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3,819 thoughts on “Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend”

  1. Liz

    February 19, 2017 at 2:21 am

    So me and this guy have been broken up for a long time now. And I found out that he got into a relationship on Christmas after he had said he would wait for me many times. They have been together for almost two months. But I realized that I loved him and I should not have let him go. But he is happy in his new relationship. But I want him back. Is there a chance this will happen?

    1. Liz

      March 20, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      He told me that they started talking and got into the relationship that same day. They have been together for almost three months.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 23, 2017 at 8:51 pm

      yep, it can still be a rebound but the longer it goes, the more serious their relationship gets too ofcourse..

    3. Liz

      March 18, 2017 at 10:39 pm

      He told me that they started talking and got together after they started talking. I don’t know if he even knew her before or not. But they got together after a couple of hours

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 20, 2017 at 6:48 pm

      HI Liz,

      it depends, if they are in a rebound, there could be a chance..

  2. Caryssa

    February 11, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    Hello 🙂 So I ve been seeing this guy for a couple months and everything was fine between us and then he suddenly decided like a week ago or so to block me on social media and posted that he s in a relationship with this other girl. Now I know she was after him for a while ( they have been friends even before we were dating). .like a month ago or so she posted a picture of them on fb, but he instantly deleted it and still continued to talk to me. So I contacted him letting him know I found out he s now talking to her and how I feel about it and all he told me was just sorry I don’t want to hurt your feelings…
    But I still do love him and I would like a chance to get him back and make this relationship work .
    So please any advice would be appreciated. Thank you 🙂

    1. Caryssa

      February 14, 2017 at 6:44 pm

      Well i guess I already kinda failed at the 30 days because I met him last night ( we’re in the same group of friends pretty much, so I think I’s gonna be hard to avoid each other) but we both were super ok with it …actually he started talking to me first he asked if i was mad at him and if i want him to leave and i said no it s ok with me ..and he did hang around for a little while and I could see someting was kinda bothering him , like he felt confused or something and then as he wanted to leave I told him hey I would like to talk to you someday ..just hit me up when you have time and he said yes of course I will talk to you ..and then we hugged and he left.
      Now I m going to give him some time and see if he is going to actually really hit me up if not I will start the 30 days today and just hit him up after that 🙂 I honestly really hope we can work this out..

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 14, 2017 at 9:45 pm

      yeah, that’s ok to restart the count..

    3. Caryssa

      February 13, 2017 at 4:48 pm

      I don t know if he cheated, I never suspected him.
      Yes I’m trying to follow the advice ..I’m not going to talk to him for awhile, but then what’s the thing I should say when I’m ready to contact him again??

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 14, 2017 at 4:26 pm

      do at least 30 days, after that continue improving yourself while building rapport.. Use topics he always loves talking about.. open this link:
      Handling The First Time You Talk To Your Ex After The No Contact Rule (Live Coaching Session)

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 13, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      Hi Caryssa,

      did he cheat on you? do you want to try the advice above?

  3. V

    February 11, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    I had a guy. After our three-times date, he moved to the USA(long distance relationship). We were not a real couple, but we were serious to each other. He talked to me every minute for about 3 months and tried to meet me in January. But something went wrong and he didn’t talk much like before. Finally, I said “Let’s stop contacting.” He agreed.

    But now I want him back. Will it be possible even for my situation?

    I am on No Contact period and 2 days left, but he didn’t text or call me at all. What’s worse, he has moved on a new girlfriend two weeks ago.

    When NC period finish, should I text him first as your rule says? Or just watch for the trouble signs? Or should I move on?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 13, 2017 at 2:09 pm

      Hi V,

      did he stop talking to you because of his new girlfriend? What did you mean by trouble signs?
      After nc, since because he already has a gf, that means you’re just going to be friendly and slowly build rapport.. check this one:
      EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

