5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

1. 

   Angel

   January 23, 2017 at 6:12 am

   We broke up in the summer. Tried getting back together but he decided no. Bc I slept with someone when we broke up. Then I told him goodbye 3 weeks ago and said only to contact me if he wanted to date me. Then I was reading your site and it said that if the relationship ended In a big fight to send a text to smooth that over so he would have a positive memory. So tonight I sent a copy of the text on this site ; “Hi Dayne, I know a lot has been said between us a few weeks ago. I just wanted to tell you that I look back on our time very fondly and I hold nothing against you. I wish you the best in your life. Don’t be a stranger.”….. he replied “same”. Then he tried calling. I didn’t answer. Is it a good sign he called? He has abandonment issues so now do I go through with more of the no contact period? 30 days? I said “don’t be a stranger” so is it going to damage our chance of getting together if I do the NCR now?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 23, 2017 at 5:16 pm

   Hi Angel,

   yeah, that was a good text but confusing once you start the no contact rule.. you have to tell him you need space to heal..and then do nc..

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   Logan C

   January 21, 2017 at 1:58 am

   Hello,
   My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me in December. We were off and on, seemed like every year or so he would think that we were not working and felt that we just weren’t meant for each other. We got back together and he proposed to me in May 2016. 6 months later, I confront him of constantly hanging and texting with a mutual friend of ours and it blows up in my face. He says our break up has nothing to do with with this friend but has to do with the problems we had throughout our relationship and how it we say we are going to work on things but never do. He takes this as “us not being meant for eachother”. I found out that friend is now seeing my ex which really hurts (I hope it is just a phase). After repeated texts from my ex telling me to move on that he does not want to continue our relationship that I need to move on, I have decided to relocate out of the state. I moved for him where he has all his family here and he goes to grad school here while I am starting in a new market for real estate. I was only here for him and I have no family or friends here. I am completely sad that he has made this decision and will not talk to me specially knowing I am leaving in a few days. I love him to death and want nothing more than to spend my life with him but I know he doesnt feel the same way now. I need some advice if someone can give it. I am trying the No Contact Rule but with me leaving the state so soon, it is hard because I miss him so much. ME LEAVING THE STATE, WILL THIS HURT MY CHANCE OF BEING TOGETHER?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 22, 2017 at 11:53 am

   Hi Logan,

   just treat it as a long distance relationship if you are getting back together..that’s good that you’re going to do nc.. be active in posting in social media

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   Shayla Williams

   January 20, 2017 at 2:50 pm

   Hello, here is my story…
   My now ex boyfriend broke up with me a week ago, and his reasoning was, he wants to spend more time thinking about his 3 kids and not be in a relationship. He wants me to find somebody that wants to have kids and get married, because I’ve never had either one, and he said it’s not fair to me to stay with him if he doesn’t want that. Prior to that, (we’ve been together for a year by the way, and known each other for 20 years since Jr. High) he was the one saying that he wouldn’t mind having 2 more kids, and his goal was to marry me in the future in the beginning of our relationship. His baby Mama is the one who won’t let his kids be around me, which is what kicked it off in the first place, so he said he was trying to save up to get his own place so the kids can come over and spend time with him.

   But here is the kicker… earlier this week, as I was walking down stairs I saw him texting another girl, she sent a picture of herself and they were sending long texts back and forth, and I got pretty upset about it and I confronted him about it as well. I asked him what did I do, and what was wrong with me. I use to be that girl that he is texting and where did I go wrong… he had nothing to say. The absolute very first time that he was speechless. He apologized when I asked him about it, but he still did not give me an answer as to what they had going.

   We also live together and doing the NC is pretty hard when you don’t know how to do the NC if he is there. How will it make him miss me and want me back? I did, however, tell him that if he wants to continue to talk to other females he pack his stuff and leave, he hasn’t went anywhere. But I’m sure while he’s at work he is still talking to her. Also, as I’m trying to do the NC, part of it is going to workout after I get off work, and going to bed before he does to see where he going to fall asleep… and every night he gets in the bed with me. Not to mention he gets as close as possible instead of being on his side of the bed.

