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8,582 thoughts on “The Complete Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

  1. h.i.t.a

    November 8, 2015 at 10:03 am

    Its been a month that we broke up and i cant get over him .. and i did one of those stupid mistakes of beeging him n mssging him which didnt work at all.
    Nowadays his presence is enough to make me angry .. or maybe a lot angry but whenever i see his pictures and reread our mssges i cry everytime .. longing to be with him
    We gave each other 7 chances in these 4 years .. and the last time when we were in a relationship he told me that he doesnt love me and was only attracted to me and then he didnt get time to talk so we fought for stupid issues .. he is very much concerned about the future …. i want to talk to him but i cant as he has blocked me on every possible app
    please help me out

  2. Tanvi

    November 7, 2015 at 7:04 am

    Hello,

    First of all I would like to thank you for this awesome article and I’m hopping it will help me with my boyfriend.

    We broke up a week ago and for me it was a sudden event. Our relation was not a smooth one we are very different and therefore there was lot of difference of opinion but never the extreme kind of shouting and screaming. But this time it went way out of hand. We were having certain indifference, he was a bit jealous of me getting along very well with one of my guy friend (I assure it was purely platonic). He was already pissed about something at his work n he just got angry with me over my friend. Which is totally new for me as he never had expressed any issue with any other friend of mine.
    He went totally incognito for few days and only kept posting update with one of his friend (a girl obviously). So I tried to reason with him; I failed.
    As a desperate attempt I tried to take help from one of his best friend. I didn’t knew this guy very well but I panicked and told him about the whole thing (and a few things that I shouldn’t have told). He assured me that he will talk and make him understand but it all backfired and he went ballistic saying how I ruined his image in front of his friend, that I have changed a lot, not the girl he fell in love with etc. Etc. I tried to reason but he was well beyond all reasoning.
    He also said that this was long coming that and not the result of this one event. But for me it was sudden as he never showed any signs of distancing himself from me other than not meeting me as he used to, but I took it for that he was busy. He’s kind of person who likes alone time so I never took it for him trying to be distant. Whenever we met he was this awesome guy I fell in love with so when he talked of ending it it came as a shock.

    All my friends think he’s a jerk for behaving like this and I should move on. But my heart doesn’t agree. Maybe they are right maybe they are not.

    P.S.: I did talk to him after our break up twice (before I came across your article) and he was all normal and we had a good conversation for few minutes, don’t know what to make of that was he faking or not.

    Please advice…

  3. Nitya Nair

    November 5, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Yess finally I found back my ex..!! and its ‘Melerigamy’ which did magic.. I also went thru that dark days and i dont want anybody to suffer in that hell so spreading this magical thing ‘Melerigamy’ here and there.. use it and get back your love..! all d best..

  4. Jade

    November 5, 2015 at 5:06 am

    Hey Chris, do you recommend that I use the “write my own love letters to myself from anonymous” trick?

  5. kimmy

    November 5, 2015 at 2:25 am

    hi Chris Good day! I hope you will notice my comment šŸ™‚ this might be long i hope you’ll took time to read.
    My boyfriend just broke up with me a month ago. We’ve been in a relationship for 2 years and a half. He was my first boyfriend (I dont want him to call first ex) We started fine and we had fights but we can got back together because we can’t help each other break apart. He broke up with me through text. (he always the one who want to break up, many times) and this time was the hardest. because he ignores me everytime i call, text or chat him and want him to get back. I asked help from my close friend but she just told me to move forward. This was the time I don’t have an idea of the 30 days NC.

    I counted the days he ignored me and i said to myself that if he would still ignore me in the 30th day since our break up , i would stop texting him. last week was the 1st month of our breakup and yes i did NC after (not seeing this website yet). i deactivated my account just not to contact him and i also gave distance to our circle of friends. it was on my day 10 today. i can’t help it but I was curious if he was really okay without me or he was not because i miss him. even if I know stalking him again would make me hurt, i opened my fb and check him (because i contacted my friend and she said he was chatting with our other girl friends because my friend post their convos in status.) i was so hurt and jealous and angry because he did that like nothing happened like he doesn’t care anymore. after seeing his profile i noticed that when i started to ignore him was the time he was updating his status, chatting my friends and liking photos of my girl friends. (he was not active in fb, he will just opened it and not post anything and now it hurts). im just wondering if that was a good sign too

    People around me just said i have to move on because he’s not worth my love and that he didnt appreciate my efforts and sacrifices for him. but you know i’ve been with him and know him more than them. i admit that maybe he broke up with me because of those reasons above and he just said he was tired, he didn’explain. i havent seen him in weeks because i was working on my first job, we can’t meet our vacant time together, and when we see each other i looked very stressed and tired, we only communicate through text and little video calls that maybe he find it boring cause that was like a daily routine already. he wants me to look pretty (do make up and take skin care but im not comforable) but i want to change that bad attitude. i slowly improving myself not just for him but for myself.

