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5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

  1. Marilyn

    September 28, 2016 at 5:30 am

    My boyfriend and I were engaged for 3 months, proposed on my birthday, and together for about 3 years on and off. Well, he and his ex-wife have 3 kids together and talk all the time. Recently i found messages about him and her being more friendly with one another besides dealings with the kids. I asked for this to stop and he said he did but then I saw he was lying. So i left and gave him back almost everything he gave me. After about a month I asked him to remove the 5 lines off my cell account and he only took 3 and then showed up at my job and handed me the remaining 2 phones. I recently came across him selling off the items he gave me online. Short of the jewelry. He called me names and of course I smarted off just the same. Now I am in a no contact with him. Which has worked before in the past with us breaking up. However, I do miss him and love him but am wondering if he will try to come back and fix this or are we really over? I know he is going through a lot with his grandmother dying, taking financial responsibility over the family (parents), and no steady job. However, when we were together he really got his stuff in order. The job he has, he doesn’t know I called in a favor for him but then let my contact go when we broke up so he isn’t getting the steady income. Everyone says he will be back, however, with a broken engagement and how dirty our words got, him showing up at my place of business to try and cause a scene, and then selling off items leads me to believe we are more than likely done. What should I expect?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 29, 2016 at 9:51 am

      Hi Marilyn,

      yeah there’s less chance that he will so that means you have to do at least 45 days of nc.. what did you mean that he was being nice to his ex?Were they getting flirty?

  2. Samantha

    September 27, 2016 at 8:31 pm

    Me and my boyfriend were in a relationship for a year and 3 (almost 4 months), he broke up with me on August 29th 2016 because “his feelings had changed, he wasn’t in love with me anymore” but he still wants to be friends? Anyway, only a week later we got back together because I managed to convince him that he made a mistake, but we broke up. It’s been 2 weeks since then, and the last time I spoke to him was Saturday (24th September), I am 100% willing to do no contact, however I have two problems. One is that he said he wants to be friends but I really want him back. The other one is that both me and him share exactly the same friends, both a mix of his and my friends. I don’t want to not go out because I don’t want him to stop me from seeing my friends but then again I want to do no contact. Plus, my friends tried to make plans with all the rest of the group, they did ask me to come however I said no because my ex would be there, but I later went out anyway because I wasn’t going to stop him from seeing my friends. So, what do I do? I really want to do no contact and get him back, but with the friendship group I have it is proving difficult. Help!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2016 at 7:47 pm

      Hi Samantha,

      You have to have a serious talk with him that you will be needing your space to move on. And you need to skip some events with him but whenever you are with him and friends, just be civil. Don’t initiate a conversation. Be polite if he approaches you but be reply short and don’t be engaging.

  3. Kirti

    September 27, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    Hey, I am following NC rule, but the problem is my ex is in a rebound relationship & the other girl has understood my intentions & efforts of getting him back. I feel she is playing with his mind or idk what is going on that end. Just help me what should I don in this situation????

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      Hi Kirti,

      How long have you been in nc? That means you really need to make it seem that you are moving on during nc.. and you need to be careful in talking to him again after nc. He has to think that you’re just being friendly. Listen to this one:

      What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

  4. Salmansayed

    September 27, 2016 at 7:15 am

    Hi, i am 26 years old girl and my ex is 25 years old.. We started our relationship in 2013.. At the begining of the relationship we decided that we will marry in 2013 as he will het a job by this time..
    We had very few dates as i had less opportunity to go out.. But he never said he is not happy with me.. We used to meet after my classes..
    In August 13,2016 while we met after my classes we snapped some pictures using his phone.. We were watching those pictures.. At that time someone was making calls on his facebook messenger.. I wanted to see who is the one making calls and i opened his messenger (it was logged in).. I saw his conversation with 4 more girls.. The way they were chatting was like they are bf/ gf.. One of the girls came to visit him at his house .. I sent one of our pictures to one of those girls from his messenger and said ” my girlfriend Asdfg”.. He cried and said they all are just friend.. They are trying to make relationship with me but i am not interested.. But his conversation with them says he is interested.. He called one of the girls i asked her ” how you know him..? Where do you live..? where do you study..?” The girl said she is in offiece and busy.. then i disconnected the call…He said he will not repeat these again and said sorry to me.. I forgave him but was very angry inside.. The next day i received a messege on facebook from the girl whom he called.. that girl said ” this boy is a cheat, he played bf/ gf with me several days, he exactly does not know how many gf he has..” I kept talking to the girl for several days and she says many negative habits he has.. she added some pictures of them both.. my anger increased more.. The girl is his neighbour too..I posted pictures on facebook saying the punishment of betrayal at the day of judgment.. I repeated this for several days and he deactivated his facebook..
    I didn’t talk to him well fir the next few days.. During those days he asked me for shopping, dating but i refused..
    In August 30,2016 i was so much angry at him and said ” your love for me was not genuine.. If it was then you never could make relationship with other girls.. You character is not good.. You feel lonely at home that is why we invite girls at your place..” Hearing all these he sad ” it is the time to break up, forgive me”..
    After 1 hour i made calls to him but he did not receive.. I made call all day long but he did not receive.. At night he texted me ” i dont love u anymore.. Forget me.. I dont want to talk to you.. I am not good, u should not love me..” Stopped texting and calling him.. But 2/3 days later i again started calling him.. I sent him text saying ” i am sorry for whatever i said.. plz don’t get upset.. i love u”.. At that day, August 5, 2016 he texted me ” no need to say sorry to me.. It is not your fault.. Someone said you something wring about me and you misunderstood me.. I had some dream with toy but because of you i couldn’t make them come true.. I quit.. I am leaving the city and will not come here anymore.. I have nothing more to talk to you.. You don’t love me anymore.. Forgive me and stay good” .. Reading the text i became so frustrated that started to beg and plead.. I sent him lots of messeges pleading but he did not reply.. I said ” plz come back.. Don’t go leaving me.. I am so lonely.. I have no one other than you.. Plz stay in my life at least as a friend..” But he did not reply.. I called him several times and he received my call once but did not talk.. He allowed me to hear the sound around him which was indicating that he is in some public teansport and traveling.. I called him and texted him for the next 5 days and then stopped.. After 11 days he came back to the city but informed me not.. His ex who is his neighbour informed me.. I wanted meet him but did not.. He did not blocked my number.. I am in his whats app list.. He does not visit whats app.. He remains online in viber but i dont have viber account.. He has not blocked me in skype too.. By the way in August 1, 2016 i sent him an e mail saying ” finally and successfully i forgot you.. I have someone new in my life.. Sorry that i bothered you for the last few days.. I am not going to bother you anymore.. Thank u for everything and stay happy..” Despite of sending such e mail i kept pleading, begging and texting him on his phone..
    Now i have no contact with him for 2 weeks.. It seems he has no feelings for me.. He is very happy in his life.. He has other girls in his life.. I miss him badly.. I really want him back.. What should i do..? Should i meet him..?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2016 at 1:19 pm

      Hi Salmansayed,

      Hmm.. He cheated on you but it was you who ended up begging.. I think you should check this one first:
      EBR 056: My Ex Boyfriend Cheated On Me Multiple Times… What Do I Do?

  5. nicola

    September 27, 2016 at 7:09 am

    Hi. My ex and I broke up in March for 1 month and it was me who ended it because I suffer from depression and when it comes, I get anxiety and hate on everyone especially the people closest to me. I thought I was being cruel to him so I told him we should break up. He wanted me back from day one. We got back together things were great but I then stopped my medication and now he’s broke it off with me! He thinks I need to sort myself out first before I dedicate myself to anyone. We’d of been together two years, we had brilliant holidays together and one planned which would of been last week. I’ve contacted him on and off for the past 4 weeks. This is my first week of no contact. The last thing he said to me was “I know I’ll regret splitting up with you” but he thinks it’s what’s best just now for both of us. I agree with him but part of me is hurt that he could leave me like this. He’s such a strong person and is scared that I will just stop my medication again and become even worst! I’m scared that if I use these tactics of appearing to be better off without him then he will maybe leave me to it. He thinks he’s the reason why I’m unhappy. I love him and the pain of not having him is only getting worst, not better. What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2016 at 12:57 pm

      Hi Nicola,

      looks like he got tired and he wants you to be independent. He needs to see that you can really handle it, learn to grow so, that you’ll be ready for a relationship. That’s what you need to start working on during no contact and continue doing after no contact while rebuilding rapport with him. You should do 45 days because you kept contact for a long time..