   I really want him back because we had no issues in our relationship whatsoever, don’t get me wrong we have the norm of couple arguements but nothing that would cause us to break up. His family loves me, and they are as shocked as I am. So my question is since we are still living together, how can the NC work, especially if I want him back and I want him to miss me and I see him everyday?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2017 at 6:53 pm

   Hi Shayla,

   check this one:
   EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

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   Alexandra

   January 19, 2017 at 10:02 pm

   Hi! So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and we got into an argument last Friday (today is Thursday). He basically changed plans last minute with me to go to a basketball game with his friends. He asked me if I wanted to go but I said no because I had a feeling I wouldn’t have fun and that he wouldn’t pay attention to me. This was probably the 4th or 5th time he has changed plans last minute and I got really upset because I told him we had 1. not spent time together alone in awhile 2. I felt as though he doesn’t want to spend time with me and 3. When we do spend time with each other it is always at his or my house. We haven’t actually gone out in awhile. He told me that he does want to spend time with me but that the basketball game was “important” to his friend. I got so angry and I acted irrationally and said “okay i’m done, this is enough. i don’t deserve to be a second choice.” We didn’t talk Friday night, all of Saturday, or all of Sunday because I felt as though he should come to me and apologize. He texted me at 12 am Sunday (basically Monday) and he said he needed time to think about his feelings. Long story short, yesterday (Wednesday). He said he wants time to be himself and to be independent. He said he won’t be with another girl cuz he just doesn’t want a relationship. Also, he said we could try things again in the summer if we still wanted to since he has a lot of things going on (Church activities, sports, etc). He said we could still be friends but it’s just awkward. He snapchats me and I feel awkward. I feel as though I can’t really be his friend because I just want to be with him, in a relationship. What do I do?? Summer is basically 5 months away. I don’t want to wait but at the same time he could change his mind soon right? It’s hard for me to let this go because he has been there for me through so many of my personal issues and I am very close with his family. What do I do?

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   Alexandra

   January 21, 2017 at 4:23 pm

   Hi thanks so much for your reply. Just a little update, today would have been our anniversary and he deleted pictures of us off of his instagram but he kept 1 up, our first picture together. I deleted some a few days ago and kept 2 up so I guess it’s fair he deleted some but it still bothers me of course. It hurt my feelings to see they were deleted. We have talked minimally these past few days and I realized how much anger I have inside of me for what he did. He dumped me over text, couldn’t even call, and he gave me what seemed to be sugarcoated reasons. I don’t know where to go from here. I want to get back together and work things out. He and his family are very important to me but it seems like each day the chances of us getting back together become slimmer and slimmer. What is your best advice for me?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 22, 2017 at 10:13 pm

   That’s still a good sign because it means he still thinks of you.. Try the no contact rule and follow the advice above.. Focus in improving yourself

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 21, 2017 at 1:46 pm

   Hi Alexandra,

   do you want to try the advice above?

5. 

   Brooke Cardeccia

   January 13, 2017 at 1:23 am

   Hi!
   My ex and I broke up a week ago after almost a year and a half of dating (we’ve been on and off for the past 6 years). His reasoning was that he doesn’t like the way our relationship is going and he feels we are never going to work because we’ve tried so many times. When he broke up with me he said to give it 2-3 weeks of no talking or contact at all (which I have broken a few times already to his annoyance) and if he misses the relationship he will come back and if not then it is permanent. He also stated that if he figures it out before the 2-3 weeks then he’ll let me know. This is his way of keeping me away from guys I assume and keeping me on my toes. What do I do?! HELP PLEASE!!!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 13, 2017 at 2:37 pm

   HI Brooke,

   check this one:
   How To Get An On Again/Off Again Boyfriend Back

6. 

   Lulu

   January 12, 2017 at 3:07 am

   my boyfriend broke up with me or he actually pushed me to break up with him by playing cold and pushing me away,,
   I’m 29 and he is 35,,
   we have long distance relationship and he was spouse to come to visit me for a week!! he didn’t!!! and he started making his calls less and just text a little saying he is busy all the time or tired ( i felt bad and sad ,, he was ignoring and neglecting me ) and whenever i ask him whats wrong he say (you r crazy!! nothing is wrong) or he just be nice for couple of days and go back to his staying away strategy,,, i was patient for a month and trying to give him all the excuses !! until i blew up one day!! i told him i can’t take this anymore and if he doesn’t want me he should just say it !! he was shocked and he said i kept distance coz i didn’t want to hurt u !! and he doesn’t know why is it that he is not ready to settle down or he is selfish or he doesn’t feel that click anymore !! and he kept saying don’t cry I’m selfish and I’m not good in relationships!!
   a month before that he was talking about marriage !!
   so we broke up 4 days ago and we didn’t have any contact since the breakup ,, I’m really sad!! I don’t know what i did wrong or why things went to that direction !!! everything was fine before that , i hope we can have another chance together !!