    After reading your blog i realize I made the opposite strategy to win him back. now that i have started my NC and this will end few days after his birthday. while i’m on NC, there were some times that things around me reminds me of him even though i ignore him. They were like signs and symbols that i have to wait patiently that things will get better unexpectedly, like he was thinking of me too (i assumed and it’s funny you have the same name with him!). I want to go step by step as what after NC rule to be successful. my idea is that the first contact i would do after NC is to text him & greet him on his birthday. would it be a good idea? i also wanted to hand him a gift for that day but i think after reading your blog i would just take it all slow. i am hopeless at the same time i’m hoping and think positively. any ideas that would help me? Is there a chance for me? hope you would respond. your website brings all broken hearted women to be positive. thank you! šŸ™‚

  6. Tina

    November 4, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    Hi chris. I hope you have time to read this. My boyfriend of almost three months broke up with me last sunday. Because of our differences,i’m an asian and he’s an american. Then the next day, he was telling me, in order to get him back is for me to have a big booty. Then the night of the same day, he called me and saying that he’s a jerk for breaking up with me, and i found out that, that’s his friends who’s been on the phone. After that he texted me and insisting if i get a booty he’ll go back to me. Then i told him, i’m giving him space to think about if he still want to continue his relationship with me. I’ve been doing the NC rule since yesterday. And i miss him and i want him back. Will you help me? Thank you!!! And i buy your books, do i have a money back guarantee?

  7. jessica

    November 4, 2015 at 2:13 am

    Name: jessica norton
    Message: My name is Jessica Norton i base in Canada, i am 30 years old i got married at the age of 25 i have only one child and i was living happily .After one year of my marriage my husband behavior became so strange and i don’t really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dreamt of losing him, i have tried my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail, i cry and cry seeking for help, i discussed it with my best friend Evelyn and she promised to help me. She told me of a man called DR OCLIFF, she told me he is a very good spiritualist and he can help me bring him back with his powerful reunion spell, she told me how he has helped countless number of people in restoring their relationship. I was really convinced, I contacted him via EMAIL ADDRESS DROCLIFF (A) GMAIL.COM . I explained all my problems to him, he told me that i should not worry that all my problems will be solved immediately. He told me what to do to get my husband back and i did, he said after 3days my husband will come back to me and start begging, and it really happened as he said, i was very surprise, this is so amazing.
    To God be the glory our relationship is now very tight and we both live happily again. please do not hesitate to reach out to him should the need be because he is real and i am a living testimony.

