How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

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Rossy

April 13, 2016 at 12:31 pm

Dear Chris,
Me and my ex were in a long distance relationship for about 1 year and after that things started getting real bad. We texted, called and met less and less until there was almost no communication between us. I tried my best to talk things out but he wouldn’t cooperate. So i was stuck- he would neither break up nor give any clear indication about what he feels/wants. All he would do was ignore me.But i knew it was already over. Thats when i came across your website and decided to do an NC on him.
On the 3rd day of NC i came to know that he was already in a relationship with a girl who studies with him. That literally broke me but I decided not to break the NC and even though i had realised that i had been cheated by him, i did not confront him. Eventually after talking to some of his friends i found that he was in relationship with 2 other girls in the past while he was still engaged to me.
He did not try to make any contact with me even after i totally disappeared from his life. But almost 2 weeks after the NC I found out that he had blocked me on Facebook (even though i had not tried to make any sort of contact through Facebook , neither posted anything related to him, infact i had unfriended him).
After about 3 weeks of total NC he called me but i did not receive his call.
Then complete 30 days of No Contact was complete but i still did not make any contact as i had realised that i was better without him. He did not try to make any contact with me whatsoever after that one single time. Meanwhile he and his current girlfriend deactivated their Facebook accounts. (Both have access to each other’s phones and probably Facebook passwords also)
Now 45 days of perfect NC is going to be complete but i am still madly in love with him. What should i do? Should i try to get him back ? Is he even worth getting back given that he had cheated on me multiple times and played with my feelings ? Should i try to contact him? Please help.
Yours Faithfully,
Rossy.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 14, 2016 at 6:37 am

Hi Rossy,

if he’s not man enough to break up, ve strong for yourself and move on from him.. Be active.. Do things you used to put off, go out even if you’re alone.. find your happiness so you can move on

Fiona

April 13, 2016 at 12:20 pm

Hi,
My ex-boyfriend and I were in a relationship for 8 years. Our good times together were amazing but our rough times were really tough. Most of the tough times we faced were primarily due to the fact that I loved him but was scared to completely commit myself to the relationship as it was kind of scary for me how much I loved him and was scared of getting hurt based on my experience of my previous relationship. This led to me taking every little thing that went wrong in our relationship out of proportion, over analyzing things and finally deciding to break up with him. This happened multiple times over the 8 years we were together. However, every time we broke up, he always convinced me that it will be okay and we will make it work. I always agreed and delved back into being with him again only because I knew I loved him so much that everything would be okay. 3 years ago he met a girl who is currently his best friend. I never hated her when they started their friendship but I could tell from the first day he introduced her to me that she liked him was hostile towards me. I tried not to take her reaction to me personally but every chance I got to hang out with his group of friends that included her I took it and it was always fun but she never really tried to get to know me as a person. Overtime, his relationship with her started to cause a lot of tension in my relationship with my ex but we were still going strong and he made it clear to her and all his friends. The last year of our relationship, I went through a major emotional roller coaster which tested my relationship with my ex and honestly probably took the biggest blow to his ego. I can’t really go into the details but the summary of it all is that I moved to a new city, broke it off with him, went back to visit him for about 3 weeks for closure and ended up becoming his girlfriend again. During this period, i was only thinking of me and never thought of how I was affecting him emotionally. 3 months ago I decided to move back to his city and he volunteered to drive over 14 hours from his to pick me up, pack my belongings and drive back to his city together. It was an amazing trip and we had the best time together. When I returned home I noticed that he had definitely gotten closer to his best friend and my trust issues kidded in again. He assured me that I was still his girl and nothing would change that. However, during and prior to my return home I really started to reconsider my actions and the role I have played in our relationship and I felt disappointed in myself that I could be so selfish towards someone that gave me his all. About three weeks after returning home with him, he got a call from his Dad asking him to join the family business which is based in a different continent. He agreed and broke the news to me that he would be leaving in 4 weeks. I was beyond devastated as I truly felt sad but happy for him at the same time as I knew it was a great opportunity for him but will take a tole on our relationship. He decided to break things off (and remain friends) because he was uncertain of how he could handle our relationship and the business and wasn’t sure of when he would be coming back to settle down in this country (could be 4 years from now). I believed him but I knew that wasn’t the whole truth and I talked to him about how his decision was so abrupt and out of the blue as we have tackled a long distance relationship twice in our 8 years together. The truth came out and he said that he wasn’t sure if he could go through another break up again. I felt so bad and sad because I had reached the point were I was completely committed to our relationship but he was not sure anymore. I pleaded with him and tried to make him understand that I wanted to try again and I was tired of all the drama that came with breaking up but he wasn’t completely having it. He traveled about 3 weeks ago and we have kept in touch since then and I have still tried to convince him otherwise while trying to be friends with him which has been hard for me as I am still in love with him. He has told me that he still loves me very much but not as much as he used to. He wants us to be together ultimately but he just has a lot of doubts he has to clear up. We have been discussing what went wrong in our relationship, how we both played different roles that affected both of us and what not. He would like to clear his doubts but he feels like his only options as we have discussed so many possibilities. He concluded that there are only two options to him either the long route (to give himself time (minimum 1 years away from me to miss me)) or the short route (date other people (his best option after me according to him is his best friend therefore a long distance relationship) and see if the grass is greener). I am not comfortable with the short route but a part of me is okay with it if it will help him make his decision. I however am not willing to sit around and wait while he dates her and I told him this. I would like to use that time to work on myself and rebuild our friendship and trust. I have not tried the no contact rule but I do not know if there is any point in trying it right now. Also how can I remain friends with him, be in love with him and respect his choice if he decides to take the long or short route to clearing up his doubt?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 14, 2016 at 6:32 am

