Get Your Boyfriend Back After A Fight

"I Can't Believe I Actually Have a Chance of Getting Him Back!"

With over 7 million women just like you coming to this site ever year, I’ve seen about every situation you could imagine. Most of the time, I can just ask a few questions about your situation and know in seconds the chances that you have of getting back together with him.

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Getting your ex boyfriend back after a fight isn’t as impossible a task as people make it out to be. Now, I don’t want to mislead you here. It is going to take hard work, good timing and the right strategy to position yourself in a place where you have a chance of winning your ex boyfriends back. Luckily, I put this page together for you to break down the overall strategy that you should use if you had a big blowout with your ex. I also feel it is important to point out that no matter what anyone says there are no guarantees when it comes to this kind of stuff. Anyone who says they can promise you that they can get your ex back 100% of the time is a scam artist and I would say you are better off moving on then listening to their advice.

Speaking of advice, everything I talk about on this page, every strategy, tactic and idea I have derived from the foremost experts in the relationship world, stories I have found online and my own personal experience. So, you can rest easy knowing that I am being up front and honest with you. I know this may sound a little goofy but I honestly want to become the number one authority in the world on helping women get back with their boyfriends (if they choose to.) I work on this site every day and will respond to every single comment so feel free to ask a question if you have one.

What This Page Is About

Well, in a nutshell it is about fighting. Using this page it is my goal to help you understand what you need to do to get your boyfriend back after a monster fight. I am going to be talking about the following things.

  • What causes couples to fight the most.
  • How to approach a fight (there is a good way and a bad way to fight.)
  • What to do after the fight (and breakup) to get your ex back.

Now, before I move on to the next section on this page I do want to point out that this page WILL NOT tell you everything you need to know about getting an ex boyfriend back. I know, I know but don’t fret I have a couple of solutions for you. Yes, this page is an epic page. However, that’s all it is, just a page on this site. If you want more in-depth instructions on what you need to do to get your boyfriend back I recommend reading ALL the pages of this site (there is something to be gained from all of them.)

Of course, I have also written an E-Book that is essentially a step by step guide to getting your ex back. The 20,000 words in that guide will literally lay everything out for you step by step so I recommend you check it out if you want to drastically improve your chances of getting a boyfriend back. Check out the link below:

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Let’s enter the fight club now ;).

Fighting… Good Or Bad For Ex Recovery?

This page is focusing specifically on women (who broke up/have been broken up) with their boyfriends because of a big fight. Nothing can get your emotions out of whack like a good ole fight can. All of a sudden you become angry, frustrated and say some very hurtful things to someone you really care deeply about. This brings up a few interesting questions. What do couples fight about the most? Is fighting normal? Do you even have a chance of getting back with your ex?

Hmm… lets take things one question at a time.

What Do Couples Fight About The Most?

I am going to go ahead and raise my hand here and say that I have fought about some pretty silly things with my exes before. I am sure most people can relate on some level. However, I naturally go curious and decided to look up what the average couple will fight about. Here is what I found:

  • Free Time- Girls tend to want their boyfriends to spend more time with them. Guys don’t want to be with their girlfriends, they want to be with their friends and have a guys night out.
  • Money- This is for our our more mature couples out there that live together. The boyfriend will usually complain that the girl spends too much while the girl will complain that the boyfriend doesn’t spend enough. No joke!
  • Politics- This is for a select group of couples who have two differing political parties. Democrat girl, republican guy. Independent girl, republican guy. You get the idea.
  • Sex- What a racy topic huh? Haha, no couples fight about whether to have sex before marriage or after. Sometimes a guy will want to do something a girl will not. Of course, sometimes a girl will want to do something a guy will not.
  • Jealousy- Ahh… the most famous relationship killer. Guys can get jealous of girls just as much as girls can get jealous of guys. Either way, a lot of fights are caused because jealousy plays a central role.

Is Fighting Normal?

Fighting is absolutely normal duhh. Can you imagine how boring the world would be if everyone agreed about everything and there were no arguments? This may be a little controversial but I say, embrace the conflict. As long as you fight in a healthy way (where you don’t horribly demean the other person) you can actually have a healthy discussion that strengthens the relationship. What is an example of a healthy “fight?”