  8. From; Me

    November 4, 2015 at 1:22 am

    Hi Chris,
    I’ve read your article over and over in hopes I can get my boyfriend back. To make a long story short… I was dating a very logical thinker, he was very closed off before we started dating and I really got him out of his shell. I was the first girlfriend he ever had and we dated for about a year and a half. We are both finishing our last semester in college and over the past few months he has changed. He has grown very cold, mean and stressed out, even my friends noticed. This is somebody he never used to be. He used to be a complete gentleman, who loved everything I loved and wanted me to always be by his side.
    Over the past few months things started to changeā€¦ we did still have fun and we did still spend a lot of time together but he did seem distant, something was on his mind. The more he distanced himself the more I clung on trying to fix us. We had multiple talks on how things needed to change and he could tell he was stressing me out. He would apologize and I could tell he felt really bad but really nothing changed.
    About a week ago I reached my limit and I yelled at him. I came to the party to be with him and he completely disregarded my existence. After I walked away crying he told me his grandfather had a seizure in front of him that morning and thatā€™s why he was being quiet. We spent the next two hours in his room talking about how things needed to change. He was holding my hand, drying my tears and the whole sha-bang. I think we both reached out peak and things actually needed to change. That was until hour two of the convo hitā€¦ It was like a light bulb went off in his head and he told me ā€œhe needed space, heā€™s stressed out, and he canā€™t make me happy anymoreā€¦ how much he hates it and how hard it is on himā€. About an hour of this went on and I begged for him to reconsider. He told me we are in different places in our lives and it just isnā€™t working out and he canā€™t give me what I want. But I begged for him to reconsider. He told me his parents dated for a year, broke up because they were in different places and then got back together and go married. I told him I wasnā€™t going to wait for him. But what was the point of bringing that up? Was he trying to make me feel better?
    Our breakup was pretty bad and out of character for the both of us. I asked him if he loved me and he said ā€œyouā€™re a sweet girl, you have a lot going for you, I love you, but I am not in love with you anymore.ā€ Those are the last words I heard from him because I walked out of the door and I havenā€™t heard anything from him since. That was 10 days ago.
    It was so random and out of the blue. He is the type of guy to address an issue after heā€™s let it sit for a while and not think irrationally. It was so out of character for him. I know he knows I am hurt and I could tell it was really hard for him to break up with me.
    I am hurt. I am confused. I donā€™t know what to do or think. I was wondering what you think about it all. Do you think I can get him back if I give him space?

    I would really appreciate it. Thanks

  9. Shelly

    November 2, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    Hi Chris,
    First off I want to say the advice you have to give is so helpful! I love reading your guides, they have been what gets me through some of my rough days. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost six years now. Things have been really rocky lately and earlier last week he told me that we needed to break up. We have been together since he was 19 and I was 18. I know he has not been with anyone else and understand that is somewhat rare for a guy to be with one girl his whole life now a days. He is living with guys who are bad influences and telling him he should go out and have fun, therefor his reason for this break up was so he could go out, have fun and meet new people. I took this as “why aren’t I good enough” and it made me very frustrated at him. I did everything for him and he did not appreciate that nor did he really want me around towards the end. I would love to get him back and I would hate not to fight for him after six years. Before reading your site I must say I did go out of control and text him upset. After reading everything you have said I did stop texting him and he has not reached out. We ended on a note of him saying we will talk next week and I agreed (this was before I read about the no contact rule). I don’t want to be rude and completely ignore him after already agreeing. How should I handle this? How can I make him want me back and appreciate everything I do for him?

  10. Danielle

    November 2, 2015 at 11:54 am

    Hi Chris,
    The thing is: I broke up with my boyfriend around December 2014 but for a few months after we were still texting and it didn’t really feel like we broke up. Around August I noticed he changed a little – he stopped paying as much attention to me and I didn’t mind at the time but while we weren’t together I tried to move on with couple of other boys but none of them were making me even as close to happy as my ex did and I realised that I had started to fall in love with him again. It may be silly to say ‘love’ when I’m only 18 but getting into a relationship with anyone else does not appeal to me one tiny bit. A couple of weeks ago I let him know that I know he doesn’t like me anymore but that I still like him and but he didn’t feel the same so I asked him ‘so I’m just a friend to you now?’ And he replied ‘ I don’t know…I think so’. I told him I wanted to fight for him and all I got back was ‘I don’t think that will work’. Let’s just say I cried for hours and didn’t eat at all the next day and I’m still not eating or sleeping properly and I have crying spell frequently. When I told my mum she was like ‘ nup, fight for him’ and I am. But I have completely skipped the no contact period and we can talk for hours a night (and I would probably go insane if I didn’t talk to him for a month) but I made the horrible mistake about telling him that I know he was ignoring me when I first started to text him. It’s been a week or so since the rant and we still talk a lot every night and I always text him first. I just asked him if he wanted to study with for exams but he said no because apparently he prefers to study alone. So I told him that Iunderstood. I’m so worried that I have damaged everything completely and I need to find a way to redeem myself. I also made the creepy mistake of sending him a letter because we used to exchange cute letters when we were together (I even snuck chocolates in his bag today) but I won’t do anything like that again, it is really creepy now that I think about it. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  11. Amanda