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 13, 2017 at 12:12 pm

   Hi Lulu,

   check this one:
   The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

7. 

   Jesse

   January 10, 2017 at 7:47 pm

   Hey Amor,

   This is a little time sensitive if you could get back to me ASAP I’d really appreciate:

   I posted on Dec. 17 about my ex and I continuing in counseling or not even though he wants to remain broken up. We haven’t spoken in 23 days. I forwarded him the electric bill, which I was paying for, in mid December, and told him to change the account information. Lo and behold, the money came out of my account on Dec. 20th. We were already four days into NC so I figured whatever, he just hasn’t gotten around to it yet and I lived there in November anyway, I don’t want to break no contact.

   I get the email again today. He still hasn’t switched over the information. So essentially I’m forced to break NC. And maybe he just forgot but knowing my ex, he’s being manipulative/playing games (or at least a combination of the two) and I’m just pissed. Do I say “I’m really frustrated you haven’t taken care of this yet?” Do I check in? Do I just forward the email?

   Feeling manipulated is SO frustrating because it says that they care, but what kind of caring is it?! All the vulnerability has laid with me for so long, and it’s partly my fault because I let it happen, but I just want him to be easier. . .you know? He’s such a good guy when he just let’s his guard down.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 11, 2017 at 11:43 am

   Hi Jesse,

   just forward the email, wait if he replies. If he doesn’t, then politely tell to please change then information as soon as he can..

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   Rachel

   January 5, 2017 at 6:54 am

   My ex and I were together for 2 years and a half and were enganged. He broke up with me 6 months ago. We had a very troublesome relationship and he says that’s the reason he broke it off. Our relationship was just too damaged and that we needed time to heal. I am still very much in love with him and would like for us to get back together.

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 7, 2017 at 4:19 am

   HI Rachel,

   How much did you change in the last 6 months? When did you last talk? Do you want to try the no contact rule?

9. 

   lilly

   January 4, 2017 at 10:47 am

   Okay, so it has been 3 months since he broke up with me. After first month he came to me drunk and told me he missed me and love me but does not sure if he wants to experience the same things and fight all the time. Yes, we used to fight a lot especially because of jealousy but the only problem we have was jealousy fights. I am 17 and he is 17 too. We dated for nearly one year. After the day he came drunk we started texting for a week or so. Then we stopped talking again until the time I called him and told him I missed him a lot. However, it did not create any change. We met, talked, had fun a few times. After these, he came to me drunk again. He said he still misses me and loves me. However, we did not talk until one night after one week of drunk visiting, he came to me and asked me if my life is going on enough well and he missed me and he missed talking and missed having fun with me. We spend 5-6 hours together, just talking and laughing. After that day, we started talking, calling and texting each other every night for two or three weeks. However, five days ago I heard he is also talking with another girl and flirting with her. I asked him and the only answer he gave was there is no serious thing but also it is none of your business. All of his friends tried to make me believe that he just gibes with her and there is no serious thing. Even he thinks she is not his type and too bitchy for him but he still talks with her carelessly. I know she is into him and he is not. But after the day we had a fight we stopped talking. We are at the same school and we are always bumping into each other. All we have is a fake smile while passing next to each other. However, I know I am in love with him like the first day we started dating. And I am not sick of that same old love. I know I want him back but I am not sure with my next step I need your advice.

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 6, 2017 at 6:09 am

   Hi Lilly,

   Do you want to try the no contact rule and start focusing in improving yourself?

10. 

    Wendy

    January 3, 2017 at 8:58 pm

    Me and my partner had been together for seven years. We own a house, bought it together last year, not married, no kids. He said if I didn’t want a big wedding he’d go to the registry office tomorrow and get married now.

    He became more and more serious about excercise and marathons, so we stopped eating out as he was so strict with his diet and badminton (we used to play together) wasn’t strenuous enough for him. During the week in the last few months we would eat separately, watch things separately, go to bed to watch something, but he’d fall asleep within 5minutes around 8pm. On more than one occasion I’d said that we needed to do more things together, little things like eating together or at least the same time, go for a walk or watch something together first and then do our own thing in the evening so he doesn’t fall asleep, as I would feel lonely on occasion.