  • Make sure you address the issue. So many couples choose to call each other hurtful names rather than work together to communicate their real issues.
  • Yelling is a bad thing. There is no need to yell. Just talk softly. Sure, you may be so angry that you could punch a hole in the wall but there is no need to yell about it. Talk softly and slowly so you can calmly address the issue.
  • Be as specific as possible when addressing an issue or if ask for specifics if you are unsure. Specifics are good!
  • Eventually you are going to have to cooperate with this person to fix whatever problem you may be fighting about it. Make sure you resolve the problem.

Unfortunately, I have yet to meet a couple that fights in the “preferred” way. Most fights end up being nothing but who can call who the worse name or who can hurt each other the most. Ironically, that leads us to our next question.

Do You Have A Chance Of Getting Your Ex Back After A Fight?

I am going to be honest with you here. If I were to help someone get their ex boyfriend back the ideal “student” would be someone who broke up with their ex boyfriend because of a big fight. So, yes you have a pretty darn good shot at getting your ex back if you broke up directly because of a fight.

One of the first pages I wrote when I created this site was having a legitimate reason for getting back together. On that page I basically state the importance of having a real reason for getting back with your ex. In my opinion a good legitimate reason for getting back together with your ex is if you were broken up because of a fight. Don’t you owe it to yourself to give the relationship a try, enduring the fights in a healthy way?

No Contact Is A MUST

If you aren’t familiar with the infamous no contact rule then I suggest you get familiar with it.

(I talk about it in depth in my system.)

In short, the no contact rule is something you implement immediately after a breakup. You can’t call, text, email or facebook your ex at all. To take things a step further, you can’t even respond if your ex contacts you. I know this may seem a little harsh but trust me when I say it is vital for your particular situation. Lets take a moment to break down why the no contact rule will work especially well in your case.

You had a big fight with your ex boyfriend that ultimately ended in a breakup. Things were said on both sides, hurtful things. Emotions are running high and your first instinct is to call up your ex boyfriend and apologize hoping that you can somehow save the relationship. Maybe you already tried this tactic but had no success at all.

The reason this doesn’t work (most of the time) is that your boyfriend is expecting you to do this. As sick as I think it is, there is a part of all men (myself included) that enjoys being “in control” of things. Every time a girl calls us up and asks to hang out or to patch things up we immediately pull the “oh yea, I definitely got her!”

It’s human nature to shun what we have and to want what we don’t have.

This is why the no contact rule works so well. By successfully implementing it you go from being the girl that he had to the girl that he can’t have and that makes you so much more attractive in his eyes. Let me put it to you this way, have you ever liked someone so much that you texted but they never texted back? You spent all day double checking your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back? Surely there must be something wrong with them so you logged on to their Facebook account only to see that they have been posting updates all day long. Sure, you are angry but the next day you always text them back hoping you still have a shot.

Sound familiar?

Now, can you imagine having your ex boyfriend doing that type of stuff over you? That is exactly what the no contact rule, if implemented correctly, will do for you. It turns the tables and gives you the power in the relationship. Now, there is actually quite a bit more to the no contact rule than just cutting yourself off from your ex (like what you are supposed to do during it and how long you have to implement it for) but I don’t want you to worry about it because I created a very long and in-depth guide detailing everything you could possibly want to know about the no contact rule here.

Ok, But How Do You Get Them Back?

If you are able to successfully make it through the No Contact period one of three things is going to happen.

  1. Your ex will have contacted you asking to see you.
  2. Your ex will have contacted you asking how you are or asking some other general question.
  3. Your ex will have not contacted you at all.

I am going to use this section to advise you on how to approach all of the situations above.

Your Ex Contacts You Asking To See You

Obviously, this is the most positive outcome of the no contact period. While I will admit it is the best thing that can happen it is also very very rare. The goal of this page is to help you get your ex back but I need you to understand that even though your boyfriend contacting you like this is really good you can’t get too overconfident. You have to make sure every step you take is on your terms and not his. Remember, you have to be the “unattainable” and there is nothing unattainable about running back to his arms the first time he shows you a little attention. My advice is to follow the strategies laid out here. Know, that you have him hooked but in order to reel him in you are going to have to doing everything just right.

