw him way too much, like 3-4 times a week after work. I was always doubtful about how he feels about me, since I was insecure and he had been single for a long time (like more than 5 years), so he really values his space. There were twice when he brought me along to hang out with his friends though.

    I did NC and he texted me after 2 weeks with a text that means nothing, just a “hi”. I replied back with the same “hi” and he didn’t respond. I didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to reply back then, I didn’t know about your site until now. Anyway, a few days later something really bad happened to me, and I got drunk and ended up sleeping with him. (I know! I’m beating myself up right now.) That was a week ago.

    Since then I read up some guides and during the NC period, I also worked on myself, so I think I’m getting better perspective of my situation. I felt like I made a lot of rookie mistakes because I’m really inexperienced, but I won’t next time. And I am still getting hung up because now that I’m reading these guides, I feel like I can be a better version of myself and not be needy, and it may work. I feel like in the past he has actually been very tolerant of my needy behavior until I escalated it so much. The problem is though we never got to know each other very well. It’s over before it started.

    I am going to restart NC. Thoughts? Did I ruin it forever? Is it worth it to try to get back together? I am struggling in my head between “it’s not meant to be” and “it might work in the future”. I have never fallen for a guy so hard.

    Thanks.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 4:18 am

      Hi Lucky,

      Take it slow first. Do nc, and then try to rebuild the rapport and attraction, if it doesn’t work out, then that’s when you try to move on.

  11. Caitlin

    March 28, 2016 at 12:53 am

    Hi. I am writing because I am completely at a loss. My boyfriend of over 3 years and I just broke up this week and I don’t know what to do. It’s a very long story but I’ll try to shorten it. Over the past few months he has been distant and saying things like he is not sure if he is happy anymore. I found out that he told people at his work we were breaking up. When I confronted him he told me how much he loved me, that he was just in a bad place and he didn’t mean it and he wants to fix our relationship and communicate better. About a week after that, I find out he has been texting and hanging out with a girl from his work (going on dates, movies, etc.) He said nothing happened as in they never kissed or held hands or anything and I actually reached out to the girl and she said the same thing so I told him I was going to take some space and stay with my parents for a week (we lived together) and we could try and work it out. This past Monday, I decided I wanted to go stay in my bed and see our dog who was there so I texted him and told him i was coming. No response. When I get there, I go in our room and there is the girl, with him in the bed we shared (they were both sleeping)! To spare you the details, we had a huge blow out and I ended up moving all of my stuff out later that week. He still insists that they didn’t have sex and he says he is sorry but says he just wasn’t happy anymore. I am so confused because I really had no idea nothing was wrong until this happened. I know I should not want to work things out but we have a life together, a dog together and almost a 4 year relationship. Not to mention, we dated in high school also (6 years between dating) so this has taken up a huge part of my life. This is not the person I know, he used to be sweet and kind and wonderful to me. – I feel as though he’s lost his way and his mind. Is this worth even trying to pursue or should I just let it go?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 4:05 am

      Hi Caitlin,

      People change, that’s just how it is.. whether it’s minimal or complete turn around like that. You’re in a new chapter of your lives compared to being students like before.. The best step is to really do no contact, heal and then assess things after it if you still want to try to get back.

  12. Oonagh

    March 27, 2016 at 7:42 am

    Hi, me and my ex broke up about a month ago because we were finding it difficult as I had moved away for placement for three months. It was all amicable and we both said how much we still cared etc. We agreed to be friends and have since seen each other a few times at events and meeting for coffee etc. He however has started something with another girl and has been plastering it over social media. However, he is blowing hot and cold in terms of talking to me and how he is with me – one minute he is telling me he really cares and he misses me and then the next he gets really short and doesn’t reply. I think if we made the effort then our relationship could have recovered and been ok but we gave up a little too easily. I don’t know what to do now? I still really care about him and miss him a lot and would love to get back together with him but I don’t know how to do that?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 3:36 am

      Hi Oonagh,

      Do you consider doing no contact?

  13. Lisa

    March 26, 2016 at 7:28 pm

    I was in relationship for 2.5,however my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he doesn’t respect and love me.He told that he wants to be friends with me. He tried to contact me 3-4 times and he even came to my home,however I didn’t speak to him properly and asked him to leave. I felt very bad when I did that, but I can’t see him as a friend as I still have feelings for him. Please suggest me what to do? I still want him back.

    He spoke to me 6 weeks, just to ask me about my plans for this summer vacation (we are doing masters). My friends asked not to entertain him, so I just told that I am busy, will speak later.