  4. Erin

    February 6, 2017 at 11:30 pm

    So heres my situation,
    My ex and i were together for 4.5 years, had a pregnancy about 4 months into the relationship and made the hard decision to not keep her, we regreted it instantly. We were together for 4 years after that, lived together loved together, the whole 9. About a tear and a half ago when we moved into his parents to save money for a house, he started to push me away, i knew it wasnt due to cheating cuz his work schedule was always insane and I knew his customer (we worked from competing companies on the same projects). So then he started getting anxiety and blood pressure issues and pushing me away further. Infinally had enough of always being pushed away (at 4/5 weddings he refused to dance with me or anything unless i dragged him which was not normal for him) i went to visit my parents and thought about taking a break, wheb i came back i told him how I felt and he was aggreable with the break. While on that break inwas away on a trip and met someone. Just as a friend. When i came back from the break after Thansgiving, he told me he wasn’t sure he wanted to be with me due to me leaving him when he needed me the most when he was sick. That killed me. I started yo talk a little more to the new guy and my ex and i ended it. Fast forward a few weeks and a weekend away with the new guy (very brief) my ex started to beg for me back. I pushed him away the way he pushed me because i was scared he was going to hurt me again. I even lied to him and everyone else to make everyone i was ok and moved on. Until my birthday, he planned a surprise party for me, it was beautiful and intimate with all my closest friends. Fast forward a few weeks of him trying to win me back, i started to do the same. I even stopped talking to thenother guy realizing he was just a bandaid. Turns out my ex started to talk to a new girl and just found out this last friday it’s now serious and he just wants to be friends with me now to figure out hos feelings for her… i moved to this state for him so he was my only family. Can I still win him back after this amazing weekend get away he had with her? Or is ot officially over? He says he still loves me but isn’t in love anymore…. I’m devastated

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 7, 2017 at 7:01 pm

      Hi Erin,
      she’s probably a rebound
      since he already decided to choose for now, start the nc period

  5. chloe

    February 6, 2017 at 4:26 am

    hi , i was broke up with my ex boyfriend 1 month ago , we’ve been together for 5 months and Long Distance Relationship but i came visit 2 times on those 5 months . he explain everything that he think we have no chances and hes giving up cause of money problem . and last week he text me asking if i will still come and i said i will come but to visit my brother and he said to me he had a new gf and all i said was congratulations and he just read it . 2 days after asking that he text me long paragraph explaining why he does that and he just dont wanna hurt me and he admit that he dont have a new gf hes just lying . and then he started commenting on my social media and i response nicely but i never text him first since that night he send me long messages . and just this morning i found out that he has a new girlfriend on his instagram post this new girlfriend talking about future family and stuff . but im still being cold , i just dont know how to react later when i bump into him . im so pissed off that hes playing me . could you please give me some advice to handle this boy ? but sure im still in love with him . thank you .

    1. chloe

      February 9, 2017 at 4:34 pm

      i already not contacting him for 3 weeks but now he know that im coming and hes starting to chase me like texting me and stuff . but i ignore him as much as i can like answering after hours with short answer and didnt picking up his calls and hes pretty mad about it . his mother already love me so much i think hes confuse . he wants me but im too far away because yesterday he text me and say hes hoping that i will never ever find a boyfriend .

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 9, 2017 at 8:47 pm

      Hmm.. if you’re answering him, that’s not considered a no contact rule but that’s a good start. This time, don’t answer him at all unless it’s an emergency and if he says he wants to get back together and then be really active in your life.. his texts are a good sign, so, I think you have chance.. Maybe just do 21 days..

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 6, 2017 at 2:32 pm

      Hi Chloe,

      do you want to start the no contact rule first and then try the advice above?

  6. tina

    January 31, 2017 at 4:52 am

    Hi you awesome relationship gurus!
    what a well written article!
    My situation is a little tricky – I’m 30, he’s 33. we broke up last year in april, I fell pregnant in June-ish (I know, terrible, but we’ve been in a terrible gray zone for ages after we broke up). Around May (soon after the break up), he met this new girl that he has started dating properly since the start of this year (so they had been on and off for a while, he told me they were just friends after hooking up initially but are now full on). I know for a fact that there are feelings from him towards me (‘my happiness is your and baby’s happiness’ is what he said when I told him that I dont want to stand between him and his happiness / new girl).
    I’m starting to drop hints here and there of ‘remember when’, make him subtly jealous (this is going to take a while as it’s a little tricky dating while 8 months pregnant, but I’m still looking hot) and support him where I can with little hints (all as you suggested in your articles). we’ve gone to counselling after our break-up since November for 5 sessions because it’s important to me that baby has two parents that respect each other and don’t treat each other like kids. communication since then has been fabulous, his attention to me and support have been second to none. he is telling me that he genuinely cares and has feelings for me. it’s just that there is the other girl… and I can’t get my head around it. what else can I do to get him back? I dont want to push him. he has repeatedly said that our past relationships were not great (and I tend to agree), but I feel that we have changed and achieved and gone through so much over the last few months that I really want to give this another shot. BUT I dont want to come across as needy.