Your Ex Just Generally Contacts You

This is another really good outcome. The most common one actually. It isn’t as good as (option one) above but the fact that he contacted you means you are on his mind, a lot. Take solace in the fact that he is thinking about you and there are clearly some unresolved feelings from his side. The question now becomes how do you proceed? Well, your best play is to take things really slowly and make sure you check out my step by step guide on how to get him back here. The whole thing is my masterpiece. No joke, I spent a month writing it and it is by far the most popular page on this website. It will take you through every step of the process. Yup, every single step!

You Ex Doesn’t Contact You At All

Oh my gosh, the world is ending…. sike! I can’t tell you how many questions I get from women whose exes didn’t contact them during the no contact period and seem to think they have no chance winning him back. The truth of the matter is that it isn’t an ideal situation but your chances are hardly over. Again, I want you to reference my how to get your ex back guide. There you will find an exact step by step guide on what to do.

What Do You Think? (180)

  1. Nina - 0

    Nina

    Hi,
    I had a “non-relationship” with a guy, for 9 months. Some weeks ago he told me we couldn’t go on like this, he said we had to decide whether have a relationship, or break up. I wanted the relationship but he wasn’t sure and wanted time to think, because he was hurt in the past, and was afraid of commitment. We argued a lot, because he wanted to meet up as if nothing happened, but I was hurt and couldn’t do it. But I couldn’t leave at all, because I love him, and I know he suffers from anxiety and takes antidepressants, so I decided to give him time. Somedays he would tell me he loved me and wanted to be with me, another day he would say that he wasn’t fair to me, and that it should end… But I told him that I would wait for him to decide.
    The problem came the other day, as he saw me at a bar with another guy (just talking). He was annoyed and told me he was totally sure he didn’t want anything with me. I got angry too, because I didn’t do anything with that guy, and I told him he was just playing with me. Then he got veeeery angry, and disappointed with me, because of the things I said to him…
    All my friends say he’s a jerk, and that I shouldn’t wait for him. But he’s the first guy I really love, and it is so difficult… I just wanted him to be happy and believe him when he said he loved me, but now I feel as if I ruined it all. I want him back, but as a real boyfriend, and happy with me. Is it even possible? Or should I move on? Thank you

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Nina,

      you said you talked a few weeks ago and he opened being either really together or breaking up, what did you answer to that? Let him cool off for now. Since you already said you’re not with that guy, that’s enough. Let him cool off for a week or a little more and then talk again.

    • Nina - 0

      Nina

      I told him I wanted something more, a relationship, but he wasn’t sure about what he wanted. I don’t understand why did he bring out that if he didn’t know what he wanted… I understand that he has been alone for a long time, and hurt in the past, that’s why when we started seeing eachother, he told me he didn’t want a relationship. He says he has feelings for me, but that there are things about me, like my insecurity, that make him doubt about having a relationship.
      We haven’t spoken yet, and I am afraid that he might meet someone else when he goes out, or just see that he is better without me… Anyway, if he doesn’t say anything, I’ll wait at least a week to talk to him as you say.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      If it doesn’t work.. Try doing no contact and read this one: The Ungettable Girl