    He said that he wants to be friends, but I also felt that he wants friends with benefits. When my friend asked him if he will be fine if I will find a new boy friend, he said that he will be so happy. He also told to my one friend that I am smart, but dumb as well. I don’t know what’s going on in his mind.

    2 days before,he told to one of my friend that I hate him now(which is not correct, I never said that I hate him) and he is not the right guy for me. My friend asked me to call him once, meet him and clarify the reason that why is he not ready for the commitment. He is coming to my house this Monday evening to meet me( I guess this will be the last time).

    I want to share my story, we met 2.5 years before. We became friends and then couple in just 1 month. After that we started to hangout with each other all the time. During that time I was planning to write GMAT and he was planning to goto Australia. So, most of my time I spent with him and did not study a lot. I did not get the expected marks. After that I applied in Australia and got admission in the same college where he was studying. After coming here, he asked me why did I have come to Australia, when I told for masters, he got angry that I didn’t come here for him.

    Once he said that we already broke up 3 times and I do not see our future together. It has been 6 weeks we have last seen each other. Since then I was continuing with my classes.

    His problems are what he plans for me, I do not do that. He always criticises me which he doesn’t like and he also says that I am very sarcastic.

    I really want him back. Please suggest me what should I do.

    In call yesterday he told me that ‘I want to say something, but it will be really too quick post breakup. I wanted to tell u after some time’ ,than he told that he will tell when we will meet. I am not sure if he has found another girl or some professional stuff he wants to say.

    1. Lisa

      April 7, 2016 at 10:25 pm

      we used to chat on his new number, however he still sent me a msg today that he has changed his number and keep the new number.

      I was not in contact for 2-3 day, all of a sudden this msg. Should I reply or not?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 6:19 am

      nope..but that’s good sign

    3. Lisa

      April 3, 2016 at 3:38 pm

      Yes, we both talked on phone. He told that he wants a girl who can motivate him professionally and who also looks great and because of these reasons he can not give me commitment because I do not motivate him.

      We talked about this for two days, he even told that this time we can not get back together because I have insulted him.I told sorry for yelling at him, even he has told sorry to me, but he has not yet asked me to get back, then third day he pinged me,but I was busy,he then sent 1 msg to me ‘don’t cry because its over, be happy because it has happened’. Fourth day he called me and he was telling about his internship and all. My friends were at home, they asked me to cut the call as we were having dinner. I told him to call next day. Fifth day when he called I was in my job, so did little chatting. That’s it. It has been 3 day, he hasn’t yet called or texted.

      He is with his friends and enjoying. I saw today his pics on facebook, he went out with his friends today.

      When he called and was telling about internship, I think I shouldn’t have cut the call. That time he was speaking very nice to me.

      When we were fighting, he said that he doesn’t respect me, so I want him to respect and love me again.

      Please suggest what to do.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 4, 2016 at 7:54 am

      Move on and continue improving yourself.. that’s the only way aan would respect you because that means you don’t allow him degrading you..

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 2:33 am

      HI lisa,

      Did he call? What did he say?

  14. Tiffany

    March 26, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    Hi, I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend on Tuesday due to him being in the same city this passed long weekend and he didn’t attempt to see me. I was the one initiating conversation as we were planning for a while to see each other to cut the story short be agreed we weren’t working out and apologized for his behavior over the weekend and asked if we could at least speak in person. I responded to him letting him know we both grown we should cut to the chase and say if we breaking up. Well he didn’t respond to the text and we haven’t spoken since. I’m very gutted right now but would like to know if there is a chance for us if I follow the program?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 2:30 am

      HI Tiffany,

      we can’t guarantee that will but it can help increase the chances.