Hi Fiona,

if he chooses the short route then dates his best friend, then that means he really liked her even before… if he can make it with her in long distance why not do it with you instead? Try nc but also think about, if you’re going ldr, do you have the money, time and a plan to be together for it to work?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 13, 2016 at 6:37 am

It’s ok Shanaya.. I hope he does realize it.. I know it hurts and that’s normal but take this experience as part of life..And a guide to help you choose a better guy
JeJene

April 11, 2016 at 3:00 pm

Hi There, please help!

I’m together with my ex boyfriend for about 8 months. We had quarrels very often in the last 2 months as I caught him lying to me on certain things and he mentioned he was very stressed over the relationship. Eventually he told me his feelings died down for me. He asked to remain as friends but i rejected it and went on with the NC rule. After 3-4 days, he texted me telling me he still loves me and wants me back. He said he was out of his mind and was having depression and will wait for my response to be back together with him. I replied him asking why he has decided to change his mind and he said he couldn’t live without me and said he wanted to see me. So we were fine for a week but we have not yet met up to discuss or talk as I was overseas. After i came back we were suppose to meet on the second day but on that day he disappeared. I spammed him with texts and calls (prolly sound too desperate) and eventually he ignored and blocked me on whatsapp, sms, calls, facebook except instagram. I contacted his Mom telling her what happened and also to ask about him and his Mom told me to give up on him as he do not deserve my love for him and she unfriended me on facebook afterwards. I tried to contact his bestfriend but was blocked as well. I do not know what I have done, we were fine before and suddenly he became like this. Few days later he got together with a new girlfriend I saw their photo in his instagram and she was once his schoolmate. I found out that his new girlfriend was in a 4 year relationship with another guy and had broken up recently as well. I have not met him for two months now and its killing me badly to see that he is with a girl going smooth to a month now.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 13, 2016 at 7:22 am

Hi Jejene,

Start to do new things and build a new routine to start moving on because if you’re not going to be active..it will really be hard