  2. Beka - 0

    Beka

    Hi, We’ve been together with my boyfriend for 10months. Most of the time we have been happy.. But there were moments when I’ve been upset not knowing where we are heading. Ive asked in the Past what his Internations is, what lerem we are headed.. He always stars silent.. Obcecasses if he santa to get mareies and have Kids one day he has said yes. When the right time comes. I have been getting really anxious, especially when we were on a trip in a romântic Island recently everything was fine, until one day I saw everyone around who were engaged and having romantic dinners, weddings, etc, and we were just having a normal dinner.. I shut down and was silent, he hates when I’m silent and when he asked I just said everything is fine. He got angry at me I could see, but then I talked and told him why I’m upset.. We made up. He said we would talk when we get back home from vacation. I said ok. We came back, I kept wondering when we talk, then came my birthday. On my birthday morning he woke up earlier, made coffee, gluten free muffin with decorated raspberries and whipped cream. I got super happy. Then there was a card, and a bag of gifts, a sweater and a bag with prints of 2 legs hanging on the sides- first I thought it was a hoodie but it was a bag not from Ralph Lauren but wrapped in Ralph Lauren box. I got super upset and showed it. I was expecting something a bit more sophisticated or something I don’t have ..like a heart shaped necklace or something. And the bag – I was really confused with. In the afternoon we both cried- he cried because I was not happy with gift, I cried because I was disappointed. We had some arguments, I asked why is he with me even when I’m so terrible mean and may be we should just stop it all .. At the end he said he loved me and he doesn’t wanna let me go.
    Again, after that he sent me a text that he is worried about us and how upset he is with the my birthday happening… and may be I’m right may be love is not all it takes, and may be we should it continue.. He asked we should talk.. I was first sad then got mad and told him if he wants to break he should do it now, I don’t wanna talk.. Will only talk if he wants to figure things out. I ended up breaking up with him over what’s app. Which I didn’t mean. I cried all night, so did he it sounded. The next morning I realized how much I love and care about him, and told I take it back and will do anything and we should work things out. He was still upset, wouldn’t kiss me, just hugs.
    We ended up taking a break, during that time his close friend got tumor, then a serious brain surgery…. I went to take couple of things from his apartment, then he started telling me he feels that it’s unfair I have to wait for him, and we have to take this break. He said he feels confused and at the moment it feels like not continuing is best. I tried to convince otherwise, that we should try and work on us, on communication and I will wait. He insisted, I agreed, then got mad, I told him he doesn’t love me then if he is not willing to try. I took all of my things away, he helped to get all my stuff in bags, I left. I said thank you over txt for not dragging. Wished him well. And told that I got the answer I’ve been asking for, not what I wanted but everything is clear now. I said good bye.
    I deleted him from FB and LinkedIn, I have him on what’s app still. It’s his birthday today. I was planning surprises, but not sure if I should text him or not now. I’m worried for him, and his friend. And what a terrible timing. I want him back. I feel like he hates me… What to do? Advise? ;(

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Beka,

      I think it’s too early to ask for marriage. You’re just 10 months in. And also, and with the gift.. I understand you were expecting more but for him it felt like you didn’t appreciate his efforts.

      I’m not sure but it looks like you have this conditions on how you would guage if he loves you and expectations from him and he keeps disappointing you but in his mind, he probably thinks you’re being demanding. But I think you’re just not communicating what you really want in the right way.Just talk to him heart to heart. He can’t read your mind so, he won’t know how to make you feel loved or special.

      I think you should talk first but if he’s not willing, then understand him and start no contact so, you can both heal first before rebuilding rapport

      Right now,

  3. Lou - 0

    Lou

    Hi! So, this is my second time here on Ex Boyfriend recovery and the first time I had a really great plan to get my ex back. So, the thing now is that me and him had a massive fight because I talked sh*t about him with a common friend when I was really angry and upset, and when he got to know that (I guess the other guy was not a real friend hah) he broke up with me and told me he would have never forgiven me (he eventually told me about a lot of old fights too, and I said sorry for them too). So I begged for him to come back to me, said sorry and everything and I got blocked on IM services (but I haven’t been blocked on Facebook and Instagram, where he just unfollowed me) since I became a text gnat. The last messages I wrote (with no answer) are about me saying sorry and hoping for him to talk to me when he felt to. He saw them, but I got ignored.
    Is it too late? What should I do now?? I desperately need your help!

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Lou,

      you said you have a plan, what is it?