    We went on holiday in October, got up early and were always doing things and had a great time. He said he had the best day of his life and was so happy. When we got back middle of October he kept looking at our photographs and saying the time we spent together was amazing.

    11th December even though we’d done a few things since our holiday, we started not doing things in the week, like sitting together. I was dramatic asking why he didn’t want to spend time with me, did he still love me. He said he didn’t think there was a problem. I asked if we should go on a break to see if he wanted to see me, but he doesn’t believe in breaks and refused to see a counsellor. I asked if he wanted to see other people to see if I was the problem. He said no, agreed to try more, all seemed fine.

    14th December he says he thought about what I’ve been saying and realised I had a point, our lives were too separate and we’ve grown apart and nothing could be done. He stated that he knows he will say he will do better but won’t and that since the argument he hasn’t made more of an effort. I advised that we’d had meals together and that the dust had to settle and I was holed up as had the flu and not to base the decision on the last few days. He said he loved me, will always love me, meant every he said about the holiday, about marrying me, but it wasn’t enough, something must be wrong if he isn’t naturally wanting to be spending time together. I said now was the time to try but he said he already tried, I said if he only just understood me he couldn’t have, he said he’d either tried and if he hasn’t that’s a sign it won’t work. I said it is natural to get complacent, but he believes we’ve grown apart. I said if that was the case we wouldn’t enjoy each other’s company and would be indifferent. He started saying he didn’t think he was able to give me life I wanted, bigger house even though I’ve never said that and told him that too. He’s been wanting a better job and I recently got offered a new one and I don’t know if he’s reevaluating his career (my new job is still less money so this shouldn’t be a reason).

    I spoke to him the next day and said it had gotten out of hand and to think. He said he didn’t know. He went to a hotel. He didn’t know the following day or the day after. On 19th he sent me a message at 9am saying he wouldn’t change his mind. He came in the afternoon and said the same and said it would be easy to come back, but this is for the best. I asked when he made the decision and he said he didn’t know until 9am. Asked me to tell him when I was away for Christmas so he could stay at our house. He agreed we would see each other and talk before he moved his things out. I said it would be painful to come home and find his things gone and he said he wouldnt do that. He said it would be too difficult to live together or be in the house. Told me to leave lists of things he needed to know about the house and he would continue paying half as always.I said I’d leave his presents I’d already got him and he said he’d open them.

    On 21st i asked if I could speak to him as had to discuss things with him, he sent me a extra asking what. The next morning he wanted the dates I’d be away. I asked if we could talk, he said he needed space and to send him a message. I said I didn’t want to be ignored or for him to misunderstand me, he said to email him. I gave him details of when I would be away and said everything else in an email on 23rd December. I gave him all the details of what was needed with the house and asked him to take time to reconsider and some day it would be too late and to let me know. I said not to rush, take time and I would give him space.

    I decided to start NC from that point. I didn’t hear from Him.I came back on 27th to discover he’d moved more of his things out. He didn’t open his presents and put them in the spare room. I maintained NC.

    Today I got an email from him saying;

    Subject line: House – Sigh

    Hi

    I hope you had a good Christmas / New Year. Difficult I know under the circumstances.

    We need to decide what we are going to do with the house.

    This isn’t easy and I’m speaking to you with the best of intentions. I’m not trying to make any money and just want this to be sorted as painlessly as possible.

    My preference would be for me to take over paying the mortgage and be the sole owner.

    Would obviously need to speak with Principality to work out the details.

    What do you think?

    Alternatively I would be happy for you to do the same but I would want my deposit back.

    I would rather not sell and waste money on fees etc. My understanding is that if we did sell I would receive my deposit back – £7000, before splitting the rest 50/50.

    Regardless of this I cannot continue paying the bills etc for a house that I no longer live in.

    Regards

    I want to point out that he chose to move out, I’ve said he could’ve stayed in the other room, he has enough savings for rent, everything legally is equally joint and we cannot sell it or another year due to a stipulation in the deed. I’m not worried about him not paying his share and i think he doesn’t realise the situation is more complicated than just changing the mortgage.