  6. Julia

    September 27, 2016 at 12:52 am

    My ex broke up with me because he wants to focus more on study. (We were dating for 1 year). He also was dating a girl before me when he was 16-18, and then after they broke up this year he dated a girl as a rebound for a month. A couple months after that we got together (October last year) and have been dating ever since then untill a week ago. He also said he wants time to be single, which I think is fair enough because he never had a chance, but if there anyway we could be together in the future? And how would I do that without him dating someone else? When he broke up I think he already fell out of love with me. PLEASE HELP! Need advice

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2016 at 9:02 am

      Hi Julia,

      well you cant control him if he dates others.. It’s not a guarantee that nc will work but if you want you can try it. Try what’s advised above

  7. Aparna

    September 26, 2016 at 11:48 am

    Hey , my boyfriend broke up with me amonth ago. The reasons are like he doesn’t have a career nor a job and we both are from different religion.So he says to think practically that its not gonna work out in future.We dated for almost 2 years.He does his fathers business now , so can’t assure a future with me it seems.Saying all this he wanted a breakup and it happened.At first I begged a lot but now we text like good friends.He still texts me normally(just like to a friend).But I need him back in my life.What should I do ? Please do help me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 26, 2016 at 1:18 pm

      Hi Aparna,

      He friendzoned you. You should check this one:
      EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

  8. Destiny

    September 25, 2016 at 6:31 am

    We got together in March 2015 and in July he had to leave for about 6 months and we stayed together throughout the time he was gone and he came back in December and said he needed space so we took a break for about 3 days and then he left a note outside my window saying how much he loved me and he was so sorry for questioning our relationship , then later on during Valentine’s Day I caught him flirting with an old friend on Instagram and while I was in school he went to her house to take her a snack and I still forgave him later on around April I caught him flirting with 2 of his coworkers and then let it go again then the next month a customer came in and gave him her number and he was trying to contact her I let all of this go and stayed with him last month something really big happened with his little sister and I was there for him and his entire family and I’ve always been like that when I don’t really like them they aren’t my favorite people but I was always there and always forgave and on Wednesday he texted me while he was at work saying he needed space and he didn’t know what he wanted anymore and I expect so much of him which isn’t true because everytime something important happened in my life he wasn’t there after all this I still want him back , or should I even try at this point please help .

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 25, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      Hi Destiny,

      You always forgave him and you always stayed.. Let’s say, try a different approach first before totally moving on.. Think of this as the last chance for you and him. Do 30 days no contact. Focus in improving yourself and follow what’s advised above.

  9. Candice

    September 24, 2016 at 11:59 am

    Hi everyone, here’s a little story.
    I’m 23 and my ex boyfriend is 31. We’ve been in a relationship for one year and some. About 8 months I guess everything was so beautiful we almost couldn’t believe it was real but short after that we started to have arguments, most of them started by him, because of the most nonsensical reasons. Basically he tended to stat a dramatised “we don’t have a future” scenario from childish facts that wouldn’t take more than a minute discussion to set forth in a normal couple. We had two previous attempts to break up, all initiated by him, all based on the grounds that “I don’t care enough for him”. Well, that is not true because I love him with all my heart and he knew that and I always trief to fulfill his needs the best I could. Anyways, the first attempt of breaking up ended with him showing up at my place saying it was exaggerated and we should give relationship a second chance, and the second attempt ended up with a discussion which he ended up in tears (for the first time) saying that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him and he wants me back, bagging not to hurt him. I was crying too. We got back together and the moments after that were some of the most genuinely happy of our relationship, really. I never felt him happier and I was as happy as him too. Well, after a month and some since then (a few days ago), we had an argument because of a reason as childish as before. After a day or two when he gave me the cold shoulder, he hit the roof in a conversation thru text messages and tells me he’s done because the classic “lack of care” of mine. The day after, I took my things from his place, I asked him if this is really what he wants to do, he nodded yes and I left. We had no contact since then. It is pretty devastating, but quite comforting too, because I can’t live in such instability. I would want things to be beautiful again, when he was’t so temperamental and did’t make me look like the bad guy everything happens. Is the NC bound to make him realise what he truly feels and wants, should I start it, or should I move on regardlessly?