    • Lou - 0

      Lou

      Hi Amor, thank you so much for your reply!
      So, at first I engaged in nc rule and he came back to me, not properly begging but he did wanted me. But now things have got a little bit different, he broke up with me because of me “ruining his name” and so on,he didn’t expect me to do it and he feels betrayed (even though he is capable of being so mean when we fight,that’s why I got very angry and decided to make the Big Big Mistake). Even though I promised that I’ve changed and that it won’t happen again, it seems like he doesn’t listen to me. The last time we spoke I promised not to contact him ever again so that I could let him think about all the situation (and he said the usual mean stuff he normally says, that he doesn’t want to see me/hear from me/stuff but replied with an ‘ok’ when I asked him to do so). What should I do now?
      I already feel sad and overwhelmed, I don’t know what to do. 🙁
      ps: he keeps blocking and unblocking me on SM at eveey conversation we have! At least today he unblocked me on Telegram, where we spoke the last time 🙁

    • Lou - 0

      Lou

      edit: blocked from Telegram and Instagram again for adding something to what I said before. Grew tired of him and sent him a text message letting him guess that he truly let me down and I don’t accept being treated like that and that he won’t hear from me ever again ’till he’s going to make the next move. He called me, I declined the call, he texted me telling I ruined his evening and that he doesn’t want to hear from me. I didn’t answer and then after a while he came with another message telling me to disappear, even tho I didn’t answer.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Ok, stick to no contact now

  4. rose - 0

    rose

    rose

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  5. shybeing9673 - 0

    shybeing9673

    hi my boyfriend walked into my life and started loving me like crazy and when he came to know about my past he doesnt want to be with me anymore how do i change that? he is too angry to believe or understand anything at all. he thinks m the same person in my past but i am clearly not, i need serious help

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi shybeing9673,

      how long have you been together?

  6. Chami - 0

    Chami

    Hi im 24 years and my boyfriend also same age as me..we are dated for six 6 years ..our parents also happy about us.he even had plans with me about our marrage..but recently he had some matters with his career and i think it affected him so badly.so he lost his job and waiting at home until finds another one.i try to comfort him and he also spent lot of his time with me..once he said he cant live without me.he wants to spend evry day of his life with me.he saud we both can have achieve eerything in our life…
    i dont know y but now a days he seems very different .. before he wants me a lot but not now.before he hated facebook but now he looks like addicted to it ..he has 1000 friends in his list but not me.he refused to add me ..he doesn’t want to show me..once i asked him this and he said i dont want to post our photos to d world. we r not married yet.i’ll think it later .Can you believe ?? He said he nevr let any man to have me..but now he reconsider about my marrage..when we started our love before six years he posted our fisrt date pictures in fb …but now he try to hides me..but i always posted our pics in my wall ..may be that’s y he doesn’t want me in his list now …
    He has some chats with nice girls but when i asked this he said i didnt addict to fb i just go and posted things,just to spending time and thats all when i asked about that girls he told me its just hi chats y you suspect me..everytime i begged him to take me to the list but he lied to me..or ignored.i can clearly see there is something more.i think he have strong relationships with those fb pretty girls.i can see it from their posts, comments..otherwise he always with me, say everything to me .now he acts werid. allways in fb ..He enjoyed life without me …when we argued ,these day he never called back .he can spent so many nights without me..he doesn’t want me like before.when im crying he laughed and say oh cry girl..ok fine cry then i have my works to do.or most of time he switced off d phone…
    Belive me that is not him …a guy asked me for out one day.i told this but he didint respond ..he told me dont talk to him thats all.but before he got very angry and jelous if a guy even saty next to me..he always suspect me.but now i think bcz of my needy way he knows that i cant live without him even how much i try to pretend strong ..he know my weakness is him..he doesn’t feel pity for me he enjoyed my madness.this hurts me a lot.he doesn’t care about me now..

    next week is my convocation when i asked him to come (i told him about convocation during the argument )he said to me that he have to go for a new job today so he cant come.but its a lie his mom told me he passed d interview but not yet gone for a work.believe me he never lied to me before.he always said we must act honest no lies between us.. even not for joke.but now he say lies to me every time..so we had some arguments about this . he said im over thinker and misunderstanding him so he hates me lot..then i apologize him i asked him that i can forgot all things lets start over again…but he blamed me ..no response for it..
    Then i asked
    r u all mine.I love u so much..no one can take you away from me ,U r mine right?? .. he didint reply soon he just said “mmm ” that’s all..after the argument he didnt answer my calls he said so many bad things to me.he said he hates me dont want to talk to me .we said pretty bad things to each other mostly he did ..