    any advice is much appreciated 🙂 <3

    1. tina

      February 6, 2017 at 10:36 pm

      Thanks for your answer 🙂
      it’s all a little complicated for me. i know that we both love each other but it seems he enjoys her company more and is pretty determined that he’s happy where he’s at and that we arent going to have a good (romantic) relationship. I am showing him that I have lost a few bad habits and have started accepting a lot of his behaviours and how he is as a person (which is what I struggled with in the past). apparently, the other girl is pretty open about what is between him and me and is giving him a lot of space in terms of him bonding with baby and being there for me.
      he stays over at my house at times, and yes, we do have sex (but only if it feels right and when we’re both full of emotions and want for each other). we talk about it openly – he says that this isnt ‘relationship sex’ (whatever he means by that I’m not sure, but we do have sex like we used to when we were together). apparently, the other girl is fine with that as she ‘doesnt want me to miss out’. I made it clear to him that us spending time or a bed together has nothing to do with me ‘missing out otherwise’ or that I ‘need it and deserve it’ (as she puts it).
      I guess, you’re right. I’m going to make sure not to ever say a bad word about her and that he is happiest when with me and the little one once he’s born.
      I’m not going to lie though, i am finding this whole situation rather strange. he wants his cake and eat it too

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 7, 2017 at 6:23 pm

      and stop sleeping with him..

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2017 at 3:34 pm

      Hi Tina,

      If his relationship is rocky, then just continue on what you’re doing but realistically, if the previous relationship had a bad taste in him then your higher chance is if he can see that you only want to co parent and you’re being independent and that you leave good impressions every time you talk and meet to the point that he feels happier with you than with the other girl

  7. Lola

    January 27, 2017 at 9:13 pm

    Hey there,

    My husband and I have been together for 9 years and we’re married for just over 1 year. We broke up after a tough first year of marriage. He left about 2 months ago saying he just couldn’t do it anymore. He didn’t want to even try. We have talked over these two months but every time is ends up badly. He wants a divorce but refused to do any of the legal work so I have started speaking to a lawyer and putting together the paperwork to start the process. I absolutely don’t want to get divorced but I feel like I have to move forward eventually.

    I was about to start NC with him to give myself a break but I just found out that he is seeing someone new but she lives in another state. He has since texted me to say he wants to talk via text… but we haven’t had any more discussion. I’m not sure how to handle this situation. I don’t know how seriously to take his new fling since at long-distance and I don’t know whether staying silent will push her further into his arms.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2017 at 11:43 am

      Hi Lola,

      I dont think if you kept talking it will prevent him from progressing his relationship with her, since it’s already happening and you’re not even having nice conversations right?

  8. Hellen

    January 23, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    So i have been hurting and holding on for quite some time now so i left him when i was 6 months prego back in may we had a house together been together for 10 years since high school i did the no contact except on things about the house and baby he moved out of my house while i was living with my mom in sept the night he moved out he wanted to meet up with me and asked for me to come stay with him all was good for about a month he texted every day asking how the baby was and how i was in oct he came to my moms to stay with me for a night i continued to text and be there whenever he needed me i recently in dec moved back to my house me and my baby alone he just stopped texting me stopped everything he was doing he stopped and then i find out from his sisters he has had a new girl at his house for almost a month.. what should i do i left him so he would get his life on track for me and the baby.. now im finding myself very angry with him being very hateful with him we broke up before for 9 months and got back togther for 2 years then i became prego he never showed any interest with me and the baby until sept i was due in oct around oct he started not texting as much about me and started texting about the baby.. i kept filling him in on everything that was happening with the baby and then he started talking to the new girl i dont want my child around the new girl due to the fact he is just to young to he around new ppl am i correct on doing the things ive done and now he is telling me today that i am a bad mother for not letting the baby come stay with him im so hurt to think our baby is 4 months old and he has already found a new lover what do i do in this situation

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 24, 2017 at 1:27 pm

      Hi Hellen,

      why did you broke up the last time? How old are you both? Does he know that you know that he has a gf?