Mikka

April 10, 2016 at 2:51 pm

hello , my boyfriend and i were in a relationship for 2 years hes the love of my life, im his first love… but this relationship is a long distance one and hes planning to leave and going to live in the US, so he always has thos ideas in mind trynna say that he has his work first,his studies first, his ambitions and stuff so we’ve broke up first 4months ago becasue he was too busy and had no time for love stories.. then i tried the no contact rule for a month i could talk to him as a friend then I Sworn to god for something (I LIED) but since this lie isnt about cheating then its ok.. but he’s a type of men that really doesnt like lying. the lie that i tried to tell was :”” i havenot sent any anonymous question to that guy (someone who liked me at the time)” and then i was compelled to give him my passord and so he found out that i indeed asked that quy several questions like ‘ what did you like about that girl ..” so he was annoyed but the important thing that ive done was : I TOLD HIM (MY EX) ABOUT THE GUY WHO LIKED ME AND USED TO TALK ABOUT ME ON ASK.FM BEFORE ASKING THE GUY, because my point was i wanted to know if my ex is still love me and woud be jealous … but seeing me lying to his face hurt him so i lost his confidence but we could get back together and i promised him not to lie anymore,thins went well for 3 months when suddenly he remembered stuff in the past and told me that i might have lied to him before that 1st breakup so he started to have doubts and left me again HE KNOWS THAT I’VE NOT CHEATED ON HIM AND THAT IM DYING FOR HIM. so once again, i tried the no contact rule but ive done something that he doesnt like (childish stuff) so he started to like another girl and now they are together i dont know weither this is a rebound relationship? the last time i talked to him he knew that i said bad things on him and his girl he knew that i was ready to fake conversations in order to ruin their relationship so he told me that im a fake person and a liar and that he hates me now!! he cant even stand looking at me anymore, he said that if i would stay the only girl in this world, he would even want me anymore, he bloked me and doesnt want to talk to me no more.. i tried to explain immediatly, i tol him that im sorry and im willing to change. i want to regain his trust just as a friend, i tried several times i promised him and sworn to god that im trying to change my self but he still doesnt want to believe me …
so please help me i really want him, im dying for him and im really willing to change and stop lying because this isnt fair, i lied once and he forgot all the goodness about me, i want to show him that im a trustworthy nowadays and that im more mature
however how can i proove this to him when hes taken and doesnt wanna talk to me neither to any girl except his girl???

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 11, 2016 at 7:01 am

Hi I answered your first comment, I’m just going to copy paste it here coz it’s my same answer
You can try that but you will just look like chasing him, so make it the last apology before moving on.. I think you can but you will really have to let time pass

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 9, 2016 at 3:17 pm

That shows more that you’re chasing him that’s why he blocked you and the more you do that the more he would avoid you.. keep in mind, no contact should be focused to help you heal and be emotionally stronger and independent.. set aside getting him back for 45 days.. focus on you only because if you don’t help yourself.. you will push him more away.. True love is not needy.. because if you’re clingy or needy that means you want to feel love from him because you don’t love yourself…
Mikka

April 8, 2016 at 8:38 pm

hey i broke up with my boyfriend like 1 month and 2 weeks ago, because i lost his confidence we’ve in a relationship for 2 years ,acctualy : 4 months ago, we were on a breakup and when i was on the point to get him back i lied to him and ive sworn to god and stuff then i gave him my password and he found out that i was lying to him( i didnt cheat on him or whatever) so 4 months later i dont know what happened exactly but he changed suddenly (i think that someone had interfered into that relationship somone could have sent him fake conversations and stuff) so after this breakup, 2 weeks after he found another girl and fell for her quickly and lots of problems happend..some people sent him conversations proving that im planning to fake conversations in order to mistaken his new girlfriend , and that made him really angry and he hates me now hes trying to warn me from droing anything bad about his girl but i tried to be cool i told him that iam able to change my self and stop lying ,, i told him that im sorry that i didnt mean to hurt him but his girl.. i asked him to forgive me but he refused and said: such things cant be forgivable ” and the last time that i tried to text him i sworn several times i told him that i didnt lie to him after that event and im ready to change my self & stuff told him that i dont want to get him back but i just want him to stop hating me.. and he was like : “even if you would stay the only girl in this world i wouldnt want you! i hate you i cant stand looking at your face! youre a lier and i cant stand liers…” besides that he blocked me on whatsapp,,, so Please Tell me how can i win his confidence back now?? becasue when he is in a relationship he doesnt talk to any other girls so i cant really contact him after a “no contact’ becasue i know that since hes taken he would ignore me and wont reply,, please help me i really want him to know that im changing my self and im not gunna lie anymore how can i show him that?