    so now im applying no contact from today .i dont know what will happen .may be he will get close to those fb girls ..may be i’ll lost him or he ‘ll miss me.once he told a girl like me he never can find. He told me he is so lucky to have my love.he said i told to my friends im the luckiest guy in the world to have a girl like me. So may be oneday he reminds that love… one day he’ll miss me…

    but next week do i have to invite him for the convocation again or just ignored him ..If it hurts him if i ignored him like that.. its good if he can come bcz i have my mother only..so he can fill the gap of my father in there.
    But when i call to invite him it’ll break the no contact .what can i do for it…
    Do you think he’ll miss me..i hope this will…

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    • Chami - 0

      Chami

      My convocation is on 3rd aug..it means after 13 days of no contact…when do i hv to call for the invitation ?..once i did this no contact just for three days and when i called him back he seems very angry he says now u call me? Y now… just stay like what you were before.dont talk to me.. what will happen if this become as his reply for the convocation invitation … i really wants him there ..
      need a suggestion to make him want to attend to the convocation ..

    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      hi Chami,

      if you really want the no contact to have a higher chance of helping you, don’t just stop talking to him.. mature and learn to have your own life.. treat this as a start to a new lifestyle…so after nc, you still need to continue those activities..

      if you really want him to change, the change must start with you.. be independent..

      so that starts with not inviting him convocation

  7. Ify - 0

    Ify

    My ex boyfriend and i dated officially for three months though we were together for 12 months and prior to that we were best friends recently fight and i told him we should take a break for a while. After sometime I contacted him we were fine at first only for me for me to realize he when I said we take a break he thought i meant we should break up. I tried to explain it to him but he wouldn’t listen. I asked if we should leave it that way since he thought we were over and he said yes. It’s barely been a week since then and he keeps flirting openly on social media and tags different girls to his instagram pictures. He even goes on Twitter to talk about how he wants a girlfriend. Is he trying to make me jealous or has he moved on? will the nc make him come back?

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Ify,
      we can’t guarantee that nc will get him back but it will help increase your chances.. and yes, it looks like he’s doing it to make you jealous

    • Ify - 0

      Ify

      He texted me yesterday saying “Hey sexy” I ignored because of no contact (which was surprisingly easy for me) he then unfollowed me on Twitter. Though I find that amusing, does that mean he’s moving on or just acting up

    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      nope he probably did that to counter you ignoring him

  8. jane - 0

    jane

    Hi, me and my bf dated for a little over a year and things have been really good. But we got into this huge fight over him and his friends. I never said it was a problem that he was going to hang out with them later on in the day after we went on our date. but he asked if I was okay, I said yes. cause I was trying to drop it and avoid a fight which is usually what he asks me to do. But on our way to our date he ignored me and refused to talk to me. When we finally arrived he still stayed silent and I didn’t say anything either . We were shopping and he was just following me around while being on his phone, so I asked if there was a problem and he said no. So eventually I grew tired of his attitude and asked if we could leave the mall, he was like okay. We got to the car and I finally told him what bothered me and that i was hurt that he didn’t tell me his plans and that bc he was ignoring me in the mall it felt like he didn’t want to spend time with me. He started yelling at me saying he obviously did bc he drove all the way to my house just to see me and then he got really mad and just stayed quiet and when I tried to touch his arm and talk to him he told me not to touch him so I stopped. We finally get back to my house and he stayed quiet and told me to leave and I asked him why he can’t just talk to me and fix our problems it’s a small issue that we can quickly resolve. then he got really angry and started yelling in my face telling me to leave his car and that I’m not making him happy at the moment cause I’m being annoying. Then he said leave my car in 5 seconds or I’m leaving you. I got scared so I left and went into my house. I didn’t contact him, but then he texted me an hour later saying he was done, and breaking up with me and that he is sorry for how things ended. and I still haven’t talked to him… I don’t know what to do?

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Jane,

      Let him cool off for now.. don’t contact him.. he probably expects you to do that..