  9. Jane

    January 19, 2017 at 11:07 am

    Hi Chris. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he was cheating on me and he’s currently still with her. We dated for about a year and it was heaven on earth until I relocated to another state. I went no contact for 6months. Well, recently I decided to respond to his messages on WhatsApp. But I noticed each time he uses her picture as his DP, he blocks me. He hasn’t said anything about wanting back but my friend says he talks about me alot and he was excited the first time I responded to his text though things appear to be fine with him and this new lady. I miss him alot. What do you suggest I do in getting him back? Thanks

    1. Jane

      January 22, 2017 at 6:47 pm

      Thanks Amor

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 23, 2017 at 3:07 pm

      you’re welcome!

    3. Jane

      January 21, 2017 at 11:18 am

      We’ve been texting for close to a month but this habit of blocking me started even before we started texting. Initially after the breakup, he would use her pic and not block me (probably to spite me) but I never said a word to him until he started blocking me in November when he uses her picture.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 22, 2017 at 6:02 pm

      hmm.. that’s quite long, you should trasition to calls but given that he has a gf and keeps on blocking you, it’s understandable that it’s taking time.. the thing is, if this has been a habit of him since November, then I think you have to show that you’re not affected by it by dating others..

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 22, 2017 at 6:10 pm

      and it can be a good sign..but it’s going on for quite a long time..he has to realize that if he wants you back he should stop doing that

    6. Jane

      January 19, 2017 at 11:18 am

      Again I would like to know if blocking me in this circumstance is a good sign.

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 20, 2017 at 5:58 pm

      Hi Jane,

      for me, there’s a chance that the girl is one the doing that or he they’re at a happy place in their relationship at that time when he blocked you..how long have you been texting?

  10. Elizabeth

    January 18, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    Hello EBR Team,
    My boyfriend and I dated for 6 months and this relationship ended in July of 2016. I was in a really bad place in life and he lost attraction for me. We slowly built some rapport back up and met up in November. It appeared thimgs may have continued to progress. He then told me in December that he had met someone and they were dating.

    He offered friendship and said he hoped we could remain in contact. I turned down that demotion and said I was not interested. I’m currently in NC, but I’m not sure how to revisit this building rapport again with him since I’m the one who turned down friendship AND he has a girlfriend. How do I go about establishing a connection when I’ve already turned down what it may appear that now I suddenly want?

    Thank you so much!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 19, 2017 at 5:42 pm

      Hi Elizabeth,

      how much are you improving compared to your old self and compared to the new girl? I think you should do 45 days this time..because he has to see you differently first than the old you that he friendzoned

  11. lalaboom

    January 14, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me
    7 months ago. On both sides we were going through alot of things.

    After breaking up with me he make himself stay busy, by the end of july his friend told him to go out with his ex to see what shes been up to in her life. So by the end of july he did .

    From july to oct me and my ex were
    Fighting, flirting, and even hooked up

    However from the end of September he was talking to this girl more, see he went on a date with her and to make me jealous he made sure to post it for me to see it .
    This girl doesn’t like me too much , we never got along.

    So for 2 to 3 months they have been talking
    And i just found out yesterday they have been dating since Dec 18th.

    For some reason he was hidding
    But seeing in late dec i started no contact
    I saw that thia happen.

    On the 27th of jan is when my no contact ends , however after seeing this i feel broken….he i know we have been broken up for 7 months but for 4 months we were both going back and forth and for like 2 to 3 months he decideds he would go for this girl who he never once tried to get to know, dated his friend, and knows she dislikes me

    I wanted to call it a rebound but i don’t think it is…i feel lost

    1. lalaboom

      January 14, 2017 at 6:02 pm

      At the moment thats what im doing , what im worried about is sending him a message once no contact if cover.