Mikka

April 10, 2016 at 7:54 pm

yea i am doing the no contact rule aand i dont have other option because since he has a new girl he doesnt talk to other girls and cant even look at my face, so do you really think that time can fix that up? cause in 17 days his birthday and im willing to send him a video and telling him again that im sorry,,, but i really need to change the idea that he took about me cause i lied just once how can i regain his trust?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 11, 2016 at 7:01 am

You can try that but you will just look like chasing him, so make it the last apology before moving on.. I think you can but you will really have to let time pass
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 9, 2016 at 9:44 am

Hi Mikka,
if he’s protective then it means you have to let time pass so he can forgive you and then someday when he’s not angry anymore, you can then send your apology about everything and expalanation and that you just want closure and cleaning your name.. after that you have to let it go if he believes you or not because yiu’ve already done your part

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 8, 2016 at 6:11 pm

That’s more reason why you nees to do no contact..you need more emotionally independent..whether or not he oa really with a new girl..the bottomline is he’s not calling for two months.. If he really loves you, he would talk..and then he also said he’s irritated by you, that means you’re putting too much attention on him.. Focus on yourself first Shanaya because that’s a proper way to do nc. Try it for 30 days..and then if you don’t have a positive after initiating that’s when you try to fully move on
Ana

April 6, 2016 at 9:53 am

Hi,
Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago. We were together for 1 year. And that year was the most awesome year of my life because he was my best friend. We kept talking to each other for a while, but not like we were together, more like friends. Then he started liking my friend and talk to her all the time and i get mad of them because they did that to me (and they didn’t even tell me..) so i was really mean with both of them. I haven’t talk with him for 2 weeks and i really miss him. I’m always looking to my phone to see if he texts me or if he is online on facebook. I don’t know what to do. Do you think we still have a chance or maybe I should get over (even if it’s hard)?
Sorry for my bad english. 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 8, 2016 at 12:35 pm

Hi Ana,

it’s ok… If you were not active in the last two weeks for yourself, Try to start count as nc after you read this..Focus in you in that month and find your own happinesa to be more emotionally stable and so that you can reflect too

Dede

April 5, 2016 at 2:05 am

Hey I was in this relationship with my ex for 3 years and I broke up with him because I found out he was cheating on me with two women and one is pregnant for him now and now he’s posting pics of the girl he’s with now I still live him and I want us back what should I do ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 5, 2016 at 8:55 am

Hi Dede,
Honestly, you don’t deservw him and it’s not healthy to go back with him

angel

April 2, 2016 at 5:36 pm

im in lDR we were together for 4 months then he left me for other girl he told me we shoyld remain friends , i will do the no contact rule as soon as possible , but the thing is he have anew gf now i see her in an online game we play together they are in a relationship. this is destroying every chnace and dream i had . what to do now plz help

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 4, 2016 at 7:03 am

Hi Angel,

it’s really a slim chance with ld.. even if there is no other girl you have to have time,money and a plan and
now that there is a girl, that means you can’t appear trying to get him back.. you have to be just friendly until he falls back for you

Michelle

April 1, 2016 at 8:21 pm

Hi I been with my ex off and on for 4 years and we split up in November 2015 but we were still intimate off and on last time we spent time together was January 29 2016 I gave it a month of no contact and as well he did not contact me either after 30 days I sent him a message just for him to tell me to never hit him up again and he has a new girlfriend he changed his number on me won’t tell me where his new house is nothing he’s has really switched up on me and we are legally married he has never been a whole moth with out contacting me the most he ever did with out contacting me was 2 weeks but this time was different he post stuff on facebook of where him and her eat on facebook and he seems so happy with her she post pics of him on her Facebook and never once has she posted a pic of her and him together only him and he has never once posted a pic of her on his Facebook I’m so confused and she lives with him he does everything we use to do with her now. I’m so hurt and so sad and I wish I knew what to do is there a chance to get him back at all?