    He’s not very social, doesn’t see his friends much, not close to his family, doesn’t have Facebook. He literally won’t hear about me or bump into me.

    We broke up within the first six months of our relationship because he didn’t know if he wanted a relationship and wanted to play on his Xbox, had NC and after 3 weeks he’d completely changed his mind and wanted to get back together.

    By the way I’m 28, he’s 31. Apart from me he had a relationship for 2months, nothing longer.

    Now I don’t know what to do. Is it too late? Am I ridiculous for thinking he will see that our problem is easily solved, just need to spend time together?

    Do I continue NC? If i do once it’s over and I contact him won’t he cling to this negative email or see through my text and think I’m mad to get in touch without acknowledging the email? We’ve only been over for a little over 2weeks.

    Do I continue NC or email just in relation to the house? Do I just accept it’s over? If I carry on with NC what do I do if he calls or comes to the house? Today was day 11 of NC. It’s been about a week since he took his stuff to his sister’s.

    I’m working on myself, going out with friends, but feel wretched all the time. I don’t see how he’s so cold so quickly.

    The email he sent today was at 5:31 this morning. Is it bad this was his first thought or more of an indication he hates being at someone’s home?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 5, 2017 at 6:56 pm

   Hi wendy

   it’s ok to talk to him about the house, just make it about the house only. From what I see, it’s like you’ve grown apart or he out grew you. He found something to be active with but you still want the same thing with him. That’s not wrong though. Of course you need to spend time together. That’s how relationships work but instead of just doing it, like inviting him to walk right at that moment. Making a bowl of meal and then handing it to him, and then talking about how both your days went,that way you’re already eating together and bonding.. but him hearing it from you, made him think you’re demanding because he’s lacking effort for you, and for him that’s because he just wants to focus with his activities now and not think about how to make you happy..

   So, if you ever get back together, initiate more of what you want the both of you to do.. if he’s
   always not engaging after several attempts then that’s really on his end.. That’s when you talk more deeply.. and it would be easier for you to walk away..

   right now, for me, the best you can do is to accept that its easier for him to move on because he’s very active in his life right now. If you want a chance, leave the previous relationship. Take this as a restart. Slowly rebuild rapport and attraction after no contact period like both of you have chosen to move on and you’re just starting out as friends again..

11. 

    Hopeful

    January 3, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    Hi.
    My boyfriend broke up with me because he feels it’s selfish of him to expect me to be in the relationship when he wants to go work over seas in a few years.
    We only fought when I asked him to message me more, because its hard for me when we are not together (not feeling the love). When we saw eachother there was no doubt for me that we were good together and how he felt about me.
    He said we could be friends, but I really think we should be together. We are not talking at the moment (NC) but he was never a talker over messanging. Do I have a chance?

1. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 5, 2017 at 2:49 pm

   Hi Hopeful,

   well, he has to want to be with you, if he doesn’t want that, then there’s no relationship.. But if you’re not talking at the moment, it’s only considered a no contact period for you if you focus in improving yourself and then contact him later on while still improving yourself. Like, do 30 days of no contact.

12. 

    Lindsey

    January 3, 2017 at 5:08 am

    My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and living together, although we are only 16. Since living with him, his family has become like my own. He moved out and into his dads house so that I could stay with his mom. (His decision) The night that he broke up with me, he talked to his mom about it first and she cried. He told her that I was his best friend and that we have such a connection and that’s why breaking up with me is so hard. When he broke up with me, we were both crying. He said that he needed space but that he loves me. After talking about it, he asks me to watch one of our favorite shows with him. I decline, I just wanted to be by myself to cry. This was about 4 weeks ago. After he’s moved out, he decides to tell me that he’s talking to 2 other girls, but that it’s nothing serious. Anytime we are around each other it’s so uncomfortable, I can’t even look him in the eye. I love him so much and would do anything to have him back, but what really hurts the most is that we were best friends and now we barely even speak. Anytime something happens good or bad, I just want to talk to him. I just wish he would reach out to me.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 5, 2017 at 2:15 pm

   HI Lindsey,

   why did he break up with you and are you going to move out?