    1. Annie

      September 25, 2016 at 4:00 am

      I’ve been dating this guy for four months, it was all going great until the past few weeks. I’ve been a little bit needy as I got laid off work and ive been little bit down. His work is going great he started up a business two years ago and is very busy with it, travelling the world a lot. I know I’ve been on his case a lot recently to see me and when I stayed with him last week and I bought him a customised basketball jersey of his favourite team as a surprise but he thought it was too much and set off alarm bells. He messaged me the next day saying he wanted to stop dating as its getting too much for him with all the love (he said I love you first) the gift and me wanting to see him/leaving my overnight bag at his apartment. I called him after and I was really cool on the phone, we were even laughing about things- then we came to an agreement to maybe go back to just seeing each other like in the beginning. I’ve not contacted him since then and he hasn’t contacted me but he’s been on a work trip to New York for 3 days in between. It’s been 8 days since the call. What do I do?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 25, 2016 at 12:22 pm

      Hi Annie,

      it was too fast for him.. Do you want to try no contact? And follow what’s advised above too?

    3. Candice

      September 24, 2016 at 3:49 pm

      Another question would be how exactly should I break the silence after the NC period because if he will contact me in the meantime and I won’t answer he will eventually freak out and conclude he hates me. For example, when I was at work and not answer to a text for an hour because I had an unexpected meeting, he freaked out sending me a lot of angry messages in which he acused me for intentionally not looking at the phone as flirted around with my colleagues (of course, not true). So I assume that if a go thru the NC, immediately after I would say anything I would get the “WHAT THE HECK DID YOU DO ALL THIS TIME? YOU WERE NOT THERE WHEN I WANTED TO TALK TO YOU! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!” How can I avoid such scenario and all the justification?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 24, 2016 at 9:24 pm

      HI Candice,

      Address it first before doing nc, just don’t mention the no contact rule. Like saying, thank you for everything. I realized you’re right. We need space from each other and I especially need it. So, I won’t be replying nor texting for some time to help myself. I know you will understand. I’ll reconnect once I’m ready. Take care.

      and then do nc..
      There’s not guarantee that it will make him change his mind but it can increase the chances. He might even try to be angry when you don’t reply but stay strong. You can break nc if he says he wants you back. I think it would be better if you check the articles about that and the other article for a first contact message.
      EBR 046: Can You Ever Break The No Contact Rule?
      EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

  10. eman

    September 22, 2016 at 11:24 pm

    hi, I broke up with my bf since 5 days now actually today is the 6th day and I ddnt find anything from him I’m blocked everywhere and whenever I can reach him he blocks me everywhere and I got him a apology flower he actually rejected it and I really miss him I don’t think he’ll come back so I need your answer back please?

    1. eman

      September 25, 2016 at 1:51 pm

      sure i won’t talk to him 30 days and i’ll wait.. he said he’ll pick up his sister he late reply me and 3 hours he didn’t text me and then i snap chatted story and he got angry cause i ddnt take care of him then he blocked me everywhere.. what should i do more?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 25, 2016 at 6:16 pm

      he said you didn’t take care of him when he was the one who was not replying?
      Focus in improving yourself… check this one so you’ll have an idea on what to do during no contact:
      EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant

    3. Annie

      September 25, 2016 at 12:29 pm

      That was exactly what he said it went too fast… I’m on day 8 of no contact… Do you think I have a chance of turning it around?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 25, 2016 at 4:20 pm

      Yeah, I think so.. Just don’t rush it after nc.. And be proactive in improving yourself..And check this out too:
      The Ungettable Girl

    5. eman

      September 24, 2016 at 7:21 pm

      I’m 20 years old and he’s 20 too! 9 months together on December we’ll complete 1 year together.. now almost 7 days he didn’t talk to me what should I do?

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 25, 2016 at 9:44 am

      Ok.. He blocked you and not reaching out to you, so the better option is to do 30 days no contact. Why did you break up with him?

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 23, 2016 at 5:40 pm

      Hi Eman,

      why did you break up? How old are you both and how long were you together? And stop begging or chasing him now..