      I feel like it might make drama

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 15, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      if he reacts negatively..just say, sorry if I made you uncomfortable.. I hope you have a nice day ahead..and then rest for a week before trying again

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 14, 2017 at 5:09 pm

      Hi lalaboom,

      then all the more that you need to improve yourself.. if you did all you can in the proper way, then if it doesn’t work out, it will be easier to move on

  12. Deborah

    January 13, 2017 at 7:15 pm

    I broke up with my bf of almost a year due to stress from work, internship and being at the end of a graduate program, I’m also a single parent. I was taking medication for stress and anxiety that was counter productive and basically lost my cool on him (and a couple friends and family) due to the added pressures I was feeling. We broke up, I was horrible to him for about a month. A couple of his friends said some really nasty things to me, in which I counter attacked. After that, we have had limited contact. I have given him his space, with some semi pleading remorseful texts every two to three weeks without much response. We see each other at the YMCA, he goes out of his way to check my location, as he knows my schedule with my child’s activities, so I know he still has feelings. Suddenly, he met a girl on New Year’s Eve, and they are “dating”. I think he was going to ask me to marry him because of things I won’t post here, so I don’t understand why it’s been 3 months and he won’t talk to me about what has happened. I’ve graduate so I feel less stressed but now I’m sad and depressed. Help?

    1. Deborah

      February 16, 2017 at 12:42 am

      I’m going to lunch with his child, and won’t see him at all. I can’t go to a different gym, as this is where my child’s activities are.
      Obviously he’s looking at my social media as his mom texted me out of the blue something weird she had “heard” and wants to meet for lunch next week.
      I don’t know how to be any different then I am.
      Is this all pointless? Should I be moving on? It’s been 4 months broke up? I really don’t want to.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 16, 2017 at 6:35 pm

      ok, just be civil at the gym as much as you can.. Try the nc process first, if it doesn’t work, then at least you know you’ve done what you can in the most dignified way, and then move on.

    3. Deborah

      February 15, 2017 at 3:03 am

      So it’s been a month with “limited” contact, I did say hi how are you to him last week as he got within a foot of me at the YMCA (I was talking to staff by the locker room door). His eyes dialted huge, and he looked scared, and didn’t respond.
      His child keeps coming to my area where I will be with my child, looking sad, so I did set up a lunch date for Thursday (he won’t tell his dad).
      This gf is still around, posting these rediculous “I love you” Facebook posts, to which he responds the same (mutual friends, mine, show me). This is way out of character for him to engage in this type of activity on social media. She acts pretty serious, he seems to be playing along.
      We are working out in the same area without engaging each other, he pretty much ignores me, except when I catch him watching me and my child In the pool.
      So, I know you said 45 days, what can I be doing now to prime for the next 14 days building up to contact? And I don’t think text message is the way to go with this guy, he’s not really a text message kind of person.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 15, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      as much as possible, don’t be around him. Go to a different gym. The lunch date, is that for you children or to see him? Because if it’s to see him, don’t do it. You should be more active in improving yourself and to let social media be the indirect way of showing your improvements. If he’s not a texting person, you can call instead after nc.

    5. Deborah

      January 24, 2017 at 3:58 pm

      Amor
      So now, they are Facebook official 22 days into knowing each other. This is the same man that took 8 months to say “I love you”, 7 years to marry his first wife (deceased 4 years).
      he stand on the upper deck at the Y watching me in the pool, and now has one of his best female friends coming to the pool on my child’s swim nights, and casually talking to me (I have gone to the y 5-6 days a week for 3 years, never seen her before, suddenly she takes up swimming?). It’s desturbing me, he’s in a relationship!! Why the games? It’s exceptionally hard keeping a poker face. I did delete and block everything on social media. I seriously don’t get why it has to be a bunch of games and poor communication.

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 25, 2017 at 12:33 pm

      she’s probably a rebound.. and it’s like he’s making you jealous

    7. Deborah

      January 20, 2017 at 7:56 pm

      He was at the YMCA the other night, standing there looking at me with big sad puppy dog looking eyes, while one of her kids stood beside him (after 18 days of knowing her, he’s taking her kid to the Y). I just turned and walked in the other direction. Was this counter productive?

    8. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 22, 2017 at 9:25 am

      nope.. that’s what you should have done because he’s with her

    9. Deborah

      January 15, 2017 at 5:09 pm

      Yes, I’ll do the 45 day. But do I do no contact with his child (he loves me) and mother too (we only talk once a month)? And what do I do when I see him at the YMCA? And what do I do at the end of the 45 days?