13. 

    chubbyRN

    January 2, 2017 at 5:51 am

    Just broke up with ex 2 days ago. He’s 29 Im 26. I broke up with him coz he’s emotionally unavailable. We’ve been dating for 7 months already but it feels it’s been a one way street. He said he likes me but he’s not inlove with me. He said I rush things and blames me why our relationship is effin up. Everytime I ask him to go out and go to places, he turns me down. Then he’ll tell me he’s a sarcastic prick but he’ll say yes eventually. I think he’s emotionally manipulating me. Thus, breaking up with him. Which I think is the best decision. I do like him.. a lot and I miss him plus his fam are the best. When I broke up with him he said he wants us to talk eventually and our break up bothers him and he’s hoping for us to be friends in the future. Im confused. No contact at this time. It just feels we’re still hangin on the edge. Help. 🙁

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 4, 2017 at 4:50 pm

   Hi Chubbyrn,
   Aside from the advice above, I think you should check this too:
   Do You Have The Same Values As Your Ex? (With Chase Kosterlitz)

14. 

    Maria

    January 1, 2017 at 10:19 pm

    Hi!
    This is my story: 6 months ago I met this guy, who i did not like at the beginning, but with his gestures he just conquered me, we had a very harmonic and passionate relationship, the only minus side was that i was a little intense, but it was because he was always texting less and making excuses to see me less, you know i wasnt his priority and tnd a shot, I changed, I calmed down a lot, gave him more space, but now he just did not call, or text, I was doing all the work, but when we were in person (we live in different cities) everything was perfect, and our connection was very strong. The issues continued, his hot and cold attitude, he was afraid to present me his friends, and I was cool with it, and everytime less and less texts and calls, and i always insisted, and it was kind of working. I always spoilt him and showered him with attention, and in person he as well was sweet and caring. A couple of weeks ago, he had a crisis, anxiety, again because he feels so unhappy and he wants to let his past behind and he just cannot, and i listened, gave him advice, and asked many times what I was to him, and if he wanted me in his life: the answer always: YEs, you are someone that love very much. I was happy and I told him i was going to fight for him, unless he did not want me. For xmas out of the blue (i was not pressing) he invited me to his parents house for xmas dinner, and all (his folks and I) were delighted. Then I asked him, so what are we going to do for new years? (i asked him at the beggining of december and he told me he does not have plans, and I told him i wanted to spend it with him, did not care with whom else) His answer: Wih my friends, and I stood there in one piece, he forgot about me, I was kind of mad, but reacted very cold and then calmed down and told him to solve the problem, that i do not have problems with his friends, that I just wanted to spend it with him, but he alwasy hesitated that i meet his friends, because of his story with his exgf.. So suddenly 2 days before new years eve, he dumped me, because he came to the conclusion (with of course the help of a friend) that he could not love me more, or better said he was not in love, but love me, and feel pressured to be inlove with me, i tried to explain him that this is normal, and that it can take time, but he did not want to listen… I personally think he is not in love with his ex, but he is very emotionally dependant on her, and that is a big problem, anyway his exgf lives in another country, and its not like they are getting back together. I also aksed him, if he loves me more, and he answered yes, but not enought to be with you, but I love you more than a friend, so WTF? Now im heartbroken, confused and a little angry at myself, because my only sin was to shower him with affection and love, but his eyes told me another story ( I saw love in his eyes), our connection and attraction was still very strong, and come on, he presented me his parents for Gods sake. I just cannot bring myself to give up hope, but i dont want to pin for someone that doesnt want to. Im trying the nc rule, this happened 3 days ago, and since then no cantact had been made. Im just confused.. What do you think? Do I have any hope or chance for that matter? He told me im too good, and that he has only positive feelings about me, Is a matter of time and space? I cannot be crazy, our connetion was very strong, one cannot fake that, or yes?? Thnk you for your advice

1. 