  11. Vivi

    September 22, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    Hi, Amor. I posted here a couple of weeks ago and I wanted to follow up. Since the break up had happened, I’ve been working a lot on self improvement like you stated. I’ve managed to make a few acquaintances through my classes at my University. Ironically, they bonded with me through the explanation of my break up. But I haven’t posted anything online to show I’ve changed as a person. Anyone looking at my profiles would think that I’ve disappeared completely because I’ve been so inactive. It’s been 2 months since the break up took place. That’s more than 30 days and counting. My Ex is still in the relationship with his friend he left me for. I forgot to mention she doesn’t live anywhere near him. And, there’s also an age difference of 7 years between the two of them. You had told me that my situation felt like a “grass is greener” case, and I can understand why you would come to that conclusion. My Ex and I never had a chance to meet in person because neither of us had the means to save up money to be able to do that in the years we had been together. You and Chris help offer advice to people so they can get back with their Exes after a break up, but does it matter how much time goes by? I’ve seen some others online say that it doesn’t matter if years pass, because you and your Ex have a past together. It makes it easier to re-connect. And I think I remember Chris mentioning in one of his other articles on here that relationships either “work out or they don’t”. There’s no way to go around it. If I focus on my studies and let the relationship between him and his friend run its course, do I have a better chance if I come back to him years later? I don’t see how I could make an attempt right now when he’s so focused on her. I miss him and I don’t want to wait that long, but I can be realistic about situations, too. Is there any other advice you can give me?

    1. Vivi

      September 25, 2016 at 6:15 pm

      I don’t want to rush into anything, but what can I do at this point? He’s done a lot for this new girl in the last few months and that’s one of the reasons why it looks as serious as it does. I know he’s making it a point to show how much better off he is with her, but a part of me can’t help but think he’s he still feels “something” if he has to go to such extremes to show how happy he is. It’s the point where you feel your partner can “do no wrong”, right? It feels like he’s using jealousy tactics, too. How long does the Honeymoon period usually last in a new relationship?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 26, 2016 at 9:03 am

      It differs from person to person but you can check this one to know more about it and assess your situation:
      How To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Is In A Rebound Relationship. How Long Will It Last?
      The best you can do is to really just keep improving yourself and don’t be too forward when you talk to him. Don’t go overboard in making him jealous when you do.. Just be as natural as you can.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 24, 2016 at 6:53 pm

      Hi Vivi,

      yes, it does matter. Like in his case, if he’s still in the honeymoon period, then he probably won’t be that attentive to you because he would be protective with his relationship

  12. Ashley

    September 21, 2016 at 7:39 am

    Hi! I was together with this guy for 4 months. We started off really strong, he kept telling me that he was afraid he would mess our relationship up and that i was too good for him and he showered me in compliments and love and i did the same to him. However, 2 months in the relationship i noticed a change. He started acting more distant, which made me anxious. I have depression and anxiety issues, so i explained to him very clearly how he could deal with those. I really wanted him to understand, but everytime i would explain myself he would get extremely defensive and say that there was nothing wrong and i was just making things up. We had a couple of small arguments and eventually he asked for a break. We promised we would work on ourselves during the break and he assured me he wasnt gonna leave me and break up with me. Well.. 3 weeks later, he asks me out for dinner and drinks and i figured he was ready to work on our relationship again.. wrong. He broke up with me, after taking me out for dinner. He said he had no feelings for me anymore, but he kept stressing that he really wanted to share his life with me still. He kept telling me he really wanted to hang out a lot and that he wanted to be my friend and that he still thinks i am the most hilarious person he’s ever met, that i am amazing and wonderful and beautiful and that we have an amazing click. I just cried a lot. He stayed with me til i felt better, which meant he missed multiple buses home, and he kept telling me how much he cared about me.. he told me he would call me the next day to check up on me, but when i tried to talk to him via text, he didnt reply at all.
    Im getting very mixed signals! I started the no contact period 8 days ago and i already KNOW he is too stubborn and proud to contact me. What do i do? And after the no contact period, what do i say to strike up conversation again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 22, 2016 at 10:50 pm

      HI Ashley,

      Make the most of no contact by improving yourself during and after no contact… And follow what’s advised above.. Check this one too for a first contact text:
      EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

  13. Olivia

    September 20, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    I really need some advice. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. We broke up sometimes but it was never more then an hour before we would be back together. This time however we didn’t get back together. It’s been three weeks and I’m starting to worry that he’ll never come back. We got into a big fight on a saturday night and I menitoned leaving. He told me to sleep on it and calm down and we’d talk in the morning. Well the next morning he decided we should just be friends. I was heart broken. I’ve reached out to him twice since and both times he says its just for the best we be friend, but I can’t help but feel our love was to strong to just be over like this. I have no idea what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 22, 2016 at 6:22 pm

      Hi Olivia,

      even though you haven’t spoken for days, you didn’t start improving and healing too. So, try that by starting the count of no contact.. I think you should do 30 days.

