The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Valerie

January 31, 2016 at 4:14 am

Hello.
I’m just going to get into the thick of it. I used to date someone that physically abused me for four years between 13&17. So, development wise, i have no self assurance or confidence. I get panic attacks if men come near me. The only person i ever fell in love with cheated on me. Frankly, I have issues.
So fast-forward to about November. i met the Guy in Question. We became friends immediately, I thought he was very attractive and I actually liked being around him. We started sleeping together- just literally sleeping, every night. He finally told me how he how he felt and we began to date. We spent almost every day together except the weekends because we both went home to work. We went off to winter break and he had me over a few times and I went to meet his family on Christmas Day. He bought me so much stuff, I felt so spoiled and I cried. Also… When we were alone looking at Legos together (we’re lame idk), I felt my heart race and a pang in my chest. I fell in love with him jus trike that. He’s such a kind person, and we just work.
A few days later, he told me a relationship was just too much for him. I made him come see me the next day just to talk, but it was the most awkward moment of my life. We didn’t speak and he almost left without explaining himself. He never did, really. He just said that he cares about me but he just doesn’t have time between work and school to have a relationship. When I asked him about someone else, he told me that he would never do that to me and still cared only about me. Over the break, we kept in constant contact but, something happened to me that involved him and I became distant because I couldn’t face telling him.
Fast forward to starting school again. I sleep in his room the first night, we didn’t speak at all that day. The next day, it’s better but we addressed eachother. By the third day, I couldn’t take it anymore and I told him about the thing. He cried with me and held me and we fell asleep together. And then we did the same every night since. We hang out as we normally did, and we have heart to heart talks at night. When we leave on the weekends, he asks if I’m okay and we still talk as though nothing has changed.
But they have, haven’t they? There’s no way he can’t still harbor feelings and pull me close at night and make sure that I’m okay everyday. I need to know what my next steps are to get back what- I think- he’s too scared to realize that we have. He’s a wonderful person and I trust him. Which is the hardest thing for me to do with anyone period.

Please help,

Val

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2016 at 5:29 am

Hi Valerie,

Have you tried having a calm and non-emotional way as possible conversation with him about how things are between the two of you right now? If you plan on doing so, don’t pressure him. Just ask innocently, what his stance in all of this is.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 11:36 am

Hmmm… I think you do. Specially if you’re going to be classmates. We can’t guarantee that it will surely get him back to you but from what I see, after Nc, all you need to do is end your conversations in high point . So, that it doesn’t drag down to a point that you don’t have anything to talk about.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 2:38 pm

Hi K,

Do you have a particular question in mind because it seems like you know what you’re doing already. 🙂
Ayesha

January 29, 2016 at 12:12 pm

Greetings for the day! At the outset thank you for this wonderful information, the no contact period is working really well for me and my boyfriend has written over 6 letters, 3 phone calls and about really long 8 Skype essays to me in the last 5 days. We broke up 6 days back. What if he gets over the relationship in a month??????

Ayesha

January 29, 2016 at 4:44 pm

Thank you for the response, after no replies from my end, he wrote in today’s letter that ‘it is probably the last time I’m pouring my heart out’…… (By the way today is my 1 year anniversary yet I didn’t answer his calls)
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 2:35 pm

Actually that’s unlikely to happen because a month is fairly short.

precious

January 29, 2016 at 7:01 am

Hello…..tnks very much for dis acticle bt am really stuck n am in pains now, I have been in a relationship for over 2yrs now bt all of a sudden my bf said he wants out in the relationship n I really do love him so much dat I can’t let go. He broke up Wif me last week n since den I have been begging him to come back, he has a gf already bt I told him am willing to stay even if he has a gf now. It seems am actually going crazy abt him. He seems nt to have interest in me anymore…..pls I really do need ur advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 1:57 pm

Hi Precious,

Are you doing NC now?

Ems

January 27, 2016 at 8:49 pm

Hello team!!
Firstly, thank you so much for this site.

I’ve pretty much followed your advice and met my ex – he suggested dinner- I made out
Like it was just as friends as he really freaked out about it. It’s been 8 months since we saw eachother. I did all the wrong things to start- begged, got presents. When we met , he told told me he’d missed me, he’d forgotten how beautiful I was, how weird it was not to go home together. We talked about the break up and he apologised,saying he felt rejected when we were together and it wasn’t working for a long time and he tried for a long time.
The next day he text me similar stuff and little reminders of our relationship, like pictures and little things we did together. I also said similar stuff.
His sister told me that he’s been questioning whether we should get back together.
However, We’ve messages since the day after (me once and then once him)but he seems cold so I’ve not messaged him. Im scared that he’s freaked out about his feelings. Now I don’t know what to do! I haven’t played hard to get too much but I don’t think he’d respond well to it. I have a feeling he knows I’m available and so isn’t pressured to want to get back with me. We’ve done a lot of no contact and met and now I’m lost! Please help!! Thanks so so so so much

Ems

February 19, 2016 at 7:15 am

He called me and said that he was annoyed because I think he just threw our relationship away. I actually said to his sister, who passed it on!!!!, that I would be scared that if we got back together, he would break up with me again.
I’m consistently maintaining that I want us to build a friendship, to the point where I’m totally friend zoning him! Maybe I’ll leave it for a week.