Michelle

April 1, 2016 at 8:40 pm

Were both guilty of sleeping around everytime we split up I’ve hurt him a lot and he has also hurt me a lot as well. Now he is with a new girl they been together going on two months and it’s tearing me apart I feel so empty j love him so much he is my everything and all I want is to be next to him again and I have to stomach the thought he is in the arms of another woman I’m deeply depressed I wish there was another chance of us getting back together I just don’t know what to do anymore
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 3, 2016 at 12:41 pm

Hi Michelle,

It may be rebound.. what did you text him?

Tracy McAdams

March 24, 2016 at 6:54 am

Hi, me and my boyfriend broke up 3 months back. About 20 days after the break up, he texted me to have sex with him and i asked him not to message me again. Around a month back, he had a put a picture with a girl on whatsapp which showed that they probably were on a date. Few days after that he started putting sort of intimate pictures with that girl and at the same time he had put a status offending his ex (which is me in this case). I have a very strong feeling that he was craving for sex since we never did it in our one year relationship and now he is with this girl with whom he has had sex i feel. One day i was really drunk and i ended up messaging him. I texted him a lot of stuff regarding how bad it was of him to put an offensive status for me and also talking about he dating a new girl so he blocked me on whatsapp after reading those messages. Now i feel i shouldn’t have done that so how can i get him to unblock me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 1, 2016 at 3:59 pm

HI Tracy,

If he just wants sex now, it’s not a good time to get back.. He’ll eventually unblock you after some time of being silent but if he insists on sex, then let him go.. If he really loves you he would respect your principles.

Lisa

March 22, 2016 at 9:21 pm

Hi,
I and my boyfriend were in relationship for 5 years. In 2013, I went out of city to pursue my masters and he was still in the old city. Due to time constraints and long distance relationship problem, I broke up with him saying I liked someone else in another city. He came to me and tried to convince me a lot to stay in relationship but I was adamant to breakup and doubtful about the feasibility of our long distance relationship which later I did. Initially he begged and pleaded a lot to come back in my life but I got busy with studies and ignored him for 2-3 months. Then after 2-3 months, he rarely ever contacted me. I started contacting him when I was in 2nd year of my Masters and got to know that he got committed to a new girl who is fairly rich and outgoing than me. Now I am back in the same old city and we once met too. He said he’s really happy with his new girlfriend and now he has also blocked me from every possible channel. He doesn’t respond to my calls and messages anymore. And I m getting this nostalgic feeling because I have spent 5 years of my life with him and he was my first boyfriend, everything reminds me of him and I am not able to move on with anyone else also. Do I have any chance of getting him back again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 12:36 pm

HI Lisa,

It’s going to be harder but 5 years is long, the new girl might be a rebound. Are you doing no contact now?

quien

March 22, 2016 at 8:57 am

what if the situation is like this, he wants his ex girl friend back, his ex girl friend before me as his ex girl friend now.. Do you think he really wants his ex back than me as his ex girl friend presently, I am the present ex gf, but what if he wants is his ex girl friend prior or before than me.. he used to comment on the post of that woman while on my fb itself he does not

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 5:46 am

if he wants his ex girlfriend before you and if that is clear, you should stop trying to push because you might end up as rebound for that girl.