  14. Sara

    September 20, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    Okay so I accidentally had a petty conversation with him last night, after asking him to pick up his stuff this week. He said he’s miserable, broken and didn’t know he’d feel like this when he broke up with me. A week ago. But he also already asked this girl on a date and she’s way hotter than me so that’s what hurts the most. He said he broke up because he didn’t see a future with me, we didn’t want the same things out of life, but if he’d said that while we were together, we could’ve worked on it. So I said that and he flat out said we weren’t getting back together. An hour after we kept talking about our feelings, I eventually just stopped responding because we were clearly both needing a break from talking and he just kept responding. We were together 10 months and he hasn’t moved on but he already asked a girl on a date. What do I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 22, 2016 at 4:06 pm

      You said you accidentally talked to him, So I’m going to assume you broke no contact.. Do you want to restart it?

  15. Morisette

    September 19, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    Hi,
    I nid an advice, my ex and i went into relationship last aug 2015, i broke up with him last september 2015, because i found out that he is still in a relationship with his ex gf- the morher of his second son. When we started our ralationship he confess regading his 2 son and 2 ex gf, gf i say because they are not married, he told me that he already committed to his children but not married, then i told him, its ok with me as long as your reponsibility should be to your son’s only not to their mother’s, then he agree, he show me his ex gf’s including his son’s, then my feelings for him get stronger because i found his secret coming fromhis own mouth and that makes me fall for him even more, i felt he love me the same way as he say after how many years of being single he didn’t imagine he will feel the feeling that he had for me again, she feels like he went back being a teenage. After 3 week of in a relationship he went home to his home town for vacation he told me he nid to fix something, after how many days he get cold, i dont know if he really get cold or im just getting paranoid because he in their hometown together with his exes, then i stalk the fb account oh her exes i add them both and send message but only replied, then i chat with her acting that i am a fren of my bf until i found out that my bf is still in a relationship with her, i told my bf regarding that matter, im angry ofcourse an he explain and get an excuses and some other reason he told me isnt it i already explain to you that i am commited then i said u told me u r committed to your children but not to their mother the he said they dont accept that i broke up with them anymore and i need to treat them well because if not they will not going to show my son to me, then i dont still listen to him, i feel lile he still lying and i still choose to break up with him,he even get angry to me actually because of what happen his ex didnt show his son to him, after several months of no talking he approach me but during that tym im in a new relationship already, then he told me he missed me and we talk about what happen to us, we become goodfriends until time he borrowed money from me then my bf caught me that im still chatting with my ex but that time my bf dont know that he is my ex he just feel not comfortable seeing that im chatting with him,therefore i stop my communication with him, after many months i need money and i wanted to approach my ex to get the money i lend him, i message him secretly because my bf might angry if he knew it, then he told me actually long time ago i want to approach u to give back the money that i borrowed then i told him exactly i nid it now , then he told me he missed me so much, and ask me when will be my vacation i told him it is on may and he told me exactly bacause that month also is his vacation, he wanted to see me in person though we chat in some mobile app ang see each other there, then i know what u want, then add i cant im getting married, even though we will see each other and there will something happen to us i will still choose my bf now, then he said i just wanted to see u then i agree, then tym come he fetch me at the airport and we went to a hotel i nid to stay there for 1 night before taking a plane again for my next destination then he is with me the whole night, due to long range of flight i got tired and slept when i woke up at the same day he wanted to have intercourse with me but then i told him i cant, but my feeling is screamming i love him so much, then i said if you have barrier then we can do it i just dont want to get pregnant, then we go out and buy at the same time we walk beside the seaside near mall, talking each other reagarding works when we went back to hotel, we ate our dinner and rest the we had intercourse, after that we had a long conversation, and he is trying to discourage me in getting married, and we talk alot regarding oir relationship, after that i feel i still fall inlove with him a day after tommorrow he send mt o airport before he go he kiss me on the lips and with no word he go back to hotel… After that i call him he told me msg me when the plane will go now, seem like he is crying but im not sure, a day after i msg him, ask him how is he, he told me, no string attached only, and he told me yo forget him, it really hurt me so much because by that time i talk to my fiance to and i retreated from getting married…. I know what he said is just an indirect saying that he dont have feelings anymore and what happen is just lust, after how many days i beg to him but he didnt reponse to any of my msg i told him how much inlove him and for the last tym if he really dont love me anymore i want to hear it from you telling me that you dont love me that you dont have feelings anymore then i will stop, still he dont have response, and now i have 1 week no contact with him, i love him so much, and i wanted to get him back. What should i do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 21, 2016 at 1:51 pm