THANK YOU!!!!
Ems

February 18, 2016 at 12:39 pm

Hey,
Yes over text and today he said he wanted to talk on the phone bc he knows I’m worried that he’s sad about
How/why it ended. I was thinking I could
Put it on that and say I don’t want him to be sad about how I was bc I don’t want him to think that’s what it would be like. He said that’s not his lasting memory and he has good memories. I just wasn’t expecting him to have those insecurities as he broke up with me. I don’t want to come across as needy or desperate! I feel like I’ve conveyed that I’m worried about him (when in fact I’m still sad to) – you’re like an angel haha x
Ems

February 15, 2016 at 6:22 pm

Hello again!
I saw him but he was really drunk and it was really busy so we didn’t talk too much. i spoke to his sister and she said that he’s scared to get back into anything bc he felt rejected last time and like it was all on my terms. She said that he is thinking abou ‘us’ but is really unsure.
He still hasn’t text back when I asked him if he wanted to meet, which was planned a while ago and I was just confirming! I feel like if I text him, he’ll do the same again! He’s obviously confused, or freaking out. Should I let the dust settle again. It feels so close but so far!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 16, 2016 at 8:04 am

Hmm actually I don’t think going silent again will do bcause he might feel more rejected.. just be nice of you talk even if he acts like an a**…
Ems

February 13, 2016 at 10:10 am

Ok I’ll let you know how it goes if that’s okay! I’m just going to go in positive and not mention any of the non texting etc. I think that’s the right way to go about it. Thank you again
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 13, 2016 at 1:24 pm

welcome! 🙂
Ems

February 12, 2016 at 7:52 am

Amor!
I’m so sorry to write in again. I’ve been trying to keep up positive conversation and we’ve both started conversations up but I messed up bc he kept not texting back, I text saying ‘what’s up’ and
Then another time ‘why are you being weird’. I know I shouldn’t be needy but he’s so inconsistent and hot and cold at the moment. Maybe he’s freaking out bc he knows I want more and he doesn’t and he doesn’t want me to have hope? I really don’t know where to go from here. He’s invited me to his bday this weekend and even though he hasn’t messaged back, I thought that if I went, he would see me and be reminded about our connection, since we haven’t seen eachother for 3 weeks and when we saw each other, he said he’d forgotten how beautiful he thought I was. I’m so lost and it’s really upsetting me. I know I can put on a front this weekend and we have all mutual friends so I know I won’t be needy at his bday. I’m so lost. Please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 3:34 pm

Hi Ems..

Don’t say sorry! We love to help as much as we can.. In the meantime don’t text him if he’s not texting.. You still have his birthday to attend to, so let him miss you and surprise him with your beauty again! lol..
No, seriously.. let him be for now.. you still have a chance to see him.. so, that’s okay
Ems

January 30, 2016 at 2:48 pm

Amor so happy I wrote in – thank
You so much for the support!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 3:06 pm

Awww.. thank you so much too Ems! 🙂
Ems

January 29, 2016 at 6:41 pm

Thanks so much Amor!
I’ve already text now and ended the convo quickly – he responded well,
He got me a bday Present and I’ve got him one- is that a bad move to give it to him? He also paid for my meal on our date which makes me think I should do the same.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 1:45 pm

Nope, I think you just keep this up.. Maybe another one is that be careful that you don’t appear as hot and cold. Push-pull is more of like not giving everything all at once all the time. But you’re doing good, so, I think you know what I mean.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 9:01 am

Hi Ems,

Thanks too! If you’re in contact now, just keep the positive conversations going, don’t ask if you should get back together, since it’s already in his mind. YOu just need to build the attraction a little bit more and instead of going into nc, do a little bit of the push pull theory.

Rose

January 27, 2016 at 11:00 am

Hi Chris and Amor,

I’ve been reading your website for a week now and was hoping you could help me out. I’m on day 6 of no contact at the moment. Me and my bf were together for a year and a half and he broke up with me because he wasn’t happy in the relationship. He didn’t know why he wasn’t happy, he just wanted quiet in his mind from all the emotions. We left with a lot of pain in our hearts, crying and saying how much we loved each other.

You end your article by saying that if your ex wants to see you again “you’re in”. Of course I’m willing to do everything you have outlined here but honestly I’m sure if I were to call him up today he would love to hang out with me. He made it very clear that he wants me in his life and that I can always call him and he would always be there for me. He wants me to be in his life so it would be easy to hang out with him. So what should I do? I want him to be my boyfriend again so I kind of feel like I’m missing a few steps here to get it from that date back to being in a relationship.

Also, I was wondering if your program would work in my case? I seem to be a bit older than most of your followers. I’m 30 and me and my bf were talking about moving in, buying a house together, marriage, kids etc… Thank you so much in advance for your help!

Rose

January 28, 2016 at 8:16 am

Thanks Amor! I’ll definitely do NC. Are there any articles/programs on here that help you get from that first contact to being in a relationship again?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 9:50 am

You’re welcome Rose! Yes! Click this 🙂 ExBoyfriend Recovery PRO System
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 3:43 pm

Hi Rose,

The rules are not concrete. So, you can break it if your guts says so. But maybe the only tip I can give you is that you make sure you don’t end up in the friend zone and do a little nc if you can’t finish it for at least 21 days. Maybe a week? Make him miss you, so when you go see him again, you look better and you have leverage to build the attraction. So, that too, focus on building the attraction, since you don’t have to work on re-connecting with him anymore.

Anna

January 27, 2016 at 9:17 am

Hello,
my situation is a bit different.
We’ve been seeing each other for five months. He had recently ended a long relationship and is still in divorce. On our first date he told me he liked me a lot since the day we met and he wanted to know me better. Few dates later, he told me he’s not ready for a new serious relationship. For all this time I was the one calling him and asking him out, he almost never did it. We’ve been seeing each other once or twice a month. I was never calling him too much, I always waited for two weeks and then called.

When we were together he was very nice, he told me few times he really feels good with me, he always behaved like we were a couple. He invited me to a vacation. I thought that since he wants to spend more time with me, maybe he would like to try for a more deep releationship. (I think that this kind of behaviour confused me – he said he didn’t want anything serious, but always was so nice, I just thought of that as mixed signals). That’s when I made my first mistake – I told him I had feelings for him. He once again explained he’s not ready for a new realationship right now. And he said he’s afraid that I might fall in love and he doesn’t want to hurt me.

After that we continued to go out. I made my next mistake. I wrote him a letter asking if he had any feelings for me and if he thinks that maybe in the future we could have a
serious relationship. We met to talk about this, he told me that right now he’s not able to have feelings for any woman. He said it’s better for us to stop seeing each other because it’s bad for me. I remember that when we talked I cried and was asking him to invite me over and said I didn’t want it to end because it would be worse for me this way. According to him, I would feel bad after every date. He said he knew I was suffering. I told him I was ok and would like to keep going this way and before I went home I said something like “see you in a few weeks”.