Shanaya

March 21, 2016 at 7:02 pm

Me and my ex were together for 1yr 10months. In the starting of this relationship i wanted him to be possessive and did some things due to which he was hurted and some of my friends also told wrong things about me to him to create some misunderstandings. Then in 2015 he left me fr those reasons and told me ki he cant trust me but he came back after 7 days and told me he will try to trust me but those 7 days i cried everyday. Then everthing was going ok and i love him so much and he also loved me so much and loving each other continued for 8 months. But after that in dec 2015 we used to fight everyday and he alway used to bring my past that u made me jealous and all. And i was so frustated bcz he dont want to trust me that i love him cz he used to think that i dont. I was so much frustated that i was so much angry one day due to our fights and bring my past again and again and i told him for a brkup. But next day i meet him and told him that i was angry and u dont want this brkup cz i love u but he was not listening to me. Finally we broke up and i used to miss him and used to call him by smone way or other but he everytime told me to move on and told me ki he dont love me anymore and one day i called him and he told me he has a gf and i was broken. The nxt day i called him and told him that i hate him. But 2 days after that i again called him and he told me not to call him and his gf and used bad language to fight with me for that girl. He even blocked me. Not all no. But my no. And now he is going to different state for studying. And fir that girl im nt sure that they r together or not cz i think he did so cz i was jealous of that girl alot. I dont call him but i miss him alot and want him back.

Shanaya

April 14, 2016 at 6:05 am

That girl i told you in starting that he got her a girlfriend he really got her as her gf..i hate him soo much for wht he did to me..after a brkup he got her as his gf..nd im hurted here nd he is happy their with his new gf..he is such a cheap guy..nd thank u for ur help..
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 14, 2016 at 12:28 pm

you’re welcome..how I wish I can just make things better with your kind of situation
Shanaya

April 13, 2016 at 8:42 am

Actually i dont need a better guy.. I just wish he will realise someday and come back to me ..that old same him that used to love me..i know i can just hope..and to show him i will be strong…thank u for ur help…but do u really think cases like these boys realise??nd can we again come in relation after a long period of breakup also?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 14, 2016 at 5:32 am

it depends on his standards.. if he sees his actions are just normal..he won’t change.. there’s a chance because maybe at that time he won’t see you as clingy anymore
Shanaya

April 11, 2016 at 10:12 am

And i can only wish that he come back to me and as per ur saying i will do my best to show him changed me bt im a bit confused frm where will he get to knw that i have changed as in he has blocked all my contact frm everywhere?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 11, 2016 at 1:10 pm

when mutual friends see your post and if your mutual friends are also with you in the photo and tagged..and we’re not sure if he will not check that someday
Shanaya

April 11, 2016 at 4:33 am

Today only i got to knw that he deleted all my contacts frm his phn or maybe blocked them im nt sure..bt i will be strong enough..so that he c changed me..nd i really dont hope so also that he will ever contact me..bt its ok i will be strong enough..
Shanaya

April 10, 2016 at 5:36 am

What i think is that in those 2 months of our brkup i cont. called him and he was so much irritated that now i think he wont ever try to call me..is their any way even if it takes much time that i contact him??or he wont ever call me6
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 10, 2016 at 6:24 am

From what he said, he really is irritated.. If you keep thinking whether he would call or if you should call doesn’t help.. If you keep thinking about him, it means you’re not focusing on yourself and not trying to heal.. If he sees you have truly moved, it will be easier to be friends, but that won’t happen if you keep obsessing about him.. Be strong, coz if you don’t, instead of having a chance someday, he might end up just thinking you haven’t changed.
Shanaya

April 6, 2016 at 2:47 pm

As per my story can you tell me why is he doing this as in no contact and if i contact him he dont want to talk and some other girl in his life fake story cz before brkup we both loved each other alot nd serious relation types but ya he was insecure cz we leave in long distance suddendly all his love disappeared?and pls do tl me that for how many days shld i do no contact?nd even aftr no contact he didnt contact then what shld i do??
Shanaya

April 5, 2016 at 8:44 am

So do you think i shld do NC and that will work? He us going in a long distance frm me also? Till date he didnt even tried to call me or contact me and frm last week i too didnt contact him?as per my case do u think will he call me?i knw its a break for me frm friendzone but i want him as my bf..
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 5, 2016 at 11:12 am

I can’t assure you that it will certainly work but it’s the better step..coz in that way we hope he’ll see u in a new light
Shanaya