      Hi Morisette,

      I think you should do 45 days.. use it to clear your mind, and improve yourself.. set your ex bf and ex fiance aside for the mean time and just focus in yourself first..after 45 days, decide if you still want to initiate contact and continue improving yourself whether you talk to him again or not

  16. Polly

    September 19, 2016 at 8:33 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me 10 weeks ago after close to 3 yrs together. Until 2 weeks ago it was going well: he was expressing that he’d had regrets, initiating contact including meeting up (which we did 3 weeks ago and it went well). After the first meeting he initiated another meeting (which didn’t happen due to circumstances). The same evening he texts me and says that this woman who I’ve had suspicions he might have had feelings for is coming to stay with him for two days (there is only one place to sleep in the flat so I can only assume they’ll be sharing it) and he needs my set of keys so that she can come and go as she wishes. I completely lose my cool and reply: cool. perhaps this would be a good time for me to collect my remaining things and could he tell me when they would be out so I can collect it and then put the keys through the door (I only took the things I needed during the breakup as it was too much to move at once). He first resists me getting my stuff but later says he’ll pack them and bring them to me at the weekend. The next morning he both skypes and texts me saying that that woman no longer is staying with him and he doesn’t need the keys. Later he tries to call (I don’t take it because I’m not in a place where I can talk) and finally he texts that he’s sorry about all of it and that he’ll now be away at the weekend so if I really want to pack up and move everything out I can do so. At that point I’d started to realise that I’ve probably got the wrong end of the stick and I back down and say that I’m sorry too and perhaps we should just do this together some time (because that’s what we’d initally said) and wish him a nice weekend away. He doesn’t respond to this. The next day I see something that reminds me of him so I text him (I guess I was trying to let him know I wasn’t still upset) and he replies the following day. I don’t respond to his text as it, while it’s friendly, doesn’t necessarily invite more conversation. That’s the last I heard from him and it’s now been 10 days. During NC he was trying to get my attention so him not contacting me is new. Obviously, I made a huge mistake losing my cool and I’m not sure if I should keep waiting to hear from him or if I should get in touch?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 21, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      Hi Polly

      you said during nc, when did you do nc,n

  17. Lilo

    September 18, 2016 at 6:09 pm

    Hi
    I was in love with a guy i took for granded for 8 months. We were engaged after 3 months in the relationship and in the month 4 he tried to break up with me but i told him we went through so many problems and he cant break up with me just because of small thing , he changed his mind and we come back together happily again. The month seven was the month that we supose to almost merried but because of his stress from his job so many problem and i didnt understand that so i force him to quit his job and take care of the wedding and prepare to buy a house. He get so stressful that he start to treat me not as before. I asked him what happen why he cool down when we almost getting married and he just told me he dont know what is wrong with him and that he still love me but he need the space to figure it out. I agreed and I thought it should be easy but after 2 days i couldnt stand l being alone and confuse and text him i want to stop not talking like this and force him to talk to me. But more i foced him more he become distance in every worlds he say to just stopped replying me. Not replying me made me feel not respected and disapointed that i did something bad i broke up with him and he Agreed right away even though fee days ago he told me he will never break up with me. I was crying i was dying inside. After that i was begging him to come back telling him i was mistaken make a book of what we did how we were happy how he wanted to marry me. He came back but he told me he still want the space . I told him ok i will give u a space but i want u to tell me a goodnight and i love u everyday. Just that way i will feel safe that he still love me and he is still around me and i didnt lost him and he will not forget about me during a space. Everything would be ok if that was enough for me. I felt it was not enough i break that space by stopping by his work and buying him food or try to text him and calling him. I did that and he felt more and more force and Less and less loving me. I hurted myself more and more and in the end that day i was depressed with my coworker and i was so stressful and what i can think about of was just him and share about it with him so i was crying and telling him but he still act that he cares just because he had to not because he wanted to so i could feel it and i told him i dont want to see him he disapointed me leave me alone. 2 days after that i recover
    Myself and texted him im sorry and i feel better now. But he asked me if i already move on ? I was suprise why should i move on. He told me that since i already deleted all his pics on social media propably i already move on. I told him i deleted when i was mad and because i dont want to see it i will cry again if i see it. Then he told me he dont love me anymore and i should wake up and find someone else he dont want to marry . Then i called him and we were talking about 30 mins about that. I make him change his mind again. We decided to give each other space for real and i will holding myself no contact no text at all we will text if he want to text me. I told him to not being shy and i will be in reach if he need to but dont say break up. Take time but dont say break up. I dont know if this is the right thing I supose to do or not. What should i do next how can i make him love me again. Im so frustrated right now i feel like he is my drug and i will feel feeded if i see him or if i can talk to him . I love him so much. Please help me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 20, 2016 at 5:14 pm