    • Jane - 0

      Jane

      It’s been a week and i thought by now he would’ve reached out to me, but he hasn’t he’s just been with his friends everyday he can. It sucks because he’s acting as though the past year meant nothing to him when I know that it did.

  9. Puja - 0

    Puja

    Hello, I am in a relationship more than 2 years. last 1 yr we have fighting too much. We fighted regarding a very small reason. Then he stopped talking, but again and again i called him and tried to realize him that its his fault. Then he told me that why i am calling him and disturbing him. After that i told that if he doesn’t want to talk to me i will not contact. Since then he didnt contact me, its almost 2 weeks. Please suggest

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi PUja,

      have you started active no contact?

  10. saloni - 0

    saloni

    Hi

    I am having 2 year relationship with last one year long distance relationship. Whenever we fight my boyfriend said he will leave me and then again we back together .and always most of the time I am the one end up with sorry even it’s not my fault. He always have some weird topics to fight. Iast night we had a bad fight and I am the person who is not giving up easily . but I stop talk to him . then morning he tried to call so many time I didn’t answer his call . finally when I pick up his call he again continue with fight topic and end up with very bad fight . when he start abuse I cut the call . should I call him or text first ?

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Saloni,

      nope you should start being in active no contact

  11. Abigail - 0

    Abigail

    Hi, there is this guy that asked me out, I said yes because I have liked him for a while. We went to a dance together too. His ex was standing there when I was by him, and even dragged him away. Her friends kept pressuring me about it and I felt trapped. So I asked if we could take a break because I don’t like having pressure put on me. But it comes to this day that my friend was friends with him, he started dating another girl for a couple of days, his EX told my friend but when my friend tries defend herself he doesn’t believe her, him and his ex are pretty good friends. His ex started lying that she didn’t tell anybody (she wasn’t supposed to). I had to defend my friend because she is one of my best friends. I was hoping he and I could get back together before though. I ended up feeling terrible about texting him about his business that I shouldn’t of been in. So I apologized. Was it right? 🙁

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Abigail,

      sorry I don’t understand what you’re defended herself from? did she defend herself because you confronted your ex about it and he got angry at her? and how are you now?

  12. simran - 0

    simran

    hey chris, m an indian..n 18 yr old..i met him a year ago..all wz fy9 n gud btw us..as v grew up together during the most moody and challenging period as v were in grade 11 when v started dating and nw its tym me to leave the place as my high school is almost ovr .. jst waiting fr the results,.. the prob is… ever since he came to know that m leaving this place .. he has bcm a crack head its been 2 months that he knws this fact about my departure.. n gets irritated on me ..after every disagreement i make wth him.. the situation has bcm so worse that after evry 5 days of anormal relation there is a huge fight …then v both swear that v wont tlk to eacch odr fr a couple of days.. thankfully v make up the nxt day…its jst a matter of a phn cl… nw its only 10 days left fr me .. to shift to another place i guess wht v hd a huge fght… the reason is so confusing that there is no perfect reason fr our fght.. it started as i disagreed ovr one of his plans..and i dnt knw in wht mood he wz in.. he took it personally.. n said i alwz had sm prob wth him n my action r totally opposite to his expectation..n then he started to drag in the past issues of me tlking to 10 guys.. he ethink i still flirt wth them..bt thats nt true.. they r my childhood frndz i cnt simply leave them only cz i hv a over protective n over possessive boy friend.. nw both of us r hesitating tlking to each odr..n yes i wonna thank u fr gving me d amazing concept of NCR.. i tried it n succeed in it.. as i had to use it once…nw my que is..as m gng nw.. every1 is planning to b wth me nw..shld i still apply NCR…n 2nd que afte reading all the stuff above do u think i shld go fr an LDR if evrythng bcms normal soon… lyk he still cls me… its jst he needs smtym to think… i dnt knw wht.. he says he loves me ..wonna b wth me.. bt after this fght he needs tym to pause n think..cn u also help me as to wht i shld do nw..n mayb cn u tell me wht a guy really means as he says he wnts to b alone..wht the hell on this earth is he thinking about when its almost tym me to leave… plz help..its killing me..

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Simran,
      sorry for the late reply.. have you talked?