   Maria

   January 4, 2017 at 9:13 pm

   Hi Amor thank you for your answer, he and his exgf had a very instable relationship, they always lived in different countries, and as long as I know they were travelling back and forth (10years). Then they decided to move in together in his country and she could not adapt to it, so she told him to come over to her or leave it, he chose to stay there. They just stopped contacting but i see they are still friends on fb, and she always like his things, he sometimes do this as well. About the rebound, truthfully I dont know, but after they left it, he went out with another girl and chased me for 6 months until I relented (I did not know this), so now he decided he wants to be alone, and broke my heart at the same time. I asked him many times if he is still in love with her, and he told me no, because things did not work up, and he was still very hurt, because he gave more than 150% and she was always homesick, I myself told him to talk to her, and he did it, and he told her he was with me, and that night he was upset, but at the next day he was fine. Then 2 weeks ago he had an anxiety attack because i think he still has regrets about his decision, then I asked him that if he wants to look for her do it, or if he wants to let her go, he told me the latter. But I see when he published something, she put hearts, I asked him if they talk, he again told me no. I hate this situation, because from the beginning I was clear, then I was in love, and I know how it is to be depressed. So I ended up being the victim here. I still dont believe they are going to be back together, and we had such a good time, and such strong connection and put so much time and energy, now im just heartbroken, Im still doing NC, and want things to work up, but dont know what can I do besides giving him space, like I said before do I have any chance? and of course he wants to be friends with benefits with me, but im not giving on that one..

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 6, 2017 at 7:55 pm

   I think so but you have to start being in control of yourself. Improve yourself. Dont be a victim. It will now depend on your standards if you still want to try. Assess your non-negotiables

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 4, 2017 at 4:02 pm

   Hi Maria

   try 30 days of no contact. You said he’s dependent on his ex? they’re still talking even when you’re together? Are you the rebound?

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    John

    January 1, 2017 at 10:53 am

    Hey, my girlfriend of 6 years told me “I care about you and I do love you. Sometimes I just feel like if I stay in a relationship I’m never gonna get that time in life where I was by myself, where I learned how to be alone, where my focus was literally only me. The truth is I rushed back into the relationship b/c I love you but I didn’t quite think about it, I just went with my heart.”

    What do I do? We just got back together for a month after a year of a break and now she tells me this

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   John

   February 22, 2017 at 12:06 am

   It has been 30 days already

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 22, 2017 at 9:36 pm

   If it was not focused in improving yourself, you have to restart the count. And then be active in posting in social media too. If you did, initiate contact now, and start to slowly rebuild rapport.

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   John

   February 20, 2017 at 8:25 pm

   I still have not communicated. How long should the no contact rule be?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   February 21, 2017 at 8:54 pm

   do at least 30 days..

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   John

   January 17, 2017 at 3:44 pm

   I told her yesterday I needed space and distance. What do I do now? She seems angry at me

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 17, 2017 at 8:51 pm

   just let her be angry..she probably expected you to chase.. or she thought.you could manage to be friends because she’s still used to talking to you.. focus in improving yourself

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   John

   January 5, 2017 at 2:12 pm

   We are both 22 and I was at school while she was back at home but we saw each other atleast once every month and now I’m back home for good

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 7, 2017 at 5:01 am

   Ah, do you want to try the no contact rule? Even if it was after a year since you got back together, this time focus in improving yourself. Make it seem like you’ve accepted her decision and that you’re moving on before rebuilding rapport with her.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 1, 2017 at 7:39 pm

   Hi John,

   how old are you both? are you always together?

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    North

    December 30, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 months. He always told me that I was the most beautiful girl he has seen and how much he loved and appreciated me because he could be himself 100% with me and because he also saw me as his best friend who can make him laugh all the time. Everything actually went perfectly until he took a talk with his conservative father. We are from two different nationalities and his parents are really conservative and religious (we share the same religion though i’m protestant and he is catholic). His father told him that there is no way that they will accept a girl from another culture and he respects his father A LOT! Because of that he broke up with me because he felt he was wasting mine and his time by keeping a relationship that (he thinks) won’t last because of his parents. It’s been 6 days now and today is the first day that I haven’t have contact to him. The other days we have either been texting or videochatting to find solutions, but everytime he ends up concluding it to be impossible for us. One of the day’s we also met and made out a little. I’ve begged him for 4 days, but stopped 2 days ago. Now I’m just left with a broken heart and hoping to get him back, because I know he loves me a lot 🙁 btw he is 24 and I’m 23.
    I really want him to stand up for us and tell his parents that I am the girl he wants and they have to accept it.
    Is there any good advice you can give to my situation?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 31, 2016 at 10:27 am

   Hi North,

   don’t beg and don’t chase. If you really want a guy to stand up for you, you have to stand for yourself. You have to learn to let go of the people who will not fight for you.