So for the next two months I’ve been calling him many times. Sometimes he called back and we had nice conversations, other times he didn’t answer my calls and that’s when i kept calling and sending text messages for days in a row until he answered. I sent him messages on Facebook too asking him why he’s doing this. Once he even called and said we could see each other soon, but that still hasn’t happened. He was always nice on the phone. Other times he called and said he’ll call the next day again and he never did.

Finally, I wrote him another message saying that probably the time we spent together doesn’t mean anything to him and that he doesn’t even have a little respect for me just to answer my phone calls and that it really hurts. He didn’t even read it. Again, five days later I sent him a text asking him if he wants to meet. He called and said he doesn’t want us to see each other anymore because our relationship is pointless and a torture for me and for him because we were going nowhere. I asked him if he could invite me over so we could just have sex, and I asked him this a few times and everytime he said no. I know I really sounded desperate. Then he just said we could meet to talk if a phone conversation wasn’t enough for me. Now I’m waiting for him to call. I’m not even sure if he’ll do it, but I’m thinking what to say. I know all the mistakes i made, so that’s why i’m not planning to beg him, or to look sad and desperate. I want him to see that I’m accepting his decision. I just want to try not to behave like before anymore. I want to remind him of the good times we had together and that he made me feel happy and i thank him for this. I might tell him if he wants he can call to see how i’m doing or just to meet for a coffee. I already told him that i would be happy to keep having him in my life even as a friend.

Do you think that I should even try this plan in this case and after the mistakes I did? Probably he doesn’t even has any strong feeling for me.
Would he even wonder why I’m not calling? I’m afraid there might be other girls in his life
and that maybe the time we spent together is not that significant to him.

Anna

January 29, 2016 at 11:21 pm

We met today. I told him how happy I was with him, how I loved sleeping next to him, that I understand that he’s not ready for a relationship and that I’m accepting his decision not to see each other anymore, even if it’s hard for me and I really don’t want to do it.

He said our relationship was always strange. It couldn’t have developed any other way. And it couldn’t last long. He said we couldn’t have any more dates anymore, but we could meet at the bar with a company.

He told me he shouln’t have acted this way – to tell me he feels good with me and be distanced at the same time. Bu he said he has always told me how he really feels when he’s with me – that he feels good.

When I told him he must solve the problems he has, he said that he’s been trying for a long time and lately he’s been seeing his wife, he didn’t even know what they were trying to do, maybe not to divorce.
But I was too afraid to ask him if he wants to get back together with her. He has told me before that he never wants to get back together with her again.

I told him that I’ll be glad if he calls just to see how I’m doing or to go out the two of us. He said he’ll call.

I don’t know what to do. I’m devastated. I wish I knew there is some chance. I’m not even sure about this plan anymore. Then I would try to do that plan, which I know might not work.
But right now I feel like I don’t want to live anymore. It hurts to know that we might never have anymore dates, that he might never invite me over and that we’ll just see each other and the bar and just say “Hi”… and that’s all.
Anna

January 28, 2016 at 12:55 pm

Thank you. I hope I can do it.

I guess if anything happens we’ll start from the beginning. Maybe that is what I have to aim for – to be the girl from the beginning of our relationship, the one that attracted him and not to be the clingy, desperate chaser I turned into.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 1:10 pm

Exactly!!! You go girl! You can do it! Woot Woot!
Anna

January 27, 2016 at 9:27 pm

Thank you for your answer.

Yes, I realise he was clear with me about what he wants.
I remember that after a few dates he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him and I asked
if that was all he wanted and told him I don’t want just sex. His answer was “Sex is a good
way to start and then we’ll think about the rest”. And that made me think that things will
develop after time.
He told me that it wasn’t just sex for him, but also it wasn’t anything serious.

He said to me that it was his fault and he should have thought earlier that I might fall in
love. But I don’t want to blame him for anything. I appreciate that he took the time to
explain to me how things were.

I’m still thinking to meet him this Friday, if he calls. But there will be no more begging, crying, sad faces. I’ll just tell him how happy he made me, how much i enjoyed our time together and I thank him for this. I want him to know I understand him and that I can’t make him be with me now. I don’t want to pressure him anymore. I’ll tell him if he doesn’t want us to see each other anymore, I’ll accept his decision. But if he ever wants to call, I’ll appreciate it.

And after this meeting I will try not to contact him for a long time. Maybe I’ll try this plan even though I know it’s not 100% suitable for my situation. I want to deactivate my Facebook account (I prefer to do that than deleting him from my friends list) so I won’t look at his profile and won’t see him tagged in photos. I’ve already seen photos from bars with some girls, which doesn’t necessarily means that he is also sleeping with them. I guess he just wants to have fun.

We go to the same bar, that’s where we met. He goes there almost every Saturday, so I won’t
go there for a while.

I will try to make changes in my life – keep up with university, because I’ve been skipping lectures lately, get good grades, get a driver’s licence, start excercising, will colour my hair red because I’ve been wanting this for a long time.
And maybe then I’ll go to that bar because I know that the possibility to meet him there is
big. But I’ll do it only after I made a positive change in my life. And I’ll see how it goes when I meet him. I guess what matters is how I act and talk when I see him. But I’ll think about this later.

First, I’ll get through this meeting and then I start the No Contact. And in my case, I’ll just have to hope it works.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 9:21 am

That’s a very good plan!! 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 3:28 pm

HI Anna,

Okay. I need to be straight, with you. So, if you hate me after this, I understand.
He was actually clear with his relationship status preferences. So, when a guy says that and then asks you out, it basically means he want a date with no strings attached or to put it more bluntly he wants a booty call. He kept trying to save you by saying you shouldn’t talk anymore because he can see, you can’t keep up with his game because you’ve already invested your feelings in it while he isn’t. So, you basically became the chaser.

This time, if you really want him back, I’m not saying this will work 100% but it can increase you chances, be the ungettable girl. No more romantic dates, if he’s not really into commitments now. But keep in mind, if a guy is not really serious that he likes you, he won’t make an effort. He’s just going to give up. But at least you got your respect to yourself back.

If we respect ourselves, other people respect us too. The people who stay in our lives are either the ones that are within our standards or the ones that we keep chasing because we don’t have standards.