  15. billie

    March 26, 2016 at 9:38 am

    Well … this is going to be long
    First .. we both are of different religions and we both knew very clearly that we dont have a future together but yet …falling in love wasn’t something in our hands.
    The story is my friend introduced me to him and he introduced me to his friend.. i got more friends with his friend and after that we fell in love
    Everything was tooo good in the begining ..but as the time passed(days only, like things changed too soon) he changed..
    Not so directly .. but slowly slowly he started to change..all the good things started to disappear
    The reason said on being asked “i am depressed” i can swear i tried my best to help him with whatever he was depressed with .. (never told me an exact reason for his depression)
    So basically ..he just changed ..communication got less and arguments increased.
    I admit to try making him jealous a few times on purpose with his friend. But never really thought he cared coz he never showed it.
    But in our last days together, he admitted saying “didnt u realize i changed only after you got too close to my friend”
    Now i have to defend myself here in a summary coz i cant go on writing all the things that i did
    But exept this jealousy part ..i am sure i never did anything unfair to him, always loved him, cared for him, stood by his side and etc etc
    It was him who didnt say it clearly what was in his mind and this is what went wrong.
    He said ur friendship with him got me jealous ..jealosy turned into anger ..anger turned into depression and depression caused me to back off
    So he was simply tring to walkaway by making me hate him or leave him or whatever by stating that he didn’t to put me in a situation where i have to choose between them.
    I would again say that i tried my best to know the reason, to help him but he was just pushing me away ..whenever i complained, he was just like “you should stand by me instead of giving me hell” so i stopped asking or questioning.
    We gave each other a few last chances to solve things out but the problem was we kept arguing the whole day.. every simple lil conversation turns into argument
    I have to mention here that his communication skills are zero and all our conversation were through text. We met but not more often and always with a group of friends. I asked him out many times but he just kept giving excuses.
    And while telling me the actual reason for his depression finally ,he said i felt mentally better after being away fromtou for a while and i would prefer to be alone rather than in a relationship that depresses me to hell.
    When he said ..i thought this was the end ..we did end it there actually but within an hour he came back saying i think we should give each other one more chance and we did .
    But again all in vain .. we only argued
    I can say that the reasons of our arguments were that i expected alot from him .. i wanted him to be romantic and as good as he was before (but i never kept nagging about it though) and idk whatever that was in his mind but he never seemed to see his mistakes and always blaming me for everything but it was quite clear that it was all because he changed and may be his feelings changed. Thats why all the communication got less and we didnt have anything to talk about. He was being rude ignorant and yes very clearly i wasnt his priority at all ..he didn’t miss me and didnt even put any efforts or tried to keep it working .
    So the last time was me telling him that i have had enough and its not working and i want to end it .. (i said after again finishing an argument ) and he was directly like “are you sure about this” and then joked that hey i want my gifts back that u gave me and he was just soo cool about it. He slept in the middle of the discussion and that just showed me he doesnt care at all.
    But somewhere i do have a feeling that he does love me and miss me but just an asshole to not being able to show it
    (*he had the same experience with his ex*)
    After that .. i started acting cold towards him .. he tried msgng (he still wants to be friends saying i love you but lets just stay friends coz i miss you so much) but i would reply late and reply only in one lines and i dont talk unless he starts a topic (earlier i used to try too much to talk to him and always showed him that i care and i miss him)
    I have deleted his number so he cant see my last seen nor my status nor my dp but i guess he havent realized that yet. He thinks i just hid it from everyone else as well.
    Before 2 days he msgd saying:
    “Him: wtf is wrong with you? Are you okay?
    Me:….?!
    You think am not?
    Him: chill..am just asking .
    Me: oh i see. No i am fine thanx.
    Him: been tryinng to reach u for 2 days now.
    I miss you.
    Me : lol..how are you?
    Him: I MISS YOU SO MUCH LOVE”
    and now he has his dp removed and kepy updating status like
    “Aint no sunshine when she is gone.
    There is never a happy ending. <3
    And some sad faces."
    My friends think this is when he will start missing me and realize my value coz i earlier gave him a lot of importance and he took me for granted. So they think he will realize and get back to me in some days.
    I think that this is just the begining to the end.. yes he does miss me now but me not talking to him will help him move on or atleast him missing me doesnt mean that he still loves me or wants me back yea? May be he just misses me as that person who cared for him and he lost her now.
    What do u think i should do ? Jealosy thing? Show him that am happy or keep my status pic hidden from him not giving him any hints or showing him that i am depressed?
    How do i make him realize his mistake?
    what do u think i should do? What do u
    Think after knowing my story.. will get back to me or am i just helping him to move on?
    One more reason i think he will move on coz he experienced the same things with his ex ..they kept arguing and broke up . He did miss her too. (Dont know if he wanted to get back to her) and that even if he does love me and miss me ..may be he would think that we will just keep fighting as we tried many times and thats why might think that its better to not get back together regardless of our feelings?
    Please help..

  16. Nicole

    March 25, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    Hey I need some advice . my bf just broke up with me because of my behavior /attitude . I’ve been doing the NC rule but he keeps texting emailing and calling but because I’m not responding it’s like his emails are getting a bit mean . what should I do? Still continue with the NC rule ? Does he still love me even though he’s being mean ? One minute it’s a nice text but because I don’t answer it’s like he’s getting mad?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      HI Nicole,

      If he’s mean dont’ answer because you will just fight. That’s like his tantrum

  17. Lisa

    March 25, 2016 at 6:49 pm

    I was in relationship for 2.5,however my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he doesn’t respect and love me.He told that he wants to be friends with me. He tried to contact me 3-4 times and he even came to my home,however I didn’t speak to him properly and asked him to leave. I felt very bad when I did that, but I can’t see him as a friend as I still have feelings for him. Please suggest me what to do? I still want him back.