  13. Shruti - 0

    Shruti

    Hi Chris. Me and my boyfriend are from India. Currently he is staying at Netherlands for 3 months now. We are in a relationship for 5 years. Before 10 days I got into a fight with him as we were not talking for 5 days because he was with his friends. That was okay fir me but that day too..he said that we can’t talk tonight. Somehow I got mad and yelled at him and said that he only thinks about his own reputation and tries to create a good image of himself in front of everyone..he barely thinks about me and all. He just seen those texts and said that he is no more interested in talking with me. He asked me not to ping or call him “until” he calls or ping me. After that I sent him a “miss you” text..and called him once. I didn’t nag him or anything. But he ignored my text and call. I don’t know if he is just giving me silent treatment or it’s his cowardly way to say it’s over? Here I can tell you that it’s not the first time he’s giving me silent treatment. He has broken up with me once using this treatment. After that he has used this treatment several times to punish me. I don’t know what’s going on..I just need to know the truth. But at the same time I don’t want to beg him for talking. Please help…

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Shruti,

      for me you should talk to him about it because it’s not good to do that to somebody.. He’s like passive aggressive.. but of course since he’s not replying you won’t be able to do that..
      If I were you, I would do contact and of he doesn’t reach out during that time, break up with him.. You deserve someone who will appreciate and make time for you

  14. Emily - 0

    Emily

    Hello. My long distance ex and I completed our 1 month of no contact and he reached out to me missing me and saying how much he loves me and wanted to marry me. He didn’t treat me so good in the end and apologized for that. I noticed he flirts with other girls and asked him about it then got defensive and turned into a huge jerk about it. We are now not speaking again. He made it all seem like my fault. I’m assuming no contact is the best thing I could do at this point?

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Yeah, but the more you do it the less it’s effect.,If it’s just the second time, it’s okay. That’s just a reminder to keep in mind

  15. Leigh - 0

    Leigh

    I believe my long distance ex and I broke up over a fight, but I’m not sure. I say believe because he broke up with me simply by stopping contact with me. He never even explained why he wanted to break up. But one night over Skype we had a huge fight over the topic of human evolution and the origin of the human species. He doesn’t believe much in evolution and I, having spent many years learning about the topic know it’s not a “theory” but a proven process. He got mad when I said that the human species originated in Africa and it escalated in to a huge fight I know it left a sour taste in both of our mouths, but for me it was just a fight. Well a few days later he stopped contacting me. Coincidence? I think not. I later found out that he also at that time signed up to an online dating web site. So we had a fight and 2 days later he starts online dating and a couple of days after that he stopped contacting me. I was still upset about our fight and I have a lot of pride so I didn’t contact him either. But I was still hoping we weren’t breaking up and that he was just taking a break to cool off. So after 2 weeks of silence he contacts me and is clearly pissed off that I haven’t been in touch with him! We exchanged a few friendly messages, but then again he stopped contact. So I went in to NO CONTACT for FIVE WEEKS. He still didn’t contact me. I finally sent him a short but friendly message this week and he was super cold with me. I finally wrote “We’ll talk another time when you’re in a more chatty mood 😉 ” He answered “Yea, I guess so.” So here I have done everything right, and I am astounded that he wasn’t happier to hear from me after 5 weeks of no contact. I don’t understand. I never wronged him in any way. Do you think he’s mad that I didn’t contact him for 5 weeks? I have a feeling he’s met someone….could this be why he was so unfriendly? But why be unfriendly to your ex if they haven’t hurt you? And finally – is there any hope of getting him back in this situation, given that he’s being cold and is now probably seeing someone? Would be grateful for a reply. Thank-you!

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Leigh,

      I have a tip for you. If you try again, avoid using the same kind of messages like the last message you sent because the last message kind of indicated you’re giving him the power on when to talk to you. If you really want to get his attention back, focus on interesting topics, you broke up over a very interesting one. Why not get his honest opinion on a topic you know he can’t resist to answer. But avoid arguing okay? Take that opportunity to build rapport with him again.

  16. reet - 0

    reet

    my boyfriend leave me.help me please

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