Ann

January 27, 2016 at 12:39 am

Hi, My ex did not contact me during the NC period, it’s been 15days. When we broke up due to built up tension of poor communication and my strict parental issues, he said that we are not friends to begin with and not to call or contact him. He needed a break from being unhappy all the time and that he gave his all to me. I agreed that I wasn’t the most appreciative. He also said to let things be, if we are back later then we are but for now there’s nothing to be done. Are we even on the road together? Do I message him and what do I do after another 15days?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 2:00 pm

HI Ann,

No contact mean YOU DON’T contact him in a specific period of time whether or not he contacts you during your set NC period. (I’m not angry 😀 just emphasizing)
I think you need to read this. So, it will be more clear for you. The No Contact Rule (Version 2.0)

Kayla

January 26, 2016 at 9:23 pm

I have read most of your articles and I think they’re awesome to read because they give me so much hope. It makes me realize that I’m not the only one that feels the way I do.

I was together with my boyfriend for 3 years. We’ve had our ups and downs but we always stuck with each other and I loved that. Well recently, he broke up with me for a reason that I don’t think he even understands himself. He told me that he wants me to be happy and he can’t do that for me and that someone else would do a better job. It’s odd that he says this because I was actually really happy in our relationship and I made an effort to show him. He also said that we should just live our separate lives and not be in a relationship anymore. I honestly think he is making a mistake. At the end of the conversation, he told me that he doesn’t want to be with anyone else but me and vice versa. I’m so confused on why he is ending things and making everything so difficult than it needs to be. We don’t live together so we don’t see each other every single day. And he also works in construction so he works odd hours. Please help! I want to get back together with him and so far I’m only 10 days into NC. I hope it works!

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 1:18 pm

Hi Kayla,

Actually some guys don’t say the true reason why they want a breakup because they don’t want to hurt the girl. So, yeah I think no contact can help for him to miss you and realize what he’s letting go.

Ryanne

January 26, 2016 at 4:51 pm

Hi Chris, Amor and your great team,

First, I would like to say “THANK YOU” for this great article. I’ve actually read almost everything you linked with this one. 😀

I was engaged for over a year until my ex-fiancé broke things off with me. No cheating involved nor a bad break-up but it was more of a self-insecurity issue on his part (actually caught him at a dating website on our last month together with fake credentials, I’m not naive but I know for a fact that he would never have cheated on me). He’s the love of my life and I didn’t want to break up with him. Of course, for a month, I kept in contact and stayed available until he’s ready but we all know that was a mistake so I gathered all courage I have on my system and finally decided to stop having any types of communication with him. Everything you advised to do, I did. All contacts were initiated by him even after 30 days. The first texts, the remembering the good times and the jealousy all worked. I’m about to hit 60 days Ever since I did all the steps and three months from being broken up and I feel like I’m going to recycle the steps again. For some reason, I think he’s contemplating with finally asking me out. He said hello during lunch at work a few times (small food court at work), even gotten jealous when I had a guy friend sit with me but not one invite for a coffee or lunch. I honestly want him to initiate it so I’ve just been waiting. Do you think I’m making a risky move or is it normal for things to progress a bit slow? Or am I at a normal timeframe?

Ryanne

January 28, 2016 at 2:35 pm

I did the no contact for 30 days. He messaged me a few times during that time but I didn’t respond. After the 30 days, he still kept trying to initiate contact so I finally responded through text. Casual at first and I ended the conversation. He contacted me again and this time, we brought up memories from when we started dating and as usual, I ended the conversation. This happened quite a few times and in between, I would initiate the contact. After a couple weeks or so, a conversation was brought up that kind of sparked jealousy in him (he wanted to know who I went to the movies with) and if he interrupted my “lunch date” by saying hi (a guy friend sat down by my friends and I’s table during lunch at work). I wasn’t on any dates on both so I just casually told him the truth. He would always manage to try and talk to me or capture my attention but he hasn’t asked to meet me or anything and I didn’t want to ask him because I wanted him to ask me instead. I play the “I don’t care if he does or does not” character and it has now been just going back and forth with texts, emails or random encounters at lunch. I have a feeling that he’s waiting for me to do it but at the same time, for years that we were together, I was always the available girl so I don’t want to spoon feed anything to him anymore. I’m not so sure what to do next.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 10:29 am

Since your workmates, does he initiate a talk at work? If so, engage. It’s like you’re skipping the call step and going ahead the meet up whenever you’re at work. So, if he approaches. Take that opportunity.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 12:59 pm

Hi Ryanne,

I don’t quite understand how you did no contact. You said, you’re about to hit 60 days but you’ve sent the texts? Did you started over again after the 30 days no contact? or during the 60 days your were having a conversation but he’s the only one initiating?

Amy

January 26, 2016 at 1:03 pm

Dear Chris,amor and team,
I see you helping people everyday and can’t tell you how much I respect you guys.
I have been so deeply saddened with my own experience, almost nearing depression. He and I got together when we were 19. I was wid him for 6 years before he called it off. It’s been 6 months since we hv spoken. He has a new gf now. Our mutual frnds tol him never to contact me again. NC has worked in the past for me with him, yes, he has left me before. Our relationship has mostly been long distance and we wud meet couple times in a year. When he finally came to the same city to study to go abroad, he called it off (aftr my bday and before our anniversary, I believe he had already planned it within that month).
I kno I shouldn’t want him back because he has cheated, lied, hurt me and made me feel very little when we’re together and even after. But we had good times too that made us consider a future. We are 25 now, somehow this came as a shock to me because he confessed he has never been crazy about me and its not fair to go on. I let him go, I got tired of convincing him that we are good and he dint respect me or care enough to be with me. He gets alot of attention from girls and I hope he is happy and would like to believe he did it for my good as he could not commit. I ws wary about trusting him once he went abroad and if he would come back for me, he said he wouldn’t.
I really tried to get over him. I travelled, socialised, met someone as well. But the new relationship never materialised, the new guy too walked out on me, three months after. He was younger and decided it wouldn’t work, and he was fully aware of my previous situation.
I am finding it difficult to cope. One year NC is on the cards for me but im not sure its going to help me move on.
Is something wrong with me? Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 1:13 pm

Thank you Amy!,

I hope I can help you today. No it’s not that something’s wrong with you but sometimes in your situation, it’s like the halo effect. You only see the good in spite of the bad. YOu said, you’ve done everything but if you haven’t done this one, I think it could help. Write down everything you loved about him, and write down everything he did that you hated. Think about the things or experiences that you love that you did with him, if you have done those with other people. If they are unique to him, maybe that’s why you’re having a hard time to forget.
And if that’s the case, remember that those experiences can be experienced again by yourself or with others.
Think about the things he did that you hate and think about your standards. Think about if you deserve them and think about if you had been consistent with your standards, would he have done those?