    10. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 15, 2017 at 6:47 pm

      just be cicil with him at ymca..no relationship talk and yes, for theean time do no contact with his family too..focus in improving yourself

    11. Deborah

      January 15, 2017 at 8:35 am

      Yes, I’ll do the 45 days. But what do I do after 45 days?

    12. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 14, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Hi Deborah,

      Maybe because he doesn’t think you’ve changed.. do you want to try the no contact rule? If yes, I think you should do 45 days

  13. Minnie

    January 13, 2017 at 11:47 am

    We’ve been in a relationship for 10 months.. we broke up it’s been less than 2 months.. I still love him and want him back.. He now has another girlfriend and they looked pretty serious.. I begged him to get back to me but he refused and said he is now serious with the other girl and he loves her. I seriously want him back. Please help me

    1. Minnie

      January 17, 2017 at 8:34 pm

      Thank you so much
      I’ll get back to you when I’m done with nc
      Thanks for helping.. you’re really very nice
      Love you

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 17, 2017 at 9:46 pm

      you’re welcome! 🙂

    3. Minnie

      January 17, 2017 at 12:57 pm

      And what if he gets more serious with that girl??
      What do you mean by building report?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 17, 2017 at 8:11 pm

      building rapport means rebuilding the friendship and attraction again.. You have to improve yourself because he has to see that you’re better than the other girl and he shouldn’t think you’re chasing him. Aim to be the ungettable girl, slowly build rapport after nc.. Your improvement, you in a better version is your card against him, because if he gets more serious with the other girl, chasing him will not help you. It’s unattractive and if they’re serious, he would avoid you because he wouldn’t want you to ruin their progress..

    5. Minnie

      January 16, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      What to say to him after the no contact?
      How to start a conversation after the no contact?
      And what if he gets more serious in the relationship with that girl?

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 16, 2017 at 9:52 pm

      you have to be careful in build8ng rapport with him, so that he wouldn’t be protective of the other girl… check this for a first contact message:
      EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

    7. Minnie

      January 15, 2017 at 8:01 pm

      I surely can try.. but he seems to be in a serious relationship with the new girl

    8. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 16, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      then all the more that you should do the no contact than to keep chasing him.Improve yourself first..

    9. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 13, 2017 at 4:26 pm

      Hi Minnie,

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

  14. Juleigh

    January 11, 2017 at 9:20 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years while I was studying overseas when I let my fears about the future get ahold of me instead of communicating with him as I should have. We never fought and had discussed marriage and our future off and on but knew I wanted my degree, etc. before any of that. After the breakup we weren’t in contact except for the occasional (i.e. a handful of texts total) text about computers for about the next 9 months. This was the first time either of us had been in a serious relationship and it turns out we were both waiting for the other person to speak up and reconnect. When I returned from my studies I had to move out of state for the school I had transferred to. One semester in and I came back home for holidays (dec-jan) to find nothing has changed and here nearly 2 years later my love is as strong as ever. During that period I’ve talked to guys and gone on dates but my heart was never in it. During this trip I spent a lot of time with my ex at my house and his, reconnected with his family etc and it was like no time at all had passed. However, I broke up with him around April (?) and last January he met a girl while he was on vacation in Canada. They kept talking and by the following June when he returned for vacation they started dating. She visited him for a few days this November but other than those 3 trips the relationship has been long distance. I love him, and I know he still cares about me but I don’t know if his relationship with this girl is serious or not. I want him to be happy, I want us to be together but not at the cost of his happiness or me intervening in their relationship. Is there any chance? I’ve regretted this for a long time but waited too long out of fear I’d push him away since I’d initiated the break-up.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 11, 2017 at 1:39 pm

      Hi Juleigh,

      if they’re dating from June until noe,.it’s probably serious

  15. TFM.

    January 11, 2017 at 6:20 am

    me and my ex were friends for 4 years in high school. our freshmen year i had my first heartbreak and he was there for me through it all. we went to different school btw. but after that he liked me throughout all high school. then i think it was our summer before senior year that me and him talked off and on then stopped during senior year. after we graduated, we had a county fair thing and it’s in august… me and him started talking then and just became a couple. so it’s been about 6 years now. we dated for 15 months. he broke up with me the 10th of december. after we broke up we were still talking and saying i love you. then on christmas he said he loves me but it’s changed. a couple of days ago i wrote him a text about something. i forgot. but he texted me back and said “i’m done” then i asked him if he is giving up on me and he said “sure”. we haven’t talked since. i don’t care to talk to him. he’s been talking to a girl for 3 weeks and some days now i’d say… i want to do the NC rule. but idk if it’ll work considering the fact he said he was done. btw i’m 19 and he’s 20. but the girl he’s talking to lives in nyc and is a flight attendant. she only comes home where we live sometimes. so i need advice please.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 11, 2017 at 1:07 pm