    November 2, 2015 at 9:46 am

    Hey Chris, I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend; however I did it irrationally and on the spot. I just felt like he was not putting in the time and effort to hangout with me or make the time for me. He does work full time and goes to school full time and I understand that he is busy, but is it selfish of me to want to see him more? We saw each other about 2 times a week and at one point we went a week and a half without hanging out (due to his schedule). It has been a week since we broke up and he has ignored me countless times. I am not sure what to do because I feel like I made a mistake for breaking up with him. I wish I would have read your article a little sooner about the no contact rule, but I could not help myself and I have tried calling and texting and no response. What should I do? Does this mean he does not love me anymore? Oh and he turned 21 two days after I broke up with him so he has plenty of distractions. I can’t help but think of him all the time and what makes matters worse is that I work for his mom by picking up his sister (who has hyper-tonic cerebral palsy) from school and nannying her. So I am in his house while he is at work or school. Not sure what to do or how to win him back. Do you hace any advice or any thought as to why he is ignoring me? Thank you!

  12. vee

    November 1, 2015 at 8:46 am

    hi chris…i met this guy online almost a year ago. he started proposing to me telling me that he loved me and he asked to meet me but i kept on postponding. until this on the 3rd of october 2015….we had great chemistry the firstt day we met…so we decided to make it official..but suddenly he started changing, it was now only me texting him first he never called me. he would tell me that hes busy with work..and that he he would not fit me in his schedule. he told me to be patient…i tried.on the 30th of october we had a nice chat and during the conversation he asked if i could come over to his place the day i finish my periods cause he wanted to have sex with me.i told him that i was not ready because i felt it was too early because i had known him in reality for only 27days. .i think he was horny and was controlled by his emotions so he asked if we could end the relationship to avoid long conversations like these in the future. i have not contacted him for 2 days now…i really felt for this guy..thought he was different from the men of my past..do you think he will ever love me like i do… if i do the NC?

  13. Julia schiller

    October 30, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    Hey!
    I had a long distance relationship with a guy and we really loved each other, even thought I’m so far away from him we saw each other once a month and I wanted to move there when I’m done with school (I’m 17), so in 2 years… I spent all my summer there and whenever I had vacation it’s not like he never saw me! He was perfect he was exactly how I imagined a boyfriend! When I went back home after summer we were sad that we had to wait a bit till I’ll see you again but it wouldn’t have been that long anyways… He started going to a new school and working on weekends, then they had to sell their house and all that stuff :/ he got a bit sad and I can understand but he always said that he’s fine! In the middle of September er he told how much he loves me and that he’s so happy to have me and all that cute stuff… 1-2 weeks later he suddenly said that he wants to break up because he has no feelings for me anymore (he just texted me that) so I called him and I started crying and saying that he can’t just suddenly stop loving me and then he started crying as well and said that he’s sorry and he loves me and he just has a time right now… Afterwards he told me again that he really loves me and thanks me that I’m there for him… I tried to cheer him up to be extremely nice and text him and call him sometimes, I also sent him a little gift to make him smile… But he started getting away from me, he was texting me maybe once a day and he never picked up his phone… 2 weeks later u couldn’t stand it anymore! I tried everything and he kept rejecting me so I called him but he hang up and just texted me that he wants to break up cause he can’t stand it anymore because he doesn’t love me… I was so sad and asked him why he told me that he love me then and he just said that he was confused but he has no feelings at all for me anymore and he doesn’t know why… After we broke up he wasn’t talking to me for two days and I really missed him, then he texted me “how are you” and I let my feelings out… A few days later he got the gift I sent him and he said just “thanks” but I told him it was for him when we were in a relationship to cheer him up.. He didn’t answer… I asked him if he doesn’t miss cuddling or holding hands and he said that he misses it but it doesn’t matter if it’s with me… I was so sad and I told him that I can’t believe how rude he is now… He didn’t answer… He didn’t text me for more than a week right now Andy m just here missing him cause I really do love him, I can’t understand how someone can just stops loving out of nowhere… Please help šŸ™ what can I do?

  14. Lizzy

    October 30, 2015 at 11:36 am

    HI Chris
    My bf was very helpful and happy with me throughout our relationship( he accepts it himself). I’ve always had series mood swings for the past few months because of my mom’s serious illness. One day I had an emo breakdown and I told him I’m leaving. The next day when I became alright I called him up to apologize and he refused to come back. How do I convince him that I still truly love him even though I tried to explain everything. We’re also in the same class at college. Begging him didn’t work at all. I started NC only after a month (it’s been a week now) and he shows no change. He told me that he doesn’t want any relationship with anyone because he’s lost belief in them . Are there any chances of getting him back?