But in doing NC for a year, go for it. If you think that’s what’s going to help, do it. Make it the best year of your life.

Georgina

January 26, 2016 at 10:50 am

Hi,
My situation is slightly unusual so I hope you will be interested and respond as I would appreciate your advice!!
Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago today actually, after 4 years. I did a month no contact, after which he was sobbing to me saying he missed me, but was worried getting back together wasn’t a good idea, which I didn’t beg him, I just agreed if he wasn’t sure then it is not best to try again without him being sure. After this I did not continue your programme detailed in ex recovery pro as we were having to talk almost every day about sorting out getting rid of our house, so I didn’t think the principle would work in that situation. The house will be gone on Sunday leaving no reason for us to talk. We have been getting on really well and both said that we have been enjoying spending time together and talking and want to be friends. I have been the ungettable girl, hopefully, and said that the break up was the right thing to do at the time etc. He has said things such as we can’t be back together as he is worried we will just break up in 2 weeks ( I have never brought up talking about the relationship, have followed all your rules). I think your action plan for getting an ex back will work and I have made my own detailed one, but my question is, been as we are already on great terms and he openly says he cares about me, do I need to do a month NC again before I send my first contact message or not?
Many Thanks!!

Progressing

February 19, 2016 at 9:10 am

Thank you Amor, I will hold off then, so you should only send a sex text when you feel like you are getting close to being back together and he is messaging me lots?
Progressing

February 18, 2016 at 2:55 pm

Hi Amor,
I have been progressing well with the PRO E-book however I am slightly confused about ‘like a girlfriend’ texts and sex texts. What is a good enough sign that you can send a sex text? In terms of, I did a memory text yesterday and his response was ‘it was a really lovely day, up there with my favourite days of us, I was proud to be with you.’ is this a strong enough sign? he has also mentioned sex at times when I have seen him in person. I am beginning most conversations but controlling them all, he is very engaged in conversations though. Also if after the sex text he does not suggest meeting up, should I straight away suggest it or should I continue doing girlfriend texts? Many Thanks!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2016 at 6:42 am

Hello Progressing,

for me it’s better to just send girlfriend texts especially of you’re not sure that both of you are back together because you might end up being friends with benefits
Georgina

January 26, 2016 at 2:27 pm

Thank you, that is what I was thinking as well, I think too much NC may make him think I am not interested to the point where he starts to move on. Thank you very much to the whole team there!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 5:31 am

You’re welcome Georgina 🙂
Georgina

January 26, 2016 at 2:09 pm

Thank you Amor! that’s great advice, so glad I found this website, you really all do a great job!! Sorry to ask one last question, but just to clarify, should I do no contact for any period of time, even a week before I start doing push pull or shall I just do a first contact text soon after we have moved out of the house?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 2:19 pm

It’s okay! I’m glad I can help. It depends on every situation. We don’t actually recommend NC all the time to everybody. Maybe a week before push pull is better for you.
Georgina

January 26, 2016 at 1:52 pm

Hi Amor,

Thank you. I understand the concept of push-pull theory in person but can I create it by text by not responding too quickly and not responding at the climax of conversations? I completely agree, he has to be sure he wants me.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 2:01 pm

Yeah, but just make sure you’re not being rude. Like he should know that before you end the conversation that you’re busy or what. Don’t just not reply at all and leave him no idea why but to think that you’re just being rude. If you have mentioned at the start of the convo that you’re doing this and that, then maybe he can think that you’re busy with that and that’s why you suddenly didn’t reply.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 1:48 pm

Hi Georgina,

If he said he doesn’t want to get back because he thinks you’ll break up again, that means he’s afraid but wants to go back to relationship. For me, if you can work out on doing the push-pull theory more then better. He has to reach a point that he wants to be with you and can see no other option but that.
Georgina

January 26, 2016 at 10:52 am

It is meant to say ‘ he has said things such as we can’t be back together now, as he is worried we will just break up in 2 weeks’.

Rosa

January 26, 2016 at 9:49 am

Hi,
My ex broke with me two years ago because we were in a distance relationship (two continents) and he couldn´t handle anymore that in the last times we were fighting all the time.
In the first year i try to contact him he replies but always beng cold. during this time i hang out with other persons, but i always thought about this my ex because i knew he will come work in the coutry that im leaving nowadays.
One month after he arrived in country where im leaving i wrote him to meet during one weekend and he accepted, we have a wonderfull time, but he said he didnt know if he still loves me and he want to be alone and there is no way to get together again.
After that we keep in contact by text but i knew other guy . This guy is awesome with me, is really really good person and i have strong feeling for him,( and actually is my boyfriend since one year). At the time, i break with all the contact with my ex because i wanted a knew story. In that moment i ask my ex what he expect from me and he replied saying ” like i said you before we wouldnt be more than friends. i would like to keep friend with you cause you are a ery special person to me and my family”. I never replied and my ex never tried to contact me again.
One year pass, i thought about my ex two many times… One week ago, I wrote him, he replies and i ask him if he wants to meet and he agree. So, in 3 weeks he will see each other again during one weekend. The problem about all this that
1) i have boyfriend (even if nothing will happens, like cheat)
2) my boyfriend doenst understand why and he is being very cold with me (what i comletly understand)
3) i dont know what is my goal will all this, i cant think clearly
But if i dont do it, i have the impression that i will have this idea in my mind and makes me feel uncomfortable.
I told all this story to one friend of mine and he told me:
1) My friend cannot unsderstand why i will see my ex;
2) im making a hudge mistake (because i already saw him one year ago)
3) my ex acepted to see me because he feels pity (and in memory to the good times) and he wants to keep just as friend since probably in my ex mind i dont love him anymore.