March 30, 2016 at 2:50 pm

But its been 2 month for our breakup nd in those 2 months i only called he never did and his brother told me that is not in relation he was making u jealous thats it and i dont knw if he would ever call me bcz i really miss him alot and i cn do no contact rule too but i dont knw will he ever come back cz its already been 2 months and he told me he used too feel irritated by me
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 3, 2016 at 8:31 am

I can’t guarantee by if he friendzoned you at least you can have a break from that.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 28, 2016 at 5:39 am

H Shanaya,

You became call gnat and it itrritated him.. You should do no contact.. I think you should eithet do 30 or 45 days

sam

March 20, 2016 at 10:45 am

yes im back lol..no we havent just met up once or twice in the beginning. if I do the NC what should I do block him on whatsapp? if I block him he will think I didn’t care and if I don’t hr will see me online talking to friends or otherwise two ticks will be shown.. if he calls and I don’t answer he might think I’m ignoring when he asks me after the NC where iv been and why have i been ignoring him what should I say?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 21, 2016 at 3:25 am

nope don’t block him…

you can message him and if he doesn’t reply..send a last message that you understand why he’s not replying annd that you’re going to take time for yiurself and for him too.. and then do nc.. at least that way he already know why you’re not messaging but he won’t know until when..

if he replies continue the convo..but if after nc he still doesn’t reply or engage..that means it’s better to move on

Sam

March 19, 2016 at 8:56 pm

hi, my ex and i were together for 3 years i left him for some reasons I got into a relationship as soon as so I could forget him and so did he. we have been talking on and off through the pass 2 years i have done the NC for like 10/20 times breaking it all time time he must be thinking all i do is leave and come back and i have been talking recenly even though he told me to move on we speak as friends he also still speaks to the girl that he got with after me but I love him suddenly he has stopped replying back as much what should I do we speak on whatsapp when we do. should I do the NC ? if so will he not just think all I do is leave him. please help what should I do??

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 20, 2016 at 8:43 am

I remember you sam.. 😉 The first nc was really long, 1 year and also because there wasn’t enough rapport, attractiob and trust built after that even if you were talking everyday…

There’s something lacking in the convo.. did it progress to calls and dates? And also, why were you repeating nc all the time?

for now, if he doesn’t reply then it’s not your fault anymore if you don’t reply too but if you want, for your peace if mind, try to text him as friends still, don’t pressure him to go back with you coz if he’s into the new girl..he’ll just avoid you more..

But actually for me, that’s chasing.. if you are going to fo nc.. Finish it, this time before trying again

Nicole

March 19, 2016 at 6:54 pm

My boyfriend of five year just broke up with me. He had always been loving me unconditionally, putting me before himself. We had common life goals and shared many amazing experiences together. The problems of our relationship mostly came from me being upset easily over silly things, then them escalated until he said sorry and made it up to me. Recently, his best friend passed away, which affected him a lot emotionally, and he has been having feelings for another girl, who happens to live in the same shared house with him. He said the reason for the break up was that he was tired of me being upset easily and it had nothing to do with the new girl. I know that I was at fault but I think he is in a confusion state. I still love him very much. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 20, 2016 at 8:25 am

Hi Nicole,

I think it is because of the new girl Are you going to do what Chris adviced above?

Jade

March 19, 2016 at 12:06 am

Me and my ex had been together for 3 and a half years, there is a small age gap between us as he is younger then me at the time I was his first everything, however over the course of our relationship I wasn’t over things that had happened in a previous relationship as a result my ex ended things with me and told me he no longer felt the same we kept seeing each other though for a few months after however in this time which I didn’t know he had a new girlfriend who he met at university. He got with her around a week after we split up, it’s been two years later and he still contacts me every couple of weeks the latest yet saying he loves me a misses me but when I confront him on it to talk or to meet he flakes and retracts what he’s said. We have slept together while he has been in his relationship and he continues to stay with her. I can’t move on because I still love him I really need some help I know that I shoukdnt talk to him but I can’t help it.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 19, 2016 at 5:02 pm

Hi Jade,

It depends on your standards..Although I know you know you should move on but I think being clear in your standards will help you decide when enough is enough

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