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    Gloria

    December 28, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    We have been dating for a yr nw nd he normally says he’s d luckiest person 2 hv me… Two days bk he asked 4 my nudes nd I dint oblige… We dint talk 4 2 days nd den I sent him a message nd he askd y I sent it nd I told him twz coz I wz sending it 2 every1 on my friends list nd dt he can remove me 2 stop gtn dem…. Later in d evening I cld nd he went on nd on saying tins till he said twz d pix dt got him angry… Nd dt I should allow him 2 enjoy himself.. Nd I said owk… Den he went ahead posting stuffs on FB 2 mke Mockery of me indirectly… Even tho he dint block me on any social media…. I miss him like crazy.. Nd I wnt him 2 do so 2…. What do I do??

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 30, 2016 at 8:48 am

   Hi Gloria,

   when did you break up? for me it was right that you didnt send nude pics..very disrespectful of him

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    Lexi

    December 27, 2016 at 1:11 am

    My best friend and I each had things with two best friends. My guy is Guy 1 and hers is Guy 2. We would always go on double dates and stuff but nothing was ever made official. I knew he liked me and he knew I liked him. But then my best friend and guy 2 broke up but guy 1 and I kept talking. But then I posted something on social media of my best friend with another guy to make guy 2 jealous. Later that night guy 1 said him and i were done because our best friends hate each other. Guy 1 told me we couldn’t be a thing anymore and I was devastated but then a few days later he asked to hang out and we ended up hanging out and it was really fun. Then we had a small conversation over text two days later but now he did not reply to my last text. I don’t know where we stand but I need to get him back some how.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 29, 2016 at 9:10 am

   Hi Lexi,

   how old are you both? do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    Simone

    December 25, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    Hello,

    I think I’m dying. It feels so. In a year, my boyfriend and I have been together. 10 months out of them, we have lived together in a small apartment and fought a lot, breaking up and up and up, and been quite isolated, although we have not moved apart until today, I’m irritable and jealous. Should perhaps add that I have been diagnosed with borderline and depression.

    But the last few months I have received tremendous help and gone to a psychologist and really made an effort to get it really good with my boyfriend, it’s better with me now .. but unfortunately too late.

    He got enough today, was totally mad at me, phoned friends and family and packed all his belongings, furniture and clothes and moved back to his own apparment he had when we first met.

    We yelled, screamed, almost fought and been ugly in words against each other. A few weeks ago he said that he wished that we had a good time together, but now he says that it was wrong of him to say so, that he did not mean it at all, he does not feel anything for me, wish he never met me and that he just wants peace and quite and escape fromme. He has simply had enough of an infected relationship .. but I? I’ve just started to get better and want a future with him.

    I wrote a long letter for him when he left, with apologies and explanations. Nothing he has not heard before, but in desperation I wrote it anyway. So he knows I love him. He did not wanna take it, sighed at me and said that never in hell we become two again. Now it is over for good, and he wants to invest in his own life without me.

    So now he is gone, I am alone in the chaos of my apartment and die slowly inside. I sent a text message a few hours ago about that I’m sorry and I love him. No answer. I was going to start my no contact rule now. But what if it does not bite? He is terribly proud that he get in touch at all equal to zero. What if If he lives life without me, more happy and I was just a great plague that he is happy is gone? Do I even got a chance ….

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 28, 2016 at 4:42 pm

   Hi Simone,

   check this:
   What To Do When Things With Your Ex Don’t Go According To Plan (With Christine Hassler)

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    Belle

    December 25, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    My boyfriend and I broke up last 2 weeks. His reasons were that he realized he wasn’t ready to have a girlfriend and he wants me stop being head over heels on him. He wants me to find a guy that I deserve more. We decided to be friends. Even if it hurts. I thought that he doesn’t love me because if he truly loves me, he won’t break up with me. I’m confused because we still chat each other, video calls, argue because of jealousy, and more, minus the i love you’s. It became a relationship without a label. He still sends kiss emojis before I sleep. I accepted the break up because I also know that I deserve better but I just love him and I only have him right now. But these few days, he is starting to get cold. When he chats, I don’t reply fast. But after an hour, I can’t help but miss him so I reply back. I don’t want to block him. I’m afraid that if I won’t chat, he will find another girl. I want him to miss me and get back together. I’m afraid that nc won’t work.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   December 28, 2016 at 3:03 pm

   Hi Belle,

   there’s no guarantee that nc will work but assess the situation, if it’s not getting better, why would you keep doing the same thing?