So, im really confuse about why im going to see him, should i go, why he acepts and if my friend is rigth.

Thanks .

(Excuse me my English)

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 26, 2016 at 1:57 pm

Hi Rosa,

You have to answer the question why you should go and the decision should come from you only. Not because of what other people say, because in the end. It’s your life. YOu will regret not doing what you want and you will also skip the lessons you will learn, if you don’t make mistakes. It’s time to think about this and make your own decision because as what I can see, indecisiveness seems to be the reason of your problems now.

Kim

January 25, 2016 at 11:09 am

My ex bf (Chris) is 47. He was married for 1 year when he was 30. He has two daughters with the woman he married. He has been divorced since 31. He told me that he’s lived a life of partying and enjoying women (casual relations and sex) since his divorce, but now he’s seriously looking to settle down, ie. Get married. My ex bf currently lives with his parents and his daughters visit him about two days a month. I am 41 and single, no kids.

I dated Chris from July 2015 to December 2015. We met in June 2015. I met Chris at a family function. Our families are good friends. Both our families are religious. It was instant attraction. I decided that we should see each other in secret and only tell our families if we decided to get serious. Chris and I have Indian backgrounds. I have made up our names. He pursued me and swept me off my feet during July and August (taking me to a concert, introducing me to his friends). At the start of dating we decided we were getting to know each other with view to marriage. I told him I felt the same as he did. From September onwards he started calling less and seemed more withdrawn from me. From Sept to Dec he initiated all our dates, paid for most of the dates. We met about once a week, but sometimes once a fortnight. I felt like he wasn’t into me so I started holding back my feelings, acted aloof, played hard to get. I frequently told him that I felt he wasn’t into me, this frustrated him. He always said he was into me, and said that he doesn’t use lovey dovey language with girls. From Sept to Dec we gave each other a lot of mixed signals. I felt insecure about whether he was into me, looking back on it I think he lacked confidence too. We never had sex, only kissing and snogging. We’d agreed to hold back physically until we were sure. Around Sept / Oct / Nov I started expressing my unhappiness to Chris that our relationship wasn’t going anywhere and that I was looking to marry someone. Chris said he wasn’t sure about marrying me, saying ‘there’s initial attraction, but then you have to think of compatability’. I told Chris I wasn’t sure of marrying him either and I didn’t mention the subject again.

I felt Chris wasn’t into me because:
1. Though he text me every morning, he didn’t phone me everyday from September onwards. Or he’d mostly phone me while he was driving. (My last bf Dave phoned me everyday in the morning, evening and throughout the day – he made me feel loved).
2. He never told me he loved me. He didn’t complement me often. (My last bf Dave told me he loved me everyday).
3. I felt like Chris ‘fitted me’ into his family plans (parents, kids). I wandered if I was a priority to him, or just a make do woman!

Chris is not very expressive as a guy (he told me this and I learnt this about him over time). But because he was a ‘gentleman’ towards me, I wasn’t sure if he really fancied me.

From September onwards I started being distant from Chris, our communication broke down and we grew apart.

The break-up: I’d been distancing myself from Chris over time, acting aloof etc, because I wasn’t sure how he felt about me. We broke up after a Christmas party that his friends had invited us too. During the party I was kinda mean to him, ignoring him, didn’t dance with him and danced with others. After the party he phoned me to ask why I seemed upset. I gave him an answer and story that I shouldn’t have – I told him that my previous bf (Dave) had told me he loved me everyday and phoned me 3 times a day. I told him that I lost my virginity to Dave and that he would have done anything for me. I told him that his feelings for me didn’t compare to the feelings Dave had for me and that I missed Dave during the Xmas party. I guess our relationship was over at that point. During our break up conversation I told Chris I felt he wasn’t into me and that he didn’t bring all that physical side out of me, like my ex Dave did – this annoyed Chris.

A week before the break-up, Chris and I went to the cinema. He snogged me more intensely than ever during the movie, he fondled me. A week later, during the break-up chat I told Chris that I felt like we were getting more physical but we didn’t have an emotional connection, and that we should put the brakes on physically.

When I broke up with Chris, I felt like I had pushed him away as follows:
1. Telling him my ex (Dave) was more into me and that I was thinking about Dave recently, missing his love. I told Chris about my ex for the first time during our break-up conversation!
2. By not initiating intimacy with Chris and being distant with him for about 2 months before the break-up. (During that time I felt like he wasn’t into me enough, I was hurting and playing games, but this pushed him away).
The reason Chris gave me for dumping me: After telling him about Dave, Chris ended our relationship saying: ‘We don’t connect, we had too many mixed signals & things should happen naturally’ (we were both on our best behaviour too much and giving off mixed signals, it became a bit dull !). (Chris has spent the past 20 years partying, I’m not a party girl and I don’t drink). He said that during the Xmas party I didn’t enjoy myself as much as he did, because I’m not a party girl by nature (ie. things not in common). He said we had too many mixed signals and things should come naturally to a couple (ie the physical side). During our relationship Chris told me he was being a gentleman to respect me, therefore he wasn’t too physical with me. I didn’t encourage him to be more physical because I instinctively felt that he wasn’t into me enough.

The day after being dumped by Chris: I phoned Chris. I said sorry for telling him about my previous bf (Dave) like I did, and assured him that my previous relationship wasn’t wonderful because it ended, as Dave was controlling and possessive. I told Chris that I felt passionately about him and that I’d like to start our relationship over again… this time more openly (physically and mentally).