    He spoke to me 6 weeks, just to ask me about my plans for this summer vacation (we are doing masters). My friends asked not to entertain him, so I just told that I am busy, will speak later.

    He said that he wants to be friends, but I also felt that he wants friends with benefits. When my friend asked him if he will be fine if I will find a new boy friend, he said that he will be so happy. He also told to my one friend that I am smart, but dumb as well. I don’t know what’s going on in his mind.

    2 days before,he told to one of my friend that I hate him now(which is not correct, I never said that I hate him) and he is not the right guy for me. My friend asked me to call him once, meet him and clarify the reason that why is he not ready for the commitment. He is coming to my house this Monday evening to meet me( I guess this will be the last time).

    I want to share my story, we met 2.5 years before. We became friends and then couple in just 1 month. After that we started to hangout with each other all the time. During that time I was planning to write GMAT and he was planning to goto Australia. So, most of my time I spent with him and did not study a lot. I did not get the expected marks. After that I applied in Australia and got admission in the same college where he was studying. After coming here, he asked me why did I have come to Australia, when I told for masters, he got angry that I didn’t come here for him.

    Once he said that we already broke up 3 times and I do not see our future together. It has been 6 weeks we have last seen each other. Since then I was continuing with my classes.

    His problems are what he plans for me, I do not do that. He always criticises me which he doesn’t like and he also says that I am very sarcastic.

    I really want him back. Please suggest me what should I do.

    1. Lisa

      April 4, 2016 at 9:32 am

      Is there any chance I can get him back? Should I speak to him as a friend or avoid contact?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 4, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      For me you avoid contact and move on.. after what he said.. it would appear you are ok with people saying to you don’t look great and degrading you

    3. Lisa

      April 2, 2016 at 9:44 pm

      He even told that this time we can not get back together because I have insulted him.I told sorry for yelling at him, even he has told sorry to me, but he has not yet asked me to get back.

      he sent 1 msg to me on 3rd day: don’t cry because its over, be happy because it has happened.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 4, 2016 at 7:54 am

      Move on and continue improving yourself.. that’s the only way aan would respect you because that means you don’t allow him degrading you..

    5. Lisa

      April 2, 2016 at 9:40 pm

      Yes, we both talked on phone. He told that he wants a girl who can motivate him professionally and who also looks great and because of these reasons he can not give me commitment because I do not motivate him.

      We talked about this for two days, then third day he pinged me,but I was busy. Fourth day he called me and he was telling about his internship and all. My friends were at home, they asked me to cut the call as we were having dinner. I told him to call next day. Fifth day when he called I was in my job, so did little chatting. That’s it. It has been 3 day, he hasn’t yet called or texted.

      He is with his friends and enjoying. I saw today his pics on facebook, he went out with his friends today.

      When he called and was telling about internship, I think I shouldn’t have cut the call. That time he was speaking very nice to me.

      When we were fighting, he said that he doesn’t respect me, so I want him to respect and love me again.

      Please suggest what to do.

    6. Lisa

      March 25, 2016 at 7:05 pm

      In call yesterday he told me that ‘I want to say something, but it will be really too quick post breakup. I wanted to tell u after some time’ ,than he told that he will tell when we will meet. I am not sure if he has found another girl or some professional stuff he wants to say.

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      Hi Lisa,

      Sorry for the late reply. How are you? Have you two talked?

  18. Ninie

    March 25, 2016 at 11:53 am

    Hi

    I recently broke up again with my boyfriend. I am a single mom and he is amazing with the kids but with us its a different story. The first time i dumped him simply because he claimed to be a private person and was very selfish in the sense that he inly saw me when he wanted to and basically my feelings did not matter. 4 months later we got back together. But when we did i asked him if he wanted to be back he should consider the points we spoke about that led to our break up.

    Everything was ok but his cycle started again. Selfishness and being egotistical. He behaved like i did not matter and never communicated much. I felt so alone and felt like he was cheatingbon me so i asked him point blank. We argued and ended up breaking up again.

    I blame myself for not being patient.he is 20 years older than me so i guess he is set in his own ways. I miss him so much and its worse because my kids keep asking about him.