  15. Harry

    October 30, 2015 at 4:57 am

    Hi, Chris.

    My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago. I said it first and right after I said it he sent me a message on Facebook and then blocked me. We had many issues but his last message is I make him happy but I am so selfish and we can’t have a future since he’s in London and I’m in Asia. And he said he wishes I like his bday presents that he sent me before we broke up and cherish it and then he said he will not delete the pictures of us and keep them to remember. He said he will never forget me when he gets older and he said he loves me and he wishes my best future.

    But in fact, he gave reasons to our close friend that I don’t like his parents, his best friend, his dog and his church. So he thinks I wont be happy with him in the future and he wants to end and move on. We’ve been together for a year and he has been in the hospital for a month after I left his country. He’s been through difficult times but we’ve been arguing a lot and I think he’s done and he has valid reasons he wants to break up. I’m so hurt but I thought at least you might tell if I can still get his contact after? Like this case is so certain and he has valid reasons. I’m not contacting him at all and I can’t and I won’t. But I’m not sure if he would still miss me if he leave the hospital.

    Harry.

  16. Sophie

    October 29, 2015 at 7:24 am

    Hi Chris.

    My on and off boyfriend of three years broke up with me last month. I have experience with NC and it often worked, but this time he seems to have made up his mind. He wasn’t this assertive in our previous break up. He said he loves me a lot but there’s no changing his mind and this is the strongest decision he’s made. I want him back because I know I made a couple of mistakes of how I reacted to certain situations (and he made mistakes too which he wouldn’t admit). But I mean, I think we have hope to work it out if we work on our communication better. My question is, is there hope for the NC to work on him again considering how sure he seems about leaving me?

  17. Jana

    October 29, 2015 at 12:48 am

    Hi Chris! I hope all is well with you. First off since my break up your articles/advices have been giving me so much courage and wisdom. But I’m still breaking down, feeling my worst. So about a week ago my bf of 1 year 7 months ended our relationship because he thought it had ran it’s course because we had been constantly fighting for little things. The first day he decided to break up I asked him/ begged ( I know I’m not suppose to, didn’t read your stuffs at that time šŸ™ ) to give me a chance to work this out and so he agreed. Then the following day he texted me as if everything was normal until a bit later that day he texted me saying he really don’t know about our situation and that he needs space. I said okay and we ended it from there. It’s been a week since and I haven’t tried making contact, neither have him. I’m sick, worried that he will not try to or that he’s really done for good, is there any hope or should I just move one? Please I do hope I get a response from you. Thank you!

  18. shirley

    October 28, 2015 at 7:06 pm

    Hey
    We were in a serious relationship and he was always so happy to help me . But after a serious emotional breakdown and me saying i’m gonnna leave him (I didnt meant it at all) He just left me. Will NC really work because I was spamming him all this while and he completely ignored me.

    1. shirley

      October 28, 2015 at 7:08 pm

      We’re also in the same class and seeing him everyday is just too painful.

  19. shirley

    October 28, 2015 at 4:38 am

    Hi Chris
    My ex-bf is in the same class as I am and will be for the next two and a half years. We were in a relationship for almost a year and I am damn sure that he was truly happy during this time. Unlike him (who never gets angry like ever!), I get upset easily when I’m having problems and usually he was at the receiving end. I always felt guilty later and heartily apologized to him and tried to make it up to him. I was really stressed all this while (my mom was terminally ill and I lost my bestfriend ) and one evening I told him that I’m gonna leave him. I was completely out of senses and didn’t mean it at all and now he’s taken it seriously and left; he does help me with college work and stuff but he says he doesn’t want a relationship anymore. I’ve been begging him to come back for over a month now, I even tried to convince him that it was only out of an emotional breakdown that caused me to say such things but now he’s completely avoiding me . How do I convince him that i still love him truly and will NC work if i start now?

  20. Barbie

    October 27, 2015 at 7:16 pm

    I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years but he started feeling for someone else nd broke up.it’s been 2 years since v had broken but I still miss him and nobody could take his place.at that time I begged for him and used to make him feel bad. I have Called him 2 months ago too but nothing ever worked . We have attended gym together for a month this year .is there any chance of getting him back?

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