      Hi Lilo,

      start by being more independent and stop on trying to change his mind.. It makes him feel you’re contradicting his decision and that’s what’s annoying him.. The more you chase, the more he wants to run away..

  18. Sara

    September 18, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Is it a good sign if he talks to my brother to ask how I’m doing? He broke up with me and he’s asked me how I am in person and text but also with my brother. Plus, my brother said he looked genuinely worried and concerned about how I was

    1. Sara

      September 20, 2016 at 3:35 pm

      Okay so I accidentally had a petty conversation with him last night, after asking him to pick up his stuff this week. He said he’s miserable, broken and didn’t know he’d feel like this when he broke up with me. A week ago. But he also already asked this girl on a date and she’s way hotter than me so that’s what hurts the most. He said he broke up because he didn’t see a future with me, we didn’t want the same things out of life, but if he’d said that while we were together, we could’ve worked on it. So I said that and he flat out said we weren’t getting back together. An hour after we kept talking about our feelings, I eventually just stopped responding because we were clearly both needing a break from talking and he just kept responding. We were together 10 months and he hasn’t moved on but he already asked a girl on a date. What do I do?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 22, 2016 at 4:06 pm

      You said you accidentally talked to him, So I’m going to assume you broke no contact.. Do you want to restart it?

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 20, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      Hi Sara,

      yes, it’s a good sign!

  19. so confused

    September 17, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    Hi
    I was with my ex 2 years consectutively 2 years off now three years, 2 of them straight through. This past year we went through some issues possibly dealing w substance abuse and depression, leading to fights that occasionally ended in a “breakup” resolved a week later. This summer we bickered more so over caddy reasons also in “breakups” resolved a week later. They were all done on my part and the last one of the summer was the worst of all. Two weeks later we talked left it as we love eachother and wont see anybody else and work on our relationship while taking time apart. Needless to say I found a week later he met somebody on a dating app and jumped head first into “dating” her. When we talked about it he said enough to leave me hope but also said enough to make me cry. I will add when we were good this past year we were the best we have ever been, talking about marriage, living together, and how much we love eachother. He voluntarily told two of my friends he wanted to marry me…I can’t leave out the fact that when we talked last he freaked out about marriage and me being his only ever gf. I havent spoken to him in a couple weeks and I know that he is “happy” with this girl….but are all of those feelings really just stopping for him and being put into her? He is a very emotional person who was never one to jump from girl to girl….is this a committment freakout or is it really over?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 20, 2016 at 6:13 am

      Hi So confused,

      I think it’s a grass is greener case.. Are you going to do the no contact rule?
      Read about the grass is greener here: The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

  20. Lori

    September 17, 2016 at 5:47 pm

    Hi! I’m back again lol. This time last year, I had just broken up with my ex, who had cheated on me. I got him back with help from the site and Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, but I don’t want him anymore (because he cheated on me). Fast forward to this year… I got into a new relationship with a guy, who was having a child with another woman. The baby had come out of a one night stand. The baby was born yesterday and he promptly dumped me, saying that he was going to stay single for a while, because he didn’t want anything to distract him from his child and told me not to contact him, because he’s busy. But he didn’t block my number and he didn’t block me on Snapchat. I understand that he wants to be a good dad and I think that it’s admirable, but I want him back! I wonder how long it might be before he is ready to date again? I’ve already started No Contact and I’m scanning over Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, but I wanted to know if any of you on the EBR team have any extra tips and tricks that I might find helpful. Thank you so much!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 19, 2016 at 6:08 pm

      Hi Lori,

      If he contacts you again, when he misses you, don’t jump right in. Take it slow.

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