      Hi Tfm,

      aside from the advice, check this one too.
      The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

  16. Lata Kadel

    January 11, 2017 at 1:50 am

    I love my ex very much. We have had lots of begging and crying after breakup. It’s been 20 days that he brokeup with me. He says he doesn’t want any relation. What should I do? How long should I follow no contact rule? Is there anyway to get him back?? He says he hates me a lot. What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 11, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      Hi Lata,
      did he leave you for another girl?

  17. Needing Advice

    January 4, 2017 at 3:16 am

    I’ve been in a on again off again realationship with my ex for over a year. I did no contact the first time and got him back. We got into an argument 6 months into the relationship and he broke up with me. I did no contact again and he contacted me after a month wanting to get back together. We started talking again and then he told me that he didn’t want to talk to anymore. I didn’t hear from him again for 2 months when he contacted me to give me something in the online game we both play. I wasn’t playing the game at the time so I told him that and left it at that. Last month I decided to start playing the game again and so I decided to send him a friendly message thanking him for what he’d given me. I also found out around this time that he was seeing someone. So to clear the air I told him this and said that if he was happy that was all that mattered. I didn’t hear from him for a few days and then he sent me a message. We had been talking for a bit when he told me that he still had feelings for me but he had to take care of something first. Meaning that he had to break up with his girlfriend. He told me that it would be easy for him because he didn’t really have feelings for her. I sent him a message today and haven’t heard anything from him. He’s been telling me that he misses me and what he misses about the relationship. Should I not have contacted him?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 6, 2017 at 5:41 am

      HI Needing advice,

      For now nope.. let him prove if he really wants you back.

  18. Kitty

    December 22, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    Hi,
    Okay so it’s been a year or so! All we’re doing is breaking up and coming back into relationship. Things are not really going well.
    And this time I’ve lost all hopes of getting him back. I’ve applied this no contact rule even before and it worked. Will this work this time also? I am afraid!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 27, 2016 at 2:32 pm

      Hi Kitty,

      even if there’s no guarantee in doing the nc rule, commonly 30 days doesn’t do much help for on and off couples because it’s not really breaking the cycle.. For you to have a restart, you have to accept and let go of the relationship and then do a long nc before reconnecting to build rapport.. sometimes it can gake 3,6 months to a year of nc

  19. syraa

    December 20, 2016 at 7:34 am

    I love my ex so very much…we study in the same institution so couldn’t do the no contact rule …but I did not talk to him at all…he has a new girlfriend with whom I was always jealous of …the day we broke up we were having an argument over her only and the next thing I got to know was he has started dating her….he stares at me a lot …whenever I look at him he is always looking at me…and now I think so I am not going to see him for about 25-30 days(holidays) what should I do? The next time I see him?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 22, 2016 at 3:10 pm

      Hi Syraa,

      What about the advice above? What do you think? Do you want to try it? check this one too:
      What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

  20. Alice

    December 20, 2016 at 6:40 am

    So my ex boyfriend was checking on me this past week he knew I had an interview he texted me good luck in the morning. Then he texted me after the interview. I did not reply to his texts because I was embarrassed because the interview went poorly. This resulted in him calling me and I had to tell him it went bad. He then listened to me go on for few moments on the phone discouraged then he abruptly said well I gotta go just wanted to see how things went and hung up. That was week before last then this past week he checked on me again asking if I was still bummed. I did not reply because I thought about trying the no contact thing in hopes it might cause him to leave his current girlfriend. I feel quite stupid because I have yet to hear form him since he reached out to me this past Thursday. I just don’t see how no contact could work in my defense when he is seeing another is there even any hope in doing no contact shouldn’t I just respond when he texts me instead of no contact or no?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 22, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      Hi alice,

      when did you break up? how long did you stay friends after the break up?

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