Since the break-up: I initiated all contact with him since the break-up. I phoned a few times after the break-up, for a casual chat or to tell him that I’d like a proper relationship with him. It’s been 6 weeks since we broke up. In the first 3 weeks he always answered or returned my calls, but ignored some of my texts. I don’t see Chris day to day. Since the break-up I deliberately bumped into him (!) twice at a local Indian temple. On the first occasion he was friendly and smiled when I flirted, but when I asked him to meet for a coffee he seemed pressured / uncomfortable. The last time I saw him / communicated with him at the temple was on New Years Eve, he smiled at me affectionately (I think because I opened up to him about my physical desire for him more since the break-up)… we chatted like friends, he also flirted with me a little. I assured him ‘I’m not stalking you’. He smiled and said ‘You can stalk me anytime’. This was my last interaction with him in person.
Since New Years Eve: I have contacted Chris a few times. He has responded to some of my texts: he is brief and friendly. I’ve phoned him twice but he didn’t answer, so on both occasions I sent him a follow up text to let him know that he didn’t need to call me back because I was going out etc.
On 18th Jan 2016 I had car problems, so I text Chris to ask for his car garage details, he sent them to me. We exchanged a few friendly texts. I phoned Chris but he didn’t answer (I sent him a follow up text to let him know that he didn’t need to call me back because I was going out etc). Chris hasn’t followed up with me to ask how my car is doing!
On 19th Jan 2016: I sent a text to Chris about my sexual fantasy with him – I did this on impulse (I’ve sent him a few light but sexual emails since the break-up, he responds positively but in a respectful manner). A few hours later I followed up with another text saying I couldn’t believe I’d sent that text to him, that I was sorry and that I needed to go home have a shower! Chris hasn’t written back to me since this text and I haven’t contacted him further. I regret sending this last text to him. I was attention seeking…. But it was juvenile of me…

What are your thoughts on this relationship? Do a stand a chance to get Chris back? If so how can I get him back? He is a stubborn egotistical man! Please be honest!
Sandra

January 24, 2016 at 10:40 pm

Hello, thi is Sandra.
I was in a long distance relationship for a little bit over half a year. Just this past week my now ex-boyfriend started to act very distant and when I asked him when to meet up next he said to do so in 3 weeks time. He lives in Madrid (spain) and i live in valencia (Spain); we usually met every 2 weeks as we could reach each other in a couple hours.
He stopped all texting on Monday when I told him when to meet next, (I has gotten angry at him because he was not trying to meet up) but all i texted him was “i’m not even gonna get angry.
When, we didnt talk for a couple days (which was really weird, as we’d talked everyday since we started going out) i texted him and asked him if he would come over or if it would be me. He texted back as usual and we engaged into some random fun topic…so I thought that was it
Then Thursday he texted me saying he was nearly back home(he had been somewhere around Barcelona coz of work) i texted him, “madrid?” But he never texted back, not friday neither Saturday. So, i woke up today and texted him if he got to see “kangaroes” seeing as he was mostly there but he never said he had arrived or anything else since… He said why kangaroes? And i amswered “you must be at least in Australia. Well, after a while we got back to our usual texting making fun and stuff… Then i told him I had missed talking to him these days
He said he had realised he hadn’t missed it and that he was thinking about our relationship. I told him not over whatsap and that he had to phone me.
The phone call lasted over 10 min, he said he loves me but doesnt see where this is going.. I said I disnt understand why he had told me to meet up on February if he wanted to stop seeing me…he said once more that he loved me and that he wouldve continued our relationship but that it made no sense.
Now he has texted me asking how i am doing and to have a nice week at work
I dont understand how we came to this. We were fine a week ago and we were planning a trip together and Monday he was texting to say when we could meet up next.
I truly dont understand anything and dont know what to do about it
I’d be very thankful for your advice
Gracias

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 1:51 pm

Hi Sandra,

I don’t understand him too! Haha! But I think he wants a relationship that is more connected with somebody by seeing his partner more often. Right now, I think he’s undecided. He’s trying to reconnect because he misses you but he wants more out of the relationship. Maybe you can talk about making a way to meet up more?

Elizabeth

January 24, 2016 at 6:04 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me two days before our two- year anniversary. I know the break up was not necessarily planned on his behalf. We had been arguing pretty frequently. However, we always worked through it. We’d address were we went wrong and make up. Now the day we broke up (Jan. 20th) we were in an argument. I questioned his commitment. One thing lead to another and I asked, “Do you even want to live with me anymore?” He looked up at me, put his head down, and didn’t say a word. I stormed out of our room and said, “Well I guess I found my answer.” I came back about 10 minutes later because I realized I had forgotten my school books and laptop. When I came back to the house, he told me he loved me and that he was sorry. At that point I was a mess. I cried hysterically and he hugged me while I cried. It was a very sad afternoon for the both of us. When I asked why he was doing this he said, “We’ve both been unhappy lately…we’ve been trying to work this out for months…You need to do things that make you happy…We need space… we need to grow more… we need time to mature more.” Might I add he just turned 21 earlier this month and I very mature for only being 20. After I cried and begged him to reconsider, he had to leave for work. That night we talked more, showered together, cried together, he then left to be a lone for a couple of hours, and by 10:00pm I noticed he wasn’t home. I scanned the house and found him sleeping on the floor in the computer room. I asked him if he wanted to stay here, and he said not really, so he followed me to our room and we slept.

The next morning (Jan.21st), I got ready for class, awkwardly packed a snack in front of him, and our roommates (his older sister, 22) and her (fiancé, 23) and left to school. I came back in to grab my umbrella and found him sitting on the ottoman with his head down. I looked at him and softly said bye. He looked sad and said bye, I hope you have a good day. After class I came home. That afternoon he sent me message asking to talk to me when I came home. I didn’t respond. As I was leaving the house to go run a quick errand, he was at the door as I was heading out. He smiled and had his hands in his pocket and looked rather innocent. Now, at this point I had high hopes that he had changed his mind. He asked me if I would be home after running my errand and I said I would be. He then asked if I was hungry and asked is I wanted to go out to lunch, his treat. I smiled and said I’d love to. He walked me to my car, opened and closed my door, and waved goodbye. I was sure he had changed his mind. The car ride to lunch was pleasant, we talked liked nothing had ever happened. We got our drinks and he looked at me said, “I just think we need more time grow and mature before we can be in this relationship together.” My heart dropped because I was expected something totally different. I let him talk and didn’t interrupt. He went on about, how I need to find things that make me happy and I can’t depend on him for happiness. He mentioned that in four years maybe then we could try again. He also said, that he still wants to talk to me, still wants to see me, and hear about my accomplishments. After he saw the look on my face, he said I thought taking you out would lighten up the mood.