    I really want him back but he hasn’t made any attempt to contacr me.i don’t know what to do

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      Hi Ninie,

      If he’s really like that we can’t force him to change. It will hurt but you have to leave when you know you’re not being loved. If you stay he will just do the same thing. If he really loves he will make an effort for you

  19. Meep

    March 25, 2016 at 10:09 am

    My coworker and I were flirting a lot. I could make him blush and giggle just by going up to him and laughing. We always smiled and gave long eye contact every time we interacted. We seemed to have so much in common. I told him I liked him and he freaked out bc we are coworkers. Needless to say, that was the end, but he walked by me later, giving that same great eye contact that asked for my attention. I looked at him also and we exchanged an acknowledgment, almost felt like an “are you ok” check in. Another day we all went to lunch together and we chatted fine, he even cracked some jokes. I still hear him laughing bc of me and copying me here and there, but it’s not the same. At lunch he said that he hasn’t been too hungry lately and I wonder if it’s bc he felt bad about rejecting me, or maybe I made that up to make myself feel better. Yesterday he was slightly mean to me for no reason. It wasn’t bad, just a little attitude when I asked for his support with a task, which is what his job is. It hurt. I’ve been dressing up and trying to look as hot as I can. I know it drives my coworkers crazy – mostly men, and he used to be one of them. How can I get his attention back to the point where he’s ready to break his rule to not date coworkers? I feel like we would be such an awesome couple!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 12:48 pm

      HI Meep,

      HOw are things now? Actually if he sees you stop trying, that ould increase the chances because he would be the one to chase… Just maintain being you but don’t chase him

  20. freakinconfused

    March 24, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    Hey guys! This read was really helpful for me. Props to this guy who comes up with these good analogies lol.

    So my story in a nutshell;
    Met “Bob” like 6 months ago, things have been literally storybook perfect from day 1. Things moved really fast but we were (or seemed to be) completely on the same
    Page so it was amazing. He told me all the time how ridiculously in love with me he was and how happy I made him, etc. And we had the perfect communication with each other, if I ever had some questions or something I felt weird about, I was totally comfortable bringing it up and talking about it and vise Versa. Literally the kind of incredible connection that people wish to find their entire lives.
    So a couple weeks ago, his job got superrr busy and stressful and we were both sick and lacking sleep and starting bickering a bit, had our first fight and what not. I said “I feel like you’re not giving 100%” to this relationship anymore” which I totally regret because in retrospect he really just had so much other stuff going on, and I was being a needy brat. But he apparently took that comment and ran with it. Completely randomly, he broke up with me saying “he doesn’t see it lasting, he thinks eventually down the road we are gonna break up and it would be easier for both of us to just do it now. ” like wtf? It made noooo sense. Things were literally so happy and so good. We had that best friend connection and insanely good sex. and I did sooo much for him. Helped him clean his apartment, left him little sticky notes, surprised him with little stuff, etc.. I’m so confused as to where I went wrong, ya know? And he was so set on this decision to break up because he says he just has this “bad gut feeling that a breakup is eventually inevitable” – which I said he’s clearly just scared because he’s never been in love before.
    I obviously did the whole begging thing at first because I was SO blindsided, he ended up telling me that he’s gonna just take some time, now that work has calmed down and he’s sleeping better, to really think and try to get over all this “gut feeling” bullshit so we can hopefully be together, because he loves me so much and doesn’t want me out of his life and blah blah blah.
    But then the next day I read about the no comment rule. And stopped. Day after that when he dropped off my stuff we talked again, he seemed a little more positive about the potential of him getting over this nonsense. Kept hugging me and telling me how much he hates this whole thing and how much he loves me and knows he would never find another connection like this (you can see why I’m so damn confused lol).

    SO, I hit him with the “I need to take a few weeks to think about some stuff with myself too. So after today do NOT contact me, and I will call you when I’m ready.” He looked so sad and shocked when I said that, which secretly made me kinda happy lol. And all he said was “well can I still text you goodnight later…?” with the saddest puppy dog eyes. Which he did and we haven’t spoken since. It’s been like 4 days and I’m keeping strong. There’s a little jam-band concert I got us tickets to months ago that’s in 2 and a half more weeks, so that was gonna be when I contacted him again to just hangout and have fun- not talk about anything and see how the night goes.
    So my questions are, did I screw up the whole no-contact thing by telling him not to contact me? And is 3 weeks enough time? And is the concert/fun date night a good idea? It’s kind of a unique situation I think because he’s still considering the relationship so I’m just massively confused. I also really think that things got so serious so fast, and he’s never felt anywhere near the feelings he has for me (which he’s told me multiple times), that he’s honestly scared. He’s being a complete little bitch and taking the easy way out. I really hope he comes around and stops being a freakin idiot because we had the perfect thing going.
    Thanks in advance for any help :)❤️

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 11:27 am

      HI Freaking confused,

      As long as you didn’t tell him how long the no contact is, that’s fine. Are you in no contact now?

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