We left without ordering food, talked in the car, went back home, and cried more. I grabbed our book; a journal we’ve shared and written love letters to one another and the first thing I saw was a card. I opened it thinking it was an old valentines day card, but it was the card I gave him for our 1 year anniversary. I read it and weeped, he gently took it out of my hands and cried with me. He held me and said, “I have to go, being together will just make this harder on us.” As I cried more and begged again he did eventually leave. After talking to our other roommate (his friend- who’s also in 2yr. relationship) I decided to pack a bag and leave before he came home. I set our journal on the bed, along with the card, and a short note that said, “I won’t try to convince you anymore…”
I found out from our other roommate (his friend) that he didn’t come home that night.

The 22nd was our anniversary. Knowing he was at work, I did come back to the house; I needed my calculator for homework. I checked our room and it was not slept in. He did however see the note, because the notebook I wrote the note in was now closed and placed on our bookcase, and our journal and card was closed on the last page I’d written on. I grabbed few of my things and left.

We haven’t talked since the 21st, and I am just hoping he realizes what a rash decision it was to break up. I have an idea that he may have felt suffocated in the relationship. Maybe it went to fast for him, maybe he missed being single, maybe the arguments got to him, and maybe turning 21 changed him. My best friend said it would be best to “move out” by next Sunday, the 31st. She said if I wait too long the process will take longer and if he continues to see my things it will continue to make him feel like I’m there and he won’t get the chance to really feel like gone.

Is a week a good amount of time to give us space and to pack up ALL my things?
Do I tell him when I’m coming by to collect my things? Or not say anything at all?
The bed is also mine, do I remind him to pick up his bed from storage…?
Should I make the move in one day.. or come back the following weekend too?

I just want make the decisions that will lead him back to me.

Any advice will help. Please and thank you so much..

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 12:07 pm

Hi Elizabeth,
If your decision is to do nc, move out and don’t talk to him. Make the move in one day. I can sense your questions are moves to get to see him again or talk to him again but if you’re doing Nc, you have to avoid contact in all forms during nc unless it’s really needed. Like if he has one of your books and you really need it for class, ask him for it but don’t talk about the relationship then thank him politely and nicely before leaving.

Jessica

January 24, 2016 at 2:56 am

Hi! My ex-boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We both lived in London and we met 6 months before I had to leave to New York. We both knew that I was leaving so the relationship was really intense and serious to make up for that. When I left we decided to try long distance, but I was a little reluctant because I have past experience and it never works out… however, he came to see me and things were pretty great until he started getting very stressed at work. We still skyped almost every day, but he was more distant. That made me freak out and as a defense mechanism, I started saying that the relationship wasn’t going to work, that distance was too complicated and that I couldn’t cope with not seeing him and having him stressed. That made him even more distant and I got more upset, so I started random fights about pretty much anything I could think of… as you probably guessed, he became even more distant, but whenever I asked if he wanted to break up or he didn’t love me, he replied that he did love me but he was just too overwhelmed with work. As the fights became more intense, he stopped calling but kept texting every day, although his texts were a little cold and he wouldn’t say things like “I miss you” anymore. The fact that we can’t see each other doesn’t help either… so I called and told him we needed to break up because of distance and the fact that he clearly had no time for this. He cried and told me he didn’t want to break up, but then he calmed down and said that maybe I was actually doing the right thing, that he really didn’t have time and that he wanted me to be happy and move on. Also, he said that he probably needed to be alone for a while and get his life back together without a girlfriend. So we stopped talking for a couple days until I texted him that I missed him. He replied that I shouldn’t be sad, that I made the right decision, that I should hang out with my friends and live a happy life. I asked him if he missed me and he said he didn’t have time to think about that (work) and that he actually felt comfortable with the break up, that he still loved me, but that it didn’t make any sense to be together when he had no time for me and we couldn’t even see each other. That was about 2 weeks ago. The problem here is that I am going to be back in London in 4 months, back for good, and that I actually really do love him and want things to work… just not now. So I don’t know if I should try the NC rule and then casually talk to him so that he doesn’t completely forget about me before I’m back or if I should really just try to live my life and see what happens when I’m back in London. It’s very hard not to think about him and I’m not sure I can wait that long…

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2016 at 2:40 pm

Why not try Nc for I be month and then rebuild the connection after that. It’s still 4 months from now, so after nc you still have 3 months to be friendly then flirty before going back to London and hopefully , you homecoming can give your relationship another chance

Tara

January 24, 2016 at 12:35 am

Hi! I have a quick question. My ex and I were dating for 10 months and everything was good until the last month where we would get into little arguments and we both started to grow apart because of these arguments and he broke up with me. But 3 days later he text me saying how much he misses me and how he wants to be friends (for right now and we will see what the future holds and saying that he wants to see me). So we are on good terms and he is the one that text me every day with good morning text and text me throughout the day. Would you still recommend the no contact phase even though he is the one that initiates the conversations?I feel like it would make him just quit texting.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2016 at 12:53 pm

I think you need to focus more on getting the attraction back to avoid being friend zoned

Eve

January 23, 2016 at 4:14 am

Hai Chris.My ex and i broke up last 1 Dec.The relationship was 2yrs 3mths.During the first week he still contact me saying how much he miss me and couldnt stop thinking about us.I did not reply to all of his text.2nd week he called me saying how much he miss and all that he really loves me and dont want to loose me just like that.It was on a Wednesday so we didnt talk till on sunday.I was shocked when he told me he didnt want me anymore he dont love me and all.I cried and begged for him to stay for 2 nights straight and all he says was get a life its over i never want to return back to you again.Btw,this is our 2nd time breaking up the first time it was just a few days but now its been almost 2mths.I broke it off cause of some girl emotions and told him he’s not the one and all but i didnt meant it.I didnt contact him for about a month now.Plus 2wks after we broke up he has a new gf and theyre together till now.What should i do?

Eve

January 25, 2016 at 1:07 pm

Yess i have not talked ever since a week before xmas.What should i do i really love him i do regret my decision but he has a new gf;(
Eve

January 25, 2016 at 10:35 am

Yes i have not talked to him since a week before Christmas.What should i do i really love him.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 2:03 pm

Since it’s been a month, you can try a test. What have you been productive with during no contact?
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 2:57 pm

Hi eve,

Are you doing active No contact since the last time you talked?

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